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I guess it's a matter of confidence, if you are positive your appearance can be appreciated you have no fear of being judged by facing direct glance of others.
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:25 AM
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It's often not really the matter of your poor personal presentation, but the girl just being in a bad mood. You need to embrace the risk of many uncontrollable circumstances. Don't struggle, don't brute force things against all odds, don't get apologetic. Just bail out smoothly, process emotions, move on. And remember to stay in the present moment and read the room, so you can spot lost cause before you get cold showered by rough rejection.
/r/seduction24/05/26 07:24 AM
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There is surely a lot of magic in making an eye contact with other person. Also, if you can't even handle that little bit of intimate contact, is there even a point thinking about something much deeper than that? Ask yourself this question, is this really about not making someone feel uncomfortable or are you perhaps not confident in your own appearance for other people to look at you for even those 2-3 seconds?
/r/seduction24/05/26 07:13 AM
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No reason not to do everything you can.
/r/seduction22/05/26 10:04 AM
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No reason not to do everything you can.
/r/seduction22/05/26 10:03 AM
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It's kinda like hacking the system from stranger social culture towards wild intimacy. Freeing girl's mind and biology while still playing according to the rules. If you can take charge of inside world, you will not fear outside circumstances that are out of your control. And that is a huge turn on for women, developed through long history of genetical conditioning of man-woman gender dynamics.
/r/seduction21/05/26 02:19 PM
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Well, I can kinda understand where this concept of pushing just for the sake of practice comes from, but it really seems to provide more harm than good. Instead of practicing reciting these rigid formulas and getting strongly detached from reality, approach and pay close attention to your body language, look girl in the eyes, take proper posture and focus on reading the room. If you would do that, you would clearly realise that this interaction leads nowhere, you are botherting the girl and gett…
/r/seduction21/05/26 01:58 PM
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Properly handling your body language, mind and emotions. Also, if you feel like it takes much effort interacting with people, you should ask yourself whether you want to interact with them at all in the first place and if your mindset is congruent with a situation. Generally, it's no point pretending to thrive in a place where you feel down and ineffective. Also, brute forcing some interaction plan is hardly ever the proper way of handling your socialization, remember that it takes two to tango …
/r/seduction20/05/26 10:53 AM
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You don't need to come up with clever punchline or secret technique with every move you want to make on a girl. It can do you more harm than good. Dive into your feelings and figure out some simple and natural response. For example, if you want to take a number you can go with something like "It was so nice talking with you, mind if we exchange contacts?" Remember about corresponding body language, loose up, look girl in the eyes, smile, talk a bit slower, use deep voice. Then, you can simply re…
/r/seduction20/05/26 10:24 AM
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No reason to overthink, even a perfect plan can be easily verified by little detail of actual life situation. Also, if you want a natural approach, isn't it contradictory to plan things out too much anyway? When your paths cross, just make some casual interaction, if the vibe is nice and it seems you are both playing in the same team, just figure out any opportunity to meet again or do some activities together. Don't get forceful, firstly you need to figure out whether she may be interested, if …
/r/seduction08/05/26 08:27 AM
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Maybe you should not get carried away by negative emotions caused by rejection, but you should also not act like you are happy about it and nothing happened. Take the L, shit happens, process the feedback, look forward to next opportunity.
/r/seduction08/05/26 08:14 AM
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Sometimes you will subconsciously pick up certain aspects of body language and circumstances that will make you freeze in face of almost certain rejection. Don't worry about it, it's fine to pass on approaching every now and then, better luck next time. Also, it happens frequently when your game plan is poor or non-existent. In terms of a good opener for a girl wearing headphones, come in front of her, make eye contact, smile and make the gesture of pulling out headphones from ears.
/r/seduction08/05/26 08:11 AM
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Isn’t that a bit depressive context? Do sport clothes fit into pickup and dating scenario? How about leather jacket, leather jeans, leather belt, leather shoes, black sunglasses, bit of facial hair, fancy hairstyle, nice metal watch? Many people may also prefer more elegant style with shirt or more casual with baggy hoodie. Of course you can also implement some clothing accessories of your own preference. And don’t forget to shower and use some mild perfume. You wanna trigger emotions of abundan…
/r/seduction06/05/26 11:28 AM
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Better too short than too long. It's about emotions and quality of experience, unnecessarily prolonging can lower your chances by quite a bit.
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:20 AM
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Why not wearing your best clothes? Nothing too fancy, appropriate to the social circumstances and weather. Suitable for your personal style. And spotless. Generally you should feel good about yourself wearing them.
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:16 AM
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You always start with not denying it. Don't behave like a stranger, don't behave like a friend. Don't be too kind, too conformist, too formal, too cautious, too balanced. Casually show off your sexually attractive traits. Instead of orienting yourself to pass accurate information, focus on triggering spectrum of emotions. Crack jokes, get a bit silly, exaggerate, introduce simple, interesting, pleasurable topics. Hold eye contact, smile, get a bit closer, use deep voice, talk a bit slower. If yo…
/r/seduction05/05/26 08:31 AM
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It's not rocket science, potentially everyone can get a grasp of it with enough personal experience or watching and copying techniques of others. Unless you are severely socially impaired, but you will not change hundreds or thousands of years of seduction evolution and massive scale of social culture. It's not as simple as swotting up for a school exam, you should embrace long term quest, risk and certain uncertainty instead of giving up because it's not like you want it to be.
/r/seduction04/05/26 05:47 AM
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As always, you should appeal to our primal instincts of sexual attraction, strength, leadership, confidence, intelligence, resources, assertiveness etc. Think of it as some kind of a play, get cold, get dominant, get in shape. Also, women often tend to entangle their partners in their own insecurities, mood swings, petty dramas. Even if you genuinely care about her, don't do that, for her and your own good. You should keep that healthy distance and fulfill her actual biological sexual desires, e…
/r/seduction03/05/26 07:44 PM
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Generally everything what women enjoy in men. You obviously should stay casual with showing off not to get awkward with it, but at the same time make it clear and direct. Like good physique, strength, intelligence, clothing style, abundant finances, successful career, smooth communication skills, broad social circle, interesting life experiences, bright future plans, good sense of humour, valuable achievements etc. Don't get too concerned with vague or unconventional traits, you wanna focus more…
/r/seduction03/05/26 04:23 PM
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Show off your sexually attractive traits. Don't avoid implementing sexual aspect into your conversation, in fact look for any decent opportunity to do so. Stay confident, but at the same time casual and natural with it. Don't get too blunt or boastful about it, be obvious without getting creepy.
/r/seduction03/05/26 01:27 PM
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That you are too serious and logical in terms of sexual relationships and living life overall. No suspense. No fun. No adventure. No drama. No wild emotions. No craziness. Boring, not worth the risk. My advice is to realize that women are different than men and you need to adjust your game basing not on your own perspective on the matter, but on the experience you go through, look at girl's actual actions and decisions.
/r/seduction03/05/26 07:42 AM
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Sometimes, or even more frequently than that, women come up with first possible excuse to terminate your relation because, for example, they are not eager to explain the bitter, comprehensive truth or simply they don't even know how to translate their feelings to the logical context. Just keep improving your sexually attractive traits, if you would have abundance of other options you would not care about girl's vague whims.
/r/seduction01/05/26 09:28 AM
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Good point, girl may reject you for variety of reasons, that also includes those that are completely not related with level of your sexual attractiveness. In the case of first girl, you may find this surprising but it's not a unicorn case that girl may get turned off because you dating her feels like dating down.
/r/seduction30/04/26 10:22 AM
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Generally they don't matter that much, man loves his woman just the way she is. But obviously you are encouraged to make his feelings better and better. Guys surely want to fulfill their wild sexual desires, especially with their beloved partners.
/r/seduction30/04/26 08:50 AM
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There are surely many tips and tricks that can make a significant impression on a woman, but can you hack the evolutionary mechanism of choosing a proper partner to mate and pass genes? Nope.
/r/seduction29/04/26 09:55 AM
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It's pretty natural, women are overwhelmed with emotions, their hormonal activity is very potent to the point that kinda lose control of standard social attitude.
/r/seduction29/04/26 09:43 AM
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Usually it comes with experience, or you can try to observe guys that are fluent with leading a conversation, for example watching talk shows or attending social meetings. General point is to find words and topics that trigger variety of emotions, it's not really about passing correct information. Interaction should be rather simple, positive, non-serious, playful, non-schematic. You should test out different approaches to find what suits your style and what women are receptive to.
/r/seduction22/04/26 07:04 AM
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And what stops you? Similiar things. But you are equipped with testosterone and other masculine genetical wiring to take risks and lead effectively. It's better to embrace and work around the assumption that most women are very passive or at least their dating/seduction strategy is ambiguous. Instead of ranting, praise her attempt by playing along with her game and taking it from there. You don't need a perfect plan on the spot, start with anything casual and go with the flow. Even if you don't …
/r/seduction19/04/26 10:55 AM
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Finding excuses is in general a loser's mindset. With every adventure or life goals, there are plenty of enemies, obstacles or puzzles, the point is to somehow figure it out. If you want to be excused, I excuse you. You may feel better, but is this all you want?
/r/seduction19/04/26 10:42 AM
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I would also recommend some talk shows with charismatic presenters or simply attending social meetings, even just to observe how "pack leaders" are charming girls and others around with their attitude and style of humour.
/r/seduction19/04/26 10:24 AM
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Sometimes, or in current modern culture of dating apps it appears much more frequently, one date is simply a best configuration for the two of you. For women it’s mainly about real emotions and feelings, logic and rules won’t overcome this kind of biology, at least it appears so when it comes to sexual dynamics.
/r/seduction17/04/26 05:06 AM
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She is very much aware what she has done. There is really no point in opening the wound. She is probably not interested enough anyway. Move towards a more reliable sexual partner. Also, I would advice not to get into this dodgy mindset with "I don't want to make it uncomfortable for her so let's not call it a date". You don't need to clarify things if not necessary, it's natural to be open to different scenarios when you meet 1 on 1, with your initial attitude you are kinda lowering your own val…
/r/seduction16/04/26 07:00 AM
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She should get rid of the concept that it needs to feel something special. Also, it's not very wise for the person that have 0 experience to lead in the relationship. Let that sink in her. Keep yourself in the center of this matter too, how long you can wait and how you can measure if the progress is sufficient to you. She may get into healthy sexual mindset pretty quickly or she may never be able to do that with you at all, it's not like you can guarantee any breakthrough just by introducing pr…
/r/seduction16/04/26 06:45 AM
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Within human interactions you can find the whole spectrum of different viewpoints, attitudes, many of them contrary to each other. There is really no perfect solution for seduction, you can get advices here that can make you look at the matter from other perspective and inspire you to make some progress with certain methods or mindsets, but it is still your own experience and seduction style that you create with it that will matter the most, because it touches the real world of seduction, not th…
/r/seduction15/04/26 12:19 PM
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Well, do you want to have sex or not? Remember that you escalate one step at a time anyways, so you can prepare yourself mentally for setting for a next base of intimacy. If you are having some serious issues you should rather seek help in a professional therapy, how do you expect it to work otherwise?
/r/seduction15/04/26 11:52 AM
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Do you look for some particular aspect of being funny that women usually reciprocates to? If so, I would say it's about being a bit silly, exaggerate, speak without clear context, use word play like double meaning, stay down-to-earth and simple.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:03 AM
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It is surely a big step ahead when you stop thinking about perfect line or perfect mindset for your interactions and instead you focus more on going with the flow, playing accordingly to girl's responses and figuring out some natural, even sometimes unique way where you can get closer with each other. If she doesn't play along, there is really nothing you can do anyways.
/r/seduction14/04/26 10:30 AM
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Nah, it feels like it's still very much salvagable. It's just clearly your turn to introduce some casual and natural interaction where you can break ice and get to know each other a little bit. It's kinda natural to feel a bit "jumped" even when you were thinking about this interaction coming at some point, but it's up to you to embrace what happened and try to convert it towards your goal. It's rather a rare situation when things go exactly as planned, especially with romance. Next time, take a…
/r/seduction14/04/26 10:27 AM
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Firstly, lesson for you is not to get ahead with your escalation. You quickly got very blunt about sexual sphere and that may be perceived as improper or even creepy when you are just getting to know each other. You ask if you can come back from messing up like that? Pretty often you can't, you triggered negative emotions in your dynamics at the start and she may have another better candidate waiting that does not instantly creep her off. There may be some clever responses that you may use to sa…
/r/seduction14/04/26 10:17 AM
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Well, potentially infinite choices that are presented to attractive girls through means like dating apps surely play a role here. View on the seduction game needs to adapt to the circumstances of current world and social culture, even if the game itself does not change that much.
/r/seduction14/04/26 08:55 AM
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I would guess it's mainly the matter of self-esteem. If you don't want a long term relationship with her or even if you are just first to say that you are not meant to be something more than brief lovers, girl could feel inferior or that there is something wrong about her and be flooded with negative emotions which often results in anger outburst. Generally, you don't need to be upfront about that, make your attitude clear without being blunt which may hurt her feelings much more than cutting he…
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:21 AM
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Generally, you don't wanna come up as a well-obedient stranger or nice comfortable friend. Stay a bit assertive, challenging, vague, neutral. Hold eye contact, smile, casually present your sexually attractive traits and obviously try to implement sexual aspect in your interactions or conversations, at first in a mild way. For example you can tell a story that consists sexual sphere or gender dynamics in it, figure out some natural and non-cheesy compliment about girl's appearance or use any oppo…
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:15 AM
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Well, obviously you want the biology to take over rather than fulfilling these ridiculous standards of the current social hive mind. Also, think about what woman looks for in a man, not really what perfect human could be.
/r/seduction11/04/26 04:10 PM
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Rules are just for you to begin with some startup of a mindset. Your seduction game should base on your own actual experience and you should steer it by your own feeling. There are no perfect answers with life, but you are the one that knows your perspective the best.
/r/seduction23/03/26 12:43 PM
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Don't try tu brute force any outcome or project your energy or mental on them. Your initial attitude should be positive but also very casual. Read the room, pay attention to girl's body language and reactions, check if she tries to take any initiative herself. If you feel that she is not playing your game, dodging or opposing your ideas, you should smoothly withdraw, don't be surprised when she clearly screams "no" in your ear if you turn oblivious because you are desperate to get something goin…
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:55 AM
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Find yourself an environment where you can feel naturally confident, empowered, happy, energetic. It obviously includes people you are surrounding yourself with. Next, you should be at your best to behave like you at your best. As it comes to women, you can't force them to like you, therefore you should stay casual about your interactions and have some fun time together, to check whether you even vibe well with each other and pay attention to her reactions whether anything indicates she may be i…
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:52 AM
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Also, by doing that she doesn't deserve your kindness, polite response or excusing her behaviour. No hostility as well, but you should rather don't waste any more time on her and don't reassure her of such attitude in dating. You don't want to get in close relation with such a person anyway.
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:43 AM
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Friday's.
/r/seduction22/03/26 12:16 PM
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The point is about making small steps so you can feel comfortable with minimizing the risk of situation getting out of control. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits so you can get good initial feedback from girls, learn seduction tricks and mindsets, find opportunities where you can interact with beautiful women casually. These are pretty much “free of risk” aspects of seduction which will greatly improve your confidence and experience with women. Escalate gradually, stay casual, keep …
/r/seduction22/03/26 04:45 AM
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Perfect seduction is harder than most people can imagine. It’s also pretty common that our subconscious or conditions beyond our control make us fail. Have some mercy for your psyche.
/r/seduction21/03/26 06:25 AM
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It may be in some way, texting provides us with some dopamine strikes, but for our body it obviously still misses that effect on all senses for the biology to start turning sexual in proper way. We are kinda sabotaging ourselves with abusing technology to create connection and arousal.
/r/seduction21/03/26 06:22 AM
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Because women are wired to choose the best partner possible, to potentially pass the best genes for next generations. Therefore you should focus on improving your sexually attractive features constantly, even if you think you reached decent level already. Curve of attraction rises exponentially. Apart from that, learn seduction theory and accept every opportunity to interact with beautiful women, in the end it’s still largely a numbers game.
/r/seduction21/03/26 06:18 AM
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Approach close to her, get an eye contact, smile. Also, take a shower, wear your best clothes, do your hair, use cologne, take proper posture. If she reciprocates in any way or you have good feeling about her, dance with her without touching or whisper some pleasant words in her ear when you are close to each other. Generally, the club game is the game of the bold and the game of the primal attraction ladder.
/r/seduction21/03/26 06:14 AM
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If convo stays in one place, seems to lead nowhere, girl pulls out. If you want to approach her in real life circumstances, there are few things you should keep in mind if you want to create some potent relation and dynamics. Stay laidback, topics should be quite simple but pleasurable and engaging, don't touch any serious or boring shit like school, job, chores, duties, politics, weather, try to find some common points between you, trigger variety of emotions. Relax your muscles, use deep voice…
/r/seduction19/03/26 12:09 PM
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It's really all about giving up your sweet delusions and turned foul set of rules and adapting new mindset based on real experience. In terms of your mind obviously, knowing the door is not the full story, you also need to keep that strong will and dedication to walk the path of trial and error and keep standing up when knocked down, stronger by processing the feedback. It's not a matter of learning full theory and smoothly passing an exam with perfect score like in school, but I can guarantee t…
/r/seduction19/03/26 10:10 AM
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You improve exactly with what you are doing right now. Trial and error. Getting lots of experience. Processing feedback and trying out new ideas, mindsets, techniques. If you lack inspiration, look how other guys do that, there is plenty of such content out there, search engine be your best wingman. Generally, trigger emotions, stay laidback, messages be simple and short, crack some jokes, topics should be fun and pleasurable, no serious or boring life stuff and don’t spend too much time talking…
/r/seduction19/03/26 05:14 AM
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Have fun with the game, play around within different contexts, don’t make any clear commitments or statements, get a bit irrational or sarcastic with pickup. But still, if you feel the girl is falling for you not in a way that you can reciprocate, I believe it’s morally right and generally better for her for you to gently get her off the closed path. Obviously you can’t be sure whether she is playing or gets serious about that so you can take some time in these vague dynamics, but I would still …
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:59 AM
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True, it’s kinda in women’s nature that they don’t know what they want, their communication style is subtle, indirect or vague and they seem to not really care about your need for clearance. Obviously it will almost always take some time for her to warm up and for both of you to get close with each other, but then you should keep escalating to reach for your intimacy goal, because for women it is totally fine to play around with guessing and avoiding and then leaving you anytime they want when b…
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:54 AM
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Don’t seek out more rejection, you should try to succeed for real, forge your seduction strategy that will work. But, you will inevitably be rejected and that is totally fine, process the feedback and move on.
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:45 AM
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I think it’s more about that “average guy that is actually struggling” has lots of misconceptions about seduction and women’s nature deeply ingrained and often gets a bit stubborn about changing and improving himself out of bitterness and frustration. Also, he should follow guidance from guys that are actually successful with picking up women, not common dating advice from public opinion which is usually vague or blatantly wrong.
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:39 AM
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There are plenty of books and courses that are available out there, published by successful pickup artists or other seduction masters. As for my experience, unfortunately I've only read theory written in my native language (Polish) and it was long time ago. But, I would give away simple rule of a thumb. Read everything. And test learnt mindsets and methods in real life circumstances. And maybe get some company to cheer you up and help you process feedback, like a wingman?
/r/seduction18/03/26 12:22 PM
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Man, work on improving your sexual attractiveness, get into reading pickup theory and test it in real life circumstances to process feedback and forge necessary skills from it. It may take some time for you to get into proper mindset and rise over attraction bar level, but you need to just take it step by step and you will arrive at your destination at some point. If your colleagues are making you uncomfortable and lower your value, they are not your friends and you should not treat them as such…
/r/seduction18/03/26 05:27 AM
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I would say she wants you to know that her feelings are still all over the place so you should rather not expect any specific commitment from her for a time being. But she obviously may be interested, stay casual and gentle and proceed in pleasant and comfortable atmoshpere without any unnecessary pressure.
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:53 PM
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The point is what really matter is her actual actions and decisions and your connected forged in real life circumstances that engages full body and mind. With simply texting, you are getting framed for like some AI typing partner. Keep it short, keep it casual, trigger positive and pleasant, but don't place too much value on it. Don't commit your feelings before your relation gets confirmed in reality.
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:37 PM
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Obviously it depends on the circumstances, context and individual features, but if I would have to come up with some general statistics, really really attractive women around 10/10 attraction note may struggle to get approached because of their intimidating aura, whereas women that would be evaluated from 7-9/10 are getting hit on constantly.
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:16 PM
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You can do everything simultaneously, more or less. There is no 100% correct way, you need to follow your gut.
/r/seduction16/03/26 12:26 PM
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Don't expect women to abruptly point out your bitter disadvantages during the date, even men equipped with boldness hormones are reluctant to do that. Read between the lines and keep in mind that women usually seek some extraordinary quality and feelings, not a standard boring dating experience. Even if you vibed well and created a connection, that's not enough for a potential lover or boyfriend. Prepare for the worst and be surprised with a good luck, not other way around.
/r/seduction16/03/26 12:25 PM
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If you think about preselection and subconscious process of it, it's surely much more than just your appearance. Subtle body features, tone of your voice, your posture, your scent and many more will give away an information to women about your whole sexual worth and experience.
/r/seduction15/03/26 05:21 PM
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I get a feeling you expect some clear instruction how to make a girl like you in 100 easy steps. There is no such thing as certainty and rigid formulas when it comes to human interactions. My point is, could you make a casual and interesting interaction with a random stranger without wanting anything from it? If not, you need to work on those social skills by getting lots of experience to feel natural with it. Sexual context is almost always in the air between man and woman in their procreative …
/r/seduction15/03/26 05:26 AM
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Many, if not most pickup artists and seduction trainers started as late bloomers as it comes to dealing with interactions with women. But first you need to get out from your depression hole and embrace a quite long journey of learning seduction theory, introduce big changes in your mindset, improve your sexual attractiveness and take social risks to get plenty of experience, obtain necessary skills and process feedback to grow and set your own effective seduction strategy. Rome wasn’t build in a…
/r/seduction15/03/26 05:06 AM
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Embrace the difference of sexual system between men and women. Provide her with extraordinary sexual experience and she will not place a wager of leaving you to seek for a better, because it will be really difficult to surpass.
/r/seduction14/03/26 03:16 PM
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I believe it's mainly because you are relying too much on logic, words and social code that has been imputed on you, but on the other hand you can see that reality tends to turn out to be contradictory to it, especially within sexual dynamics. So for you is to embrace such craziness. You may need to play within social norms and acknowledge words of others, but at the same time you can bend some rules, play around with logic and reach for you goal with a drop of selfishness. Play a bit dirty. Thi…
/r/seduction14/03/26 10:16 AM
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It's generally about preserving control, but it may also indicate that she is not warmed up enough yet to go all the way with you. Sometimes, as some women tend to be very kinky, it's some sort of a game to rise sexual pleasure, for the man to break through her defences so she could directly feel this masculine brutal energy she is attracted to. I believe it's some sort of our genetical heritage of gender dynamics, I agree that it may feel pretty crazy and you obviously have the right to feel co…
/r/seduction14/03/26 10:10 AM
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They may love it, but they may also feel awkward or devalued when you don't know how to properly lead social interaction or you look, sound or smell like you don't care about being sexually attractive for her. Prep up, do your homework, stay laidback and casual, look her in the eyes, smile.
/r/seduction13/03/26 09:11 AM
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It's full of misconceptions, mainly due to substantial differences in sexual sphere between genders and our tendency for wishful thinking especially in public space. That being said, you should learn from those that got an abundant experience with seduction and even then you need to test their mindsets and methods yourself whether they fit within your personal style and social circumstances.
