I’m genuinely curious, are there studies out there that show the patterns in behavior, demographics, personality, etc. that lead to a high conflict divorce?
So far in my arm chair research the following factors point towards high conflict divorce where the women are the perpetrators of most of the conflict:
1.) reason for divorce is “vague.” They site “emotional maturity” or “not feeling seen or validated” as reasons.
2.) the ex wife did not work full time while married. She’ll claim “she wasn’t given a choice” but she was perhaps even encouraged to get a job or degree, but decided not to “until the kids were older.”
3.) wasn’t plugged into finances until the end of the relationship.
4.) they came on strong when they first met their husband, to the point of obsession or even desperation, then slowly backed down in attention, then claimed they were ignored.
5.) they now see the court system as a tool to manipulate, coerce, rage, and intimidate the respondent.
6.) they’ve sold themselves a “victim narrative” and feel they were wronged and are justified in their high conflict behavior.
7.) there was one big event that happened that solidified your partnership before marriage i.e she got pregnant, you helped her or a family member recover from illness, you were her support system as she navigated a tragedy during your first 1-3 years together.
8.) women who file now are between ages 35-48, give or take. This is just before or during the last years they feel attractive and could date.
This is all speculation and what I’ve seen on Reddit and in my personal life. I’d love to see some actual data.
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