I can’t text nor talk

Advanced_Hedgehog427 · 2025-01-11T08:30:11+00:00

I feel you're giving them too much power, worrying too much about what they'll think if you dont reply correctly or dont know anything about the matters they talk about, you could say "I dont know much about the subject but you could tell me more while we grab a drink" or something dude, be more direct, texting is for setting date so if they have initial atraction use that oportunity to set a date, dont get lost in shallow and boring conversation over text while they have a crowd of guys already asking them out.

henlofr · 2025-01-11T08:59:24+00:00

It’s okay man, you’re just in your own head!

She gave you her Snapchat because she thinks you’re cute, and wants to get to know you. It’s not a miracle, there’s no “somehow”.

Even just being completely logical is better than what you’re doing to yourself. Do you think the world is throwing you tests in the form of women giving you their snapchats? That’s what your post says.

Stop apologizing for everything, and stop feeling inferior to others (including women, and this girl). You are clearly a pretty thoughtful guy, you’re thinking a ton about this, and that’s a good thing. However, I think you’re taking it a little too far and making it more complicated than it is.

Be yourself, don’t worry about sounding dumb, if she thinks you’re cute and you’re being genuine that is generally enough. People can sense when you’re being disingenuous, and it’s definitely not a good characteristic.

Embarrassed_Peace277 · 2025-01-11T09:04:07+00:00

Are you sure that asking dumb questions is the problem? Has she explicitly stated that? Cos any normal person would embrace someone being at least curious about their interests, and respect you for being honest about not knowing. If your questions are really that hopelessly tragic to the point of being incoherent or not enjoying the conversation, then maybe you’re just not compatible?

She may now be sensing that you’re ‘going along with it’, as if you’re trying to appeal to her, which is a turn off - she’ll probably think you’re trying to jump through hoops to f*ck her so she’s being cautious. What you should have done, is given her a small taste then say “i’d love to hear you ramble about this over coffee” or something like that, she knows you want to meet already and not showing initiative will likely lead to losing the opportunity

The best bet if she’s giving you more dry/logical responses, you need to spike her emotions again - make her laugh, use inside jokes, get a little flirty etc. send messages that don’t even require a response that YOU find funny/interesting. Try and be smooth, gradual and enjoy the process. Then when she shows a clear indication of interest, ask her out on a date. Good luck!

Dandys3107 · 2025-01-11T09:15:49+00:00

Sometimes you are just incompatible. You should enjoy interaction yourself, not feel pressured to prove anything. It takes experience to be able to handle different situations properly. Remember to build up your mindset and set clear orientation, it will help you navigate conversation and evaluate your progress. If you wanna get sexual with a girl, you need to apply tension, keep making your texting more personal, direct, closer to intimate topics, triggering lots of emotions. Then, you need to find opportunity to meet in real life circumstances to finalize your escalation, don’t wait for something to happen, you need to gradually make your moves. You snooze, you lose.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-01-11T09:16:37+00:00

Rapport building and communication are skills to be learned, you need to do it, learn from your mistakes and then do it again.

You cant do this through text though, text is an appointment setting tool, not a talking tool, at least with regard to women.

A good rule for talking to women is active listening and learning to lead the conversation, think about some interesting topics that can be used to flirt and escalate (worst dates, travel, pets, work, goals, red/green flags, etc) It takes time to make the convo look natural and fluid, but you need to practice.

Title	I can’t text nor talk
Author	Commercial_Yam_8356
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	January 11, 2025 7:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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