I met a girl recently who in my opinion is kind of rare. She's young, has a good head on her shoulders, thin, pretty and doesn't really know it; she's kind of oblivious. I met her at this resort in the Caribbean and was able to spend the weekend getting to know her. She seems like a great catch but one thing I noticed was that her mom and sisters were overweight. Not obese or anything obscene but just overweight; the result of having too many family bbq's and no exercise.

I realized its probably her metabolism that allows her to stay thin effortlessly (for now), but if this is to go LTR, I would love for her to start forming some fitness habits to stay that way, not to mention she would look even better. Look, I'm never going to be fat in my life. If you are, I don't care. But I will never allow myself to get there. And I expect her to do the same. My problem is I seem to be utterly incapable of convincing people to do things for their benefit, and not just my own. It just always comes out that way.

Not to mention, a girl who decides to work out on her own is like 10x more effective than one who just shows up to the gym. For example, your ex gf you cheated on because she gained 30 lbs and wasn't going anywhere in life breaks up with you and decides to spend 2 hours a day in the gym on top of taking pole dance classes is more effective than the girl who just shows up 3 times a week and half-asses a workout.

I would love to hear what worked for you.

Edit: Thanks for the replies guys, I loved hearing your stories. I have a frien- I had a friend who was TRP to the MAX and never even knew about it. He was the most Machiavellian dark triad A-hole I've ever met. And that is what ultimately led to our fallout, because he was practically incapable of being a good friend. However, with women, they would do whatever he said. Get these tanlines, put on that swimsuit, get to the gym and work on this etc. and they would. (In fact, he said after their initial shock of meeting him and sex etc, they would always come back and tell him that they have rape fantasies about him. He looked at me with raised eyebrows and couldn't figure out why.... haha.) I asked him how he did it years ago and he said something to the effect of "once they see that I don't care about it/ there's nothing in it for me, but rather I'm doing it to help them, they jump on board." I was never able to figure that one out but I knew some of you had.