Depressed with a much toxic wife and lesser toxic family

BlockBadger · 2025-12-19T12:40:19+00:00

Hay man, at least know we are here to listen even if I don’t have an answer.

You’re worthy of love and peace, no matter what your family says.

Versaso · 2025-12-19T13:50:07+00:00

Leave that bitch and start working on yourself. Pick up some hobbies (literally anything), meet some like minded guys.

As long as you are with a psycho like that you will never be able to heal and get better. You can dig yourself out of this but you need to make changes, now. Go no contact with family if you aren't already, no need for that in your life either.

Ronniebbb · 2025-12-19T17:28:40+00:00

Woman here, my advice is to start building a escape plan. Find a therapist for yourself to meet with in secret. Squirrel away cash money somewhere. Document every instance of abuse she does and yourself reacting(so she cannot make accusations), and meet with a divorce lawyer to build a case. If possible, find a place to hide your valuables she cannot reach and slowly move them there, in a way she cannot notice.

As for a toxic family. Cutting them out is okay. I haven't spoken to my dad's sisters since he died, and it has been the biggest blessing mentally. It is hard at first and there is a huge wave of emotions with it, but once you get over, well a grief period, you have this lightness that cannot be explained.

Yuppiesgotohell · 2025-12-19T12:51:26+00:00

Man if you’re feeling “unmanly” I can help with that but I need some background info. When you were born, were your reproductive organs danglin around on the outside of your body? If so then that’s a good sign, it means you literally are a man and anybody who says you aren’t is actually just straight up stupid. If the same people looked at a toaster and said “oh that’s not a real toaster” they’d be dismissed as dipshits.

If you think there’s any hope left in that marriage then give an ultimatum, couples counseling or divorce. Make sure you research and pick a counselor who is unbiased based on gender, and then hash it out that way. If she absolutely refuses then divorce is probably for the best, and you should start getting your ducks in line to make sure you don’t get screwed over in that situation. Maybe even hire a PI and see if you there’s any freebies to get you out of it.

But man, you matter, you aren’t pathetic, lots of men struggle with relationships because of expectations that are put on us to be punching bags. Don’t let somebody else define your worth, that’s something only you get to decide. Best of luck, and peace be upon you brother.

ButterscotchUpset209 · 2025-12-19T08:34:41+00:00

Go travelling

TheCassiniProjekt · 2025-12-19T13:42:59+00:00

Sounds like my ex who I've diagnosed with emotional dysregulation because she matched all the criteria. I would think couples' therapy (for her) and CBT would reign in those outbursts. Sorry to hear what you're going through, it's like walking on eggshells.

hercules405 · 2025-12-19T13:57:49+00:00

Question: Do you have kids with your wife?

Capital-Box164 · 2025-12-19T15:22:20+00:00

I think it's a good idea for you guys to split up to be honest. Unless you have children and lots of financial assets locked up.

Pretend-Storm4566 · 2025-12-19T21:48:05+00:00

If you have a job, have you tried making friends at work? Even an introvert can probably do that. Find one or two people at work whom you mesh with really well. Get a friend or two.

Throwaway4536265 · 2025-12-22T16:33:03+00:00

They all eventually flip the script on you. Could be when the ring goes on or the first baby comes out.

divich01 · 2026-01-07T10:32:59+00:00

Really so sorry to not reply each of you but too dead empty numb inside to reply and gather thoughts regarding this topic. Please forgive me all🙏🏻

Title	Depressed with a much toxic wife and lesser toxic family
Author	divich01
Upvotes	48
Comments	11
Date	December 19, 2025 8:21 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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