Quick back story: my STBXW put me thru narcissistic abuse; cheating, cheating, lying, gaslighting and plotted against me with another man. She even demanded an open marriage, told me wedding vows meant nothing. She was sexting and sending nudes to a guy in prison for sex trafficking. She is also bipolar; I saw the highs and lows. Fun times. This all came to light in 2021. She has done all the things a narcissist does in divorce; parental alienation (didn’t work, thankfully), went for 100% custody (I went for and got 50/50), never agreeing to anything. Spent 65k so far and we go to trial in April.

In addition, I had worked a corporate job for 26 years. I made good money; 240k per year but the last few years I was working 12 hour days. So in 2019 I went independent. I had a low 7 figure portfolio at the time. My non solicitation expired during the heart of Covid. I got more clients but not as many as I had hoped. Had to start selling assets when they were down but didn’t have a choice, had to live. So I got wiped out. Started running up credit cards to live (had no credit card debt prior).

Anyway, I have been hustling the last 3 years. I have been doing DoorDash on the side. Working 60 to 80 hours a week. In the meantime my self employed business took off, especially this year. I will make more now than I did in corporate.

I have worked on myself in the meantime. Therapy, working out a lot (really bulked up), KravMaga classes, became a really good cook, hanging out with friends, going to concerts etc.

Anyway, I had been on two dates recently that didn’t go past that. Met online. No big deal.

So, I have been going to this aesthetician office since 2010 that’s an extension of my dermatologist. In 2018 “C” started working there. I had 2 to 4 appointments with her in 2018 and 2019. Then covid, started back last year. I told her the above in my appointments last year (I wasn’t interested in dating yet).

This year I thought “C” was dropping hints she was interested and/or flirting. I started going more 😂. I asked two friends who are women what they thought based on what “C” said. They both said she was definitely interested.

So today at the end of my appointment I said “How about our next appointment be over dinner?” And she said “Yes!” And gave me her phone number. It will have to be in a week or two because she is going out of town to see her daughter this weekend. And then I have my kids the weekend after.

I would normally never ask out a woman in this situation because I am/was her client. But I had to go for it since I do like her as a person. If she hadn’t been dropping hints I would never have gone for it though.

She is 50 but doesn’t look older than 40, she has really taken care of herself. She is petite like I prefer, probably 115 to 120 lbs. She is very feminine and fashionable but very down to earth. And her smile, oh my god. I melt inside when she smiles at me. She is absolutely gorgeous, a complete smoke show. She could have been a model. No question that she is a 10.

And the best part is she knows my truth and is still interested. She knows I got wiped out financially and doesn’t care. She knows I have been grinding it out. And the thing is she grew up, and still lives in, the wealthiest zip code in my city. So to me that means a lot, that she likes me for me and not what I have (because I don’t have anything!). So anyway, I think/hope I might have found a true gem. 🙏🙏