/r/seduction12/03/26 07:40 AM
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True that, leave her with some hunger for more, with some mystery about what is really going on between you. She should expect something to happen on a next date, but not certain what you are really up to. It should be more like a fun game or seduction dance, not some rigid plan to go through point A to Z to win.
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:40 PM
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If I am not sure about leaving something entirely to the one side. Relation is by definition going two-ways, obviously there will be some dynamics imbalances especially in the beginning, but if one side is non-responsive in some crucial aspect of it, there is little point to struggle.
/r/seduction10/03/26 08:06 AM
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Sometimes (or often) guys are not on point with their social game and reading the room. Most likely he had no nasty intentions with it, spare him the embarrassment and play along nicely if you can.
/r/seduction10/03/26 08:02 AM
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Wear your best clothes, do your hair, get some accessories like watch, sunglasses or leather belt, take a long shower and use your best perfume. Manage proper posture, look straight, get that nice smile on your mouth. Then go out and check what it does to your confidence.
/r/seduction09/03/26 01:45 PM
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The point is to escalate gradually and in proper moment, when energy is high, you are both in good mood, connected with something pleasurable. You can mention casually something that is connected with sexual sphere. Or make a mild assumption about you getting closer to each other. Or compliment something about her, like you do really like it. Ignite girl's imagination by presenting her some potential scenarios between the two of you, it should trigger necessary emotion for her to warm up and sta…
/r/seduction09/03/26 01:43 PM
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Our nervous system holds an immense power. Both gentle and strong touch can be extremely pleasurable. Touching certain points on our body that are more sensitive or less touched by others. Being unpredictable with your patterns of touch can get her mind crazy about you as well.
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:23 AM
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Well, now it's the matter of keeping on improving your sexual attractiveness. Women's curve of attraction rise exponentially, once you hit a certain level you will get more and more attention and positive feedback from them. Take care of your appearance, including physique, clothes. accessories, learn seduction theory to test different techniques and methods in practice and use every opportunity to interact with attractive women, so with time you will naturally adjust your attitude and read the …
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:15 AM
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It's highly about creating that extraordinary impression that would make the girl feel like you are worth a risk to open sexually to. Show your sexually attractive traits, like good physique, intelligence, confidence, leading, social skills. Moreover, you should implement close proximity and escalate touch ladder as soon as possible, but at the same time make it look natural and observe girl's reactions and body language to control the tempo of getting more intimate. You should also trigger stro…
/r/seduction08/03/26 01:14 PM
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Yes, her emotions and self esteem falls from a very high hill. Also, they lack of testosterone make they also less prone to lead, take risks, act differently than group.
/r/seduction03/03/26 04:33 PM
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If they had a crush on you in the first place, nothing happened and their went to their default state the next day, they tend to associate you with this emotional crash and lost opportunity.
/r/seduction02/03/26 01:59 PM
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I would advice not try to brute force things, don’t struggle, don’t cling to some far fetched hope, like ever. Read the room, pay attention to the mood and body language. If things are clearly not going your way, you should bail out before girls would need to scream it in your face. You need to realize the subtle and indirect nature of interactions with women and stop swimming against the current, it’s very much different from masculine logical and clear ways of dealing with things. But still, t…
/r/seduction01/03/26 04:27 AM
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If I would make a guess, you made a bit too much fuss about it. Common rule of a thumb would be for you to stay laidback and make the matters develop gradually and naturally from the scratch. Come to it with a mindset that you would be just having a nice time together, give girl a space for the idea to sink in and for her to get comfortable and then if the mood is good, energy is high and girl is playing the same game as you, you can transform the vibe towards getting more connected, more intima…
/r/seduction28/02/26 04:54 PM
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Basing on these situations I would suggest to read into this rule of a thumb, you are coming too logical or too strong towards a seduction dance. Stay more laidback, get a bit irrational, simple and silly, it's more about triggering unique and strong emotions, lifting up the mood and potentially steer it towards getting more connected and more intimate. Don't seek any sense in it, don't brute force anything, look at different scenarios, dynamics and situations more like an opportunity to develop…
/r/seduction28/02/26 04:32 PM
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Generally, it's about appealing to our core biological archetypes of gender attraction. If you can trigger proper hormonal response in a woman, she will sexually open to you no matter what she says about her logical structure of attraction, it's all subconscious, written in our genetical history.
/r/seduction28/02/26 02:16 PM
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If life puts a spanner in your plans, stop for a moment and check if there may be a better way or something you are missing.
/r/seduction28/02/26 09:03 AM
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It may be definitely a shit test, if it is compact enough not to come out due to random sneeze.
/r/seduction28/02/26 08:57 AM
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We need to help each other, our civilizational system that is brute forced on us is a joke, and not funny one.
/r/seduction27/02/26 04:46 AM
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Women are emotional beings, it’s hard for them to swallow other girl may be just prettier.
/r/seduction27/02/26 04:38 AM
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Man, nothing happened. You can't expect something to happen miraculously on its own from such subtleties. You need to make a move and actually create a change in your dynamics concerning escalating your physical and mental intimacy. Act like a potential lover or boyfriend, not a friend that is anxious about your relation. Present your sexually attractive traits, get closer to her, create an unique experience and trigger strong emotions. You need to learn seduction strategy.
/r/seduction24/02/26 05:29 PM
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How about taking a look at other girls in the meantime as well? And remember you wanna provide them with strong and unique emotions, not a sample of marriage material.
/r/seduction24/02/26 05:00 PM
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Yeah, you can't change the truth, but you can change yourself, am I right?
/r/seduction24/02/26 04:50 PM
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Better to transfer your attention from conducting your plan in your mind to being in the moment, feel your body, look girl straight in the eyes and try to get into that flow state where you naturally adjust your conversation to the mood, vibe and energy level. It naturally comes with experience, if you can't figure anything out it usually means that you are not playing in the same team. The big thing is actually to make that deep eye contact, to create true connection and embrace true feedback.
/r/seduction24/02/26 04:48 PM
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People are who they are. Do you want to make a choice to hate them for their faults or love them for their merits?
/r/seduction24/02/26 07:59 AM
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You pay close attention to girl's body language and if she takes any initiative herself or at least support your conversation subject. You should not think of seduction as filling up 0s and 1s in proper combination, sometimes it will get sideways for whatever reason, sometimes you will fail with perfect game strategy, sometimes some silly idea will won her heart. Embrace the risk, enjoy the moment, improve your game by testing different mindsets and methods.
/r/seduction24/02/26 07:53 AM
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You obviously can't really know for sure just from a brief first glance. Generally, you can feel if there may be something more between you by getting an abundance of experience, so you can naturally read subtle body language. There is surely some solid and credible seduction theory, however it's still about practice and improvement.
/r/seduction19/02/26 11:59 AM
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Just don't make it look like you expect something already, don't get carried away with your currently uplifted emotional state. She may have an abundance of options to choose from. Or it may go sideways for whatever reason. Keep it cool and enjoy the moment.
/r/seduction19/02/26 11:54 AM
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To put it simply, you need to get fuckable. By getting in shape you will also improve your health, your mood, increase your energy, get a positive feedback from your social environment.
/r/seduction19/02/26 11:50 AM
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Just get better than him, it's as simple as it can be. You can turn the wheel around to make him look inferior. It's a play, who cares. Women are crazy anyway.
/r/seduction10/02/26 10:48 PM
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i FEEL DEPRESSED AND LONELY ALL MY LIFE
/r/seduction10/02/26 02:16 PM
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/r/seduction09/02/26 01:30 PM
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You can stare for many reasons. Women want men to stare at them, but without any forceful intent. The thing is, if you don't stare at women for long enough, how can you know if it will be a good girl for you? Seduction is all about finding a way to a true nature, not our social concepts of man and woman. All my encounters with girls were pretty crazy, not following any structure, but you need some structure to feel confident enough to face something you don't know. Women nowadays are very desper…
/r/seduction08/02/26 01:17 PM
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You can stare at many things. What are you afraid of you? Police wil arrest you for looking at a girl for few seconds because she is so prerry? Tha's hte way, let the magic happen, women are not seeking something that they seek. Your homework, stare at the girl for 6 seconds, but no more. & seconds is when something happens that you may not be ready for.
/r/seduction08/02/26 01:00 PM
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And why would you go there to socialize. Come to the girl and look her in the eyes. Then you leave.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:57 AM
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Catch her when she will be alone.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:55 AM
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Find girls that like submissive guys. And cry.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:52 AM
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Take a look at the girl for at least 3 seconds.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:45 AM
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Nice foreplay.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:44 AM
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Stay a bit closer than it is expected, look her in the eyes, smile, use deep voicetone. In terms of conversation, there is really no point in focusing on the substance of your topics, but on emotions that they trigger. If you can both laugh, show good traits of each other, obviously including these sexual ones, breaking touch barrier slightly, slightly touching sexual sphere like complementing something of her outfit. I think generally you should spice things up only if the girl shows some inter…
/r/seduction07/02/26 01:18 AM
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What do you mean "attracting"? You need to make a move by yourself. Even if women obviously find you attractive, they are not wired to take the risk and they usually they are cluless how to conclude a flirt with a stranger. If you feel you are not prepared for direct approach with sexual intent, you can just conduct a casual , brief interaction with a girl to get your body language, voicetone and conversation strategy feel natural and ready. If you feel there is a problem with your interaction w…
/r/seduction07/02/26 01:02 AM
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It depends if you wanna repay her like for like or try to embrace the harder challenge and convert her negative emotions. Generally I would advice not to be vulgar or bitter, but play it like it was funny or suprising. "No way, I thought the same of you, but I looked closer and on the second look you felt like a nice lady with pretty smile. Too bad, I had already a nice idea where we can go on a date if you want"
/r/seduction07/02/26 12:49 AM
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So, are you asking if women are really attracted to your height or job or anything else of that boring bullshit? No.
/r/seduction02/02/26 09:14 AM
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I would say generally "going in for the kiss" game is about gradually making steps to escalate your intimacy beforehand, so at some point it would be expected and feel natural and easy. Like getting and staying closer and closer to the girl, breaking touch barrier many times, creating connection, triggering lots of strong, pleasant, intimate emotions, providing a nice at least semi-private place where you can make out, picking the right moment when sexual tension and energy is high, providing lo…
/r/seduction28/01/26 04:29 PM
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Excuses won’t get you anywhere. It’s obvious that you will face many issues due to natural human downsides, but you are also equipped with a mind that can potentially figure out a manageable solution. Ask yourself a question, would you like to be admired or to be pitied? If you can’t make things happen, change your path or change your method, simple as that.
/r/seduction27/01/26 07:35 AM
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It's not really a very accurate analogy, but it's kinda similar effect to boiling frog syndrome.
/r/seduction26/01/26 01:08 PM
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You are not a coward by freezing in a situation that you have very little experience with and bears unmanagable risk, it's a natural reaction of our body and mind. Jumping on a deep water where edges are slippery is definitely not a good way to learn swimming. What you should do is embrace these emotions and start building up your seduction strategy step by step. Start with easy things like improving your sexual attractiveness, dressing well, smelling good, working out, getting a nice hairstyle,…
/r/seduction25/01/26 12:48 PM
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First thing, many people are not really concerned too much about speaking of the matter they have little actual experience with or knowledge about. They often follow emotions to engage their intuition to solve logic problems. Therefore, you should only really follow meritorical arguments, all other ways are usually the cover for an empty essence. About theory vs experience, theory is a foundation to forge your own style, skills and seduction strategy, but without practice that verifies and feedb…
/r/seduction25/01/26 12:37 PM
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It's not really a bad thing to create or be aware of your excuses. The problem is that there is no follow-up with solution. And why is that so? Because the solution feels too much or not enough. So you should figure out a better one, so you would get this inner energy to believe and take a risk.
/r/seduction25/01/26 12:26 PM
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Bail out before it becomes crystal clear that she does not want you.
/r/seduction22/01/26 01:03 AM
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First thing, women are rarely straightforward about wanting to hookup, they don't want to be perceived as easy and they need a warmup to feel horny and open sexually to a stranger anyways. Focus on presenting sexually attractive traits that are appealing to our primal instincts, even if they are a bit indecent or cocky. Also, trigger strong emotions in them and touch sexual sphere in your conversation. Keep increasing the tension, don't stop but don't get dull about it either. Take care about pr…
/r/seduction22/01/26 12:59 AM
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Being too persistent and oblivious of girl's body language. Being too dull and too serious. Focusing on words instead of body language, tone, tension.
/r/seduction21/01/26 05:11 PM
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Yeah, I think it's the matter of releasing the tension, then girl's emotions go down significantly and there is also a pressure to push towards even deeper intimacy on your next meeting, which can be off-putting just by itself. If you want to make your relation more long term, you should keep the tension, create some interesting cliffhangers and mystery in your dynamics, leave things without conclusion and end your meeting a bit prematurely, make her wait for something, make her hungry for more.
/r/seduction21/01/26 04:59 PM
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If you are asking about specific method and mindset, common approach is about push and pull with talking around sexual context. Don’t be too blunt, get creative, play with with the sexual tension by increasing it without getting dull and obvious. If a guy is pushing too much you can tone it down a bit, but still stay within the vibe that you are both getting more and more sexually attracted to each other, melting intimacy barriers one by one. Have fun with it.
/r/seduction16/01/26 05:14 PM
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Well, don’t get too worked up about it.
/r/seduction14/01/26 07:35 AM
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Wait for her to approach you, good luck. You think you don't deserve her, that is an issue.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:38 AM
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Sometimes you are just worth a risk. It depends on the context of a social circle.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:32 AM
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At this rate women will start soon throwing themselves at guys but they will be too busy running away to notice it.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:06 AM
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Well, this is very interesting point you make. You can even broaden this to many other instances of life. And it's about embracing the future. You are not here to approve the past. You are to make it more.
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:57 AM
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Pretty much every subtle interaction may be a shy encouragement from woman for you to do something. Manage your seduction strategy in a way, so you won't come up too strong in the beginning, but at the same time you will figure out some situation where the girl can show whether she would like to invest more in your potential relation or not. If you struggle too much to make things happen, just give up and move on.
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:53 AM
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Then you can get closer to them, smile, make some casual social interaction. These also are pretty much free of risk of rejection, and you can get to observe much more clearly whether a girl may reciprocate some sexual interest or not.
/r/seduction05/01/26 09:01 AM
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Generally, words really cost nothing. You can't convince anyone to like you. Think of them more like sounds human make, apart from them there are dozens of different aspects of attraction. Focus on making things happen, pay attention to actual actions and decisions. There is this common concept of ending a date with "I had a great time today". Which implicates that you wanna get a reassurance from the other side too. But don't do that. Let the next meeting come out naturally, completely unforcef…
/r/seduction04/01/26 10:30 AM
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It feels like your sexual tension game is non-existent. Women need proper emotional stimulation to get horny, if you are giving the vibes of a kind friend, obedient citizen, conformist male, then you will obviously turn off her natural sexual triggers. Think straightforward and study our natural sexual selection traits, women desire a strong, brutal, leader man that will fuck her brains out and don't care what she thinks.
/r/seduction03/01/26 10:34 PM
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You shoot your shot and if she rejects you, you move on to the next target or next opportunity. Let yourself swim in abundance, don’t put all eggs in one basket, it’s unwise. You should naturally stop caring too much if you have some solid alternatives.
/r/seduction29/12/25 01:55 AM
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You can practice your game in many other, more suitable circumstances.
/r/seduction28/12/25 07:43 AM
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Taking a number is justified if you created a nice connection and sexual tension with the girl, but you can't really escalate your intimacy further in current circumstances. If you didn't trigger some unique and strong emotions between you, it's almost certain that she will not be eager to engage with your after a break, as you were not able to move things further with her, either by lacking social competence or confidence. You absolutely need to make something happen for her to remember.
/r/seduction22/12/25 12:07 PM
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Maybe you did not change as much as you think. Also, it's better to hunt in the environment where you feel empowered and comfortable, drop the struggle with incompatible cases.
/r/seduction22/12/25 12:02 PM
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Is there any sexual tension, connection, mutual interest, other strong or unique emotions? If not, you are still random strangers to each other.
/r/seduction21/12/25 12:25 PM
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The name of the game is get the best one possible. Do you wanna play?
/r/seduction21/12/25 12:23 PM
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Well, if you want to start from the very beginning, wear clothes that suits well with your body shapes, compliment your man with a sexual context, random hugging/kisses. Foreplay starts long before you decide to get to the thing. Then you can spice things up, talk dirty, touch his erogenous zones discretly in public, buy erotic products. Generally, I think that you need to ask yourself an important question: are you going crazy to get his dick or you do not feel such extreme lust at all? If not,…
/r/seduction20/12/25 02:18 PM
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Reassuring her too much, excusing her behaviour, making your moves without adjusting to her reactions, playing down her bad sides, making her a priority in your schedule, neglecting your other relations, extrapolating expectations without a reason, caring too much about her mood. Generally, you need to pay attention whether your dynamics go in both directions, don't forget that it may all go sideways for whatever reason, especially in the beginning and words really cost nothing.
/r/seduction19/12/25 10:34 AM
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If you are expected to be judged, better prepare your repertoire thoroughly. Usually you wanna just stay nearby and get some eye contact, but patting on the should or joining to dance with her are also very valid techniques, just remember to take some distance at first for her to take a close look at you and a moment for breath to prepare herself so she won't interacti with you with automatical social code responses. Give her space to turn you down if she wants. Sometimes you can approach litera…
/r/seduction16/12/25 05:16 AM
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I would suggest to start with easy improvements, which you can callibrate instantly or embark some easy routine or easy goal to achieve. Creating your own effective seduction strategy takes much time if you start from zero, take it step by step and don't skip things that may be irrelevant or minor, women look at everything when evaluating their potential partner. It's fine to keep your framework, you are now certain in whicih direction you go, but you need to focus on these small steps, appearan…
/r/seduction16/12/25 04:59 AM
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You can join some hobby groups or online groups where people are also eager to meet in real life circumstances, go on some vacation trips, expand your social circle, approach women for some casual banter in standard social situations, attend social events. As it comes to so called nightgame, don't exclude yourself entirely because of your preference, you can always go out for a limited period of time or search for some nice company to back you up. As I said before, you seem to meet common attrac…
/r/seduction15/12/25 01:41 PM
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I believe it's even more important to stand out than to meet every standard. Think how you can develop your own style in terms of appearance. Also, think about your most attractive traits which you feel natural with and try to earn some level of mastery with it, like winning a contest or any other distincting achievement. By our biological evolution, women naturally seek for some extraordinary genes to pass to future generations, so don't think about meeting bare minimum's or average or even abo…
/r/seduction15/12/25 12:28 PM
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It should, I would also put more focus towards developing your sexually attractive traits. Top girls will naturally pursue top guy.
/r/seduction15/12/25 10:18 AM
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Well, why would you keep on struggling with girls that make it hard for you (not in a good way) if you have abundance of options? On the other hand, keep in mind that many girls may be not used to your way of escalating things and they may not communicate their feelings accurately in the beginning. Give them enough space and time to get comfortable and warm up their interpersonal prowess. Figure out some new rule of a thumb when you will not get irritated too much, but at the same time not miss …
/r/seduction15/12/25 09:02 AM
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Who says "just be you"? And what that even means exactly? In terms of constructive mindsets for your seduction game, I would say it would be about constantly exerting and developing your naturally good sides. However, at the same time you should not put up with your disadvatanges that clearly get in they way of reaching your goals. Being optimistic is surely a more effective way of being for a human, but it does not mean getting lazy or demanding at all.
/r/seduction14/12/25 12:29 PM
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Bite the bullet.
/r/seduction13/12/25 10:34 AM
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Ask such a question when you are sure about an answer.
/r/seduction13/12/25 10:33 AM
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Have you tried to search up some seduction theory by yourself and then test mentioned mindsets and techniques in real life circumstances? Don't expect people to give you A to Z universal instruction, you need to do your homework by yourself to acquire necessary skills and experience to soundly deal with every possible situation and maintain a thriving relationship. About your current step, common way is to figure out any opportunity in a casual and natural manner to meet for some activities or j…
/r/seduction13/12/25 10:25 AM
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Well, it’s yet another important feedback for you to improve your seduction strategy. Unless you really trespassed her intimacy zone in a harsh way, there is no reason to be too bothered about it, sometimes you get overly optimistic with your emotional high or just misread the mood/signs, and women are usually not helping with that at all. Don’t get too defensive and don’t get too apologetic, but still probably there is no coming back from your current situation, unless she will show some good w…
/r/seduction10/12/25 07:36 AM
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It’s a standard modus operandi for women that don’t want to deal with direct rejection to give you their contact number with the intention of ghosting you in the safety of their apartment. You should make her want to meet with you again, create a natural connection, trigger proper emotions, charm her with your attractive masculine traits. Taking a number is not a goal per se, should be just a necessary stepping stone at some point, to keep in touch and potentially organize next meeting, because …
/r/seduction10/12/25 07:25 AM
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Until you do the deed or reach any other relationship or sexual milestone, it can be just fun and games or leading you by the nose for any reason. Keeping it cool and real is a big thing for a man in dating market, women have often completely different sense of words responsibility and they clearly process emotions and feelings in a different way. Our logical mind and empathetic thinking can be very much misleading in direct interactions with the opposite gender.
/r/seduction10/12/25 07:12 AM
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You can obviously prepare some tricky questions, but generally women are well aware of standard social formulas and can feel and adjust to the mood and emotions much better than men. You will find out about her true colors sooner or later anyways, but if you prefer the former path, I would advice to get involved together with situations which she has never been before in and make the things go a bit off-road, it should usually trigger her natural instincts.
/r/seduction10/12/25 07:01 AM
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If you can trigger extraordinary emotions and feelings that she has never felt, if you present yourself as a high quality man that she has never met before, if you go through plenty of unique and important situations together, if you form a strong and natural connection within many life aspects, claiming these as a long-term relationship will be as easy as making a next step on the walk.
/r/seduction09/12/25 03:46 PM
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Keep your emotions in check for the time being, as you seemingly don’t know how she feels about you at all. You can keep close to her, hold eye contact a bit longer, present your attractive masculine traits, exercise more friendly and “accidental” touch, create opportunities for some 1 on 1 interactions and potentially go through some unique situations together. Depending on her reactions about getting a bit closer with each other, you can decide whether there can be something more to pursue the…
/r/seduction08/12/25 07:26 AM
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It doesn't only concern so called "cold" approach, you can get turned down in a harsh way pretty much in every circumstances, but it usually have more to do with the girl having really bad mood, bad experiences or she simply developed and sustain such a mean character by herself. Reevaluate your strategy whether something may be improved from your side and keep going. It is the risk that you need to take to eventually succeed, learn to read the room and subtle body signs to pick girls that seem …
/r/seduction07/12/25 10:19 AM
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Well, however cold it may sound, you need to embrace actual actions and decisions, don't depend on fleeting emotions or words that nowadays seem to not carry any responsibility with them. Keep it real, don't overorder, don't expect the girl to always go on a second date with you even if the first date seemed perfect. This is not a rational territory, involving feelings and emotions things may go very crazy under your logical radar, keep it cool and let her go whenever she wants, that is the soli…
/r/seduction04/12/25 06:14 PM
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Well, it's like with everything new that you try in life, you will obviously fail couple, dozens or even hundreds of times until you reach your desired goal. The thing is about not thinking of rejection as some qualifier of your value, but as a feedback to improve your seduction game. You can't really create a perfect strategy just basing on theory, it's much easier and quicker to take some risks here and there to confront yourself with the truth and embrace it.
