what to do when a guy third wheels you?

OmLaLa · 2015-10-06T14:45:38+00:00

then this dude who followed me everywhere said if he could come, and ended up following us

Betas do this fairly often. Kind of how a hyena feeds from the lion's scraps.

My first roommate was particularly blue. He would attempt to "game" whichever women showed me the slightest bit of interest, believing those women to be "looser" than others.

This is clearly stemming from a misunderstanding of how the Game actually works, AWALT and all that, but that's beside the point. He felt like women who were openly receptive to me would also be just as receptive to him. He learned the hard way that that's not the case.

In situations like these you should continue as if he's not there and only acknowledge him when necessary. He's tagging along for a reason, to swoop in like a vulture should you fail. But a lion doesn't acknowledge a vulture's presence nor does he fear the vulture. It's just a part of life. Such is it's nature.

1NV0K3R · 2015-10-06T14:13:43+00:00

"No."

FrameWalker · 2015-10-06T14:23:59+00:00

Pretty annoying but the silver lining is that it's social proof. Be more assertive. "Hey why don't you join us next time" is a smooth response. Talk to him the same way you'd talk to a little brother or a little sister. Kind but firm.

"Hey champ, I know you'll miss me but we'll catch up later"

Dominating other men will make your girl wet. Doing it smoothly and under the radar is key. Keep all parties smiling.

babydocnorman · 2015-10-06T18:34:22+00:00

Pretty simple actually. When your male stalker asked if he could come with you, you should have told him "no, I'll catch up with you later."

Unless of course he's a straight A student who's helping you with homework. In that case, he's more valuable to you than a girl.

Mattpilf · 2015-10-06T17:55:01+00:00

You met a girl in a lunch room with you friend and in his presence tried to turn it into a date. Yeah shit like that will happens. It's not even a big deal, you just net her, you have plenty of time to display sexual interest later. Go get a drink whatever, get to know each other, then when your alone start making a move for a real date. One more hour with friends won't friendzone you. Build connections and friendships first, don't worry about getting women the first day.

DocRedPill · 2015-10-06T18:03:46+00:00

I had a buddy that would do this shit. I'd bring a girl around, and he'd try to hit on her. I knew he was a beta, not able to pull girls for himself. This happened 2 or 3 times before I just decided not to hang out with the dude anymore. I don't have the patience, apparently, to put up with that.

BaconEggsAndSleaze · 2015-10-06T15:00:12+00:00

First day of Uni and you're putting the pussy on the pedestal over bros you can be cool with during the duration of your stay there?

This guy may be beta and not worth a friendship, but the first few weeks are crucial for building a group of friends.

Just something to consider.

secret_barber · 2015-10-06T18:21:24+00:00

then this dude who followed me everywhere said if he could come

"No, she and I need to talk about something." ...then as you walk away with her, "Now, we need something serious to talk about. Tell me your thoughts on [insert something silly and/or sexual]."

Title	what to do when a guy third wheels you?
Author	jimmamlvn
Upvotes	4
Comments	32
Date	October 6, 2015 2:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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