For the first 15 years her constant and unwavering negative emotions, I empathized with her and did everything in my power to ease her pain and try to help her get help and make space for her to sort out her emotions and heal. I do almost everything in the house, even though I work full time and she only has off and on jobs. She will not seek help and rejects any advice. She ignores her bills and cries about being collected on. She ignores her clients and delivers their work late because she spent her time in bed scrolling instagram or streaming tv and cries about her failing business that my paycheck has kept afloat for a decade. I am realizing she will never ever change. Our kids are almost grown and I dream of my own place every day. A place of peace. A place where she's not yelling at the kids or crying about whatever tiny little, very manageable thing that just happened to her. A place where, when my money is used to buy a couch, I can decide what color it is. A place where there aren't heaps of clothes strewn about the house, covering every surface, at a cost of hundreds of dollars per month. A place where I am allowed to go to bed as early as I want or stay up as late as I want and it not be interpreted as me being mad at her. A place where I am not relegated to my own basement to have any space that's mine in my own house that I pay for. I am ready to be free. I know she'll hose me financially because we have a fair amount of equity, but at this point it feels worth it.

Can anyone relate? She doesn't cheat. She doesn't throw things at me or hit me. It just sucks to be around her and she makes zero effort to change. Is that grounds for divorce?

Ohio, USA.

Considering Divorce.

Two high school kids.

Family all Living together.