/r/seduction04/12/25 06:00 PM
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I would set myself to make gradual progress with intimacy in longer period of time. Pay attention to her reactions if she is comfortable about making the next step. Appreciate her feminine attractive features and also casually show off your masculine side to tingle her natural biological response. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits, find opportunities where you can have some privacy just two of you and slowly tick off all intimacy bases one by one, starting from the very beginning. A…
/r/seduction04/12/25 05:53 PM
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You can start with showing off your sexually attractive traits. Wear nice clothes, nice accessories, smell good, casually let her see your thiriving finances and social circle, lead others or just communicate with different people frequently. Once you get that, you need to figure out opportunity for 1 on 1 interactions. If you manage to, stay close to her, smile, look her deep in the eyes, use deep voice, lead her in the conversation and whole interaction, throw in some mild sexual topics that a…
/r/seduction02/12/25 09:15 AM
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Well, that indicates that she is not in the mood or doesn't have proper emotions to go all the way. The foreplay is kinda like last chance to potentially change her mind and let the biology take over. So, focus on triggering that genetical sexual response, whisper in her ear some dirty things using deep voice, touch her gently or strongly in proper sexual spheres, come really close, place your hands all over her, pin her to the wall, use push-pull method with escalating your physical intimacy. B…
/r/seduction02/12/25 08:57 AM
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Take your time, look girl in the eyes, make space for silence, come closer, take proper posture, use deep voice, take a deep breath, relax your muscles. Generally, enjoy the whole process, let the outcome come whenever and whatever.
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:20 PM
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Nah, she is just trying to trick you, stay safe.
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:15 PM
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Look above. But my take on it is that you should do your homework by yourself. If I give you whole plan how to seduce a girl, do you also want me to fuck her for you? You need to create your own natural style. Embrace the risk and do something in actual real life circumstances.
/r/seduction23/11/25 09:53 PM
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No, you introduce this technique and many others in a natural way. Keep your mindset about connecting your current conversation and your desired outcome, but don't get too pressured about it, just keep it in mind and wait for good opportunity. Still, I would advice not to get too concerned about understanding the whole process in one go, just keep making progress with improving certain aspects and testing techniques and after some time your game will build on actual trial and error and effort pu…
/r/seduction23/11/25 09:36 PM
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Touch a girl if you got an opportunity, but at first only in a way that is acceptable in friendly relations like high five, patting the shoulder, hug for a greeting, a bit of pushing away when you tease each other, silly games with your hands, gently stick part your body tp hers when you need to be very close to each other. Sex is a part of our human life, sometimes it will naturally come up when you have conversation about something else at first. You can bring up your own stories that slightly…
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:58 PM
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Well, you can start with casually showing off your sexually attractive traits. Come little closer, take proper posture, look them straight in the eyes, smile, introduce some friendly skinship. You can also touch sexual topics in a casual way. Next thing is about triggering emotions, don't focus on logical information structure, but triggering emotions in people that are associated with certain words or subjects. Put your heart into a conversation. Take these few things for a start, you can intro…
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:12 PM
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Wouldn'it it be more reasonable just to change the job for the one that makes you more eager to do stuff also after the work? The thing is you need to improve in a lot of areas of your attractiveness and without strong inner motivation and spare energy you won't be able to embark on this marathon.
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:36 AM
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They are certainly universal, but I believe so called "shock" openers create better opening mood and energy. But they need to be performed in a proper way to the circumstances.
/r/seduction22/11/25 04:42 PM
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Yeah, it's a game. You definitely need to learn. Read stuff. And last thing, why do you not assume they are gaming you with such questions? Are you not confident in your sexual attractiveness? Are you not competent to convert any conversation into a casual opportunity to meet 1 on 1 with a woman? How do you assume you will get to have sex then?
/r/seduction21/11/25 06:03 PM
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Well, why so serious? It's just a game. You can start with being a bit ironic/sarcastic. Use your creativity for some funny and silly word and context games. If you can't, I feel there may be some deeper issue there than not understanding women.
/r/seduction21/11/25 04:43 PM
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Sorry to be so upfront, but are you on the spectrum by any chance? There is no problem with being playfully insincere, gender dynamics and flirting is not life or death matter or something. Yes, you say something like "Nah, I still miss a couple, I'm currently saving for a flight to Cali for exactly that mission" or whatever else that isn't dull and boring. Try to make something against your code from time to time if you feel stuck.
/r/seduction21/11/25 01:19 PM
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Just like other guys said, women would like to feel special and attractive among others, not some random target. But it should not matter to you, you just approach beautiful women to get to know them, nothing wrong with it, even though they could feel "not special" when they find out about your numbers game strategy. Change your hunt area from time to time. I approached the same girl twice couple of times too, it was a bit awkward, but it didn't matter at all in the long run.
/r/seduction21/11/25 01:14 PM
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Because you embark on too big of a goal in only one turn. You should start with approaching different people to socialize or casually approach beautiful women just to have some nice social interaction. Once you naturally learn how to process strong emotions, body language, read the room, figure out nice topics for a conversation, it will be much easier to make a next step and introduce a sexual context as well.
/r/seduction21/11/25 01:07 PM
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Turn it into a playful joke. "I prefer to call them my partner distinguished ladies". Women don't expect you to be serious and truthful all the time, especially in your sexual game it can only get in the way for you to miss the opportunity to trigger extraordinary emotions. Play a role, get a bit silly and chill out, you are not hurting anyone. Women won't stand such strict attitude in your sexual dynamics for long.
/r/seduction21/11/25 01:02 PM
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Drop this casual tone, speak to her like you are already good friends, but obviously without being too direct at the start. Make some interesting or funny or positively shocking statement. It's all about emotions and sexual tension, you don't need to follow any social protocol or get any information from her, fixate your mindset on having fun and escalating intimacy gradually.
/r/seduction09/11/25 01:40 PM
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Generally, you wanna be just better than them. Trigger such strong and unique emotions in a girl that she will think more about what can happen next between you rather than looking around for something else. They choose. If it's not you, it should not be that big of a deal, search for more compatible and maybe even more attractive girl for you. I think your issue is that you are getting too emotionally involved because of some vague potential future than staying in the moment and processing actu…
/r/seduction09/11/25 01:32 PM
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I would rather advice all guys that want to make their first approach to just interact casually. Trigger positive emotions, don't push for anything in particular, get to know the girl, make some joke or interesting statement. If you walk to her as a total stranger and ask for her number, do you really assume that most girls are so adventurous and down to the thing that they would support such conversation? She doesn't know you at all, there is no connection between you, why would you ask for her…
/r/seduction08/11/25 09:53 PM
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You are meant to fail on your first time. Your body language is not prepared, you barely have any game at your disposal, you can't handle emotions properly, you are not paying attention to important things, you don't exert proper impression. And foremost, you probably didn't wear your best clothes, best smile, best hairstyle. There is a lot for you to improve on to keep increasing your chances from almost zero. Sounds tough, but you have plenty of time to make smalls steps, just don't think it w…
/r/seduction05/11/25 07:45 PM
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Well, keep creating a strong connection between you so she can feel that you can be actual partners, not some meaningless fling. Also, trigger her sexual switches from time to time, even if she is set for conservative mindset, her body will naturally react towards your masculine traits and sexual atmoshpere. You know, just try something, sometimes you will miss what author had in mind, but it's just life and next opportunities may be much easier and more compatible, don't struggle for high maint…
/r/seduction05/11/25 04:17 PM
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Women are not approaching first because their biology is not designed to take the lead or take risks. They get attracted to traits that are pretty rare, that have a potential to unfold into something great, to genes that will create a strong offspring. Just look at our history, it's pretty much the same mechanisms of attraction, just in different system model. Thinking straight, it's about different kinds of pleasure like feeling safe, presenting potential of creating great life experience, gett…
/r/seduction04/11/25 02:50 PM
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With this and any similar situations, it depends how you want to hold your frame, how you want to be perceived to lead the interaction in the desired way. If you feel you can't bear with such response, just take a bottle yourself and look for a more suitable partner. If you feel it's more playful than rude, don't hold any grudge, say something lighthearted and give her time and space to rethink her attitude.
/r/seduction03/11/25 08:38 AM
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People often don't know what they like until they see it. Just keep trying out different kind of things by yourself. As men, we don't have such feminine compass that will guide us what masculine is attracted to, we can guess, but more proper way is for you to get more in tune with your raw female instincts.
/r/seduction03/11/25 08:23 AM
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Because you also need to train your body to exert corresponding body language and to process comprehensive emotions and subtleties properly. This can't be absorbed effectively without going through real experience over and over.
/r/seduction03/11/25 07:27 AM
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You will get better at managing risk, recognize patterns, deal with emotions. Don't get rid of fear, it's there for some reason.
/r/seduction03/11/25 07:05 AM
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I guess it's about our genetical triggers. And our current civilisational culture is massively filled with sexual innuendos. But it's still your choice to pay attention there or not. I haven't heard of a situation when someone got sick because of lack of sex or masturbation. I would say the most important thing is about it being a compulsion or our conscious choice. Having sex releases lots of positive hormones, and many people in our society deeply lack them.
/r/seduction27/10/25 06:54 PM
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Well, obviously you can read some seduction theory about that. My take on anxiety, you need to change your plan, divide it to small steps. Her behaviour is very much understandable, she communicated her intentions pretty clearly for a woman, so when you didn't bother about that, she probably assumed you are not interested or asexual or incompetent with romantic relations. In your last situation, potential small steps would be: light kiss on the cheek or forehead, saying something pleasant with d…
/r/seduction27/10/25 06:41 PM
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Key is about triggering some engaging emotions, impressing her a bit with your photos amd connections and smoothly using any excuse to opportunity to meet in real life circumstances. Or at least talk on the phone or video call for a start. You can charm a girl just with texting, but it's usually too far away from shagging and will quickly dry out if you don't escalate.
/r/seduction27/10/25 06:36 PM
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I guess she didn't like you that much, you didn't trigger enough strong emotions in her, sexual tension was too weak or non-existence, your conversation and activities were too generic and flat. It happens to every guy from time to time, keep improving yourself and next instead of conducting a proper date, take the girl on an adventure. Emotions, uncertainty, touching and being close to each other, experiencing unique situations, showing off your attractive features, engaging conversations with …
/r/seduction27/10/25 06:25 PM
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Well, I'm gonna repeat this thousand of times here. If you know nothing, you need to start from the very beginning. Stay closer, get some eye contacts, smile. Many people don't realize how much it does to your body and mind. If you feel confident and empowered enough, make some brief casual conversation with a stranger or smily ask for time/directions. Then. choose a pretty random girl and give her a sincere compliment or say any other casual stuff, paying close attention to your body language, …
/r/seduction27/10/25 04:32 PM
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Because its quite and fun, once you get the hang of this. It's totally up to you to draw the line of commitment or giving up. Sometimes proper circumstancare are just not there, sometimes mood is pretty flat and asexual, sometimes your first impression doesn't help you get big points of approval at the start. There is no reason to keep reasearching for the best method to find women successfully, it depends on so many things, like your current disposal, circumstances, girl's mood, girl's current …
/r/seduction26/10/25 10:52 AM
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It's always good to look at someone that his handsome and have sex with Hercules descendant, but still our genetical programing through the ages made the masculine factor, confident, leading, composed. smart the most sex appealing traits for women. The thing is, you should focus on everything, don't be lazy. If you want your girl to present plenty of attractive qualities, you should also keep improving continuously, not only for your sake, but your future partners will be definitely glad with th…
/r/seduction25/10/25 06:15 PM
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I would say there would be very rare cases of a woman displeased with you shaving your pubic hair. It has clear advantages, like making your gear look bigger, arguably look better overall, smell better etc. Like with plenty of other tricks and tips for improving your seduction game, many of them are worth trying out within your own experience as they really present little to no risk.
/r/seduction24/10/25 09:55 PM
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The best way is to do just do something that is opposed to your previous mindset to see what happens. If you read seduction theory but your old mindset still prevails in your interactions, what's the point? Put your ego in your pocket for a while and do things differently, even just for fun. Play a role. Seduction game is not about you being the perfect stranger + sex, you should introduce variety of strong emotions to form a connection and activate sexual sphere, even if getting there would ben…
/r/seduction24/10/25 10:35 AM
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Or it may be playing around in a moment or something like a prank. On the other hand, we can't really decide our sexual kinks, do we? From the theoretical perspective, strike iron while it's hot, if you are both already so horny and ready there is little reason to find excuses not to realise your fantasies quickly. If you are too indecisive, girl will turn her attention somewhere else with disappointment at some point. It's also a good move to spot just a crazy sexual play with no intention for …
/r/seduction24/10/25 10:27 AM
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If you are sure it's about investing yourself too much in a girl prematurely, I would say the key thing is about realising that women are just different than men, you need to adjust to proper seduction mindset regardless of what your emotions are signalising, what your logical mind is processing, and what women are saying. Just pure experience anylysis, basing on actual actions and decisions. To improve your game and broaden your perspective, you need to stop getting carried away by your emotion…
/r/seduction24/10/25 10:18 AM
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Well, try not to get caught off guard next time. Girl's reasons will still be unknown but I think you can figure out a way that deals both with it potentially being a prank or girl just being shy and awkward about approaching attractive guys first. Keep it cool, both in your mind and your body.
/r/seduction23/10/25 12:40 PM
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Generally you want to implement indirect approach which matches our current social culture and gender dynamics, but depending on the circumstances and the woman you interact with, you can switch towards more direct approach that will suit the vibe more.
/r/seduction22/10/25 08:07 PM
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Take every opportunity that you can, and don't stop yourself with any excuse to reach for the next level of sexual attractivenes. Many guys long for sexual interactions very much, but effort they put in realising such desires is not comparable to the urge itself at all. You can take it step by step, just don't put your chances into a belief that something amazing and unexpected will happen to you out of nothing without making proper changes within yourself and with your actions. Get to know plen…
/r/seduction22/10/25 07:59 PM
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You can build the sexual tension just by responding accordingly to woman's body language and other subtle signs and carry the interaction smoothly to the desired destination. The thing is, most guys that are very confused about and just generally new to the seduction world want something like rigid 25-points plan that will always work like in school exams, which just can't exist in real world circumstances. You need to build up solid mindset that will always hold your frame, to embrace and proce…
/r/seduction22/10/25 07:30 PM
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First thing you can focus on improving your initial impression, get into some regular physical training, remember to take proper posture, look people in the eyes, smile, dress well, smell well, do your hair. Second thing, don't think about going all the way through the process of pickup instantly, as it is quite a new ground for you and you will naturally freeze. Take it step by step and focus on making some casual interactions at first. If girls reciprocates interest, it will be much easier to …
/r/seduction19/10/25 07:14 PM
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That way she may want to keep a good image of you, that would be shattered with petty, asexual texting. Either way, you should not be too concerned about her reasons, they may be pretty comprehensive or even irrational from men's logical point of view, instead make up your mind and reach for what you want, or the window of opportunity will close at some point. If you don't know what to do, it's about time to learn some seduction theory and get some experience with it, it rarely happens on its ow…
/r/seduction18/10/25 07:43 PM
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Well, whatever is her reason, why you don't want to escalate things on the spot and instead take a huge step back to texting. It doesn't present you as a confident and socially competent guy.
/r/seduction18/10/25 06:26 PM
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Do you socialize casually, just to pass time or have some fun conversation with strangers? If not, your mind and your body is just not prepared to embrace the whole new process and you naturally tend to freeze. Stay closer, make eye contact, smile. You need to start from scratch.
/r/seduction18/10/25 05:44 PM
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Loose up your muscles, look her deep in the eyes. If I feel that the girl is clearly interested in escalating things, I don't rush there if I can take my time. Trigger more emotions and pleasure by getting through all the steps of getting to know each other. At some point, both of you will be so full of tension that things will happen on their own.
/r/seduction18/10/25 05:39 PM
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Yeah, realise that excuses are not helpful to you in any way, focus on solutions. Embrace a change.
/r/seduction18/10/25 05:34 PM
1

When the world turns its back on you, you turn your back on the world.
/r/seduction16/10/25 06:40 PM
1

Well, if you are just a joker/entertainer you are obviously fun to be around and spend time with, but not really as it comes to being sexual and intimate. You always want to think about moves or opportunities that would show also your masculine side. Drive girl around, show off a bit of your strength/stamina/intelligence, take proper posture, use deep and low voicetone, wear fitting clothes, smell well, do your hair, show some exciting interests, character traits, skills, make your social circle…
/r/seduction16/10/25 12:41 PM
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You can start with getting some eye contacts and smiles. Then you can approach to introduce yourself and have simple, casual small talk. Then you can think of escalating things from there, seeking connection, triggering emotions and looking for opportunities to meet with each other outside of school circumstances.
/r/seduction15/10/25 11:06 PM
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If you are active in a dating market, expect lots of lost cases, especially if you are just beginning your seduction quesst. That's totally normal and totally fine, so don't get yourself too emotionally engaged until you see clear reciprocation and real "yes" decisions from your potential partner.
/r/seduction15/10/25 10:53 PM
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Women do not seek a lover that would behave like their close friend. They want extreme emotions, suspense, big sexual tension and attraction, adventure.
/r/seduction14/10/25 11:35 AM
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Well, it depends what alcohol do for you. You can certainly improve these skills, mindset and attitude without a substance with some effort and will to change.
/r/seduction13/10/25 03:04 AM
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Yes, it's her defensive mechanism for guys that just want to pick her up quickly for the deed and leave.
/r/seduction13/10/25 02:57 AM
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I think it's because most girls don't want to be bothered as they are focused on their workout. If approaching in the gym would become a normal thing, attractive girls would probably have a hard time dealing with guys constantly wanting her attention. But, it does not mean you cannot approach a girl there, but you should be extra mindful, read signs of interest, start casually as a normal social conversation. Probably she attends the gym regularly, so you have some time to go slow and not leave …
/r/seduction13/10/25 02:38 AM
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Women are constantly feeding themselves and rest of the world with sweet delusioms. Therefore. they don't really work on developimg chacter and proper social culture, when they are just about to wait for the prince charming to get them. And ultimately, this is what you do, keep improving yourself, even if you think you are good enough, expand your opportujities and keep escaalting until y ou find some girl that won't restist. Will it be worth making a long-term relatioship with such women? Proba…
/r/seduction12/10/25 03:35 AM
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In my opinion, 3-second rule is for people that already obtained some decent skills in communication and socialization. In your case, your should rather start from the very beginning, stay closer to people, get eye contact, smiles, ask for time/directions, give pretty girl a unique compliment. Take it step by step. If you can get good at that, it will be so much easier to get into more comprehensive social interactions.
/r/seduction09/10/25 02:53 PM
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Because women love to be in control, demanding things while promising nothing in return, Do as much as you feel, but remember that this relationship should not become an obstacle for you in getting a new girlfriend, because current romantic route with this girl is almost certainly closed.
/r/seduction09/10/25 02:34 PM
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Slightly prolonged eye contact, smile, then look away for a bit. Approach immediately or wait a few moments to set up your body and mind for a success. Good fundamentals can take you so deep into sexual interactions, no need to design universal methods or tricks, which are hardly ever a thing.
/r/seduction09/10/25 02:30 PM
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Let's change the goal from trying to convince the girl of your value or reaching some specific milestone as a priority to checking how you vibe together, mix things up by arranging some unusual and unexpected interactions and conversations. In such circumstances, you can genuinely feel if you would be a good couple together or have similiar sexual temperament. You will have much more fun and you will feel less disappointed if she doesn't follow you, as you are having unique adventure on your own…
/r/seduction06/10/25 12:19 PM
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Tap into your feelings or look around to get some inspiration from the current circumstances. Also, if you don't have a more or less clear azimuth for a conversation, it's not a surprise your mind turns blank. Why did you approach this girl? Wanna get some information from her? Wanna get to know her better? Wanna compliment her? Wanna take her out someday or maybe now? Wanna touch some specific topic with her? Wanna come closer, look her deep in the eyes and say first thing that comes to you? I …
/r/seduction06/10/25 09:04 AM
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Isn't that what literally cold approach is? But remember there are also plenty of different ways to meet attractive women, where your success odds are significantly higher, and don't only rely on your luck and numbers game, but keep improving your sexually attractive traits, for your future girlfriend to recognize your value and be the most pleased with the man she got with. Also, keep learning seduction game to be able to smoothly get through the process of escalating your potential close relat…
/r/seduction06/10/25 07:26 AM
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Like every woman, she is mostly interested in your masculine traits. Your activities and conversations are just a foreplay, for you to get intimate, romantic, sexual. Focus on that. And don't tag yourself with some specific personality, it only limits you, use this relationship to become even better version of yourself.
/r/seduction04/10/25 04:57 PM
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Women have beautiful eyes and even more beautiful smile.
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:46 AM
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I guess she thought that you are some kind of a playboy that does such things like with her all the time, so much that he doesn't even care about the girl's name. Or simply her emotional high just dropped down and she regretted her decision to hook up instantly with a carefree stranger. Either way, she will recover, you look like kind of a guy that doesn't care and play, but it seems this girl managed to hit you in the weak spot.
/r/seduction25/09/25 10:44 AM
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Why don't you paste an example of your conversation here for everyone to have a look. Generally, you need to realise that through text you can't really have influence on a girl that much on biological level, and she doesn't really commit too much to you by just exchanging some texts. Therefore, you may put some effort and time to trigger proper emotions and sexual tension between you through texting, but keep in mind that if she eventually doesn't wanna meet with you but just enjoys flirting ban…
/r/seduction25/09/25 10:32 AM
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The meaning is that you are getting too excited just about playful game of words. Keep it cool and escalate gradually, adjusting to girl's actual actions and decisions. She can say whatever she wants, for women it's more of a social code than their actual feelings.
/r/seduction25/09/25 10:18 AM
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If you think that life will keep windows of opportunity opened for you forever then one day you will start begging for them to open.
/r/seduction25/09/25 06:02 AM
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Because you were promised a fairy tale where you find a love of your life and live happily ever after. This is not a reality. Different people have different preferences and life circumstances can be really comprehensive. Lesson 1: don’t put too much significance on your emotions and expectations but on real actions and decisions. And keep improving your sexually attractive traits, so the attractive girl you like can actually like you back without the help of magic phrases.
/r/seduction25/09/25 05:46 AM
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I guess nothing more is really happening in your relationship. She spotted a better option or can’t see you as a good long term partner or husband. Sometimes it may be just her issue with commitment. But from your side, you need to provide those necessary emotions and sexual abundance. If you are constantly doing the same activities, having the same conversations, meeting the same people, visiting the same places, having sex the same way, going through the same emotions and feelings, your relati…
/r/seduction25/09/25 05:38 AM
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Too long to read. Just don’t get offended so easily like a little bitch. Adjust accordingly to your self respect, but give some credit to others too. We are all imperfect.
/r/seduction25/09/25 05:31 AM
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Learning new seduction methods and mindsets and testing it out in real life circumstances. Improving your sexually attractive traits as a natural long term way of living life. It's as simple as that, guys are just focusing on excuses, they are impatient, and like to complain because they were promised a different kind of life.
/r/seduction23/09/25 12:49 PM
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Maybe it would be better to exclude some extreme sides from both of these attitudes. Girl that can't give some effort or give her fair share in a conversation or take some challenges/risks in life doesn't really feel like a good life or sexual partner. On the other hand, being overly sexually proactive, getting to the point while missing the thrill of the journey can come out as too overwhelming and poor balance for man's masculine factor in gender dynamics. It's life, try to find your own way, …
/r/seduction22/09/25 08:45 AM
1

Playing seduction game only to get with the best genes or obtain the best benefits is very shallow and lowkey disgusting.
