How tf do i make things sexual?

CharmingRejector · 2024-10-15T14:20:39+00:00

Pull out your benis! Things are now sexual bro!!! /s

No, don't do that, pls! Unless you're already dating and you want to pull a Superman.......... But anyway!

First off, eye contact. Is it strong?

Second, speech. Are you calm? Are you in your low, manly tone? Does your voice emanate from your chest or from your throat? If it's the latter, then you aren't calm enough. It should emanate from your chest. Try speaking with your hand on your chest. Feel your voice vibrate through the palm of your hand. The lower you can put your hand and still feel that vibration, the better. But honestly it's more important to just be calm and happy-go-lucky.

Third, what you say. Can you talk confidently about sexuality and sex and sexual fantasies, and infidelity, in a way that is not joking or sarcastic? If you can, then it sub-communicates that you know what you're talking about, and that sex is natural to you. She will trust you more if that's the case, and even be turned on by it. And often - even if it isn't even romantic - it'll make her so curious that she'll jump into bed with you regardless. For that reason this is a great way to get FWB's, because now she already knows you won't get jealous, which is very important for becoming that guy who doesn't count.

Fourth, physical proximity and touch. Get comfy with it, but also learn how to do it without being creepy. Stuff to try out: The lingering hand-shake. Test her a bit when initially meeting her. Shake hands. Use your eyes. Pull her a bit in. Then see if she'll continue holding your hands after you've stopped shaking hands. Release the pressure, and keep it really light. If she keeps her hand in there, or even cuddles your fingers a bit, then that's a very good hand. Get into the habit of doing that. It'll teach you a lot about fast escalation.

I think this is a good start. Come back to me after testing more of this out.

All the best!

KoleSekor · 2024-10-15T17:18:21+00:00

Women can read what men are thinking with a lot of accuracy, so make sure you just allow yourself to think the thought, "Damn, this woman is super sexy. I want to have sex with her." When you're actively thinking that thought while interacting with her, you manifest the subtle behaviors that she will decode that let's her know you think she's super sexy. Don't feel any shame for having this desire to have sex with her. I'm actually saying to hold that energy. Just make sure you keep it playful, light and flirty. It's a fine line not to become a creeper.

Playful teasing.

Sexual innuendos.

Taking the lead and touching her in innocent places is also great advice. Placing your hand on her shoulder gently to lean in and making it so your arms or legs gently press against each others is a good start along with taking hand-holding opportunities previously discussed.

soulshock22 · 2024-10-15T10:37:16+00:00

Don't say. Do. Kino-escalation.

Kinemi · 2024-10-15T16:54:37+00:00

You say “Hi I want to stick my P into your V”.

In all seriousness, you make it sexual by teasing them & by flirting.

It’s not about what you say but HOW you say it.

There’s always a sexual way vs a normal way of saying any given sentence, even if it’s word for word.

Example: “You seem like you’re a bit of a trouble maker”

You can say that with this face😐 or this face 😏

Now, also imagine how that can be said with a different vocal tone.

Also, use your body language to escalate things with women.

So many guys fail because they care more about what to say & forget all about using their body.

Get closer to her & use your shoulders & feet to display confidence.

Use your eyes to tell her that you’re already imagining her fucking you.

Use your smile, with a light grin, to show that playful aura of yours.

Use your hands to show that you’re not afraid to take things further but you’re only giving her a glimpse of what they can do so far.

You’re on the right track. Holding a conversation with women is already half of the battle.

Also, yes it’s a good sign if they ask questions back. It means that there is some level of interest so far, they’re just waiting for you to be man enough to close the deal.

Don’t overthink. You shouldn’t over-prepare for what you need to say next.

Just be playful, react in the moment & escalate.

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-10-15T13:23:58+00:00

You can get a feel for it by slowly escalating touch and seeing how she responds. Don't be a creep, if she doesn't reciprocate the advance or seems uncomfortable; stop. Usually they'll joke about you playing footsie or something, etc and they'll play back. But unless you're at her place or your place; it probably isn't gonna lead to sex.

