People who were bullied in High School

Incubus130 · 2015-11-19T22:06:46+00:00

I almost passed this up but fuck it I'll bite. I'm 16. I fucking hated high school. People used to fuck with me 24/7(changed schools/Much better). I used to think about getting back at guys that teased and beat me up and girls that laughed.

Ultimately that thought is masturbatory. Let it go. It might take a while for it to happen but it will. That shit doesn't matter. Those people don't matter. Your future does.

Don't develop a victim (woe is me) complex that shit is really unhealthy and unattractive.

Any insecurities approve upon and if you cant change them fuck it. I'm short and facially average. I used to wish god has blessed me with height and beautiful face to easily pull all the bishes but that kind of thinking is terrible.

Fuck it all. Put it all behind you. Walk forward each day with the goal of being a better YOU. Not someone else or for someone else. Be the best you you can be.

[deleted] · 2015-11-19T22:24:56+00:00

Quick inportant piece of advice.

Do not carry your past abuse into the future. Dont define your self by the fact that you used to be bullied.

Thats not you, and has nothing to do with you. Anytime you catch yourself thinking about your past bullying STOP. Let sleeping dogs lie. Leave it in the past where it belongs.

killsyou123 · 2015-11-20T02:38:25+00:00

As someone who was the fat kid in school I get it. Thing is it's over and if you keep living in the past you'll stay there. Lift, read, learn and rise from the ashes of depression and become a Phoenix of pure bad assery. When they see you they'll be blown away while most of them have gotten fat and stupid you'll be a god in comparison.

[deleted] · 2015-11-20T08:14:45+00:00

Every minute you spend thinking about the past, you waste a moment you could've used to build a better future.

Those people don't matter anymore. They don't even think of you anymore. You would be wise to do the same. Just make sure that if you do run into anyone a few years from now, their jaws hit the floor when they see the kind of man you've made yourself into.

Either that, or just do this.

TheReindeerGuy · 2015-11-20T14:19:33+00:00

This may not be a popular opinion but I think that when someone is being bullied it is largely (not completely) their own fault. I'm not blaming you and you shouldn't blame yourself either. You have been bullied because you behaved like an omega (for comparison look a wolf packs). I have been there too and looking back I can now see how stupid I was getting all worked up over the most simple taunts and jokes.

As many other here have said, leave it in the past. You can however use it as a motivator to make a better you. You can use it as a reminder of a place you don't want to be in life. Just don't let having been bullied define you.

Realizing that you have set yourself up to be bullied means that you can forget about the people that bullied you, you don't have to forgive them, you don't need to take revenge, you don't need to hate them, they are not special and don't require your attention.

You need spend time and energy on yourself, not them or the past. Look towards the future and make yourself into what you want to be and you will be able to take comfort in knowing that you won't allow yourself to be bullied again.

Bat_man92 · 2015-11-23T02:07:14+00:00

Thanks for posting this question man.

[deleted] · 2015-11-19T21:53:07+00:00

I got bullied in middle school. Really not shit you can do about it, getting bullied isn't the worst thing to ever happen to me. But holding on to some shit that happened to me as a boy isn't doing me any favors, all it'd do is make me more miserable. Just let it go.

topdog82 · 2015-11-19T22:09:03+00:00

success is the best revenge. Remember that. Also; I empathize deeply with your story. I had a lot of the same experiences. And ironically I am thankful of those painful experiences. They make me who I am. They also put me on a long and frustrating journey of finding myself. I eventually found daoism, zen, buddhism, jesus' teachings, hinduism, jainism etc. I began yoga and meditation. I also was exceedingly thin. Still sort of am. But I began to work on myself and I a lot more "myself". More confident, strong, aggressive

In the most paradoxical way, reading about religion/philosophy/forgiveness and forgiving the people who wronged me made me a lot stronger and more aggressive. Yoga and meditation/peaceful thinking has made me much more aggressive, strong and motivated. It sprung me up into a phase of self-development, and eventually red pill/self-development

Gluck with your journey

dabrah1 · 2015-11-20T00:42:55+00:00

just forget about it and move on- the best revenge you can get is to be more succesful- aka have more money, more girls, travel more etc- than them. Its toxic to actively want to get revenge on anyone for anything.

exilesoul · 2015-11-19T21:50:59+00:00

It took me a long time but you just have to let it go. Don't let it define you and be the person you want to be regardless of how you were treated in the past

RedDeadlift · 2015-11-19T22:20:52+00:00

I was bullied in high school for having a thin/small frame as well. I often think it helped me focus on weightlifting beginning at around 18 and to this day has done wonders for my physique.

Today (10+ years later), I don't even remember high school. I keep in touch with maybe one person. I have had so many incredible experiences since then that it is simply a distant memory.

Absolutely forget it and move on. Focus on a career that will make money and you enjoy. Research and move somewhere that suits your lifestyle. Make weightlifting and nutrition a priority. Etc. Leave that shit behind.

Title	People who were bullied in High School
Author	drspaceman92
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Date	November 19, 2015 9:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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