/r/seduction22/09/25 08:35 AM
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Consider changing your mindset for finding sexually attractive girl for you and escalating physical and mental intimacy with her. If you are compatible, she should briefly adapt to your perspective and lifestyle, don't make it other way around.
/r/seduction21/09/25 08:03 AM
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Looks similar to putting women on a pedestal. You are getting charmed by their feminine characteristics, but would you look the same at them right after pumping out your sexual excitement? Probably not. Keep in mind to keep it real above your emotions and urges for your own good. Playing a gender game can be fun, but if woman is clearly not playing the game in your favor, then the proper move would be to rather change the co-player than proving her point by continuing to play on a lost bet, righ…
/r/seduction20/09/25 10:03 AM
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It's not the universal compliment for sure, some women even assume that man using that word is perceived as a bit immasculine. Can you say the same with different words? Or just begin an interaction for whatever reason and escalate from that?
/r/seduction20/09/25 09:51 AM
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Yeah, something like looking scary. But for a man it's rather an advantage in the eyes of a woman, as long as you can also play soft with beings like women or children or in standard social situations. Don't worry about being unapproachable too much, women hardly ever do that anyways.
/r/seduction20/09/25 09:23 AM
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Have you read any of the similar questions or theory of that? Guess not and there are tons of materials of it. Do your homework. You are gonna make lots of mistakes on first tries because your body and mind is not ready to embrace all these new thoughts, emotions, subtleties and unpredictable turns of events. Quick summary for a total beginner, relax your body, take a shower, wear good clothes, smell well, stay close to her, look her in the eyes, break touch barrier casually and naturally, gradu…
/r/seduction19/09/25 07:15 PM
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Just stare a bit longer, maybe around two-three seconds, like you would have spotted something interesting.
/r/seduction19/09/25 07:06 PM
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Looks like she is not ready to take a next relationship step with you. In most similar cases that I know, it got stuck and broke down at this point. Your dynamics are just very poor at this point, nothing is happening (in terms of developing a relationship), she denied you twice, you behave like nothing happened while something really important happened twice already. Knowing what I know, I would cancel it myself this time, but you probably can't do that, so you will go and get disappointed agai…
/r/seduction19/09/25 06:56 PM
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I think you just didn't prepare proper response to such situation. Also, if you want to get with more attractive women, get more attractive yourself.
/r/seduction19/09/25 11:31 AM
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As simple as living out life, you accept every opportunity to interact with beautiful women. With girls with better connection and dynamics you will naturally match schedule, involvement, vibe, emotions etc. But you need to help your luck as much as possible and get that abundance of choices, don't stop and get attached to the very first sign of interest, women approach dating and seduction much more differently than men, their opportunities usually arise on their own, they don't need to care an…
/r/seduction17/09/25 02:03 PM
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Just always keep in mind that she doesn't want you to treat her differently just because she is pretty. Keep your dynamics balanced, you may feel euphoric about the potential, but always pay attention to real actions and real decisions. Also, if you would have abundance of different options to get a girl, you would not really care too much about this "pretty women stupidity" state.
/r/seduction16/09/25 03:58 PM
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In this case you locate your engagement and energy in more promising targets. If the girl can make a radio silence with you for a couple of weeks just on her whim, there is little reason to invest yourself more than a casual hookup. You can keep things opened and match her involvement, but it would be better to find girls who you have better dynamics with.
/r/seduction16/09/25 03:52 PM
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Just don't look desperate, naturally and casually asking someone to do some activities together should not really be a big thing. And that will be a huge plus for confidence for going for what you want, girls like it. Figure out if you have anything in common or just find out some first good reason to meet together like a drinking party.
/r/seduction15/09/25 08:49 PM
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Until the girl actually meets with you. rest is just messing around. She could have whatever reason, the thing is if she does not want to follow in your direction, you are wasting not only time but your emotional engagement, which men have often a bit of a trouble to get over with. My perspective would be to feel her out much earlier instead of writing endless texts that may turn out to result in just false hope and hollow effort. Either way, the reality of dating is bitter, usually you need to …
/r/seduction15/09/25 08:41 PM
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It's the thing of small steps and using every opportunity to naturally and casually get closer with each other. You can always move yourself a bit closer, look her in the eyes, smile, get that casual or "accidental" touch. And when you are having a really good time, staying very close to each other and looking each other in the eyes, kiss is just one step away. Have some thought about it, what would be your natural excuse to get a bit physical with a girl in any situation?
/r/seduction15/09/25 05:00 PM
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You have been stuck on a texting level for too long. This is very low involvement form of interaction, doesn't create that much emotional and sexual connection. And if you can't lead from there to reach for your goal as a man, she may assume you don't have proper social skills or confidence to do so, which is a very asexual trait. Gradual escalation, this is a very core of seduction strategy for most cases. The point is to have sex, you can't do that with just texting.
/r/seduction15/09/25 03:33 PM
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Remember that you can always start with a small step, just come closer, just get eye contact, just smile. There is very little chance that something amazing will happen to you accidentally, you need to help your luck, or even better just go straight for your goal, even if it may take some time and effort to obtain.
/r/seduction15/09/25 03:13 PM
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Just a bit. But if you want to seduce your friend, you need to do much more than that. Show your sexually attractive traits, go through unique situations together, trigger variety of emotions, instead of being too kind and friendly, be more teasing, challenging, cocky. You need to gradually move the context, don't be too forceful, make small steps and adjust to her reactions.
/r/seduction15/09/25 07:39 AM
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Prepare yourself, take a shower, wear your favorite clothes, take deep breaths, take proper posture, use cologne, make your hair, smile and for the most PREPARE A GOOD CONVERSATION PLAN. You can't be surprised that you freeze if you have no idea what to do. Also, sometimes there is just improper mood or circumstances, you can always choose a different target.
/r/seduction14/09/25 03:35 PM
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It's a natural part of dating market. You can always be rejected for whatever reason. In your control is improving your sexually attractive traits, seduction game strategy and recognizing potential indicators of interest. At some point you will start naturally gravitating towards success targets.
/r/seduction14/09/25 03:28 PM
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You let the emotions and sexual tension drop to the point of indifference. If you want to take your approach in parts, you need to left significant impression to last to the next encounter and make the girl interested in pursuing something unique comparing to her standard lifestyle. Modern dating for decently attractive women is like a forest full of fruit, you need to be the one shining and interesting.
/r/seduction14/09/25 03:24 PM
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Unique and unexpected.
/r/seduction14/09/25 10:15 AM
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Speed up the process. And ignore them.
/r/seduction14/09/25 10:12 AM
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Be kind, stay cheerful, do your hair, wear good clothes, smell good, stay fit, make eye contact, talk to us, don't play unavailable.
/r/seduction14/09/25 10:00 AM
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You snooze, you lose. Don't expect things to happen the right way if they start to falling apart, Talking is just a friendly/stranger context, if you want something romantic you need to present yourself as sexually attractive male and find out opportunities where you can spend time and get closer personally, apart from being in the same class.
/r/seduction13/09/25 11:44 AM
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Only thing left is about introducing sexual context little by little. Come closer, look in her eyes longer, smile, present your attractive masculine traits, implement some casual or "accidental" touch, smell good, wear good clothes. Take her somewhere where your can experience lots of emotions or unique situations. Find some a bit more private space for two of you. Find opportunities for that physical intimacy and kiss will happen naturally. Escalate, gradually and adjust to her reactions, if sh…
/r/seduction13/09/25 11:31 AM
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Have you tried it even once champ? It’s for the flaking girl, not for the first ask out.
/r/seduction13/09/25 09:22 AM
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"If you don't want to meet, just say it honestly, it's totally fine, we'll save time".
/r/seduction12/09/25 05:55 PM
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Remember about the basics of genetical conditioning. Women are looking for extraordinary genes to pass for next generations. If you have no outstanding trait, there is no point in getting with you.
/r/seduction09/09/25 02:41 PM
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I don't know why people deny your story, your seduction strategy seems really good, and if you are handsome enough, you can get lucky pretty often.
/r/seduction08/09/25 10:18 AM
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If you feel you are already connected and tension between you is clear than everything is good. If you just start, choose a place where you can provide the girl with lots of different emotions or potentially unique experiences, Stay creative but matcg your effort with her involvement. If you can, visit multiple places, something to eat, somewhere to walk and view, some private place for private conversation, Still, these are just a background, you should pay attention to your conversation and in…
/r/seduction06/09/25 04:41 PM
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That's the exact strategy for a place where it's loud, people are intoxicated and looking for intense experiences and interesting attractive people.
/r/seduction06/09/25 01:59 PM
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It seems to be a part of sexual game. Women usually need mental stimulation to get horny. In this case, despite having some proper and reasonable expectations, she gots carried away by her primal instincts, which is a big sexual turn on
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:21 PM
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I think it's better to find your own unique way that would feel the best for you and your environment. We need to embrace and create the future, not copy the past templates.
/r/seduction04/09/25 04:20 PM
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Don't be this formal, talk to the girl like you would be good friends already. Something casual, witty, interesting, pleasurable, a bit off-scheme. Remember about proper body language and voicetone, talk slower and deeper, look her in the eyes, smile, stay a bit closer than usual, take proper posture. Specific subject of your conversation is really not that important, point is to introduce a comfortable and potent vibe and escalate gradually towards something more personal, direct, intimate. Don…
/r/seduction04/09/25 03:41 PM
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You don't need to crack to code of female's mind, instead just try to escalate developing your relation and intimacy naturally and gradually. If she sabotages your efforts or keeps making excuses, it's a NO.
/r/seduction04/09/25 06:39 AM
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Still, there is something as being incompatible. If she has good genetics, takes care of her appearance and fitness, surrounds herself with plenty of people including so called high value men and has well developed character and lifestyle, when you are struggling within your own hermetic chamber, not caring or not willing to do anything, there is very little chance your relation will naturally persist and develop in the direction you want. We are beautifully different from each another and we so…
/r/seduction03/09/25 04:12 PM
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It's up to you to responed to your emotions and thoughts however you want. As our modern civilisation differs drastically from our animalistic heritage, you need to consciously reconfigure yourself to meet old needs with new ways of living and interacting. With evolution compass you would like to jump on this attractive female and procreate, but your subconscious is also aware of the social order consequences of such a deed. That's where comes freeze, shaking, doubt, fear, anxiety. But you can f…
/r/seduction03/09/25 09:51 AM
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Confidence naturally connects with many different attractive masculine traits. However, what's the point of graduating these qualities, you should pay attention to and improve at everything. Do you want the best girl or at least girl that tries to be better and better for you? Why do you not want to become the best guy?
/r/seduction03/09/25 09:40 AM
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Apart from that, I would advice to simply approach women for some casual social interaction, like asking what's the time, for directions, giving out a compliment. In the meantime, you will grind maintaining proper body language, voicetone, eye contact, handling your breath, thoughts, and emotions. If you even seem to struggle with that, how can you not be anxious and doubtful about cold approaching with sexual intent.
/r/seduction03/09/25 08:13 AM
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It's very similar to getting off drug abuse, but in your case intake was endogenic. Figure out some substitutional therapy plan. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits, work out, buy nice clothes, use good cologne, wear some new clothing accessories. Shower daily, eat healthy and tasty food. And surround yourself with people. Generally, you need to replenish your chemical factory.
/r/seduction03/09/25 08:04 AM
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Pretty nice, no excuses, plenty of emotions delivered, no unnecessary bullshit, but mainly being "so fit".
/r/seduction02/09/25 08:14 AM
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First, focus on improving socializing and masculine attractive traits, like good physique, clothes, voice tone. Then, when you start feeling better about yourself and your chances, strike up some casual interaction with her to test the waters and create a bit of connection. Jumping on a deep water, being full of doubt and anxiety (almost) never works.
/r/seduction01/09/25 12:39 PM
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Who knows. I would just keep an attitude of not really expecting anything, but involve yourself in casual interactions with her for fun. Maybe something will spontaneously escalate naturally in this atmosphere of no pressure. If not, you will just spend some time with beautiful woman, while still being open to other opportunities.
/r/seduction01/09/25 04:51 AM
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Sometimes girl is just up for sexy chat for fun. If you feel there is something more than that, casually and naturally suggest some activity in real life circumstances "Hey, it's so good texting with you, do you wanna chat in real life?"
/r/seduction30/08/25 01:57 PM
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Well, don't forget to be sexually attractive :)
/r/seduction30/08/25 12:25 PM
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It depends on the context. If you are in a situation where you will be together for longer time, you can start your play slower, getting some eye contacts and smile for a start. About missing the shot, sometimes proper circumstances or mood is just not there, but it's also very common that your play plan is incongruent with the context and you freeze because you are not prepared. I would advice to start from scratch. Think of casual interaction with a stranger girl. Talk about some pleasant and …
/r/seduction30/08/25 12:18 PM
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It's a sexual play. She wants you to play along and escalate. Please don't treat these flirting games seriously. Adjust to her vibe and reactions. She can think and say whatever she wants, as long as you will go in a direction that you want.
/r/seduction30/08/25 11:10 AM
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In current dating market women seem to pick guys like in a candy store, the best of the best, and next candy store is just nearby if they don't feel like choosing in the moment. However, I believe their biological mechanisms of attraction are still there, if you can provide proper emotions and trigger proper sexual switches in her, she will stop caring about mental logic and let her instincts take over.
/r/seduction30/08/25 11:06 AM
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It depends how you keep your own value with it. Woman may feel more comfortable with you if you show respect to others, but if you will overdo it and place more worth and effort than necessary, she will subconsciously feel that you are not valuing your own time and resources too much, meaning you are not really aspiring for some high value male figure, which is rather a sexual turnoff.
/r/seduction30/08/25 10:55 AM
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If you want to keep a frame of escalating some sexual context with her, you would rather not be her emotional towel. It's not nececssarily a sign of disinterest, more like some kind of a shit test? If you politely let her dump her shit on you, you will rather not get classified as attractive masculine male. Because such type would either convert her current emotional state to his bidding and escalate or quickly drop the route of analysing her negative side and expecting some reward for it.
/r/seduction30/08/25 10:44 AM
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Because they can still enjoy slightly flirtatious interactions with other men. Or maybe they are one leg out from their current relation? You can always approach and simply enjoy casual interaction with a girl, either she will stop your advances if your cross the intimacy line or she will let you take her on an adventure. Just don't be too forceful, pay attention to her reactions and if she takes any initiative to escalate.
/r/seduction30/08/25 10:33 AM
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Generally she should be pretty horny already, if you made no steps to escalate sexual tension before, she is very likely to resist getting comfortable and sexually open. About the art of getting the girl horny, I would say it's mainly about working with the imagination and teasing, to turn on proper biological switches and build up the sexual energy. You can do this for example by getting closer to her, looking her in the eyes, using deep voicetone, touching, talking about pleasurable or straigh…
/r/seduction28/08/25 08:49 AM
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Women often get to love things they just discovered. Provide emotions which she has never felt before. And it feels like it's you who is getting obsessed, for yours and her good keep your relation dynamics real, base on actual actions and decisions, not words.
/r/seduction28/08/25 08:14 AM
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Logistics. Find some nice, a bit private place where you can have a good view, stay close to each other and have a pleasant and intimate conversation. Look her in the eyes, smuggle some touch, use deep voice. When you are in such circumstances, kiss is just like making a next step. "Going for a kiss" sounds like you want to make too big of a leap in context which surely may feel confusing, awkward, out of place.
/r/seduction27/08/25 04:55 PM
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Smile, open and straight body posture, relaxed muscles, high and calm voice tone, don’t look down. You can strike up some random pleasant brief interaction so people around can recognize you are nice and cheerful. But generally, these are rather little things, if you want to help your luck significantly, you need to put yourself out there and raise your sexually attractive features.
/r/seduction27/08/25 06:43 AM
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Think of a better, usually less direct script of interaction. Relax your muscles, take a deep breath. Take proper posture, smile and look girl directly in the eyes. And remember that it's completely fine to pass on some opportunities, our subconscious can detect plenty of signs of disapproval that you can't consciously realize, and forcing yourself and getting too nervous hardly ever results in desired outcome. Also, another big secret, if you improve your sexually attractive traits and communic…
/r/seduction26/08/25 05:36 PM
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And maybe your intuition indeed doesn’t deceive you. If you don’t feel you bring any attractive value to the table, why would the girl try to convince you otherwise. There are multitude of qualities that you can improve on and feeling good in you own skin is often a big first step to get others interest. For example, wear good, distinctive clothes and accessories, fancy hairstyle, work out, smell good, meet new people and new places so you can share things with others.
/r/seduction24/08/25 03:25 PM
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I've met a lot of girls by asking new people that I got got a good vibe with, if they organize or go to some parties or hanging out in a group. You don't need any formal introductions, just spend some casual, fun time together and check if there is some sexual chemistry and connection with the girl, then you can introduce more direct, one on one context.
/r/seduction23/08/25 04:56 PM
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Don't get into generic stuff, especially in the beginning. Use less words, but with more meaning and context. You can literally talk about anything, what matters are the emotions and connection that you trigger with it. You don't need to really know any personal information about her, just her responsiveness and matching the vibe to your mutual interaction. You can choose some very uncommon, but also interesting and pleasurable topic, with that you will also stand out from most of the guys that …
/r/seduction23/08/25 04:50 PM
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Oh man, it's too broad of a question, and was asked probably like hundreds of time on this sub already. Generally, treat your interaction more like fun and feeling each other's vibe instead of exchanging information and fulfilling protocol. Learn proper body language and voicetone, take a shower, wear clothes that look good on you, smell well. In terms of escalation, it's all about making it gradual and adjusting to girl's reactions. Two step forward, one step back. If you want to kiss the girl,…
/r/seduction23/08/25 04:44 PM
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I guess it may be more about the girl being too shallow or dull to get into any more constructive conversation or adventure. In my experience, if I got with the girl she very quickly caught up on my viewpoints, hobbys and knowledge. If you love each other, everything is easy.
/r/seduction23/08/25 04:34 PM
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Only in relaxed and positive state you can be at your best at reading the room, controlling your body as you please, come up with good ideas effortlessly. If you feel some reciprocation from her side, or at least some signs of interest, you can try redirect it towards more personal or romantic context. If it doesn't come out as planned, don't worry, there are quite a lot of other women in the whole world, and many of them would be much better much for you.
/r/seduction22/08/25 04:54 PM
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General strategy stays the same, you wanna casually and naturally create situations where you can have some fun time together, get closer with each other, form some connection and go through unique situations together. Take the case in your own hands. Whichever outcome may surface from this, it can become a memorable and instructive experience and an opportunity to grind your seduction skills. And if she hardly rejects you, you can sooner start focusing on the next, more promising target.
/r/seduction22/08/25 04:29 PM
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Don't mention them until they surface naturally. Firstly girl should focus on your advantages and create some bonding with you. Point is not to focus too much on your disabilities and don't elaborate for no reason, everyone has some issues and there is no problem having those in dating, but they should not interfere with your seduction process, especially in the beginning. When you start getting vulnerable, little by little you can reveal your weaknesses and problems. It's not the matter of bein…
/r/seduction21/08/25 10:33 PM
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I usually didn't really push for anything at that point as to me mood was already too flat to resuscitate, but just politely reminding her that it is no problem that she doesn't feel like developing something more with me. If you can make some change about it in her, you can save struggle for many guys that would try to get with her.
/r/seduction21/08/25 09:35 PM
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I think it's the rather a pride deal with returning the favor, you rejected her, now she create circumstances where she can potentially reject you more. She is checking how could you deny getting all the way with her, is she not sexy enough or something else? Either way, question is what you want to do about it. You can obviously keep ignoring her and turn your sexual desire somewhere else, but I think she still feels some attraction for you, but she does not want to go the slow date way that on…
/r/seduction21/08/25 09:24 PM
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I guess most standard thing is about using word plays to redirect your conversation towards some pleasurable or personal topics. It's also not that difficult to crack a joke or tease by playing with loose meaning of words and whole context of your conversation. But I guess if you are not using these in your standard conversations anyway, then you need to learn it from scratch and watch others how they do it properly. The key is to change your attitude towards maximizing fun instead of precise ex…
/r/seduction21/08/25 09:41 AM
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Do you know what word play is? Some words sound or feel good for our brain or associate with some specific context. For example, if you type a thing like “that’s a bread and butter for me”, you will also induce the taste of these and introduce subject of food in general to the other person.
/r/seduction21/08/25 04:08 AM
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There is no different way there, just adjusting to this limited channel of communication. You can still trigger girl’s imagination and spectrum of emotions, play with words and interval between responses, stay playful and laidback but also within your desired context of escalating connection and intimacy. It’s similar to standard conversation, but with texting you can manage your time more freely, on the other hand you can only use letters and emojis to introduce proper atmosphere and emotions. …
/r/seduction21/08/25 03:41 AM
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Generally it’s about emotions and connection that she can feel nowhere else. You can improve your game repertoire and try to take her with you on this crazy and fulfilling adventure, but in the end it’s about mutual compatibility. Both of you should naturally surface your best qualities and attract synergised life circumstances.
/r/seduction21/08/25 03:24 AM
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Maybe you can become a better version of yourself that naturally understands seduction principles and real gender dynamics, but without identifying too much with it. It's really just a play, treat it less serious, you wanna have some fun with opposite gender, you don't need to immerse your core soul in it, these are very primal instincts, we have been just brainwashed that there needs to be some ultimate connection. It feels like you wanna learn it by heart, but it should be rather more like exp…
/r/seduction20/08/25 10:13 AM
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You don't push to convince anyone of your worth. It's more like carefree game when you show some of your masculine factors for fun.
/r/seduction19/08/25 07:17 AM
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Get sticked out for good from such groups. Women are not attracted to NPCs.
/r/seduction18/08/25 04:48 AM
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For some women, this is their way to maximize pleasure from potential sexual release. Also, they often dwell in this state of emotional "not caring", because they get plenty of attention from men anyways, despite their attitude. Either way, it's up to your to respond however you want. If you think she wants to be put in her place, do it but not the way she wants, instead of banter just get to the thing quickly. Or, if you don't want to put up with such games, just drop the ball unexpectedly, eit…
/r/seduction17/08/25 06:49 AM
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I guess the main point is about realising the core of this behaviour. Throughout your whole life, your mom, your female teachers, women in public media were imputing into you to be polite, polite, polite. And you did that, because in your logic masculine mind this is the proper way to respond to the world. But you couldn't realise that women are different, because you are not a woman. So now, as you are hopefully full-fledged independent male, you should revise all of this programming and confro…
/r/seduction17/08/25 06:36 AM
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Next time you can sincerely and politely ask what is the matter, try to loose up the atmosphere, give her the space to talk, give her a compliment. You went instantly from playing the game to aborting the mission, I believe there is quite a big middle ground in between. Try to approach such situations more like human to human rather than dating game player to dating game player. Giving it a chance or two would not hurt, obviously if you are not enjoying yourself and putting too much effort to no…
/r/seduction16/08/25 08:18 AM
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Why so many of you guys wouldn't just try something out, even for fun or out of curiosity? You want 100% answers to life before you even make the first step, current education system is destroying our natural masculine attitude to embrace and manage risk and exploring. As it comes to Californication and the character of Hank Moody, there are plenty of traits and seduction motives that are 100% legit within real life circumstances, but obviously not everything will fit into anyone's natural style…
/r/seduction16/08/25 07:49 AM
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Many guys will tell you that rejection can't hurt you at all, like you would be some kind of a robot that can turn off your emotional response at will. Cold approaching is obviously a numbers game, but it would be pretty dull not to raise your chances if you can. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits, try out different type of attitudes and conversation topics, master proper body language, learn to spot indicators of interest. And if you feel like not doing an approach this particular t…
/r/seduction15/08/25 10:07 AM
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Initiating conversation usually depends strongly on the context you are meeting within. Generally you can make up some clever comment about a situation, make use of so called "Shock Opener" to say something unexpected or funny to throw the girl lilttle off balance, crack a joke, make a non-cheesy sincere compliment, Remember about proper body language, stay close to her and look her in the eyes. Also, even before you decide to approach, make sure that if you catch eye contact to smile gently, it…
/r/seduction14/08/25 12:21 PM
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Restraining from watching pornography and masturbation will do wonders for your energy level, confidence and signficantly change your attitude with women. Try at least for two weeks if you can, don't expose yourself to any sexual triggers, especially on the internet. In terms of general improvement, you just need to keep going. Women are biologically looking for etlie males, so learn and use different seduction methods, keep working out, throw yourself into different social situations with diffe…
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:38 AM
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You should stay relaxed, pay attenton to the mood and emotions, don't brute force your agenda, prioritize quality over quanitity, loose your muscles, talk slower, keep proper posture, take deeper breathes, look in the eyes, smile. Even if your mind keeps the proper concept, body still contains plenty iof subsconscious habits that will sabotage you. Take is step by step, seduction improvement is definitely not a marathon. Don't try to make a big leap when you can see things you do barely works. A…
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:32 AM
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You just try these different attitudes and then analyse the feedback what could have failed, what can be improved. Confidence is about throwing yourself into unknown situation, because you believe in your skills and value. I believe the main problem with guys is that they have no clue what moves use to escalate. Most are like dancing, kissing and the rest. But between that may be strong eye contact, whispering in her ear, "accidental touch". Do your homework before and don't forget that you are …
/r/seduction12/08/25 02:22 PM
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After such short period of time and fixed environment and circumstances, you are not really engaging with a real person but their social mask in major way.
