How to keep your wife turned on by you through the years

Imaginative-figment · 2025-08-29T05:52:46+00:00

Okay, you didn't really ask a question, and then it's also quite confusing. However, in an all-around perspective, ask yourself what should you do? As any man should know, if you're not looking towards yourself for the answers or her, you won't achieve what you want.

Meaning simply ask her what she needs and what she wants. What would make her be in the mood. The thing is, if you're always working against yourself by trying to put her in the mood, it won't be as enjoyable for her. Are you taking care of yourself? Are you helping her with things? Are you making a point to be in her life for more than just sex? Are you helping her feel relaxed? Are you going the extra mile to make her see your efforts? Are you communicating your desires and feelings that you want that closeness to her? Then, are you following through with showing her?

When it comes to sex or well making love.. the only good way to make any woman want it more is by going the distance of playing inside her head... making that experience so memorable that it's all she can think of. If you're not thinking like a well smut book... and only going for the sex (like skipping foreplay... and what I mean is the entire foreplay, not just the sexual kind)... you'll never get her to want, desire, and craving need of you and your touch. Sure, she will sometimes crave it, but you have to really put yourself inside her mind and do the work.

But before you can do that, you really have to look at the whole picture. If she feels overworked, tired, stressed, uncomfortable, unattractive, unheard, or anything in lines with that... you're never going to truly unlock the desire you seek.

refreshingface · 2025-08-29T11:26:45+00:00

Don’t get out of shape, keep a low body fat percentage

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-29T05:43:24+00:00

Is this for real?

OK. When you're in a long term relationship, at some point sex stops becoming something that just happens and becomes an actual concerted effort to not just maintain but develop. There are no magic spells to keep making your wife not fuck the mail man. She needs to see you work consistently at not just embodying the traits she fell in love with but further develop into the man she thought you could be. If you do that your wife will never, ever get tired of you. But that's more work than saying things at her so whatever.

SaltyShopping531 · 2025-08-29T10:36:57+00:00

I think this is a great question. I think making sure she feels seen and desired helps keep her turned on.

When you are together for a while, it’s easy to forget to appreciate the small things. Sexy compliments go a long way. For me, I appreciate things that sound both dirty and tender. I also think maintaining good hygiene and maintaining some individualism by having your own interests and doing things separately helps as well!

ChampionPositive4636 · 2025-08-29T15:19:09+00:00

did u guys ever listen to patrice o neal on these issues ?

Courthouse49 · 2025-08-29T17:22:51+00:00

Well, I don't have a husband, but speaking on past relationships, for me, it's the tension. Making subtle comments here and there and letting that tension build. This would end up getting lost as the relationships would get more comfortable, and it was harder for me to get into that mood bc they would just immediately go into trying to get it on. I didn't fully realize at the time that that's what was happening, but I eventually did in my last relationship. I didn't really know how to bring it up, either 😬

Jironasaurus · 2025-08-29T20:58:00+00:00

Ya know, it's really not that complicated. Continue being the awesome person that she met and fell in love with, and don't let your relationship fall into a dull routine.

Title	How to keep your wife turned on by you through the years
Author	Independent_Hat7678
Upvotes	14
Comments	11
Date	August 29, 2025 5:33 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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