I finally feel like I deserve to ask for more. I poured from an empty cup for the last months, hoping supporting, praying. I am an amazing , smart, feminine, beautiful woman. Successful too. I do not need a man that does not add value but leeches time, effort and youth. I confronted him with my need for keeping his nuisance of a brother out of my relationship. Clear, direct but respectful. He waffled around citing some bullshit, asking to postpone the wedding for his political work. Then I ended the relationship and asked him to remove his stuff. He did. Now I am sitting in my Flat. It feels unreal and I frequently get overwhelmed by emotions that only hinder my success. I am learning a few things: 1) no effort was made by him for our relationship! 2) political engagement is a death knell to relationships 3) I was way too invested in his success. 4) I am worth far more in the market. Men are quite interested. Good men, successful men. 5) I lost valuable time.