/r/seduction11/08/25 01:19 PM
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Realize that you will not keep your partner by doing that. It’s more about natural compatibility and mutual unique strong experiences. If you go through some special situations together, if you have amazing sex, if you find your dreamed traits in the other person, you will naturally start caring more. If you start engaging for no reason, it feels odd and needy and women are not attracted to such men.
/r/seduction11/08/25 05:18 AM
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Just realize that no one really wants you to be like that, many people recite these standard social formulas without giving them even a bit of a deeper thought.
/r/seduction11/08/25 04:58 AM
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First of all, do you know different kinds of emotions? Like happy, amused, surprised, relaxed, curious, uncertain, relieved, hyped, confused, etc. etc. Then, think of situations and conversations that should induce these emotional states in a girl. If you still have no clue how, then I would suggest to stop sleeping on living life, throw yourself out there, experience all these emotions naturally and share them with others.
/r/seduction08/08/25 01:57 PM
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Yes, you don't need to come up with your feelings or any word tricks, just suggest casual opportunity to meet again.
/r/seduction07/08/25 09:03 AM
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Yes, it's very standard part of non-verbal communication, which is in my opinion even more important than meaning of the words you use. And yes, it's surely rooted in history of our social and gender dynamics. And I want to say that you are already a lot further than many guys in grasping seduction because you seem to get creative and test different things out instead of pushing excuses or endless and pointless discussions.
/r/seduction06/08/25 04:24 PM
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Apart from sparking emotions with teasing, negging also plays an important role of dragging women out of their delusional viewpoints. It’s like communicating “Hey, you also have downsides and it’s perfectly fine. Life is not what you think it is, but we can figure it out”.
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:20 AM
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It's pretty standard situation with women of all kind, if you can't spark proper emotions on a first date, second date would be just the same dull standard experience, so women subtly back out by lessening effort. As I am Polish myself, if there could be something typical for our international dating problems, learning English in our public educational system don't make you communicative at all. Therefore, if the girl couldn't get the proper private course, she will most likely not be able to co…
/r/seduction04/08/25 02:41 PM
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These are withdrawal symptoms of your hormonal high, pretty much the same like you would get of a substance addiction. It will pass with time, eat well, sleep well, work out to speed up the process. Woman can always leave you for whatever reason, you need to rely on your attractiveness value, not other person's mood or changing preferences.
/r/seduction03/08/25 02:25 PM
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Well, there may be few cases her to consider. Firstly, she declined your invitation to come over, which surely indicates getting sexual, so the vibe in that dimension declined significantly. Also, at some point there was really no progress with your relation. Just kissing, no more unique or intimate moments, pretty common problem for most guys these times. It may be also an issue on her side, she is somewhat prude or not feel attracted to you enough, or there is some other more promising potenti…
/r/seduction03/08/25 10:01 AM
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In clubs you generally need to gradually get closer and closer, have a brief conversation by speaking right in the ear, maintain strong eye contact and just go for escalating the touch and a kiss. It's more about your hard sexual attractiveness and body language, there is really no philosophy there. About bars, I suggest to start interacting with different people as a warmup, then it wouldn't feel so hard to approach a beautiful woman for a conversation.
/r/seduction03/08/25 09:19 AM
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I believe that women treat relationships in whole spectrum, not classifying them that seriously like masculine logical mind. Why wouldn't you make a new friend? Just don't expect anything.
/r/seduction03/08/25 09:12 AM
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It will obviously require from you decent intelligence and dedication to put significant effort in your holistic improvement. But in my experience the main obstacle for many guys is their own ego - they can't drop their nonsensical viewpoints even just to test out something else. Don't be like them.
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:56 PM
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This is what I call "getting an approval from life". Obviously smart men would plan to help the luck as much as possible :)
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:33 PM
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You think too much about details. With life, things hardly go according to the plan. In a club you don't really create a complex interaction, but face direct sexual context. The thing is you should just get that proper mindset and learn from experience. You need to warmup a girl with a brief interaction. Show off your attractive masculine traits and make the intent clear with your body language. Then comes escalation. start with most brief, casual touch and work your way up from there to get mor…
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:54 PM
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One time I heard a statement that women need men for mental stimulation. And it stayed with me to this day. Apart from that, it's obviously good old straightforward biological programming, extraordinary genes, providing new peaks of pleasure, possibilities and what is VERY VERY VERY important but we seem to miss it. Woman seek a man that will naturally surface peak of her feminity.
/r/seduction01/08/25 04:50 PM
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Don't get overly excited over the text. Keep the fire ignited, but leave the best for the main event in real life circumstances. If you get expectations too, far reality may not be able to keep-up. During such a long break at the beginning of developing your relation many things can happen, including those she won't tell you about. Keep it real man, you need to reach real milestones at actual dates, rolling words will always eventually get dull.
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:13 PM
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Sometimes "failure" is a good thing, you want to struggle with someone that you are completely not compatible with? In terms of most effective techniques, you should learn about push-pull method, gradually getting more direct, more personal, more indecent, implementing relationships/sexual sphere in your conversations, getting eye contact,maintain close proximity, escalating touch, keeping the interaction playful and non-serious especially with usage of your words, keeping the context vague, tri…
/r/seduction31/07/25 05:16 AM
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Generally treat it just like a warmup, to show your communication skills and spark some connection and emotions, if you spend too much on a conversation that engage minimal amount of senses and commitment, your relation will be established more like distant friends. About grinding your technique, I believe it's better to learn from your experience, analyse the feedback and test out different mindsets, attitudes, methods, it's not a school where you learn a template by heart and always pass, you …
/r/seduction31/07/25 05:00 AM
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Guys, please give out more details. Just maintaining a vaguely proper mindset doesn't mean you are not tripping over your poor technique or some subtleties.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:30 AM
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Instead of fighting with your inner dimension activity, you should rather cooperate and adjust, find the sweet spot, the middle way. And loose your muscles and breathe. You don't have to do anything if you don't want to. Small steps, no brute force.
/r/seduction30/07/25 05:54 AM
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Why “no rush for sex”? It’s fine to develop a relation gradually, but if you are running through all the bases rapidly and smoothly and then suddenly cutting the pace, it may feel very much confusing and disappointing. Even if you want some deeper connection with this woman, you can still start your sexual intimacy early. Keep it straight what you want. Just keep playing the game like always, but remember that you need to escalate.
/r/seduction30/07/25 04:26 AM
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Yeah, it feels like some chemistry is in the air, but it is not really clear what is going on and how to progress with it. In similar situations I usually let it flourish naturally, without expecting or committing to anything in particular.
/r/seduction30/07/25 04:06 AM
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Yet another schooling system that is ruining people's lives. A is completely true, B is completely false, period. That hardly ever happens in nature. You need to understand the whole concept, grasp the spectrum of circumstances with your mindset. Obviously you want the girl to involve herself too and get naturally attracted to your masculine traits. At the same time, how can she do that if you are unavailable all the way. How can she realize you have great communication skills and provide suffic…
/r/seduction26/07/25 09:34 AM
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I think this whole issue is the result of upbringing mainly by our mothers, female teachers and feminised social system. Men should not care that much what others think or do. We should be leaders, pioneers, going against the strong current to prove our values and convictions. Every major progress stemmed from individuals breaking out from majority's tyranny.
/r/seduction26/07/25 09:12 AM
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Well, you can always watch some guides or ask her how she likes it. Generally, there are some solid concepts that are valid for many human interactions in terms of maximizing pleasure: mix up your technique, change tempo, push-pull method, break the pattern, change intensity, tease her with delaying the pleasure, introduce element of surprise, change circumstances, adjust to reactions.
/r/seduction22/07/25 12:46 PM
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I would suggest not to be so pushy to make the girl reveal her feelings or commit to you. It feels needy and a bit cheesy too. You can keep the mystery in the air, and instead just conduct playful interactions, trigger emotions and create opportunities where you can get more personal and direct, outside of work atmosphere. Next time if you feel girl may like you and you vibe with each other very well, ask her casually and naturally to spend some time together on some pleasurable and interesting …
/r/seduction22/07/25 12:39 PM
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If you seem to not make any progress for some time, girl may assume that you are incompetent with sexual relations, leading or simply not really interested in getting things going beyond banter because maybe you are not that attracted to her. Once such possibility seems probable enough, mood is shattered.
/r/seduction21/07/25 07:04 AM
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Apart from specific topics, proper body language is also a crucial factor. Take proper posture, accenting your muscles and your height, keep close to her for her to smell your scent and take a good look at you, use deep voice and talk a bit slower, look her in the eyes a bit longer, use a delicate, flirtatious smile, keep in mind that you are potentially gonna have sex later so you can subconsciously act accordingly already. In terms of a conversation, you can take your time with spicying up thi…
/r/seduction21/07/25 06:45 AM
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Well, I think that if you don't share some significant experiences together or important common goals, people are rather not eager to keep in touch with pretty much strangers. In terms of how people treat you, I would recommend to take it as a lead, you are probably not compatible with each other and you should not try to go against the current, but seek for natural connection. If you want a valuable partner with who you can form strong bond, you should seek in places where you are at your best,…
/r/seduction18/07/25 11:05 PM
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Sex is obviously fun, I meant that girls won't drop their pants in front of anyone just because sex provides pleasure. They seem to seek something extraordinary, something worthy of risk, getting carried away. My mindset template is obviously simplified and extrapolated significantly, just for you to grasp clear perspective. It's up to you to just keep that in mind and check out for yourself, whether their actions and decisions are congruent with this atavistic programm.
/r/seduction18/07/25 10:09 PM
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Would it be really that hard to find another Tinder date with better looking odds than this? You may think from your masculine perspective that it would be too blunt or cheeky to play with someone's feelings like that, but women usually have no problems with justifying their craziest actions and emotions and they seem to not really consider the perspective of people they don't resonate with. From my experience, and experience of lots of other guys, if there is something fishy about your relation…
/r/seduction18/07/25 05:12 PM
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Well, if you want to look at it from the bright side, there is a possibility that he was just not considering a romantical relation with you right off the bat and proper male sexual mechanisms were not triggered to act in that direction. This happened to me quite a bunch of times. Especially when you are behaving pretty much just like friends, and your "moves" are generally too subtle for the logical masculine mind to register as something that definitely changes the context. Texting is very low…
/r/seduction18/07/25 07:51 AM
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You can think of it in this way. Women are genetically programmed to seek for extraordinary genes to pass for future generations in the act of getting sexual. From the outside, like your appearance, voicetone, lifestyle, they could perceive you as a high-value male, individualistic, confident. However, when they interacted directly with you, your overused friendliness and respectfulness could be very much perceived as a sign of insecurity, projecting too much value on others for no reason also i…
/r/seduction18/07/25 07:36 AM
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Your anxiety stems mainly from lack of experience and trying to jump on a deep water when you can barely float. Start from scratch, stay little closer to women, get eye contact, smile, ask some casual questions or give a compliment without forcing any followup. Dress well, keep proper posture, smell well. If you get yourself into this social, happy and abundant vibe, I can almost guarantee that you will receive some feedback and initative from the other side sooner than later. Obviously you shou…
/r/seduction17/07/25 11:54 AM
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I would guess she had much better sexual experiences during your relationship break. Obviously many guys can provide her with features that you cannot, but you can do a lot just by putting some mind and effort into it. You absolutely need to grind your sexual technique, get to know female's biology and push beyond peaks of pleasure. Along with that, remember that girl's appetite for getting physical begins long before you drop clothes, keep your image of a high-value masculine guy, don't get sof…
/r/seduction17/07/25 11:32 AM
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It’s a rather natural behavior for women. They don’t want to get caught staring, also they may feel quite anxious in confrontation with a man, especially a handsome man. Realizing this, you should provide more comfort and take it easy. Just stay closer or approach ask her a simple question/favor without pushing for anything more. In the end it’s you who need to make moves and escalate things with a woman, instead of seeking 100% confirmation and jumping into a deep water, just engage in some cas…
/r/seduction11/07/25 01:17 PM
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Yeah, that may be an issue because standard concept is about gradual escalation. Make a small move to get a bit closer, spice things up, if she reacts positively, you can think about next stage. If she is not, stay there for a while or make a small step away. Idea is 2 step forwards, one step back. Women need to warm up their body and mind to open intimately to you, but they also need comfort and proper emotional connection, triggering emotions she wants you to trigger.
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:22 AM
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Women can very much enjoy casual flirting banter. Until you step in the clear like getting more physically intimate, soending more time together etc. then it can be only just a feminine game, not to lose her grip how to charm men. You need to make your moves if you feel good odds, clear confirmation is not necessary and spoils the game big way.
/r/seduction08/07/25 11:12 PM
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I think I can provide you with some feedback. Generally I would suggest to reorganize your schedule to potentially meet with women by other means than dating appsm which are getting more and more into scam fishingm women playing around or just for one night stands with the best looking guys.
/r/seduction08/07/25 10:20 PM
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Well, implement some masculine factor in your behaviour as well. It's not the problem that you are friendly and act like gay guy, but that there is probably nothing more as distinctive. Take proper posture, use deep eye contact, lower your voice. Embrace your behaviour and don't treat opinions of others so seriously. Women can forgive lots of unusual traits and behaviour as long as you can still function with them in a social situations. Also, maybe you can transform your current set of behavior…
/r/seduction07/07/25 09:58 PM
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In clubs you should seize the moment when energy is high, once girl sobers up and gets into her everyday environment, her perspective may change drastically and your relation may feel just like a fading echo of the past. You need to speed things up, if you wanna play slower game you should get into more corresponding context for that. Also, no reason to be bitter about not closing things, these should be also perceived as valuable experience, but if you want to get sexual within short period of …
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:54 AM
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Instead of keeping the convo going forever, you should try to escalate your intimacy while the energy is high and emotions are good. Also, it’s better to conclude your meeting earlier than prolong it too much, to leave the girl with some hunger and expectations for the next time.
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:48 AM
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Generally your actions should dictate your intentions, not words. In my opinion context is very clear, if you are feeling confused about her attitude, maybe she wasn't sure how she feels about you, she decided to just test the waters and maybe your date didn't trigger proper feelings in her so she came up with some safe excuse. Don't think in 0 and 1 in terms of relations, it can very much stay little vague and uncertain, if she lets you escalate in terms of physical intimacy then she is clearly…
/r/seduction06/07/25 05:47 PM
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My point is not to fight with public opinion, but create your own, better vision. This concept of specific height range is surely misleading in many ways, but generally you obviously should appeal to our heritage of masculine attractive traits, just like it is other way around. Current social system really is destroying primal masculinity, it's really no surprise that women are turning away from men that are so dependent on vague opinions of others and follow stupid rules and laws. Figure out yo…
/r/seduction06/07/25 12:17 PM
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There are obviously many individuals that got dragged into this shallow calculation of man's resources and accomplishments, but in the end it's more about your way of being, your personality traits, your lifestyle, your unique features. However, they need to be recognized and developed, which is pretty problematic if you mainly pay attention to things that are being brought up by this infamous and vague "public opinion". We as men should create our own standards and sets of values, embracing the…
/r/seduction06/07/25 11:39 AM
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Such simple thing but changes a lot. Your ideal partner should obviously naturally and effortlessly like you back, right? Now you just need to become likeable :)
/r/seduction06/07/25 10:33 AM
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Generally you should opt for the quality instead of quantity of words. Pay more attention to your voice tone and body language. In terms of honesty, it depends on the outcome you want to achieve. Getting blunt about your inconvenient downsides right in the beginning won’t put the vibe into sexual mode, not even pleasant. Remember that with women you are not really dealing with information exchange but emotional vibe, so you should keep in mind how your words and actions will affect it.
/r/seduction02/07/25 03:05 PM
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What's the point of an apology? We all make mistakes from time to time, it's the nature of being human. In the bigger picture it doesn't matter that much, sometimes even messing up can lead to some interesting situations, dynamics or trigger unique emotions. Getting serious, strict, apologetic, acting weak and vulnerable over petty reason and to no purpose can only make the girl turn off sexually. Rule of a thumb would be that you should make up to for mistakes that really caused nasty consequen…
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:28 PM
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Don't get into this frame that girl has the right to test you with some ridiculous tricks and traps and you need to do mental acrobatics to please the princess with correct answer. You can stay playful, be patient, but at some point you should draw the line by either changing the subject, showing disapproval of her childish/silly behaviour and in more extreme cases of annyoing testing just walk away and find less crazy and high maintenance candidate.
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:18 PM
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It’s generally easier to attract new option than trying to persuade low investment girl. I can feel that you are very bitter that women handle interactions like that, but you just need to embrace that it is how their brain and hormonal triggers work, definitely different from logical masculine perspective. Improve your attractive masculine features, put yourself out there to potentially get more opportunities. In current dating market women can play around and be very picky, adjust your strategy…
/r/seduction29/06/25 11:14 AM
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I would just advice to return pretty much the same energy, maintaining your frame of self respect. No persuading, no acting nice, no pointless bitterness. Leave her on read or reply with one word. She wasted your time and played with your emotions, she doesn’t deserve flowers for that.
/r/seduction29/06/25 10:56 AM
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I would suggest to look for a solution in a body, not mind. Relax your muscles, breathe deeply, take proper posture, set your voicetone for deep, look in the eyes, talk slower. If your body is relaxed, mind will quickly adapt.
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:15 AM
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Don't think about "going for the kiss". You should create proper atmoshpere and elevate the energy first, get into positive vibe, stay close to her, look her deep in the eyes, smile, implement some light casual touch, slightly touch sexual or attraction aspect in your conversation. Generally cinema is not the best place to escalate things, but as other people are suggesting, holding hands, speaking something in her ear can set a nice intimate tone, if you can make something out of it is up to he…
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:48 AM
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Generally I suggest to get creative yourself, try out different mindsets and methods to learn from experience and create your own style. As it comes to examples, you can make some positive statemenet about circumstances, go with a mild compliment, ask her name, crack some joke, but all in all this is really a sideway game, what you should focus on is eye contact, getting closer, light touch, use deep voicetone. Context is clear, the thing is you just need to take it step by step for her to take …
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:28 AM
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Valid points, there are obviously different perspectives of what is the most important, but I would strongly suggest to get that suposition deep into yourself that women are different kind of human beings. What you initially assume how to effectively sexually interact with women, what society, friends, family told you, may be very far from the truth considering that mating aspect of life is really sensitive for women. Instead of going with what you think may work, read seduction theory, try out …
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:21 AM
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I have seen plenty of guys with big belly that excel in interactions with women and getting laid. Focus more on your strengths. Generally you should maintain that high stamina and health, so don't neglect your life style and diet, but if you want to change your figure significanty, it takes time. There is no reason to get anxious, embrace your current state, enjoy walking on the path of change, be your best friend both in bad streaks and good streaks.
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:14 AM
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Women have certain assumptions about what dating should be, who is a true man, what is the correct approach to life, relations etc. Instead of getting entangled with these rules that are not yours and not design for you, show the girl something different, something better, something that she is not prepared for. And you can do that by empowering your masculine mindset and attractive values, show her that strong personal approach, it will be something new for her and also assuming that you can ta…
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:08 AM
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Assuming you are gonna reach just solid beginner level in the near future, you can present it as your hobby. Stay casual and chill about it, it's rather about showing that you are still to young and confident enough to try out new things, not like you can make her fall in love with you with some romantic song. Don't get cheesy like you found some trick to pick up girls, make it just like a normal bonus to your interaction.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:09 AM
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Yes, even throughout general evolution process, pheromones were one of the key things to attract sexual partner. It affects our brain activity a lot, it can both trigger proper biological switches in a woman, just like make her subconsciously reject your advances. Try it out, you don't need to spend a lot.
/r/seduction17/06/25 07:09 AM
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I guess the most important thing you need to understand is that women are significantly different human beings in many aspects than men. What you called very good two dates, for them could be just a pleasant friendly experience that they can forget in couple of days. My hot take would be that you didn't provide that strong masculine energy and emotions, third date would be just good and nothing else, which is not enough for a woman to commit to you sexually. Women also deal with things different…
/r/seduction16/06/25 06:29 PM
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Well, I would advice not to come at her instantly. If you don't want to be perceived like a friend, don't act like one. That means, don't be all nice, show off sexually attractive traits a bit, dress like an attractive man, use deep voice, make eye contact a bit longer, break touch barrier frequently but naturally, spend more one on one time. Generally, at your first meeting you should test the waters, whether she is in a mood to get little freaky. She needs to see you as a male, act like a guy …
/r/seduction14/06/25 03:40 AM
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Think of your moves more like a flow, not making a jump. If you just behave like a good friend or polite stranger, than suddenly going into kissing have usually this awkward and out of the place vibe. You say you are a coward, that's not true. You are correctly assuming that going for a kiss out of the blue is rather risky and probably fumble-oriented plan. Instead of getting in your head and seeking courage or whatever, figure out some little steps that will make going for a kiss later natural …
/r/seduction14/06/25 03:23 AM
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Alcohol, high energy, good music, dim light, good looking people around. It's a very good atmosphere to go little crazy and speed up getting familiar with attractive stranger. It's more about some warmup words and some flirty innuendos, you don't need to really create any specific conversation, use more of your body language, voicetone, hold deep eye contact and slowly come closer and closer at the girl. Quality over quanity, just reach for what you want, but don't brute force it. With experienc…
/r/seduction13/06/25 08:23 PM
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Generally it would be better for you to get with women that can see through social media cognitive bias and generally don't spend too much time in digital interactions. I would advice to encourage others to keep such attitude in mind or our judgment may be eventually completely hijacked by digital algorithms and trends. Real life interactions are significantly different (for now).
