How to navigate being among feminst women

Upstairs_Whereas3415 · 2025-04-27T15:06:59+00:00

I’m someone who has always had a close relationship to the men in my family, not the women. I’ve known women to be manipulative, deceitful, and selfish. I am a woman, I’ve also dated women. Didn’t change my outlook on this.

The reality is, the men THEY chose.. are trash. Just like we openly talk about how the men in my family chose uh.. not so great women. Women can chose not so great men.

I think it’s hard for a lot of women to admit, you can get an alpha type guy. You can. They exist. There’s nothing stopping you, from attracting one and starting a relationship with a man who respects you. But, you don’t do that. You accept men who treat you as less than valuable, and are mad that you settled for that “trash”.

I’m not a “girls girl”, I’ve seen women (my own mother) reach a level of violence and abuse that I don’t think a man would do easily. I’ve seen men, be empathic is situations women couldn’t even muster up the support for other women. But a man did.

When you interact with only low level “low value” men or women, it alters your perception of the entire gender. I have met high value, very respectable and open men who actually have improved my life and helped me many times. I’ve never been sexually abused, I’ve never experienced abuse from a man. 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s hard to hear for some women, but they chose trash PEOPLE and don’t know how to alter themselves to attract the type of man they want. After your 3-4 loser man, maybe it’s you. The “bashing of the men” only come from women who don’t have valuable men in their lives. I do, my husband has never failed me. My father never failed me, my brother never wronged me, my grandfather shows me men are leaders and providers.

If you aren’t a leader or provider, then we don’t have a reason to communicate. I’d love to ask one of these types one day, why stick with men you hate? Can’t you get a better one? Because if they could.. wouldn’t they?

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RedPillDad · 2025-04-27T16:11:53+00:00

they made fun of my softspoken voice

Women are usually the shamers, the hierarchal ones, the pushers for more female power. A man wouldn't cringe at your voice, he would find it appealing. My wife has a soft, musical voice that I still find attractive after all these years.

Their mockery was very disrespectful and looks badly on them, not you.

The quiet ones come across as more composed, less needy. Vying for attention and authority isn't a good look. In upper levels of power, the one talking the most is often the less powerful one, trying to promote themselves to look better.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-04-28T18:50:30+00:00

How to navigate being among feminst women

Easy: DON'T. Ignore them.

I get truly nervous in groups of women.

As you should. Nobody will turn on you faster, and sabotage you worse, than a Feminist who thinks you're challenging her worldview by being exceptional while not being feminist. How dare you.

So here arose the conflict: How to act among these feminist women spewing trash?

Don't engage. Stay silent. If pressed, simply act with class: "I don't gossip about men," and drop it. Don't let them needle you. You can't (easily) be villified for what you don't say. And avoid their company where possible.

I like your bullet points, but #3:

If you argument against a feminist statement phrase it as a suggestion of thought, not a direct disagreement

Why? Why engage with them at all? Why poke the beast, as it were?

Now you may be thinking - why the hell would I submit my agreableness to these behaviours?! And I would be in the same boat just a couple of months ago, but remember the circumstances of the situation: A weekend conferance, I won't see them again, there are networking opportunities, stuck in a sauna room for 2 hours, there are like 9 of them and 1 of me.

You have zero to gain from these harridans. Feminists like these are naturally backstabbing, male-aping, catty wenches. You gain little and risk everything by interacting with them.

While it is frustrating, it is better to just STFU and keep peace with difficult people.

Amen.

Proud_Resort7407 · 2025-04-28T19:05:21+00:00

When women are that comfortable talking like that in among their co-workers, it's a sign you're way behind enemy lines.

You do what men have had to do, you ghost in plain sight.

You tell them what they want to hear, you don't argue with them about anything political because, frankly, who cares what they think anyways?

You become a decorative ficus plant, you blend in.

Otherwise they'll begin plotting against you with the aim of getting you fired.

If you were a man I would advise you to start making plans to get into a field that women shun but since you're a woman you may have to just grin an bear it...

AutoModerator · 2025-04-27T13:24:59+00:00

Title: How to navigate being among feminst women

Author Legal-Jellyfish6284

Full text: I (19F) have always been on the more traditional side, but I went deeper into the red pill about two years ago. I am a student, am ambitious, and work some cool part-time jobs out of reach for most my age.

While I can be described as dominant, outgoing and self-confident, I get truly nervous in groups of women. This weekend I've been to a conference on something related to my field of study, which has been an amazing opportunity to travel out of the country. We went to a sauna, the women first, and the men later. Being in that small room of women, that are ambitious and modern gave root to a lot of friction. They were among other things talking amongst themselves about how many of the guys were incels and couldn't get sex if they wanted to, and were talking badly about one man that was saying the falling birthrate was a problem. "Men are trash.", "They are probably ranking us right now.", "Don't leave your shorts to dry here, they are going to sniff it." Once I also asked if I could be the one to pour the water in the sauna and they made fun of my softspoken voice by mimicking it and saying "Uwu can I try?".

So here arose the conflict: How to act among these feminist women spewing trash? Especially as an outgoing, assertive women myself. Previously I would have began argumenting against them, and as a result become completely disliked. Maybe for some of you ths wouldn't be too difficult, but I have a hard time being "fake", or keeping my opinions to myself. Now I have to admit, this is partly my fault as I have had a lot of guy friends growing up. It's only now at uni that I have begun reaching a 50/50 split of men/women among my friends. And while my response wasn't perfect, this is probably the best way I have ever been able to handle feminists and women spaces ever:

Be quiet more than you speak - (It's easier to avoid friction by avoiding letting them know of your opinion, and you won't have to voice a false support either)
Smile and pay attention to the conversations - (Don't wince, look away, etc)
If you argument against a feminist statement phrase it as a suggestion of thought, not a direct disagreement - ("Maybe they meant it this way instead..?" or "Haha I doubt they want to to take away the ability of education for women.")
Do not let them know you differ, or are being annoyed by their forwardness and masculinity - (They will take it as a personal attack, and pounce. Of course in their female manipulative passive aggressive way.)
Do your best to find common ground - ("Yes it is society's responsibility to bear children, not only women", "He could have phrased it in a better way".)

Now you may be thinking - why the hell would I submit my agreableness to these behaviours?! And I would be in the same boat just a couple of months ago, but remember the circumstances of the situation: A weekend conferance, I won't see them again, there are networking opportunities, stuck in a sauna room for 2 hours, there are like 9 of them and 1 of me.

It is just nice to know that I have the ability to navigate (and survive) this previously really intimidating situation. While it is frustrating, it is better to just STFU and keep peace with difficult people. Surprisingly enough, a lot of the things I implemented I got from this sub on how to respect men! Ironic. Hopes this help someone! Please do tell about your own experiences and your thoughts on how I handled this!!

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ArdentBandicoot · 2025-05-06T06:23:34+00:00

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Title	How to navigate being among feminst women
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