Dear AskTrp I'm at the point in my LTR that to be fair to my GF i have to engage/marry or end it. I'm looking forward for any rational advice from you that could help me make a correct decision if she's a wife material.

Please don't "never marry" me. I want to have children and I live in Eastern Europe where divorce raping is not yet that easy. Btw - sorry for mistakes, english is not my first language.

Backstory: Me (27M), her (25F) in a LTR for 17 months. It started 3 years ago as ~FWB [concern#1] shortly after her breaking up 2-year 1000-km LDR (didn't know at that time). She was hesistant, few times told that we no longer can have sex but nothing has changed. She didn't force a relationship, probably because I was no boyfriend material - I had well paid freelance job, drank a lot, party a lot and she was a good girl from christian school. We started dating, she broke up few times in first 3 months but came back every time. I changed my attiude to life, started regular IT job and we live together happily till this day. I lift, practice martial arts and got few smaller hobbies.

LTR

OK, she cleans, cooks every other day and is very submissive and respectfull.

SEX 2-3 times a week, sometimes 7. She says I'm her second sex partner which is quite reliable beacuse of her conservative upbringing and at the beginning she was by far the most unexperinced lay I've ever had. She isn't as horny[concern#2] as my previous girls were but she never declines sex. Oral, anal, different positions, everything. However she never initiate sex on her own and doesn't like me giving her oral pleasure (I don't like doing it too). During ovulation she lubes too much and is too loose down there. I suggested her few times doing Kegel exercises because I don't feel anything there (nor does she), but apperently it's not that important for her [concern#3] because she abandoned it after few days.

OTHER CONCERNS

  • Her 2-year LDR. The biggest one for me. She ended it, but I think it was him who was not interested in continuing it (2 years and still 1k km apart?) Ex was rather beta (lack of father), but exceptionaly handsome (far better looking than me), dark skinned South European. It's very rare in this part of EE and girls love such appearance. Different hints suggest that she was more eager to fuck with him than with me. I know that however their sex was not giving her so much pleasure, she wanted it bad whenever thay met. (once a month). Ex looked similar to her father, while I'm completly unlike him. He recently messaged her (as far as I know thay had no contact for last 2 years) and she was upset for a few days. I'm wondering if she's alpha widowed? Has this relationship weaken her ability to pair bond? Does the lack of hymen changes so much? I would have no problem with finding a little bit younger virgin here..
  • Money. I make 2-3x her salary and my family is incomparably wealthier. BB?
  • No strong father figure.