/r/seduction13/06/25 07:51 AM
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Yes, loyal girl can still cheat even if you are doing everything right. Improbable, even very improbable things are happening constantly in life. The only constant and aspect you are mostly in control with is your mindset and your reactions. Forge them wisely. My rule of the thumb would be that at the one side you should still very much engage in emotional part of your relation and maintain decent attractiveness and self-esteem, but on the other side you will obviously make some mistakes and hav…
/r/seduction13/06/25 07:25 AM
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Obviously women may be sometimes confused about their emotional state and hormonal turmoil and mismatch tone of the conversation with their intentions, men are also not immune to that. But, from the general point of view, context is pretty clear that you want to just make up some warmup questions to get to know each other a little or have a bit of a fun time in a company. If someone thinks that making some nasty logical argument or confrontation of it is a way to play the game is most likely a t…
/r/seduction12/06/25 07:53 AM
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Well, it concerns pretty much all women overall, in some aspects they are very different than men, with different hormonal activity, different brain functionality. You should not neglect emotional aspect of the relation just because you like it stable and comfortable. She can do whatever she wants, but obviously with facing consequences of her actions. We assumed that marriage is an eternal bond of souls or something, but nature clearly verifies this wishful thinking, circumstances change, many …
/r/seduction12/06/25 07:34 AM
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There are some guys called "naturals" that grasp nature of sexual gender dynamics very well by their own, but most guys unfortunately cling tight to their masculine code and following advices from their family, teachers and popular social dogmas which is usually very misleading. If you can embrace that women are different type of human beings and you should not really assume they operate by the same framework as you, you can pretty quickly learn from experience or just observing guys that alread…
/r/seduction10/06/25 10:56 PM
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Women generally have different arousing dynamics, they like to edge and keep warming up their whole body and mind for greater release and forming intimate bond. Just remember about that proper game frame. If girl keeps teasing you too much, you can always consciously turn somewhere else for the time being. You should also consciously lower your exposure to instant gratification sexual images/videos, they often interfere with proper hormonal response in real life situations.
/r/seduction10/06/25 10:44 PM
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Generally followup depends on your current circumstances, whether you need to approach immediately and how can you develop the interaction naturally. Smile is usually a good start. Brute forcing your approach is usually not the best strategy as you will be tensed in body and mind and oblivious of reading the room and emotions. Take a few moments to figure out some draft scenario, breath and relax your muscles. Approaching women should be fun and pleasure.
/r/seduction10/06/25 07:12 PM
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Find an environment where you can blossom. It's no surprise that you feel down and powerless doing things you don't like with non-supporting or even hostile company.
/r/seduction10/06/25 08:18 AM
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Well, do you think that forced help is really a noble act and not rather a well packed manipulation? Would a friend get offended because you don't want to do things for them whenever they want to? Also, you may get an impression than rejecting a girl can somewhat distort your dynamics in a bad way, but in fact most of the time women value assertiveness and self-respect in men big way, considering our gender dynamics heritage and sexual attraction. Just go crazy one time and reject a girl to chec…
/r/seduction10/06/25 08:10 AM
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I would say that you wanna engage with pretty girls, but don't brute force things, get impatient or demanding, especially if you are going against a current. After some time of getting experience with reading the room and emotions, you will naturally gravitate towards promising targets and cut off mismatched cases quickly. And women will naturally get attracted to such comfortable dynamics and environment. Also remember that attraction goes kinda like an exponential function, at first you will f…
/r/seduction10/06/25 08:05 AM
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Start with casual brief interactions, stay close, get some eye contact, smile, give out some compliment or ask a question. In the meantime, you should learn how to manage your emotions and corresponding body language and read the room if the girl may be interested in something more. And you can do this in most social situations.
/r/seduction06/06/25 08:47 AM
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Girl's expectations and emotional state may be very different from yours and even from what you imagine. That's why you can only really confirm things by her actions, decisions, commitment.
/r/seduction29/04/25 09:15 AM
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Change your mindset about the whole interaction and conversation. Your objective is not to pass information, conclude or balance anything, but to trigger spectrum of emotions, no matter how silly or out of the pattern context could become. Just have fun together, stay laidback, positive and playful.
/r/seduction29/04/25 08:58 AM
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I would say that a good wingman shows how fun your relation is, how deep connection is, they also respect and emphasize good sides in a guy. You don’t need to convince anyone that your partner is a great guy if they can see it clearly. Have a lot of fun together.
/r/seduction28/04/25 05:14 AM
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I would say it’s about creating that open and positive space, with no judgment and limiting the formulas of social code. Get into topics that are a bit non serious and out of the pattern. You should also warm her up with pleasurable activities, food, environment.
/r/seduction28/04/25 05:09 AM
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You should obviously communicate your boundaries and expectations, in a polite but clear way, but at the same time I would suggest to also consider guy’s feelings and future of your relation. You should make some progress on your dates. You don’t need to go all the way, but hard gatekeeping frequently turns into stagnancy and bitterness, especially if you don’t really understand your feelings and how to handle them.
/r/seduction28/04/25 05:02 AM
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Maybe you are just not compatible with each other? If you can't get anything going and she seems to pull in different direction, there is really nothing you can do. You can provide comfortable circumstances, take care of activities and conversation, show your attractive traits and introduce intimate escalation, but if she keeps running away, you should ask yourself a question if you really want to put your time, effort, emotions into such unreliable partner when much better girl may wait just ar…
/r/seduction27/04/25 03:50 PM
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True, if you are not prepared to seal the deal, what do you expect to happen? You will subconsciously steer yourself to fumble.
/r/seduction27/04/25 03:42 PM
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It feels like you have not much going on besides this hazy relation. And if you don't have enough experience and developed attractive qualities, it is very much probable for you to fumble proper escalation and introducing proper gender dynamics. I would suggest to embark on your very own seduction journey, learn theory, get experience, improve your sexually attractive traits, instead of putting too much significance on this particular case which is not certain to say the least.
/r/seduction27/04/25 03:38 PM
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You should assume you need to do everything yourself. And if girl is denying your advances or making you wait, it's also up to you to agree with it for the time being or turning somewhere else. Embrace full responsibility.
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:50 AM
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There is plenty of theory out there to learn and test in practice. Keep your progress step by step, improve your sexually attractive traits, expand your opportunities, embrace the long term quest of seduction. It's also very important to drop your excuses and limitating convictions for directly learning from successful guys and analysing real feedback you get from interacting with women.
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:36 AM
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I guess she just doesn't feel enough sexual attraction to pursue something with you against her turmoiled emotions. You can keep her around, but don't expect anything, don't committ any overtime effort or emotions as she clearly stated she hardly gatekeeps the progress. Remember you don't need to approach your relations in 0 and 1 system, also if you could expand different good opportunities you would not have such dillemmas.
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:34 AM
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You need to take the risk. Expand your opportunities. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits. Don't expect something to happen out of nowhere because you conducted a nice interaction or provided much effort. You need to ask. If you are not yet in romantic or sexual context, just keep asking to spend more time together, keep coming closer, women can sense such context but you absolutely need to take initiative yourself.
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:17 AM
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I believe this was just her seeking a valid excuse, on your date you provided for her, spent good time together, but in terms of sexual context nothing much happened, right? She may say she likes to take her time, until sexually attractive male comes and takes what he wants. Remember, it's not about your efforts, it's about escalating that sexual tension. No point in getting emotional to no purpose, that's just hard law of the jungle, which people, especially women, tend to powder with polite wo…
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:11 AM
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I would say it's mainly about testing different types of techniques and mindsets, taking examples from successful guys, putting your focus towards reading the room and observing girl's reactions. The point is to take it step by step and escalate gradually, if you feel you overstepped, you should back away a little bit, if nothing is happening, you should take initiative and get more bold and direct. There is really no perfect solution like on school exam, handling certain people or situations ma…
/r/seduction26/04/25 07:31 AM
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Every journey starts with the first step. It's natural to feel overwhelmed and anxious when you haven't even begun. Start from the basics, many aspects can be improved with little effort and you should get there eventually, it won't happen suddenly and instantly, you need to help your luck and keep the progress realistic. Still, if such noises annoy you and bring you misery, I would just change places, maybe it's the necessary trigger too.
/r/seduction25/04/25 07:55 AM
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I guess you can take a look at typically portrayed badboys or players. Just don't be a douche too much. And still you should take examples and create your mindset mainly from real life situations.
/r/seduction24/04/25 10:28 AM
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Decently attractive women have plenty of opportunities on dating apps and considering that these are men that are supposed to open up and lead the interaction, many girls don't even need to try or be competent in interpersonal dimension at all. You just need to push for your goal on your own, if they are denying your advances, move onto next potentially more compatible girl. If you can't put up with superficial attraction contest, dating apps are not really a place for you.
/r/seduction24/04/25 10:20 AM
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Trying out new things together. Like physical activities or food, something pleasurable and connecting in general. Still, remember that it's just a background, if you can effectively operate with your words and body language you can provide lots of emotions and sexual tension even on a walk or coffee date.
/r/seduction24/04/25 09:07 AM
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Confession won't change her feelings. If she has none or little affection for you, it can even backfire on your future chances. Instead make her fall in love with you with your attractive masculine traits and providing lots of emotions and sexual tension.
/r/seduction24/04/25 09:05 AM
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Consciously turn away from sexual triggers. If you manage to take a break just for one day, it would be easier then.
/r/seduction24/04/25 08:58 AM
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Embrace that women are different type of human being than men. Simply extrapolating your logic and reason won't get you far. Learn from experience and successful guys and test out variety of techniques and mindsets. Rest is just practice, improving, analysing feedback and mistakes. This is the core that should allow you to progress.
/r/seduction23/04/25 08:48 AM
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Why would you do something that would make you be perceived as a weirdo? Is a reason behind it worth such risk? There is a significant difference between ignoring unconstructive public's opnion and going against it for little reason. If we would always go with the flow of the flock, we would come down of the trees much later. Would you give up on approaching women because many clueless people frown upon it because some guys tend to be forceful beyond social norms with it? My point is that you ne…
/r/seduction23/04/25 07:22 AM
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Well, give more specific examples. Yours is quite extreme. Also, in almost all open communities you will encounter plenty of people that understand the topic only shallowly.
/r/seduction22/04/25 06:03 PM
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I go through life with a statement that if you wanna be successful you need to ignore public's opinion, unless it is helpful to you in some way. In terms of seduction I always just focused on a girl, maybe with some occassional kind words and smile to her companions.
/r/seduction22/04/25 08:01 AM
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It can always be better. That's why you should seize the moment. And remember that women are not really after your resources per se, but after a man that can also provide plenty of emotions, pleasures, masculine traits. Figure out plenty of things that are not so common with others.
/r/seduction21/04/25 11:14 AM
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You need to take initiative. Trigger emotions, get to know each other, show your attractive traits, including communication and interpersonal skills. And remember to focus your mindset on escalating your relation, which is generally about asking her out on a date sooner than later. If you snooze or get into pointless conversation for too long, girl often loses interest.
/r/seduction20/04/25 09:39 AM
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It changes the vibe from formal, reserved, social code towards real, imperfect human to human interaction. Triggers spectrum of emotions. Appeals to direct dynamics between you. Shows off that you can deal with apparent negativity smoothly. Raises the tension, which can be then converted into sexual context. And how not to cross the line? Gradual escalation and proper expression. Start small, watch her reactions, use positive and playful tone.
/r/seduction20/04/25 09:29 AM
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It is to be expected if they have never done it before, never been taught how to do it properly, how to handle emotions and body language, not even mentioning plenty of discouraging bias about it roaming around social culture and media. But, seduction can very much be learnt and improved. What is needed is some dedication and courage to take risks and learn from mistakes. Unfortunately we are taught all our life that mistakes are very bad and need to be avoided. So making your first approach fee…
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:48 AM
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Women care very much about presenting themselves as good as possible, to potentially attract the best possible partner. Also, you are probably soaked with a common social dogma that tend to glorify and idealize women. Try to spend more time with women like human with a human, get into situations, activities and topics that will touch their personal dimension and limitations. If you can get through all these artificial, well-known social formulas, you will realize they are not that different from…
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:41 AM
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Take charge of reaching for your goals on your own, learn and practice. Excuses are for losers.
/r/seduction18/04/25 07:36 AM
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It is not really congruent with the usual closed off context of school/job. Also, it gives away power dynamics to the girl instantly, which is not good if you want to lead an interaction. Instead, try to warm her up a bit and take some time for her to get comfortable with your presence, you can always come more bold when she reciprocates. Also, if you prefer this straightforward attitude, maybe you should opt for a quick night game pickup?
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:02 AM
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How about getting with a girl you like and converting her for active lifestyle? It’s very common thing that woman change herself, adjusting to a man she love.
/r/seduction16/04/25 06:56 AM
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Realize these are your hormones and emotions playing with your mind. She clearly doesn’t look like reliable love interest. You can play around, but don’t expect anything. It would be better to put your focus elsewhere until you stabilize your judgment. There are plenty of attractive girls that don’t come together with such freaky attitude, try to expand your opportunities and obviously keep improving your sexually attractive traits if you want to get with top girls regularly.
/r/seduction16/04/25 06:50 AM
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Can you just try to make any kind of casual interaction? Even the brief one. REmember that it will take some time for you to be able to smoothly get into meaningful conversations. Anxiety and fear often comes if your body language and mind structure is just too poor, and approaching the girl would most likely result in a failure. In such situation, tone down your psyche, you want to approach, give her a compliment, talk what she is doing, crack some jokes, and then you can either leave or contin…
/r/seduction05/04/25 01:55 AM
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Don't get defensive, on the opposite, treat such questions like an opportunity to trigger emotions, build connection, escalate your relation. It's not about information, it's about triggerin fun in life. And women seem to understand it perfectly, they give you a stimulai to make something happen.
/r/seduction05/04/25 01:48 AM
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You should definitely talk with him about it, I think most guys are very glad to discuss such things. Generally I feel that women are very good at tempting and arousing men, the thing is they need to have comfort to not be judged. Personally, I like when my girl is rough and blunt about her desires, about sexual actions that are happening, praising my physique and technique.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:20 PM
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Talk with him about it. Give your relation some loose. Remember that men are different. Have fun. Men usually take initiative, so it's more up to you to evaluate your expectations, but also stay mindful about other side.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:11 PM
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It's pretty natural thing, just don't forget that women don't really crave predictable and safe dynamics, even if they pursue to make them so. Keep your game to make your relationship healthy, just figure out different ways.
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:31 PM
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It's not just knowledge, but body language, reactions, mindset, whole biology. If you get out of the rhytm in one thing, whole concept of game may get shattered.
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:23 PM
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I embrace it. I can have some rest, change my attitude, change my target or go through it as a challenge. It's my choice, which gives me yet another layer of relaxation and helps to get into state of flow, where you naturally make good decisions instantly without even analysing it. Getting nervous can also turn out to be an integral part of the interaction. It's mainly a matter of proper practice.
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:17 PM
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From my experience I came to a conclusion that staying in the present moment and adjusting to actual situations and emotions bears much better results than forcing certain schemes or patterns of the past. Treat dating and interactions with opposite gender as fun and meaningful part of your life rather than just some imputed masculine duty to be fulfilled.
/r/seduction02/04/25 06:11 PM
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Well, if you feel that your current strategy is making the girl fizzle out, you can change it a bit. Setting up a meeting in real life circumstances is surely a priority of communicating with each other, but you can also drop some positive things or touch sexual tension from time to time to tingle girl's emotional state. Try to set up a date as soon as you can, waiting for a long time will naturally make the girl potentially lose that thing which she felt for you
/r/seduction31/03/25 12:46 AM
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I can give out some male perspective if you want. Generally I would recommend to drop the concept of getting sexual, but we need to become a couple. Treat this two things separately, if you directly put out such condition, many guys won't feel comfortable about escalate anything with you. Instead, stay more in the moment and feel to what extent you want to push your relation. If guys is going too fast, communicate it clearly that it's too fast. If you really want relationship, give your potentia…
/r/seduction31/03/25 12:09 AM
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It's very common situation when girl gives you her number just to ghost you afterwards without a need to go through bitter confrontation. Empathize with that, there may be plenty of reasons not to instantly commit to random stranger. To raise your odds, you should provide more comfort during your brief interaction, trigger some emotions, show off your attractive traits. Give her the space to decide whether she wants it or not. And stay casual, you want to get to know her, you want to spend more …
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:57 AM
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Back in the days, my good friend ordered a professional photo shoot and it improved his score from few matches and convos here and there to regular dating life. In my experience profile picture is the most important feature in online dating.
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:46 AM
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If the mood is really good, sexual tension is pushing for a release and you have a good feeling about this. And remember about providing some natural and casual reason to go there, unless you are already in intimate sexual mood, to bypass her last resistance for now, when you already got there biology usually takes over as you are so close to the final.
/r/seduction29/03/25 10:00 AM
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Treat such questions like an opportunity, to deepen your connection, to spice things up, to introduce ideas to develop your relation. Instead of getting defensive, you should push up your own agenda, obviously in a laidback and playful manner. If girl is really serving you hurdles over and over again, it's better to spend your precious time somewhere else, right?
/r/seduction29/03/25 09:53 AM
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You still try to reach for your goal. Sometimes you may just misinterpret the situation, sometimes your technique needs more grinding. With experience and enough improvement your odds will increase. If you are at the beginning of your seduction challenge you need to expect lots of struggle, and it won't decrease completely even with lots of practice. Question is if that will stop you from reaching for your goal? About your mood, if you are feeling down and miserable, it's probably time to turn t…
/r/seduction29/03/25 09:46 AM
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Yes
/r/seduction27/03/25 04:42 PM
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Point is about gradual escalation. Keep coming closer, maintain eye contact longer, get more direct and personal with conversation, trigger variety of emotions, whisper in her ear, touch her gently. You need to take initiative and reach for your goal by yourself, you just should go step by step and adjust tempo to girl's reaction. And how to handle rejection? By giving yourself time and space to rest and process emotions, constantly improving your game and attractive traits and focusing on next …
/r/seduction27/03/25 11:00 AM
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Well, talking to other people should be fun. Maybe the problem is that we are so divided in current civilisational culture that it would be pretty troublesome to find common vibe. Also, we are conditioned to be individualistic. Also, many people are not in the mood most of the time throughout the day to carry out meaningless conversations. All of these also make our communication skills drop, which makes the whole issue keep growing. In general, your emotions are rather justified, but it does no…
/r/seduction26/03/25 09:01 AM
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At this point it will be probably better to fix on a different target. She seems to lost emotional edge towards you completely, and women are very susceptible to their emotional state. You are starting almost from the bottom here, and mood is pretty bitter anyways. Sometimes things just don't work out. Focus more on improving yourself, if you would have abundance of opportunities, you wouldn't have any problem here.
/r/seduction26/03/25 08:52 AM
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People are usually looking around in such places, especially girls that want to seek for some attractive guys to spot them. If you are close, your eyes should meet eventually. Then it's the matter if she adjusts herself to let you come closer and interact or rather avoiding and exerting some nasty energy. This process is not so clear, these are human interactions after all, you need to try it out yourself, grind your technique and reading the room and after some time you should be able to realis…
/r/seduction26/03/25 08:14 AM
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I guess you can live with such situations happening from time to time? Our intuition can process very comprehensive and subtle signs, triggering emotions that would discourage us from escalating fishy situations. On the other hand, you can always try to push against the odds to see whether you just conditioned yourself poorly, or maybe there is indeed something wrong about certain interactions that you can't see clearly on the first sight.
/r/seduction26/03/25 08:05 AM
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I guess it may feel too bothersome for you to carry the whole process? I think you should try to embrace such emotions, they are very natural, and instead of quitting you can figure out a way to conclude the interaction for now and continue when you will feel more like it.
/r/seduction25/03/25 01:11 PM
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You can't be 100% sure how she feels by just analysing her behaviour. Also, there is really no point in thinking too much about it. Whatever it really is, you need to take initative. You don't need to be direct and go out with your feelings instantly, just having some casual brief conversation is a good start of your potential relation. Trigger some positive emotions, build up comfort, let her take closer look at you, show your interpersonal and communication skills. If she keeps coming there re…
/r/seduction25/03/25 11:32 AM
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I would say that generally they want to spend more time with you, get closer, pay attention what you say, speak up, get some action going around you or with you. Afraid of being directly rejected, they often use these subtle clues of friendliness, encouraging your to figure it out and escalate. From man's logical point of view you may assume this is just some nice and energetic attitude, but you should also take into account that women may be clueless or very shy about projecting their feelings …
/r/seduction25/03/25 11:23 AM
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Push and pull is always a method to consider in increasing tension and desire. Use the best of your touch technique and back away. Show off your strength or intelligence a bit. Get very close for her to smell you, whisper some triggering words and then take a step back. Generally she needs to want it herself, so give her a taste, let her think about it and go wild with imagination and expectations, and then just casually find some excuse to find yourselves in private environment. Don't appeal to…
/r/seduction24/03/25 08:12 AM
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Well, many people would discourage you from getting into workplace affair, as it often brings trouble and awkward emotions. Still, it’s up to you. About your current progress, sometimes you just don’t feel the best and circumstances aren’t that much promising. Instead of beating yourself up for little reason, prepare a better plan and figure out proper mindset. You wanna make some progress towards sexual dynamics, not just conduct some workplace chit chat. So you potentially wanna meet outside y…
/r/seduction23/03/25 07:05 AM
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Keep in check your feelings for now, remember that she may feel different things, contrary to popular social dogma. If you want to pursue more romantic dynamics, you should improve your sexually attractive traits and implement some challenge, teasing, uncertainty, generally whole spectrum of emotions instead of only kind and friendly side. And remember that you need to start escalating your physical intimacy gradually as you will be meeting in person. If your relation is just about friendly bant…
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:55 AM
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If you met her briefly, bonding hormones are usually not getting activated yet, it’s a natural human mechanism. The opposite situation would be more problematic. And don’t get too concerned with this reputation thing, it’s a common theme that you need to pursue your goals against the current.
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:45 AM
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I guess you just need to get use to more tension and more senses involved. Point to start would be about practicing corresponding body language, you need to stay relaxed, control your breath to be able to articulate yourself properly and pay attention to mood and emotions. In real life circumstances you can’t really take your time to figure out the nicest response, so you should focus on getting yourself into so called flow state, where you are feeling the best and naturally come up with ideas. …
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:28 AM
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Generally, it's about leaving some space for the girl to show commitment and interest, not to get everything done by yourself as it would result in poor dynamics between you for the future. Provide them with good first impression, go out with your own initative, but don't force her to do or feel things. Also, it's somewhat important not to push for conclusion or clearance at all cost, leaving some mystery and uncertainty can make the girls think about it more which often results in creating more…
/r/seduction22/03/25 09:55 AM
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Generally, at some point you need to prove a point that you can provide the girl with extraordinary sexual pleasures. It doesn't necessary need to be in direct manner, but it can also work if girl is already in proper mood. It's very important to keep in mind that you want to have wild sex with this girl eventually, so you can't only keep showing her your attitude that is completely different from that.
/r/seduction22/03/25 09:45 AM
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Yeah, but the main thing is that you wanna avoid all of that if possible. If you shift attention to something that bears more interest, you may not need to play for confrontation. Generally, you are innocent until proven guilty, you don't need to excuse yourself, but often times you can appeal to emotions instead of proving the point, she will change her attitude on her own in good atmosphere.
/r/seduction21/03/25 04:30 AM
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Remember to wear your best clothes, accessories, cologne, take a shower before, take proper posture, use deep voice, look in the eyes, smile. And maybe just don't approach girls that you very pessimistic about, pre-choose girls that are likely to say yes. About limits, I mentioned limits that are associated with your value as a man, at some point next stepping stages are becoming more and more demanding of your effort and dedication, but attraction chart is rising exponentially, so it is often w…
/r/seduction21/03/25 04:15 AM
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Stay laidback and take her side. "I did not, check your room one more time, thoroughly. Or maybe it was someone else?" Generally you need to embrace that people can make something up, don't turn up the heat and they may lose interest. Or take your every step consciously, that's a good way to live.
