The "Prize mentality" catch-22

TheOuterRing · 2015-09-18T18:32:58+00:00

You're not special.

And the world does not revolve around you.

The whole "prize" mentality is simply to ground you when approaching women. It's so you don't forget your time is valuable. Not in a cocky way, but in a true sense. Everyone's time is valuable - to them. The idea is spewed out because guys tend to give a lot in relationships, and that gets taken advantage of. The key of the "prize" mentality to ensure you don't forget that she should be grateful you are choosing to spend your time with her. And if she is smart, she'll feel the same way about you. Everyone should have this mindset.

You have to realize that while you may be superior in some regards, someone is always better than you. At anything. And you can't judge a book by its cover. You have no idea who is capable of what. Most people live mediocre lives, but you have no clue who does what for a hobby. They could be a prodigy at woodworking, or a math genius. They could be a lead physicist somewhere but decided to wear their dumpy clothes that day.

If you died, the world would not feel a pain in their hearts and immediately know it was you. We are all pieces to a machine, and each piece is just as valuable as the next. You know your worth, so don't let people take advantage of you. But don't get so cocky. Remember - you are one in 7 billion. The world revolves around the sun, not you.

Hopefully that helped a little bit. I think most go through a cocky and arrogant stage when they have many realizations about life/their trade. It's natural. You just have to rearrange your perspective is all.

I_Wear_Jorts5 · 2015-09-18T18:27:54+00:00

Drop the ego

Everyone has a different story. Just because you fucked a few girls or whatever doesn't mean you are better or worse than anyone. Treating everyone with the respect they deserve costs you nothing, yet might mean everything to someone else.

Most narcissists also take themselves waaay too seriously (you are definitely giving off that vibe, fwiw). Eventually, people are just going to start laughing at how seriously you take yourself and suddenly the tables will turn. Then you'll be the one hoping for a little respect, but nobody is going to want to be nice to the dickhead who thinks he is better than everyone else

M3_Drifter · 2015-09-18T10:53:54+00:00

I have been told by friends at home that i give a narcissistic/bigger than you/arrogant vibe all the time but they know my past/background and that my attitude is grounded.

I'm not sure if I should read this as one or two sentences. Are they saying they get that vibe and also say they know you are grounded, or are they saying they get that vibe and you know they know your past and therefore they should know your have a reason for your attitude? (being grounded and having grounds for an attitude are very different things)

Some of the most accomplished/famous people I have met are also the most humble, empathetic and down-to-earth.

Title	The "Prize mentality" catch-22
Author	throwbp
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	September 18, 2015 8:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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