First a caveat - no one in life is 100% right or correct. The point is to learn from one another and to share the truth so that we can attain absolute truth. Never follow any teaching or any person blindly.

The key to Seduction is Love. The key to love is giving.

What is love? Love is doing everything in your power for the wellbeing of the person loved.

Every human being is different. Women included. Different people want different things.

While there are similarities that all women share. Women are people and people need different things at different stages of their lives.

That is why there are so many different Seduction styles. Each Seduction style fulfills a specific need.

The Bad Boy - Offers excitement and gives color to life.

The Lover - Elevates sex and romance to a spiritual level.

The Chaser - Offers the thrill of being absolutely wanted and adored.

etc. etc.

The issue is understanding and knowing what you can genuinely give and who requires it from you.

I have always been a lover and a chaser. My first girlfriend absolutely hated this about me. She wanted the bad boy but that was not what I genuinely was or could give. Furthermore, she did not know that is what she wanted or because she didn't like the idea that that was what she wanted. So we stuck it out making each other miserable until she invariably cheated while I became a petty little man bitch. 🤣

A few of my other first sexual experiences went the same way and so I started to operate under the idea that all women don't like to be chased and just want the bad boy. That is who I became but it wasn't who I genuinely was and what I could genuinely give.

I got some success but I ended up stiffling myself and hating women when in reality I should have understood who I was, what I could genuinely give and loving women -- understanding what my lovers wanted.

Later on in life, I got into a relationship with a woman who absolutely thrived on my chasing and loving -- and hated the whole bad boy thing. After that, I started finding women who matched and needed what I could genuinely give. Of course I faced some rejections but I was getting more success than I had ever had but more importantly, I was feeling good about myself and actually enjoying and liking women for once.

That is when I realized what love is and why it is so important.

Love is doing everything in your power for the wellbeing of the person loved. You have to figure out what the person you are seducing needs and whether you can genuinely give it to them.

You have to know what you can genuinely give and find women who desperately need that and want you to give it to them.

If you are genuinely a bad boy -that is the thing you can genuinely give - then look for women who want excitement.

If you are genuinely the lover or the chaser - that is the thing you can genuinely give - then look for women who desperately want that kind of experience.

But it has to be what you can genuinely give otherwise you keep meeting people or having experiences where you keep getting rejected.

Giving also serves two purposes -

1) It helps you gauge someone's interest in you while preventing you from being manipulative or being manipulated. It's only people who only want to take that are manipulated. You will know immediately if someone is interested in what you have to give or in you because they will give back to you. That is the thing the nice guys (I was once this) need to learn. By giving and seeing whether there is any reciprocation, you see whether or not the other person is interested in you or not. Which brings us to the second point.

2) By giving, you get to know exactly what it is the YOU as a person actually need as well. You can't be clear about that unless you give. Then you can work to get it. I used to seduce alot of women who were bitches or treated me badly. I started to learn that this was because I didn't value or like myself. But then I started to become a bastard too because I was going to much in the opposite extreme. Now I am learning to become a kinder and better man.

Another example -- I really believed that women don't do anything for men and that as a man I shouldn't expect it. But I started dating women who absolutely loved to give stuff to me -- cooking and gifts. But the thing I learnt is that women (some women at least) only do this when they are sure they are getting something out of it. Women do not like getting the short end of the stick in my experience.

The bad boy gets things from women because at least they are getting what they want -- excitement, great sex. Because that is what the woman wants in that particular point in time. If you can't be the bad boy, figure out what you can genuinely give and look for the women who want it.

Life and relationship is about giving, not taking. At least give first then you can know what you need to take.

Please let me know what you think.

Thank you.