Wanting to swallow the pill, but I'm struggling to accept some directives of it

648262 · 2015-10-06T10:23:24+00:00

TRP is a sexual strategy about improving yourself, mentally and physically, and as a result, NOT the objective, getting girls. Lifting, dressing better, achieving a higher SMV should be done to improve yourself, but in the end, isn't it all to get girls?

No, it's to be happy/content with your life. Any man who's been with a lot of girls will tell you it's fun in the beginning, but the novelty wears off and they shift back to a focus on quality over quantity. People tend to show up here for the girls, but the ones who break through leave those ideas behind and focus on building a good life for themselves. It just happens to also be a decent sexual strategy in itself.

I recommend stoicism as a blueprint for becoming content with life.

red-tinted · 2015-10-06T10:49:06+00:00

As regards your first question: the ultimate goal of TRP is almost a paradox. In order to become a truly abundant and attractive man, your major goals in life must transcend the basic desire for pussy. Women become an accessory to an already fulfilling life, they should be replaceable and interchangeable.

TRP is sexual strategy, and that by definition is about getting girls. What TRP also encourages is for you to have bigger goals than just pussy because this will make you more attractive and, more importantly, a much better man.

The second question. You can't just decide to swallow the red pill. It's almost thrust upon you. This happens either through being raised by parents who value masculinity or you becoming so frustrated with the hypocrisy in society about sex, masculinity and relationships that you end up seeking a place like this out to help you understand what's really going on. You don't have to swallow the pill if you don't want to/can't find it within yourself. Just take what you want from here and leave the rest.

The fake it till you make it concept comes from the theory that your confidence (or what people perceive to be confidence) has a huge impact on your sexual outcomes. So if the theory is true, once you fake confidence, you'll get better outcomes with women and as a result become more confident.

Yeah that's a good thing. You shouldn't depend on other people to make you happy. HOWEVER, you'll have to buck the trend of not proactively engaging people if you want to have sex. Even if you are paying a prostitute, you still have to actually go up to her and initiate the transaction for sex.

As for them thinking you're a loser, who the hell cares? You're not trying to marry one of them. There's no reading required here, if you have money then a prostitute will give you sex. It's probably the most honest sexual relationship there is!

[deleted] · 2015-10-06T11:01:43+00:00

Dark triad. You think too much, leave those ethics in the background.

Sex life and asteroids are amoral. They don't give a crap about your choice to stay true, instead of faking till making. If you want to be a stubborn chameleon you will get spotted and eaten - unless you... I'll let you finish.

TRPTheRedLion · 2015-10-06T13:13:28+00:00

You said isn't TRP used to get "more" pussy. Not entirely true, every man has the ability to use it for his own purpose. It is a set of tools, not a guiding light. You control how you use it. For me, I lost my virginity at 19 and then it was a flood. I have a high count and lost track a long time ago. But another poster mentioned that after awhile quantity gets dull. It does. I am using TRP to improve myself and get "better quality" women. Not more.

You talk about fake it until you make it and also ask about how does lifting and dressing deal with self improvement. I'm not a fan of fake it until you make it. I don't think that's a good strategy. But I do know this. Take some of that money you have and go buy a new wardrobe of fitted clothes. Put them on and see how it makes you feel. You'll feel more confident just by dressing nicer. Go get a gym membership, get a weightlifting plan (I suggest Stronglifts 5x5), eat healthy and after three months see how that makes you feel. You will gain confidence just by doing these things. You won't have to fake it until you make it. Start approaching.

As far as the escort, I'll leave that up to you. A lot of guys are nervous the first time. I know I was. But I had a chick who walked me through it and loved the fact she was tapping my virgin ass. I think an escort would feel the same way. Remember, women are emotional creatures, not rational. So, if you tell a professional you're a virgin, she's not going to think what a loser. She's going to get all motherly and endearing on you. I guarantee it.

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-10-06T13:30:39+00:00

TRP is about sexual strategy, but the term is misleading. It's not limited to 'strategy for getting sex'. Instead, you should read it as 'strategy to better the lives of the members of our sex', an important difference. This was explained by mod Redpillschool. So no, it's not all about getting girls, it's about living a life worth living. For whatever it is you want to accomplish, understand the use of the halo effect, i.e. people who look better are treated better and thought higher of. So get a good physique and dress sharp, but figure out at what point the dimishing returns don't justify further time and energy investment. Be honest with yourself though, don't put the bar too low.
First you must better yourself to the point that you have internalised that if your relationships fail, you will easily find another. Create an abundance mentality. You can not fake this; either you can get the girls or you can't. If it's the latter, improve yourself. Read up on red flags so you'll better know which girls to invest in and which not (the latter will be the vast majority!). If you pick the right girl and treat her the right way, you can actually be pretty sure she won't cheat or behave badly. Still, you have to remain sharp and never show weakness. In the unfortunate event that you did everything right and she still branch swings your abundance mentality will protect you; her loss.
Fake it until you make it doesn't work for everyone, but it's a proven concept. If you mimic a confident attitude you'll be more successful and thus actually become more confident. Still, nothing wrong with building confidence the old fashioned way, by improving your looks and skills.
This is not a good thing. Everyone has things you can learn from them (new ideas, insights, life lessons, you name it), and just talking with them enhances your conversation skills. Besides, it may give you more material to start conversations with others. Also, try to befriend people even if you don't care about them that much, you'll never know how they can help you later on.
There's nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin. Your SMV is still relatively low. I would not recommend losing it to an escort, but it's a viable last resort. Don't give up so quickly, first do what it takes to get laid the normal way. This is an easy cop out you're looking for and it's a sign of weakness. Protip: don't start looking for a girlfriend immediately. Just chat up a lot of girls and plan some interesting activities with them. Some will show interest, others will not. Be outcome independent and you'll get laid soon enough.

In closing: you have work to do, get to it. Start chatting up girls and go to the gym. Maybe pick an interesting hobby or something. If you fail to make progress in your SMV, come back and see how you can improve your approach. If you continue to fail even though you've tried several times, at that point we can start looking for alternative options.

Chad_Thundercock69 · 2015-10-06T14:53:48+00:00

but in the end, isn't it all to get girls?

For some it is for getting laid, for others it is self improvement for self improvement's sake, intrinsic satisfaction.

How do I understand or change my mind around relationships?

Too much beta resistance and social conditioning, the more you open your eyes and learn the more you will realise the harsh reality.

And yes, learning how to talk to people even when you couldn't give a shit helps. Try picking up girls when it's raining and you've only had 2 hours sleep, there isn't anything more the world you'ld like more than going to sleep but you have to push through.

Stop worrying about your virginity. There's no rush, at least 15% of american men are virgins at your age... that's not a made up statistic. Escorts are your choice, it really won't make a difference at all. You won't come out of it as a changed man or with lasting confidence...

Title	Wanting to swallow the pill, but I'm struggling to accept some directives of it
Author	bitchesnmoney
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Comments	12
Date	October 6, 2015 9:30 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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