So I just started gaming and just wanted to hear everyone’s thoughts. I’m mid 20s Asian a bit overweight (190lbs) but losing weight slowly and 5 ft 7 but 5 ft 9 with tennis shoes on. I’ve always been insecure about being Asian since I feel girls wouldn’t go for me because of my race.

So the last few days I got out of a relationship and started gaming. Today I sort of had a breakthrough although it feels a bit bittersweet.

First I went to my old college and striked a conversation to these two 19 year olds. The 19 year old was a hot blonde with a nice body and face way out of my league. I asked for some directions and continued chatting and said could I get to know you or something. And she said I can give you my Instagram. I was shaking. And she also gave me her friends Instagram but I wasn’t really interested in her friend. Then I went to the library, chatted up two more girls and complimented one’s cute smile, then said would love to get to know you, in which she said I’m married.

I had more confidence and chatted up another decent blonde girl at a coffee shop and it went well but she had a boyfriend, then another cute employee at a restaurant who also had a boyfriend for two years then, I went to the store and met another hot brunette, and I mean hot like face and body.

I saw her and made a situational comment and we talked for a while and got her to giggle. We went back and forth and I asked for her insta, then I talked more then tried to switch to asking for her number but she said I can give you my Instagram.

I felt good talking to them but in the end I feel that even when they’re interested in the conversation that they’re out of my league and I have no chance after they really look at me, my race and looks. I do want to share I’m much for comfortable speaking to hot blondes/brunettes (white girls) out of my league, and from what I have experienced, Latinas and Asians are a bit harder to talk to for me as they feel more closed off. In general I feel more nervous talking to girls more around my league.

One thing about me is I do have a smooth and confident voice and sense of humor. I’m decent looking, have decent skin and hair, I’m a teacher and have my own office/business. But I still feel insecure of my other traits (weight and race) and feels like even though I got some info from the girls it was bittersweet. Sorry if I’m being too pessimistic but wanted to hear what everyone had to say. Especially anyone with good experience who is also Asian. Where do I go from here?