When is honesty the best choice?

Dwerg1 · 2024-12-01T05:59:52+00:00

The problem with lying is that it's pretty much universally disliked and if it ever gets serious with a woman you might blow the entire thing when she inevitably finds out. That's gonna suck if you really like her.

You don't have to volunteer this information, at least not early on.

If asked you don't have to go in depth or start divulging your entire life story. Be honest, but don't give more detail than just enough to answer her question.

It's not dishonest to not reveal everything about yourself right away. Focus more on what's positive.

I have a dark past myself, but I'm well over it. Talking about it doesn't affect me one way or the other, I don't regularly even think about it. I'll share bits and pieces of it sometimes if it's relevant in any way to the conversation. I don't bring it up just out of nothing though, I don't feel any sort of obligation to tell everyone about it.

More bits and pieces can be shared over time as trust is built, when she knows you well enough to see that the dark facts about your past does not define the man you are today.

Certifiably_Quirky · 2024-12-01T08:39:53+00:00

Most women don't full on ask about your sexual history, they may ask about your relationship history, you can just say you were focused on yourself, college, whatever and don't have much relationship experience. Anything that makes you seem like you were focusing on growth, it will actually make you seem mature.

You don't want to lie especially if you're hoping the relationship goes the distance. You certainly don't have to disclose you're a virgin.

SplashGodNate · 2024-12-01T06:00:26+00:00

I mean, if your interests are a relationship, honesty is the best policy. You don’t have to leas with your inexperience from the start, but disclose it naturally as it comes up in a conversation.

PeterLamb87 · 2024-12-01T08:19:40+00:00

Honesty is always the best choice, women are pretty good at sniffing fakes. Be honest, but remember you dont need to disclose anything you dont want to, unless is something that could harm the other person (like having an std for example), keeping your persona life to yourself and people who you truly trust is not dishonest or wrong.

thiswontlastlongv · 2024-12-01T10:05:54+00:00

You only need to be upfront with a partner in a relationship… until then, keep your cards to your chest.

ThenCombination7358 · 2024-12-01T10:10:02+00:00

I'm not a virgin but I was in a longterm rl that ended when I was 26. Never dated. I am now 28 and over it and looking to try dating for the first time.

I been honest if this came up, some react suprised when I tell them I had only one sexual partner so far. Idk if its a red flag for some women I honestly dont care anymore. When I started dating I would try to hide things or act differently than I am, putting on an act. Im now tired of this, I rather want them to like me for my honest and genuine self even if that means some might not like me. My ex loved me for who I am back then aswell.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2024-12-01T12:35:42+00:00

My game is very natural. When I started out I was pretty fake to learn pickup. My results now is 1000x better than being a fake.

My general rule is never lie, you can always say the truth that alligns with the principles of pickup.

regular_womanizer · 2024-12-01T18:55:02+00:00

When it comes to women, I just say lie your ass off. Most of them you’ll never see again and half the time they don’t actually care or will remember the details you give them unless she really likes you. You can usually be vague and if you’re a good liar you should already know how to cover your tracks (burden of proof)

Title	When is honesty the best choice?
Author	Punch-SideIron
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	December 1, 2024 5:12 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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