Hi all, I’m 44 (F) my husband 48 (M). We are both divorced with 3 boys each. Mine are 19, 16 and 10, his are 21, 15 and 13. I’m watching my hard working husband work 2 full time jobs to pay for his greedy ex and meet her ridiculous demands. It’s getting hard to control my anger towards her. Last night she showed their kids texts exchanged in a fight they had and I lost it. His son called us crying. Why? Why is she like this? I almost drove to her house to beat the shit out of her. I was ready. She should be ashamed.

I completely feel for all divorced men. My heart is breaking for my husband right now. My divorce was straight forward. He and I are friendly and are amicable co parents. We have a disabled son so we tend to communicate more about his care. We’re neutral. No drama. He offered me $900 a month for child support, no lawyers, I turned it down. I’m good. I lost my family and that was enough. I didn’t want to make it worse. We split kid costs and take turns buying clothes and sports stuff. He bought our college age son a car, I cover his spending money at school. It’s fair, no fighting, not perfect but we’re fine.

My husband’s ex is greedy, manipulative and will never be happy. She’s dating their kid’s dentist who 15 years older and actually introduced him to the kids as if he was a stranger. My husband pays their dental so he gets bills from this guy. When they were married she would go on “mission trips” with this guy’s “charity” and we now know this was the start of their affair. However the kids say she’s mean to him too and it’s not a real relationship. It’s an arrangement, She didn’t work FT but my husband climbed the corporate ladder and made a great living. He flipped their house and she got all of the equity.

She now has a degree and a FT job. He pays her as if she’s homeless. Covers 70% kid expenses. She also made the maintenance non modifiable. Way back when this started She told him the separation was temporary and he’d move back in after a year so he he didn’t push her. It was also covid and his lawyer got lazy. He wanted it over, she was strategic,

Now, he’s out 60% of his income and assets. While the divorce was proceeding she said it was “temporary” and he didn’t fight harder for the assets. His fault and he owns it but she was relentless, her attorney was her cousin. She makes petty demands and takes 2-3 week vacations with the dentist all over the world and doesn’t share the dates. She’s just gone. And we get to deal with the aftermath.

It’s awful, it’s heart breaking. I want to physically hurt her. I can’t control my anger and watch my husband in pain. I hate her. She needs to pull up her big girl panties and leave us alone. Her jealousy is palpable. Her petty demands are nauseating. As a woman and mother I’m ashamed of the woman I’ve heard about on this thread. I’m no angel but I can’t imagine hurting my ex husband like she’s hurt the father of her kids, it’s shocking. I want my ex to be happy and find love again. I’d hug his new girlfriend if he had one. I can’t imagine wanting to do this to a person,

My husband has a new lawyer now and they’re working on new arrangements and looking for loopholes. We’re happy together and I’m a successful IT manager. I can help and will do anything. He’s the love of my life.

I feel for all of you and wish you all the best. You’re amazing. You got this. Fuck these bitches. We are not all like this. :(