/r/seduction21/03/25 02:39 AM
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At some point you may encounter some limit if you don't put too much effort and mind into your improvement, but once you will start to become the best man around in more and more situations, your problem will be more about too many women. In terms of your question about Walmart girl, it seemed like you just didn't escalate in any specific direction. If girl realises you are going in circles or going too reserved or too slow, she will do you a favor and leave you or force you to bolder in this un…
/r/seduction21/03/25 02:25 AM
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Play it cool like nothing happened, but you need to change your attitude. Women don’t desire apologetic guys that are insecure about their value and about reaching for what they want. If you played too soft, you absolutely need to show her your tough masculine side now. Just play such role. Being well-mannered and respectful won’t make her wet, if you want sexual you need to provide sexual.
/r/seduction19/03/25 08:28 AM
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Girls like to mess around and test the limits, it gives them that emotional thrill that they constantly pursue in life. It doesn't mean she wants to go all the way, such interaction presents them with some value as well. She may like you, but she also likes her boyfriend and doesn't want to break up.
/r/seduction18/03/25 05:46 AM
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I would reconsider this mindset of expecting everything to happen your way and instantly. These guys probably have much more experience and effort put into their practice. You will get there some day too, probably pretty soon, just keep improving your sexually attractive traits and grind your seduction technique.
/r/seduction18/03/25 05:40 AM
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Just don't make it sound so serious. With being laidback and playful you can get away from plenty of awkward or negative vibes. Women sometimes need that little challenge or confrontation, but you will get even more points for turning the tides to get positive instead of bitter.
/r/seduction17/03/25 12:53 PM
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If you are just starting or had a long break, you should begin with warming yourself up, to practice your body language, voicetone and remind yourself how to read the room and deal with tension and emotions properly. Get little closer, make eye contact, smile. Then you can approach beautiful girls to ask for time/direction/opinion or give them a compliment. Then you are almost ready to take an attitude of being more direct towards romantic context. It's natural to be anxious if you wanna make a …
/r/seduction17/03/25 08:35 AM
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You just keep going with your life and seduction quest like nothing much happened, because that’s how it is. Sometimes you are just not in the good shape, not in the mood, simply not feeling like pushing yourself. Human life is long enough and there is plenty of fish in the sea, keep improving your sexually attractive traits, seduction knowledge, expand your abundant lifestyle and you won’t have such dilemmas anymore, because opportunities will be appearing before you naturally and frequently.
/r/seduction17/03/25 07:30 AM
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You provide her mainly with emotions of comfort, control, certainty etc. You should also implement other side of the spectrum in your interactions. You won’t win her over by sheer effort and playing right into her hands, but appealing to natural female desires and making her attracted to your masculine qualities.
/r/seduction17/03/25 07:24 AM
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Back in the days, I tend to meet a lot of people, but usually for a short period of time. Generally my rule of a thumb was to stay chill and relaxed in the beginning, that way your brain works better, your body accomodates naturally and you can focus more on reading the room and subtle signs. Take it step by step, you don't need to commit to anything instantly, let it unfold naturally and leave space for the other person to put some effort and take little initiative too. After some time, if you …
/r/seduction16/03/25 10:07 AM
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Just like with life, focus on the brighter side and let yourself take a break if you feel like it. You should enjoy interactions with beautiful women and improving yourself as a long term challenge. The thing is we were being deluded about harsh reality of dating market by our mothers, teachers, society, so awakening to straightforward rules of attraction may feel extremely bitter. But hey, nobody said that life would be easy, do you really want to get everything valuable quickly and with little…
/r/seduction16/03/25 09:59 AM
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Think about triggering various emotions with your words and topics. Bring up sexual tension, mystery, challenge, generally some playfulness into your conversations. Remember that female nature is significantly different in some aspects, they won't be satisfied just with balanced, logical and informational interactions, you need to spice things up and tickle her sexual and emotional appetite to keep your relation healthy and thriving.
/r/seduction15/03/25 10:57 AM
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Stay positive and laidback. Don't get overly excited in the beginning, it may feel desperate and it kinda forces the girl to get overly excited too, which women don't usually like. Keep it short and playful, trigger emotions, increase the tension, put your focus on making progress with your relation in real life circumstances. Treat texting just like a mean to keep in touch and spark some fire, but don't put too much significance or effort into it, you are not after just texting with beautiful g…
/r/seduction15/03/25 07:52 AM
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In the end it's all about if you can make progress with your relation, especially in terms of intimacy. Make your moves and adjust to girl's reactions, she may be shy or clueless or confused, but decision is a decision.
/r/seduction15/03/25 07:41 AM
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If she complies to your moves and plans, she is interested. On the other hand, don't treat it like a 0 and 1 system, she may be not sure yet how she clearly feels about you, keep it cool and casual until your reach some actual relation milestones. Actions and decisions, not words or signs.
/r/seduction13/03/25 08:45 AM
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It's not that uncommon situation that girl changes her mind drastically after her emotional state drops down and she gets sober. I would suggest to keep a mindset that you don't wanna force her into liking you or meeting with you, she needs to committ to it herself as well and her not wanting to develop your relation should be totally fine. Put your attention elsewhere for the time being, you can reach to her, but you can't make her do things exactly like you want.
/r/seduction13/03/25 08:40 AM
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I think of it as a natural barrier that girl creates around her. You should not try to brute force it but crumble it. Get little closer to her, maintain eye contact, smile, get friendly and more direct with conversation. If she lets you get more familiar with her, then you can touch her with just any opportunity that feels natural like patting her on the shoulder or "high five", or make your bodies touch gently "by accident".
/r/seduction12/03/25 01:46 PM
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These dynamics may surely escalate to your favor but in general I would suggest to pay more attention to direct experience with women, evaluating their actual actions and decisions, not words or any other cultural frame that does not verify any commitment. We are so much misled about actual gender dynamics and biological conditioning by mass media and social dogma that it may really get in the way for you to improve handling interactions with other gender and pursuing romance. To give you some e…
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:54 AM
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In this case point would be about reading the room and grinding your technique of gradual escalation. Instead of getting in your head and thinking about 100 improbable variants, pay attention to actual circumstances and girl’s body language and react accordingly, you should subconsciously realize subtle signs with that as well. Next thing, to avoid making a girl uncomfortable, you need to make small steps and check her reaction. Get little closer, maintain eye contact little longer, get more dir…
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:37 AM
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Can you check it within different social circumstances or with different people? It’s not necessarily about them sabotaging you, but the group dynamics are just not working in your favor. About your personality, you can always change or improve it, it’s not even a legit excuse, focus on solutions instead. If you indeed struggle with finding your way in a group, seek for some situation where you will have to lead other people, it should give you a big shot of confidence and competence and women l…
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:28 AM
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I guess there may be a problem of so called social proof, your "friends" are not really elevating your own value but thinking only about themselves. In such case it is indeed very much reasonable to seek your chances with women elsewhere, maybe you should look for some new social environments and new companions where your value and advantages will flourish. It's very natural, in my experience I was swimming in attention from women within some groups and was completely and the bottom of the ladde…
/r/seduction11/03/25 07:03 AM
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It's natural to feel anxious about things that you know little about and have low experience with, especially these that provides lots of emotions and stress. You should just start from scratch, make some casual interactions, have fun, trigger emotions, look for connection, you don't need to instantly come out with romantic context, you can always escalate little later if odds seem promising. And you don't need to brute force things, if you dead freeze for some reason maybe there is a problem wi…
/r/seduction11/03/25 06:57 AM
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Back in my beginnings, I used to warm up with Demonic Confidence programm. You can use some ideas that are covered there, approach beautiful girl every minute for 30 minutes and ask them for time/directions/opinion/give compliment. Generally, just make the most casual interactions, with most guys the point is they are hardly ever interacting with strangers, so approaching stranger girl to ask her out sounds like mission impossible. But, if you warm up your body and mind to remind yourself how to…
/r/seduction11/03/25 06:43 AM
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You are overthinking this. Maintaining eye contact is indeed a strong indicator of interest, but breaking eye contact is not necessarily a clear symptom of lack of interest. She may be little shy or occupied with something else or just not charmed at the first sight. You can still make some casual interaction where things should become a lot clearer.
/r/seduction10/03/25 07:18 AM
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This is unfortunately really common, women don't need to commit instantly to some random relations, better option may come any moment just by itself. Keep that in mind, unless you are already close physically and mentally, girl committed her time and effort to meeting with you and get to know you, you went through some important and unique situations together, you can't be sure about your potential future at all. Keep things clear and remember that you need to escalate. On the other hand, don't …
/r/seduction10/03/25 07:08 AM
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Well, really attractive girls have plenty of other potential options to choose from, they often would not bother with handling interaction with some random approach from some random guy. You will often encounter some initial reluctance. You need to keep improving your sexually attractive features or grind your approaching technique to the fullest, so you can make very good first impression and make her perceive you as an extraordinary guy that may be worth a shot even with these unusual circumst…
/r/seduction10/03/25 07:03 AM
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When I was starting my adventure with seduction, my go-to rule was about accepting every invitation that is connected with socializing with people and also asking others about some parties or meetings to attend.
/r/seduction09/03/25 09:07 AM
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Not attracted enough, not warmed up, not comfortable enough, not connected with you, poor/mid circumstances or just not in the mood for whatever reason. And yes, you need to take initiative. Read the room and figure out how you can make it more intimate, don't pay too much attention to things that won't help you escalate or even exert some stranger/reserved vibe. Keep coming closer, look her in the eyes longer, become more direct and personal with conversation, trigger plenty of emotions, use an…
/r/seduction09/03/25 09:05 AM
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In current state of dating market women can set really high standards and picky attitude. Not popular/small social circle = rejection. Better option in my sytem will come sooner than later anyways. Just keep improving. Also, do you really want to be with a girl that exerts such shallow viewpoint?
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:58 AM
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If you don't like it, don't go there. If you don't like how someone treats you, tell them or part ways. I think situation is not really that much problematic, but your reactions and dillemas definitely are. Keep your frame clear, even if it is not a big deal for you, being passive may be detrimental for your social chances.
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:55 AM
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Remember that there are finite means and opportunities of meeting women. Bite the bullet, you are a man. Long term improvement and overcoming obstacles and failures is necessary step for any adventure and success.
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:28 AM
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Introduce some challenge, tease, get into topics that are about your mutual dynamics. Don’t play stranger, introduce that close and dynamic vibe quickly. Mention sexually attractive traits casually. You can slightly touch sexual subject, but rather not in direct way in the beginning. Put more focus on escalating things and making progress in real life circumstances, remember that only texting won’t get you what you are looking for, treat it like just a warmup.
/r/seduction08/03/25 07:40 AM
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I think it’s pretty objective subjective opinion, sample is pretty big and from various sources. Even participating on Reddit, I can recognize around 95% of cases whether something is said by man or woman, that’s how much we are different in some aspects. Generally, my point is that you may get some feedback from guys how they would like women to think or what they would do in your place, but technically it would be better to get advice from women that were once in your place and succeeded. But …
/r/seduction08/03/25 07:16 AM
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Are there any women here that actually excel at seduction in the same sense men think of it? Many guys can give out their viewpoint, but I would guess that from female's perspective things look significantly different. Another thing, at least from my experience, is that it's more difficult to make women change their mind drastically. They are much less likely to take risks and go against the current and they are more oriented on comprehensive but often pointless elaboration rather than bluntly f…
/r/seduction07/03/25 06:26 PM
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"I am guessing you would need nothing else after I am done with you". Generally, don't treat such questions as a threat, but a chance to increase sexual tension even more.
/r/seduction07/03/25 06:13 PM
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This sub, Youtube, articles/books of PUAs. You should take your knowledge from different sources, improvement is a marathon anyway. Take your time, learn and test different mindsets and methods, process the feedback and grind your technique. It's not about learning the perfect scheme, it's about becoming very good at seduction, so you can handle any unexpected situation by yourself.
/r/seduction07/03/25 09:34 AM
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If you have little clue how to do things properly, it's natural to feel anxious about taking a huge leap. You should start from scratch, keep getting closer, keep reading theory, test different methods and mindsets one by one. Also, you need to realise that women's psyche may be, and in fact is, significantly different than men's. They actually find drama, challenge and bold dynamics quite fun, you just need to learn how to read the room and don't get into extreme or awkwardness with your moves.…
/r/seduction06/03/25 09:50 AM
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I would say it steps a bit into cheating territory, as it is very easy to escalate from now if you break the barrier of intimacy so deep.
/r/seduction05/03/25 09:47 AM
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If girl feels shaky, you can be a little more indirect, just suggest spending some time casually, unspoken context is obviously about some potential romance. Also, it's a good idea to meet after she finishes her shift, therefore she can't play the game of ignoring your calls/messages. In general, you did good, it's very important to take initiative, if you just wait for something to happen by chance you will fumble most of your opportunities.
/r/seduction05/03/25 09:45 AM
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If it works, it is usually because you improved yourself significantly. In rare cases, girl changes her mind or her personal circumstances changes drastically. On the whole, such turn of events is very unusual, better to just find better match, there's plenty of fish in the sea.
/r/seduction05/03/25 09:31 AM
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Generally it's about wasting other person's time and toying with their feelings by giving out mixed/vague signals in fear of facing bitter confrontation for longer time. If you feel that other person is oblivious and you are definitely not interested, it would be in a good manner to spare them the struggle. Also, if "not feeling the vibe" is making you question your value so deeply, I think that there may be some issue there, it's natural that your appearance and character won't be perceived as …
/r/seduction03/03/25 04:41 PM
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Feels like low interest option. Technically you can always reach out to her one last time to confirm things. In general, you should set up things clearly when you have proper opportunity, if you let it hang it is a perfect excuse for the girl to become passive and you will stay confused and uncertain. I would suggest to seek for potential better match already, even if current situations works out. Your dynamics are pretty poor, she declined your plans and didn't want to reschedule things on her …
/r/seduction03/03/25 03:12 PM
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When I took a break from electronic devices, apart from times when I really needed to use them, it always turned out positively on my socialization. I feel that when we are exposed to electromagnetic field for a long time, it influences our body more than we realize and other people can subconsciously feel it.
/r/seduction03/03/25 06:54 AM
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"Ok, I will come here on Saturday at 6 p.m" Yes, she could be a bit reserved because of her coworker. In general, don't worry about it, sometimes circumstances get in the way and you can do nothing about it. You can't be 100% sure what she thought anyway, probably she didn't have any specific scenario in mind. Just try to come up with anything laidback and casual to develop your relation, if she invests into meeting with you again it is a strong indicator of attraction, much better than random n…
/r/seduction02/03/25 10:14 AM
1

In some cases girl may face some psychical obstacles, but her biology tingles to action in the opposite way anyway. They are often open to adventure if they find good enough excuse. She doesn't need to instantly commit to anything. Obviously she may just keep your around for other reasons, or until something will not work out with her current boyfriend. Anyways, don't worry about it, you should try to create that abundant lifestyle, where you can easily had another, better opportunity if girl is…
/r/seduction02/03/25 09:15 AM
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It's typical for girls to get carried away by their emotional turmoil, one time they may feel like spontaneously connecting with someone new and some time after they want to focus on their primary mindset. Until she becomes seriously committed by spending lots time with you and getting physically intimate, nothing is certain. Girls like to play around, they are not that concerned about your instantaneous infatuation, remember that for them it's much easier to find potential sexual partner, they …
/r/seduction02/03/25 08:05 AM
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Getting addicted to thrill of the chase is surely a thing. Generally, you need to spend more time with a girl for the proper hormones of bonding to activate. Also, I would suggest not to look for a divine quality, good life and sexual partner is already a rare opportunity.
/r/seduction02/03/25 07:54 AM
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You can read some tips and tricks how to make out effectively. It's very intuitive anyway, and also practice makes perfect.
/r/seduction27/02/25 12:05 PM
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I guess you can treat it like interacting with any other stranger, at least in the beginning. Ask some generic and positive questions as a warmup, check how you vibe together. If it goes smoothly and promising, you can figure out some excuse to casually spend more time with each other.
/r/seduction27/02/25 09:50 AM
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You will look like an L if you would think too much about it, get defensive, get miserable or deny reality. Just treat it like nothing much happened. People gonna think things, you can't forbid that, even if it is just clearly stupid and shallow perspective.
/r/seduction27/02/25 09:48 AM
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I'm not that positive if my conversion rate is at really good level, but I can suggest not to snooze on escalating your physical intimacy, you need to connect with the girl with multiple senses and switch proper sexual buttons in her biology. Also, try to stand out among other potential candidates, trigger lots of emotions and provide that unique experience, where you will check how you match together and which you can also enjoy. Leave the girl with some hunger for more, end your date little pr…
/r/seduction27/02/25 09:41 AM
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Realise that woman's psyche may be significantly different from your man's viewpoint. Embrace direct experience and try out variety of seduction mindsets and methods, instead of relying on and extrapolating your male logic.
/r/seduction26/02/25 05:51 PM
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Women like to mess around. Still, you can make similar moves back or even try to make something happen on the spot. You don’t need to play the date game if you can create proper mood and circumstances right where you are.
/r/seduction26/02/25 07:56 AM
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I guess because it is associated with some silly tricks for kids? On the other hand, you can be also perceived as a passionate entertainer if you take a proper attitude of your job.
/r/seduction26/02/25 07:40 AM
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With so many potential options, women naturally gravitate towards partners that can provide them with extraordinarily strong emotions, that they can get nowhere else. You don't need to be douche necessarily, but it is certainly a good way to make a strong impression in a girl, making her feel things she potentially never felt before within our reserved, polite and law-obiding society. Treat it like some kind of a warmup game, you don't insult anyone, just rise the passion and provide all spectru…
/r/seduction24/02/25 08:04 AM
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Attraction is definitely not measured in a 0-1 system. Women often like to mess around, but it doesn't mean they feel like committing to anything. You can enjoy this silly game to some extent, just don't expect anything more serious or stable here, at least her behaviour indicates the opposite. Remember that women are different in many ways, and handling emotions is definitely one of these aspects. If you feel confused and bitter within, seek for better connection elsewhere, leave her be.
/r/seduction24/02/25 07:44 AM
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I guess you should change your expressions, don't say it like you are some kind of a royalty, but more in a funny and laidback way. After all, this is just a warmup play to elevate energy and increase sexual tension, make it very non-serious and focus on escalating things.
/r/seduction23/02/25 03:26 PM
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There are really no 100% accurate mind readers, especially if you don’t provide many details. You need to make your moves to find out, get closer to her, spend more time with each other one on one and improve your sexually attractive traits. Women may be very subtle with their signs, but on the other hand something should already happen throughout these 2 years. Shooting your shot is always a risk to some extent, either you bring it on or seek better option elsewhere.
/r/seduction23/02/25 07:15 AM
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No one can give you 100% guarantee, but it’s not even necessary for you to find out immediately. If you are interested, you can figure out opportunities to talk and spend more time with him, maybe something will flourish naturally.
/r/seduction23/02/25 07:04 AM
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Generally you need to open yourself to „take a risk” not to fulfill all wishes of another person. Remember that you can’t trigger proper feelings in a girl by doing that and relation, especially healthy one, is about balanced dynamics and two-way flow. Men often fall in this trap of apparent zero alternative, but if you can improve yourself to become sexually attractive male that knows how to handle interactions with women properly, much better partner may wait for you just around a corner.
/r/seduction23/02/25 06:55 AM
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Generally you don’t wanna jump out with sexual context out of the blue. Start with coming little closer, maintain eye contact longer, smile, get more direct and personal, introduce some casual touch, tease, spend some more time one on one etc. If she seems to enjoy getting more familiar, you can keep going, women also usually need some warmup play to open themselves to be more intimate.
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:28 AM
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A good habit would be to take every opportunity you can to socialize and make interactions with beautiful women. Accept invitations, ask others about parties and meetings, make some casual chat with strangers. About your technique, you should start from scratch and build up from there. Come closer, take proper posture, get eye contact, smile, these are no-brainers but already place good foundations for more direct and personal context. Generally improvement for seduction is a marathon, you take …
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:20 AM
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Next step then would be about some pleasurable and casual, but more personal stuff like leisure activities, social events, hobbies, plans, relations, food, music etc.
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:09 AM
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I guess good wingman is like a good friend, but he also needs to know how to handle interactions with women properly. He highlights your advantages, provides you with more opportunities, synergizes with you smoothly, boosts your self-esteem, appreciates your successes like they would be his own. It’s pretty sad that these are rare nowadays, I guess the main thing to recognize one is to be sincere with each other and choose people that want to be on the same side as you and keep up with you.
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:01 AM
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Back in the days, I was just casually following trends and intuitively choose what could fit good with me. The general point is not to be afraid to try out new styles and pay some attention to fancy clothes and accessories.
/r/seduction20/02/25 07:48 AM
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As long as you can use your free time to make connections, it's a really good idea. Trying out new things and situations is not only a great life motto, but also a very common aphrodisiac for women.
/r/seduction19/02/25 09:00 AM
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I think "having fun" is generally about putting yourself into that high energy and relaxed state, without stressing out to push through uncomfortable circumstances. Putting some work can also be a fun game, especially if it is something you enjoy doing and have decent results with. If you struggle to find motivation or you seem to fumble too often, maybe there is something wrong about your method, mindset, company, circumstances? Analyse feedback to figure out a better way.
/r/seduction19/02/25 07:50 AM
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Practice your voicetone and body language in front of the mirror. You can give out compliments to strangers or get more familiar with your female friends. Generally the best practice is your direct experience, you just need a warmup and some framework, and then you grind your technique with real circumstances feedback.
/r/seduction19/02/25 07:41 AM
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How about making some casual interactions for a warmup, testing the waters and practicing your technique? You don't need to instantly commit to anything or set clear context. If you sense promising odds and have decent opportunity, bring it on. If you feel there is something interesting happening between you and the girl, you can escalate bolder and further next time.
/r/seduction19/02/25 07:31 AM
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Generally you just wanna have fun with conversation. Touch pleasurable topics, crack some jokes, get to know each other, play some silly games. There is really no reason to extract any information per se, it's more like a warmup and excuse to get closer with the girl and initiate physical contact. If she doesn't cooperate in any way and she is pushing away from getting physical, it would be better to seek for a more compatible target.
/r/seduction19/02/25 07:23 AM
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If you don't like such games, just try to ignore her or politely tell her it directly if she doesn't catch the lead. If you do like such games, you can try to take some escalation step on the spot, get closer to her, maintain eye contact, use deep voice, touch her in friendly way, tease her.
/r/seduction18/02/25 02:17 PM
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If you had a break, it's only natural to need some warmup to remember proper frame and body language. Start from scratch, pay more attention to your body and surroundings, get eye contact, smile, have some casual conversations. If you get into that high energy state and feel the flow, you can get more bold with your game.
/r/seduction18/02/25 11:38 AM
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I guess you just need to take things slower, keep escalating, but set some realistic milestones. One step at a time. Get through some significant situations together, get involved in activities that will warm up the body and will potentially require some physical contact. It is in a good tone to give her some time and don't hurry the progress, but at the same time you should opt for balanced dynamics. If your needs remain unfulfilled for a long time and she doesn't seem like figuring out her iss…
/r/seduction18/02/25 09:37 AM
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I would say it's rather expected for the shy and inexperienced girl to control the pace and slow things down unnecessarily. It's not like you are stagnant in the escalation, so if only you can put more effort and patience in progressing relation with her, you can slowly but surely get to the full sexual experience, most likely. Otherwise, just be clear and settle things politely and gently, being incompatible is a natural and pretty common thing.
/r/seduction18/02/25 08:54 AM
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It's better to focus on understanding and grinding your own mindset, if you mindlessly copy someone's ideas you will most likely lose the frame and context rather sooner than later.