News flash: very few times will a woman invite you over or come over the first time meeting. Most of the hookups on the first night is by luck, assertiveness and the right time of the month. A lot like to act on a whim and keep it exciting. Play it by ear.

and-bob · 2024-10-15T14:41:50+00:00

I’m as stuck as you are in this as I think I often give of friend vibes, but I think a mistake here is trying to write that? You aren’t trying to sext. You make things sexual in person.

jjboy91 · 2024-10-15T15:46:04+00:00

Physical touch, hands Look her in the eyes Be vulnerable and always honest If she is into you she will help you get there anyway or for the bold ones, they will the lead;)

Fun-Coffee1509 · 2024-10-15T18:31:54+00:00

Following

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-10-15T13:20:47+00:00

You have to feel it out. Not every woman or any woman every day is going to want to bang on the first date. Think about it...they don't know how many people you've stuck it in and vice versa. So that's why it's safe to at least talk and meet a time or two beforehand. And if it's that easy for every woman you meet; would you not wonder how easy it was for any other past partners? There's gotta be some resistance

Savings-Seat6211 · 2024-10-15T17:13:10+00:00

you can talk about sex you know that right? you're both grown adults. you dont need to be directly asking about her sex life but you can bring up topics like past experiences, hookups, and other things like what she find attractive or a turn on without going to deep into the gritty details (to avoid looking like a perv)

of course touching and escalation are important but not a prereq to bring up sexual topics.

alwayslearninggame · 2024-10-16T01:28:03+00:00

Learn how to flirt.

Learn how to be indirect.

Learn what your limits are and how to stay at the line.

Make sexual thoughts be part of the norm of the conversation.

Ex. I was sitting next to a woman Friday and we were watching a scary movie. I noticed she had a roll of duct tape under the table. I picked it up, looked her in the eyes, and "said put out your wrists".

I knew her boundaries, she's super vanilla and wouldn't do that, but she did smile and say, "you're super kinky, arn't you".

She has no lack of clarity that I am a man and see her as fuckable. I have an understanding that she isn't ready for that yet but isn't shutting down to my advances.

AnybodyUpper3458 · 2024-10-15T21:31:17+00:00

Just talk about your sexuality in a nonchalant way. Be ready to laugh it off but constantly gauge her comfort level. Eventually you can say something like “it’d be fun for you and I to get close like that, what do you think about that?”

Respect and boundaries but definitely express yourself in a calm and “not a big deal” way. Even if she says no or something, you’ve shot your shot and planted a seed and worst case have practiced expressing yourself to women you like.

appolonysian · 2024-10-15T16:38:30+00:00

Eye contact, vocal tone, teasing and engaging questions (shit that digs into varying emotions), physical touch escalation, leading interactions and experiences

Distinct_Bluebird_93 · 2024-10-15T12:53:58+00:00

Id like some written examples of M2W interactions

really dude ? no one is going to spend time wirting out stuff for you

lucky for you watch this as its already been done by Todd => THE DATE FORMULA: Platonic to Intimate https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpMwUzAct48

epimpstyle · 2024-10-15T12:13:18+00:00

The more you talk about sex, the less likely it is to happen. You don't talk about it, but you move things towards it. You have to be witty and playful because it is easier to escalate with kino. For example, if you are witty and playful it is easy to hug her from behind without being a creepy thing with the routine below:

You talk with the girl then tell her: "hey, let's imagine you look at the TV, okay?"

go behind her and extend your arms in front of you so her head is between your arms.
with your arms extended, draw in the air a square as if that square is a TV "here is the TV, say we look at the TV...."
hug her from behind with both your hands
while you hug her, ask her "if we are looking at the TV, what show we are looking at? Is a show/movie?"
she will answer
Now you can continue in a fun way by pushing her slightly and saying: "Oh no, not that SHOW! This is so boring, I thought we were going to have a romantic moment and you said XYZ show.... now I need a beer to recover" or "now I need a hug to recover" - now you repeat. She will change the XYZ show to something else and now you tell her: "Yes! I like it, now we can go on a date" or "I like it, now we can go to bed and watch the XYZ show", or give her her hi5, you go on as you like, there are hundreds of possibilities.

Title	How tf do i make things sexual?
Author	Punch-SideIron
Upvotes	136
Comments	44
Date	October 15, 2024 10:26 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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