I hope it's okay to post things like this in this community. I don't know of any other public place where I can talk about this freely. There is the Male Mental Health sub, but if you post anything there about men's rights, people will start calling you an incel and accusing you of having far-right views and sympathies with the red pill movement. Yesterday, I saw such a discussion on that subreddit and even took part in it, and today I received a warning from Reddit for harassment. I got curious about which comment triggered it (because I believe harassing is not something I'm inclined to), and I saw that Reddit had deleted my comment on the Male Mental Health sub, where I agreed with the original poster that women's problems receive a lot of attention, while men's issues are ignored. Seems like Reddit considers this harassment, even though it wasn’t—I didn’t insult anyone and I didn't address anyone directly. I simply stated the fact: men’s issues are ignored, unlike women’s, and added a link to a list of problems that disproportionately affect men (the same link you can find in the LWMA Mission Statement). UPD: I received a response to my appeal — Reddit acknowledged their mistake, restored my comment, and removed the warning from my account. So maybe it was a false alarm on my part.

After reading that, I turned to the news and saw that this morning the Russian army had carried out yet another missile strike on a Ukrainian city, killing 32 civilians: (18+) https://t.me/kazansky2017/16560

Today, more clearly than ever, I feel like the whole world is against me.

Russians are against me—they want to destroy me, my country, and my national identity (examples of Russian genocidal rhetoric against Ukrainians: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CEDMbF-F4lo ).

Donald Trump and those who voted for him are against me because he kisses up to the Russian dictator who’s responsible for the deaths of hundreds of thousands of people.

The anti-male, gynocentric, pro-feminist liberal mainstream is against me because it doesn’t let me speak about the problems I face as a man and normalizes hate speech against men. If someone thinks that doesn't happen in Ukraine, they’re wrong. Ukrainian feminism is very popular and very aggressive. A recent example: the gender advisor (!!!) to the Ukrainian Armed Forces publicly stated: “We shouldn’t be mobilizing women, especially since we have enough men who can be mobilized and shouldn’t be hiding under women’s skirts.” I understand it may be hard to believe that a state gender advisor could say that, but she did: https://archive.fo/dV15A

Besides feminism and gynocentric liberalism, which copies Western models, here in Ukraine we also have the far-right, who have gained massive popularity recently because many of them are fighting in the war. They are against me too, because they promote savage, barbaric, ultra-conservative narratives that prevent our country from developing. The Ukrainian far-right constantly shame men who—for whatever reason—don’t want to fight or flee abroad, insulting and demeaning them with all possible profanities. They are also extremely homophobic. I’m not gay, but it’s deeply upsetting to see so many people who present themselves as Ukrainian patriots promoting Russian values and obstructing our path to EU integration.

The Ukrainian state is also against me. As a person suffering from a serious chronic mental disorder on the anxiety-depressive spectrum—something I’ve had since my teenage years, which means for half of my life—I live in constant fear of being mobilized. If things were fair, someone with my condition wouldn’t be subject to mobilization. But here, things are not always fair.

Unfortunately, a significant number of MRAs are also against me. On the Men's Rights subreddit, I’ve seen comments like “Don’t send weapons to Ukraine if it treats men so badly.” It’s so sad to see that. If Ukrainian men don’t have enough weapons, more of them will die. If Russia occupies Ukraine, it will start mobilizing Ukrainian men for its future wars—against Poland, the Baltic states, or Kazakhstan. Withholding military aid from Ukraine means strengthening Russia, strengthening authoritarianism and ultraconservatism, and increasing the likelihood of future wars around the world. That doesn’t help men. Less weapons isn’t helping men—it’s abandoning men. It also really disappoints me to see misogynistic comments getting many upvotes in the Men's Rights subreddit. When I say that misogyny doesn’t help men’s rights in any way, I get downvoted.

After writing the previous paragraph, I started wondering whether I, as someone who isn’t fighting, even have the moral right to say any of this. Maybe it’s immoral for me to have an opinion at all about whether Ukraine should receive military aid or not. If that’s the case, then maybe I am myself against me (but to be fair, the Ukrainians who are fighting wouldn't likely support reducing military aid to them).

Thankfully, I have a few people in my life who support me deeply, including my therapist. Reading the Left Wing Male Advocates subreddit also helps me a lot—thank you for existing. Everything outside of these few islands feels like hostile territory.

Sorry for any possible mistakes — English is not my native language.