What kind of psychological tricks do you use to help yourself avoid falling into beta mindsets?

randarrow · 2015-09-19T00:22:02+00:00

One that's been important to myself is to decide when I leave. I used to wait around after I was bored, seeing what would happen. In the end I was tagging along with whatever would happen (typically nothing) and looking tired and probably easily manipulated, waiting for waitress friends to get off work, waiting for the next band..... Now, as soon as that bell goes off in my mind "I'm bored" I see if there is something I can do about it, or leave. People seem shocked when I suddenly pack up and leave, would be fun to watch.

You decide where you are and when you are there. "Just wait a minute, I want to talk to you" is a game narcissists play, don't let them toy with you. Another "narcissist game" is people who leave the group and hang out in different parts of the party. Don't wait for them to come back. Find someone else to talk to, or leave. Don't be rude. But, just have something else to do. Self guiding is an easy way to control a situation and maintain frame.

Oh yeah, avoid looking at TVs/cell phones. They'll suck all drive/social skills/interest in surroundings out of you like a vacuum and you'll turn into a stammering, tag-along beta quick. But, you also have to avoid zoning out....

Tom_The_Human · 2015-09-18T23:52:04+00:00

One of the things I do from time to time is get people to move out of the way for me in the street. If I see someone coming towards me, I won't move until the last second when it's clear that they won't. The vast majority of people move out of my way.

Also, going on binges of consuming Red Pill material combined with nofap and lifting helps.

StarDestinyGuy · 2015-09-18T23:30:40+00:00

I'm really bad with excessively texting girls that I'm interested in, and then getting worried and feeling low self esteem if they don't respond for awhile to my texts.

So I try to think to myself "I'm the prize. It's their loss if they miss out."

I'm still not perfect with it, and still end up letting my insecurity get the best of me sometimes, but I'm doing a lot better than I was before.

likeasomebooody · 2015-09-19T01:37:40+00:00

Your thoughts are clouds, and you're a mountain. Get zreeeeeeeeeeen bruh

[deleted] · 2015-09-19T02:47:41+00:00

Just a silent mantra any time my mind catches itself - "Frame"

[deleted] · 2015-09-19T06:08:10+00:00

Whenever I'm chickening out of doing something or rationalising or intellectualising, I just say "self limiting belief" and do it anyway.

Stirred_Never_Shaken · 2015-09-19T07:15:42+00:00

In a subtle way, convince yourself that you're not all that attracted to her.

If things happen........ ok fine.

Danedina · 2015-09-19T08:57:11+00:00

When I feel myself drifting into mushy feely oneitis I force myself to think back through all the evil bullshit previous girlfriends have pulled on me. If you're still young and inexperienced, then read through all the threads here and on the main site about how guys have been cucked, strung along, divorce raped, etc. I'm not advocating misogyny -- hating will bring you down -- but an abundance mentality that forces women to prove their worth.

laere · 2015-09-19T13:15:12+00:00

Affirmations, and learning how to do state controlling. These two things alone have helped me with talking to people and staying in a good state of mind. It also helps frame.

DarkisKnight · 2015-09-19T21:14:59+00:00

The first step to non-betahood is learning my favorite word. It only takes two letters and is really easy to remember. This word is "no." Practice saying it anytime you don't want to do something or somebody wants something from you you don't want to give. Learn to value your time and energy and practice this word.

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Iceman3514 · 2015-09-19T06:08:40+00:00

keep your old conversations. stalk her fb. anything that can help you visualize an old loss

Title	What kind of psychological tricks do you use to help yourself avoid falling into beta mindsets?
Author	trpthrowawaymane
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Date	September 18, 2015 10:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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