Recently someone mentioned that they feel this way and why in a comment but I want to expand on it and explain how I see it.

I just got rejected by a woman online and I'm really happy about it. Why? Two reasons. First, I was myself and I did my best. I just enjoyed myself talking to her and I didn't try to trick her or anything like that, I just opened up from the beginning and was like "this is me". My only outer game consists of the practical skills like conversation, flirting, escalation, etc.

Second, it's also my mindset. Since I was myself and she rejected me, I can honestly say that's a good thing because I wasn't looking for her. I was looking for someone who likes me for who I am, someone with good taste as I usually say.

This doesn't mean my game couldn't be better or that I couldn't be a better person, but this is who I am right now and if she didn't want that then there's no reason anyone should force that kind of thing. The very idea is complete nonsense and almost offensive if you think about it.

There was another aspect to this interaction too. Her rejection wasn't the nicest. She said I was condescending. The thing is, I know I wasn't and it's just a misunderstanding. I won't correct that though. I just say "Okay." Nothing more and move on with my day. The worst thing you could possibly do here is get defensive.

Even if I did for some reason want a person that jumps to conclusions like that, when I handle it cool and securely, they might even pop back up again, seeing that you're not insecure or an asshole. This isn't just theoretical. It happens to me all the time (several times this week) and I wouldn't be surprised if it happened in the case I'm talking about too. Sometimes it's just a test or mistake on her part. Don't get butthurt; it won't help your case. I literally had a girl come back and apologize to me yesterday. Don't be needy. It doesn't pay off. Just let her go and she may bounce back.

You get what I'm saying?

Bonus lesson: Why am I able to say I'm looking for someone with good taste? It's a bit tongue-in-cheek, but I'm almost serious in a way because I work on myself constantly and strive to be the person who I want to be. I like myself, because I changed the parts I didn't like and accepted the parts I couldn't change. I'm like my own art project, becoming what I myself value and I live by my own values. The authenticity above is part of that. So this makes my goal a lot clearer: I do need a girl who likes this that I've created and it's fine if some don't because they're not for me. You guys can have those ones. 😉