Can’t find girl i genuinly like

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-13T13:08:55+00:00

I can't fathom anything thats more 'fun' and liberating than being freely expressive (and getting rewarded for doing so). Am I sometimes interacting with a brick wall? Yeah, sure. But to say that absolutely no one offers any contribution, any passion or energy into interacting with you, they're all stiff and boring, you're not encouraging that out of them.

Of course, I absolutely expect results; I expect contribution, participation, I expect something back for the value, the energy I bring to the situation. I can't expect it for 'free', I can't expect someone to just come along and make me feel good for no reason. Someone has to stoke the fire and it has to be you.

In fairness, do some people want to kill the vibe with 'problems' and 'ego'? Sure. But the odds of me going out and finding a girl who wants to have fun, who wants to engage, who wants to add 'positive energy' to stoke the fire further, is very high. That's all you can ask for, what else do you want?

You want a 'partner in crime', you want them to at least attempt to match your contribution, it's collaboration to build to something greater than your individual efforts. You have to bring the best out of people, you have to behave how you want to be treated.

I like too many because they're very nice to me, they're on their best behaviour, they go out of their way to make things easy, they want it to be fun, they want it to be exciting, they want to contibute, they want to play along. If you're saying that you don't want that, you want to feel insecure and be scared to talk to a girl you don't know, you don't know what 'fun' is; that's not 'liking', that's not 'enjoyment', that's 'I think the girl is cooler than me for no reason'.

EquivalentMulberry88 · 2025-02-13T10:35:31+00:00

I'm not there personally, never been there. But from what I've read on the internet is not an uncommon situation, it just means you've got enough experience at it. Just chill and do your thing, as everything does this too shall pass and you'll find someone who gives you butterflies again

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-13T13:44:37+00:00

What is your goal with dating? Maybe you should take a break and re-evaluate your priorities.

If you're not liking anyone - it's pointless to use dating to find someone you'll like because you'll never succeed.

See the problem? Take a break. Figure your shit out. Maybe you should not be dating right now. At least not with the goal of "finding someone you like" because in your current state you dont like anyone anyway.

Maybe you're just dating based on habit rather than actual desire. Or maybe you just want to continue having meaningless one night stands - because that feels safe to you. That's your comfort zone.

srosete · 2025-02-13T11:56:38+00:00

I spent some years in the past, since 18 y.o. to 21 y.o., without really liking anyone. I was in the opposite side of the spectrum compared to you, I was socially awkward and girls left before I could even catch feelings (if I even had a shot with them to begin with).

The turning point for me was when I started to meet female friends that I found attractive. I usually met them through mutuals and groups of friends. By spending time with those girls, I actually got to know them and make memories with them, which led to me catching feelings for some of them.

The way you talk about women suggest that you haven't had any friend girl for a while. It's really difficult that you fall for them if you don't see them as interesting human beings to spend time with. I don't care what PUA's say, frienship and intimacy are not two completely separate worlds.

csgecko · 2025-02-13T15:24:59+00:00

Bro is suffering from success

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-13T22:24:26+00:00

Usually takes me about a year or 1.5 years to meet a girl I like and been still I don’t get those crazy feeling anymore.

They CAN develop over time if you give it time with the girl you like though. You start to like the little things she does.

Also keep in mind only one of the 2 of you gets to feel that super lovey feeling and it should be the girl. It’s never both.

Hefty-Ad4344 · 2025-02-14T01:35:52+00:00

Same after I broke up with my ex 5 years ago haven't found anyone I like

OsazeBacchus · 2025-02-14T12:48:30+00:00

This is like in fight club when the MC was complaining about having too stable a job with too much disposable income

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-14T23:07:06+00:00

My mentor once told me: " you don't look for the perfect girl for you, you get with the most attractive woman you can be with and you shape her to be your perfect woman ". And I think that's very true. You should not be attached to a random woman that much anyway. Also feel free to DM me I love talking about this stuff.

Deeperthandark1234 · 2025-02-15T02:18:23+00:00

Bro u hv an abundance of woman and here i hv 0. Seems it rightly said even if u hv everything human still focus on what they lack. Typical caee of urs

Deeperthandark1234 · 2025-02-15T02:28:32+00:00

The same happens with woman who loose interest early as they start comparing and hv lost that taste of love due to multiple hookups because the heart has got desensitised, thats why men for marriage dont look out for woman with high numbers… seems the opposite too is relevant…. I know guys after marriage hv been involved in adultery because they aren’t satisfied anymore… thus cheating in back

Title	Can’t find girl i genuinly like
Author	firi213
Upvotes	21
Comments	15
Date	February 13, 2025 10:32 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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