Girl in a group

hunterpua · 2026-02-07T12:01:13+00:00

It's absolutely a win. You were unsure, you had no prior experience, but you went for it anyway. That's a winning attitude.

Make sure you keep it up because you will be at a massive disadvantage if you don't get used to approaching groups. Girls in groups are much more common than girls on their own.

Chemical-Ads · 2026-02-07T21:31:27+00:00

As you said it perfectly: it’s a win and a loss

Dandys3107 · 2026-02-08T10:55:46+00:00

Catch her when she will be alone.

cyphe__ · 2026-02-08T13:40:18+00:00

That's a big W What did you talk about tho?

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-09T20:37:37+00:00

That's a win in my book, you did better than 80% of the men in that bar.

In order to get better at this you gotta try and fail. It's exposure therapy when you see you didnt die from it, you will see you made it bigger than it was.

Keep at it. Now the key is how to do it. Because there are bad ways of approaching that will hardly ever get you the girl. And there are good ways. It's not saying the bad ways will never get the girl, but it's just harder for it to do it especially when youa re new.

So a few tips id suggest that helped me when i struggled:

- getitng a girl is all about social skills. You need to get comfortable talking to strangers in general, even if they are men. FOr me i started to do networking events and meetup events. It was just to create comfort in walking to someone where it's expected you do that. That way in sitautions where it's not expected i was comfortable with it. I used to do dating events too, im not talking about speed dating, but dating events where people are doing an activity or meeting up at a bar and id go up and talk to the guys, and girls. Not looking for a GF just looking to have a fun conversation.

- In a weird way, you have to not care about getting a girl to get a girl. This one is tough because you have to find what works for you but for me, when i stopped putting importance on getting the number and importance on having fun i did better at getting the number. Because im a charismatic guy but when i saw a cute girl i wanted i tried to avoid getting her to be mad at me which didnt show up as genuine. I put that woman on a pedetal she hadnt earned. You choked up not because you were drunk, but because you got nervous and put her on a pedestal and feared failing. I promise you if you had the perfect level on drunkness where you were buzzed to be social enough, you would've still failed. This is hard to do because you have to change your mindset but it's doable. When i was last single, i could talk to the hottest girl ever and not care about getting her number. I remember i was talking to this straight 10, literally walked away from it at a certain point because i wanted to hangout with my friends and everybody was looking at me like "WTF dude are you crazy?" and i was like "nah she's cool but i want to hangout iwth you guys". Even if i didnt get her number, that mindset will get you most numbers.

- Social skills is #1 but the way you dress and groom helps a lot. I've always said it's like an interview, go in a suit, you dont have to be the smartest person to get the job but go in sweatpants you better be albert einstein. In other words, the bette ryou look the less personality you need and vice versa. So get a haircut that make syou look good ( i used to get buzz cuts and decided to get fades). Buy clothes that make you look good (i buy my shit from amazona nd gap). Listen to what other women your age say you look good in. For me i looked good with a beard, baseball hat, and bomber jacket and dressed in dark colors. So most of my clothes are dark colors, i have a few go-to bomber jackets and a bunch of baseball caps and i grew my beard and haven't shaved it off in like 6 years. And for the lvoe of god, wear cologne. Smell goes a long way for women.

- When you go out do it for your own enjoyment over getting girls. Be result independent. A good night can be a good night if you talked to 0 girls but had a blas twith the boys. Talking to girls and getting numbers should be icing on the cake. Once women get an idea that you are there to flirt with them or tkae them home they will put their walls up. But if you are just there talking to them and in your mind you dont care about that your genuine self comes out and they will feel that energy and put their walls down.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-02-07T10:31:34+00:00

In general if AA is high, focus the majority of your first approaches on that. Until you cool down, you wont be able to properly run the set.

Especially in the club, calling her and walking out can work in your favor if down right. Simply put, you are messing with her, which can be Attraction. The rest of the club also observes this as a power play

Title	Girl in a group
Author	Haunting_Ad_8254
Upvotes	10
Comments	7
Date	February 7, 2026 9:35 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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