Maintaining a connection

StayProductiveBro · 2025-02-07T22:07:44+00:00

Why didnt you bang in the make out sesh?

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-08T11:29:28+00:00

Firstly, you can't assume that you're emotionally going to continue from where you've left off; you should assume to start from 'ground zero'.

So, based on that, it seems you stumbled into a situation that was 'pre-heated' and don't know how to create that in the first place.

It's funny because this is what 'meeting women' is entirely about. You can be 'in your head' for whatever reason, you've just been working on logical tasks, insecurity, comparison, judgment, whatever. All of your energy is circulating through your mind, internally, and externally there's little 'energy' there, you're stifled, you're tense, you're 'zoned out', your expression is muted.

To 'attract' you have to make her feel good and you have to put energy into the interaction. You have to express yourself with passion, energy, charisma, enthusiasm; that ignites the flame. You yourself can't do that if you're in your head, thinking, analysing, judging, etc.

So what happened, is simply, everyone was tense and analytical and noone did anything to break out of that headspace; so it remained a business meeting. You have to encourage her to loosen up, relax, get out of her head and to do that you have to go first. You were likely tense yourself, stuck, and we're thinking 'what should I do'; it never became 'fun' for anyone.

This is game. Guys approach and are stifled in many ways, don't encourage a good response and don't know what happened. To 'be attractive', to 'attract' in an active capacity, you have to be fun, charismatic and bring energy to the situation; you have to make people feel good by going first. You have to find fun in the situation, within yourself, whereby people want to get it from you. To achieve that, again, is about relaxing, moving your energy from your mind, from an 'egoic' state of consciousness, into your body, whereby you're expressive and 'fun'.

Partly it is down to her active part in it in fairness, then again it's also on you to be the leader and influence. You can't win them all but you can encourage better results and 'having fun' for the most part shouldn't be met with resistance.

baby_oil773 · 2025-02-09T21:26:33+00:00

You cant really create a moment at a movie. Did you have your hand around her shoulders? Did you suggest something else?

Title	Maintaining a connection
Author	Mr_Dixon1991
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	February 7, 2025 9:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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