Edit: does anybody know how active you need to be to be listed as a search? She was one of the first people that came up. Does it prioritize proximity or activity?

I recently moved across country looking for adventure after a divorce. I moved in with my friend and his girlfriend of 9 years. They are high school sweethearts and they are each other's first and only.

Since moving in its been laid back, they are both in Med school so they are very driven, smart people. They have an interesting relationship, they are very independent, split money and individual aspirations. They aren't affectionate people at all and don't talk about feelings. I've actually never seen a relationship like theirs so I'm at a loss, and it makes this situation even tougher.

I was just browsing tinder doing all the normal swipe right fast shenanigans. I'm going slower than normal though and bam! I see her and her name right as I nail the green button. I immediately get an awful feeling in my stomach and crush the rewind button. I'm prompted to buy Tinder Plus and for the first time ever. I immediately smash the buy button. I have in-app purchases turned off so it bugs out and freezes. I freak out and restart the app and boom its gone. I buy Tinder Plus anyway but its too late, the auto-refresh lost it, its gone forever. I contacted support hoping to see what she said in description, if she is active recently, and pictures.

This blows me away, I've been redpill for years now and I'm distraught. I came here to learn from their relationship, it sounds so perfect. They never fight or argue, they have been together so long and they have the magical virginity gift. She was the last girl on earth I expected to see on tinder.

How do you guys think I should handle the situation?