/r/seduction17/02/25 03:27 PM
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It's always a good idea if you can make progress of your relation in some way. Have you thought of some general plan to make something happen? Concert is surely a fine warmup and elevates the energy, but your date also needs to appeal to your mutual dynamics.
/r/seduction17/02/25 10:08 AM
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Yeah, sound is a really powerful tool to switch proper buttons in a girl. Also, deep voicetone is often associated with a state just after sexual intercourse, which is obviously very congruent with the context you wanna introduce.
/r/seduction17/02/25 10:05 AM
2

Yeah, that remembered me about one of my mottos when I was still very active in dating market: "Always look good, because why not?"
/r/seduction16/02/25 08:57 AM
2

Dry texting is not really some serious red flag, if it is quite important to you, you can politely and gently mention your expectations, maybe things will change. Otherwise you can simply tolerate it, just don't put much effort and time into something that doesn't work out well. Or call her instead of texting. If you can't get over it, move on, you had your brief adventure, maybe you are just not compatible in the long run and there is no reason to struggle to artificially sustain it if it is me…
/r/seduction16/02/25 08:55 AM
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At least you got some valuable life lesson there. You need to improve yourself and expand your opportunities, being desperate makes you oblivious and it is the first step to disappointment and bitterness.
/r/seduction15/02/25 08:00 AM
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I guess it was broadly introduced as an answer to kinda "depedestal" women that have their expectations and ego elevated really high due to all validation and attention they get from society and desperate guys. It also introduces strong emotions and tension between man and woman, it's not really meant to offend anyone, but rather drag them down and engage in real interactions between imperfect human beings.
/r/seduction14/02/25 08:59 AM
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It all sounds promising, but you won’t get much further just by trying to figure out her feelings, you need to take initiative and make your moves to become gradually more connected and intimate.
/r/seduction14/02/25 07:28 AM
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Well, I guess you can show how you can handle irrational emotions. Technically you did nothing wrong, at least in your perspective, but you should also consider that someone may get offended by you unintentionally. You can admit that you might have put your toe across the border and say something nice for a change. It heavily depends on the context, I would just discourage your from going into extremes with getting too apologetic and humble or getting even more cocky and self-oriented. Positive …
/r/seduction13/02/25 06:51 PM
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It's fine, but in terms of developing your sexual dynamics it was not really a fortunate incident, may be perceived as sign of insecurity. Try to exert more masculine energy in your interactions next time if you want to introduce some potential romantic context.
/r/seduction13/02/25 12:04 PM
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I would advise not to focus so much on details, but on making progress. It's not like clever response will take you further, but response that takes things further. "Ok, we can maybe do something about it". And proceed with the interaction to make something going. Anyways, it's probably still not too late, you can contact them and ask to spend some time together casually.
/r/seduction12/02/25 01:02 PM
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I believe for many guys the main issue is that improving themselves to get decent partner will take much more effort, stress, resources, time than it may be worth it in the end. If you neglected developing sexually attractive traits, learning to handle interactions with women or just got very unlucky with genetical lottery, dating may be perceived as a really big hassle and harsh challenge. But still, nothing is too hard if you can divide it into small steps and be determind and patient enough t…
/r/seduction12/02/25 10:19 AM
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Well, I think you are doing pretty good, I guess maybe your a bit desperate/needy attitude may sabotage you the most. Don't play around the bush too long, don't get too fancy, if connection is there and mood is pretty elevated, you can get more direct about spending more time together. If you just keep waiting and playing, you will get lost in your own game eventually. Also, if she is playing the card of controlling the escalation, you should also keep it within your own frame "Oh, that sounds l…
/r/seduction11/02/25 09:36 AM
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Contrary to men, whole woman's body is erogenous zone. Make good use of it, tease, be playful, mix up different techniques. Also, along with various kinds of touching, you should remember about close proximity, deep eye contact and voicetone. This is a very standard recipe to be perceived as a close romantic partner, not just some guy out there.
/r/seduction10/02/25 12:37 PM
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Can you try playing whoever you want to be, like an actor? Generally you should realise that women may perceive gender dynamics differently and desire things which may be completely incongruent with your man's perspective. You need to experiment, process feedback and grind your technique. You also wanna focus on quality over quantity. Push limits and barriers in the interaction, just a little bit in the beginning. Focus directly on what women want, don't think of it as changing yourself but upgr…
/r/seduction10/02/25 10:53 AM
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Either way, if the conversation is annoying you and you seem to struggle to get on the same page, it is very probable to be a waste of time anyways. The concept is that she should want to meet you, place and circumstances are just a background, making a fuss about it is really in bad tone and suspicious.
/r/seduction09/02/25 10:48 AM
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I guess first step would be about stepping out from stranger's vibe, that safe and kind aspect in your conversation must be kept at medium level. Elaborating about school/job stuff is also the territory of parents concern, which is naturally completely asexual, most of the time. Start with some slightly uncommon but pleasurable topics like leisure activities, food, current events, relations etc. and you can move gradually towards more personal and direct stuff, depending on girl's reactions. Rem…
/r/seduction09/02/25 10:35 AM
1

One-time thing is not bad at all. Respect her attitude. Maybe it will change, but definitely not by force.
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:48 AM
1

Have you read any seduction theory yet? You should work on your body language, keep escalating your physical intimacy gradually, improve your sexually attractive traits, trigger emotions in your conversations etc. There are plenty of mindsets and methods to be tested and implemented in your own style. And remember that you won't get laid with just blabbering, you should potentially ask the girl to spend some time together if you feel there are good odds you can be a match. You need to make steps…
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:46 AM
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It's like a standard last resistance for women. They don't want to be perceived as easy. Keep it laidback and playful, maybe just take one step backwards. "I know, you are really a noble, reserved lady", "Yeah, that would be very very indecent", "I know, but you are so sexy". It's very common that you will get there anyway, but she just needs to figure out her excuse.
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:41 AM
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It feels like you still may be lacking in reading the room, escalating properly and handling different type of situations. It's very normal in the beginning. You can read some seduction theory and test different mindsets and methods in practice, or maybe simply take your interactions little slower and work with good odds. It's common thing to fumble when you are inexperienced, but don't get discouraged, you should get there pretty soon.
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:32 AM
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Personally I prefer your kind of attitude, maybe because I am not really keen on direct cold approach. You may miss on some uncommon situations when girl's body language is communicating disinterest while direct suggestion can magicaly change her mind, but on the other hand in most cases you will save yourself going through a bitter rejection. Your choice.
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:27 AM
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Don't get attached instantly or appear too needy, keep in touch, and ask her soon on a next date, where you can escalate your intimacy and connection much more.
/r/seduction08/02/25 07:19 AM
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Are you able to make simple casual conversation with a stranger girl? You don’t need to figure out her feelings or instantly ask her out, take just that one step towards your goal. And then another. It’s not like she will fly away the next day, but also waiting for her to take initiative is both very doubtful and not good for your potential romantic dynamics.
/r/seduction07/02/25 10:25 AM
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It is obviously a big turn on for women if the guy is very confident in himself and exerting his power and competence, but not to the point of being delusional.
/r/seduction07/02/25 10:19 AM
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I guess you can hint it again, gently and politely. I would not worry too much about it, she is the one that pushes through your frame, right? Unless we don't consider adult women as responsible adults, then maybe you should rescue her from herself. Btw, it's not really a theme of seduction.
/r/seduction06/02/25 10:52 AM
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It's a common thing in life to regret the past, but we can only make sure to do better in the future.
/r/seduction06/02/25 10:28 AM
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Some would say heart is meant to be broken. Are you sure you don't want to pursue something more serious there? On the other hand, if you didn't commit to anything, don't feel bad for keeping your frame. It can be both valuable experience for you and her, just on the bitter side.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:41 AM
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Sometimes they say they would like to repeat the experience, but the next day their emotions turn out differently. It's more like a nice way for a closure, don't pay too much attention to it. Texting is one of the lowest commitment channel. Instead focus on triggering emotions, keeping the tension and valuing your real life milestones and decisions.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:27 AM
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It is very normal to catch feelings if you share such great moments, but you should still keep it real. Texting is not a high-commitment channel and you still didn't get through that many situations together and didn't share that many unique experiences to create a deeper connection. Therefore, you should rather focus on real life milestones, texting is something that can be exercised with a platonic friend as well.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:20 AM
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I guess if things would turn really nasty, you can change your place, right? But why would you expect the darkest scenario? Even if it won't work out, can you keep it cool like a responsible adult for the time being? Emotional hangover is definitely not something pleasurable or brief, but it is also kinda inevitable and natural thing of human relations and life overall.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:13 AM
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I guess the thing is to continue with a tone that you are already close with each other. Suggest some warmup activities or a private space where you can easily get even more intimate with each other.
/r/seduction06/02/25 09:09 AM
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On the other hand, your reaction was legit because she was blatantly toying with your emotions and disrespecting your time and effort. If you apologize, it can feel like she did nothing wrong. It won't hurt, but I would stick with my judgment, you should not really get humble if you were right, unless the other person also wants to reduce the tension. Just focus in different direction, it is done anyways.
/r/seduction06/02/25 08:52 AM
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Texting is just about introducing some positive emotions, connection, having good time together with a brief conversation. Leave proper escalation for real life circumstances. Don't feel too pressured, short, simple, relatable texting usually turns out the best. Start from scratch, have some pleasant conversation, ask her to spend some time together.
/r/seduction05/02/25 10:03 AM
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Just like with everything that is new for you. No one really taught you these things. And handling gender interactions properly is not that easy, women are "a bit" different, you need to embrace your strong emotions, use proper words and proper body language. The rule of a thumb is to start from scratch, get little closer, hold eye contact little longer, smile, make some casual chit chat. If you master that and warm up enough, next step is just about spotting good opportunity.
/r/seduction05/02/25 09:59 AM
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Open body language is one thing, but it is usually not enough to seal the deal, guy would need to pay attention and look for such signals. If he's not, you should approach him with just any case, for him to take closer look at you. If that still doesn't move anything forward, or it may be only one time opportunity, you need to be direct, at least take some contact number. Guys are not really in a constant hunt for a partner, you need to take slight initiative sometimes, making eye contact is ver…
/r/seduction05/02/25 09:46 AM
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What about the other side? Maybe women don't really expect you to do that? Do you process the consequences of your behaviour, whether it serves you and others positively?
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:58 AM
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Most women like to be dominated by a partner, it's our natural genetical and social conditioning. Just remember about proper mental and physical warmup and escalate your passion gradually. Play push and pull, talk to her, mix up different techniques. In terms of feeling special, I would rather keep it real, first time is usually not just like we imagined it and often gets into some issues. But as long as it will be with someone she has feelings for and someone that can positively embrace any out…
/r/seduction04/02/25 10:09 AM
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If you can't make a leap, take a step. Come closer to the guy, take open posture, speak up, look at him just for a little bit. Anxiety may be an obstacle or a signpost.
/r/seduction04/02/25 10:05 AM
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Use simple words. Escalate things on actual meeting, keep your best cards for a proper real life interaction. Texting should be like an appetiser, sharp, short, and meaningful. You can get better at texting by taking example from people that excel in it, but generally you can just focus on measures that you have best performance with.
/r/seduction03/02/25 01:11 PM
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There is probably no perfect rule, sometimes you will make mistakes in recognizing interest or disinterest, and it's ok. Pay attention to girl's body language and even if you seem to get mixed signals, ask for some contact number or insta-date, at least you will get clarification. I guess the rule of a thumb in gender interaction would be about you to keep in mind she may not be interested and for the girl to be clear if she doesn't enjoy the process. Rest is just a matter of taking chances and …
/r/seduction03/02/25 09:59 AM
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I guess you should improve your methods and mindset. Don't get attached too soon. Train recognizing signs of interest and disinterest. Improve your sexually attractive traits so you can naturally expand your opportunities and rise odds. Realise that dating market is pretty tough for a guy that didn't really pay attention to attract or handle gender interactions properly, but success may be just around a few steps of development. Even PUAs have multitude of failure cases, but they understand that…
/r/seduction03/02/25 09:31 AM
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I would guess it's rather a cognitive bias of men that are not really yet experienced with seduction. Obviously there may be individuals that abuse knowledge for their shallow purposes, but generally the main point is about understanding female's nature and diving deep and improving masculine-feminine dynamics. This is rather about positively reprogramming yourself than creating something fake.
/r/seduction03/02/25 09:25 AM
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Don't make a big deal about it. You can suggest going on a date on Valentine's Day just for pleasant atmosphere, don't make it seem like it changes anything about your relation.
/r/seduction03/02/25 09:18 AM
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Spend some nice time together, feeling out each other and getting little more personal and ask her, casually and innocently, to spend time outside of work circumstances, where it would be much more suitable to introduce intimate and sexual context.
/r/seduction02/02/25 08:31 AM
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Just like others are suggesting, don't be apologetic for approaching and having some small talk, it should not be that big of a deal. It creates pretty poor dynamics for sexual escalation, just say it once if you feel you need to. In terms of a conversation, there is really no point in taking too much of girl's time for some random chit chat, if you don't have any more ideas or flow gets a bit clogged, you should rather conclude the interaction by taking a contact number or suggesting insta-date…
/r/seduction02/02/25 08:28 AM
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I guess spending long time with a girl on pleasurable activities, just two of you. And don’t forget about long and wild pounding session.
/r/seduction02/02/25 07:57 AM
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Big aspect of being mysterious is not bragging about yourself too much, but just giving some lead here and there. Better focus on actual point in life. Let the girl search up your personal information, you should keep cards to yourself and only reveal them in proper moment.
/r/seduction02/02/25 07:49 AM
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It's a very common theme recently, that women lose interest after the first date. My take is that in current era of dating apps and getting new potential sexual partner just with few clicks, you need to stand out and make proper impression within pretty short period of time. Otherwise, if there is nothing too exciting there, girl may turn to next potential partner with minimal effort from her side. Therefore, think how you can present your attractive qualities already on the first date, whether …
/r/seduction01/02/25 11:09 AM
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Keep improving your sexually attractive traits, expand your opportunities to meet attractive women naturally, read seduction theory and test various mindsets and methods in practice. General point is that it takes time for you to improve yourself, change your behaviour and get experience that will allow you to handle interaction properly, start with coming closer, getting little eye contact, dressing better, taking proper posture, having some small talk with strangers. There is really no magic t…
/r/seduction01/02/25 10:58 AM
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I guess chasing would be about putting much effort into getting closer to someone that is desperately trying to run away or take distance. Don't do that, make your moves, but stay aware of the potentially lost case. Remember that your judgment may be heavily distorted by hormonal high and better match may be just around a corner. It's not worth to put your feelings, effort, time, resources into risky bet, when you eventually get confronted with harsh reality, it will hurt. Women are not too conc…
/r/seduction01/02/25 10:16 AM
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It's a thing of handling emotions and different circumstances, which naturally comes with experience. Brute forcing things is hardly ever a way to go. Start from scratch, get closer, maintain eye contact, smile, approach to have some casual chat or give a compliment. After you warm up and get into proper mood, it should be much easier to spot promising odds, present proper attitude and figure out good interaction plan. Relaxed and high-energy, if you are anxious and frightened your approach will…
/r/seduction31/01/25 10:53 AM
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Yes, you are overthinking this. It's just your relation would be slightly different than among peers, but it doesn't mean it would not be proper or valuable. And women often seek qualities which are presented by men older than them.
/r/seduction31/01/25 10:38 AM
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Unless she presents high interest already in the beginning, I think you should rather introduce some special quality already on a first meeting. If a girl has other potential partners to consider, she will not be content with just generic talk and little escalation, it's like a standard thing. It doesn't mean you need to sweat to get her approval, just don't wait too long with presenting some of your best qualities.
/r/seduction31/01/25 10:33 AM
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Well, I guess you should reach your desired state with different means. Introduce regular exercising, healthy diet, surround yourself with positive and supportive people, take care of your problems, practice meditation or relaxation techniques. In general you will obviously not reach the same performance like with the booster, but do you really want to form relations that are only bearable when you on your toes? You should rather opt for becoming the best version of yourself and naturally attrac…
/r/seduction30/01/25 10:37 AM
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It obviously comes with experience, but what's also very important is about diving in your feelings and getting relaxed. If you are too pressured for certain outcome, you may not notice better opportunities or some subtle signals to set yourself onto proper direction. Take a breath, have fun and let it come to you. Handling human interactions without a rigid guidebook is where unique experience and relation can blossom.
/r/seduction30/01/25 10:29 AM
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You should rather pay more attention to her actual decisions and actions, not words. Make moves to escalate physical and mental intimacy between you, if she doesn't oppose, she probably shares your interest. If she makes excuses and sabotages your efforts, she probably doesn't have proper feelings for you.
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:49 PM
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Remember about creating opportunities to escalate your physical intimacy. Don't focus on extracting information, but triggering emotions and looking for synergy. Also, a good way to avoid getting into generic conversation and situations is about seeking for unique experience, use some spontaneous ideas, dive into your feelings and look around to fish for some potent twists in your interaction. Take some risk, there will be no second date if your meeting will not stand out in some way.
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:46 PM
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"Oh yes, tell me more".
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:37 PM
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It's not like you need to postpone your answering, but sometimes you can be just busy with something else and don't want to distract yourself, sometimes you don't know what to say so you can take your time with reply. And don't invest too much in texting, it's really low connection and low commitment channel.
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:52 PM
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Personally I would pass on agreeing to such dynamics, girl should like you for you. Technically it may be just innocent misconception from the girl about proper dating code but it may be also a meal/gift scam. It's not like bringing her gift will hurt too much, but it may be also the opportunity for you to establish and confirm new perspective on healthy relation.
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:27 PM
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Make friends and get yourself into social parties.
/r/seduction28/01/25 11:01 AM
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I think it's very healthy attitude to seek for something meaningful and valuable. The thing is most guys that were not really into dating and seduction have little clue about their actual value, didn't care about developing their social skills and general attractive traits. If you have abundance of potential options, you will naturally dive deep in your dreams and amibitons. On the other hand, for some guys it is just about finding decent woman for a girlfriend or wife.
/r/seduction28/01/25 10:50 AM
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You don't try, you never win. But forcefully pushing is hardly ever a good strategy, you should analyse the feedback and utilize different approaches until you find some new breakthrough.
/r/seduction28/01/25 10:35 AM
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Sometimes you may be just not in the mood, especially if you have some personal issues or problems in life. If you want to change your attitude, start from scratch, make eye contact, smile, come closer. Then you can potentially decide for some direct interaction. Being social usually requires for you to be happy and high-energy, if you are going through harsh episode in your life, you will hardly ever feel the urge to open yourself to others. Take care of that first.
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:25 AM
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Maybe not most, but definitely there are more impulsive, neurotic and emotionally unstable women than men, from my experience. I think it's mostly the matter of their biochemical wiring, don't get too serious about it. But, as for your case, I believe that sometimes such anger issues in women may stem from their bottled up problems, often connected with your relationship. If you spot that she becomes very sensitive in negative way very often, you should talk it through with her and provide her w…
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:22 AM
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Generally you should rather seek for another target that you will be better match with, getting multiple lame excuses is not something a self-respectful man would bear with. But still, at least you should try to keep things positive, give her some sample of your cooking, maybe she will pay her gratitude somehow as a friend (just don't fall to make it regularly without any reciprocation from her side). Also, remember that you are under influence of her pheromones and hormonal high, try to avoid f…
/r/seduction26/01/25 10:12 AM
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I would not consider this mild at all, you should rather go with something like "I like your dress". It slightly indicates that it looks good on her body, which indicates that her body is the main thing of the observation. Of course if you are already in an intimate mood you can go with something more direct "This dress looks really good on you". But don't open up a girl with being blunt about sex, it's pretty weird.
/r/seduction26/01/25 08:14 AM
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And what do you have to lose? If you want to text the girl again, just do it. The point is that you should embrace the feedback that comes with it, if she left you on read, the most common reason is that she lost interest in pursuing anything more. Double texting won't really change anything, unless she made up her mind after her emotional state changed. Don't take it so seriously, but at the same time treat it for what it is. Don't try to brute force her response with being persistent, but rath…
/r/seduction26/01/25 08:05 AM
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I would guess you should appeal to primal features of sexual attraction. Throw yourself out there to get lots of experience, read seduction theory regularly and check out how successful guys go around getting girls and what actions/decisions girl made in terms of sexual interactions. The thing is there are lots of misconceptions and wishful thinking in social discourse about gender dynamics and you should become as straightforward and down to earth with it as you can, think about that steoretypi…
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:48 AM
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I guess it's the matter of grinding that laidback and positive attitude. Being tough and serious is mainly required in critical situations, and these are not happening very often. I know plenty of guys that have their life around training sports and they are usually full of energy and heart of the party, maybe it's the matter that you put that label on yourself or someone indoctrinated it upon you? Try to realise that you don't need to act too serious about life and if you rarely made an effort …
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:42 AM
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I guess it’s the matter of proper mindset. There is no point talking about you too much if it doesn’t get you closer to become more intimate. Quality over quantity. Introduce some popular themes like school, friends, relations, hobbies, food, gaming etc. and check if girl would open up to you about any of it. Second thing is about moving your attention to your body more. Remember to stay close, take proper posture, look girl deep in the eyes, smile and take any opportunity to break touch barrier…
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:48 AM
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Better bio and much better photos to get more matches. About your texting game, priorities are pretty much the same as with normal conversation, you wanna trigger emotions, make your exchanges short, sharp, simple, unpredictable, teasing, and eventually escalating to move your fun and games for real life circumstances. Also, if you know nothing, you should read everything.
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:39 AM
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You need to provide more details man for people to point out your issue. Maybe you are not escalating intimacy? Maybe your banter is weak or creepy? Generally you can autocorrect your own mistakes by comparing it with seduction theory or game of successful guys.
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:36 AM
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You can talk it through directly with her, right? There is really no point in making her guess how she should behave in this case.
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:28 AM
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It feels like you got the blessing of looks, but not the mindset of “natural”. I guess the answer is the same as for every other guy, you should read seduction theory and test it in practice or take example from other attractive guys that seem to know how to charm women. Once you got to understand female nature, you will navigate your dynamics automatically.
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:25 AM
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Think of this rather as a trait not to be available and agreeable all the time. If you have other important matters, don’t check your phone. If you don’t know what to write for now, you can take your time. If you don’t like how conversation is going, you can cut it for some time. Keep your involvement congruent with current mood and dynamics. Leave the best for real life meeting and physical escalation. Don’t play as her texting girlfriend.
/r/seduction25/01/25 08:20 AM
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Your raw, natural attitude, without all cultural nonsenses and conventions that have been forced upon you by your parents, school, friends, television etc.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:52 PM
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Nice guys usually struggle with triggering strong emotions in women, they are too focused on keeping things right and balanced. Just realise women don't require for you to be kind and polite to them, at least not all the time, give it a try and release your inner beast.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:40 PM
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It's fine as long as you possess different masculine qualities that she is attracted to, and your preference for introvert attitude does not make you incapable of dealing with life challenges and changing yourself if necessary.
/r/seduction24/01/25 06:37 PM
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You don't need to think of relations in 0 or 1 system. Sometimes you will encounter dynamics that best stay in such confusing middle, and you should embrace it. And yes, generally it's not healthy to invest your feelings in something so unstable.
/r/seduction24/01/25 10:20 AM
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Don't wait long time, just don't pressure yourself to text back instantly and don't invest too much in texting game. But you should definitely keep in touch, in most cases.
/r/seduction24/01/25 09:58 AM
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Generally it's about stepping out from typical stranger interaction scenario and presenting sexually attractive traits. Also, as I mentioned, taking a contact number should be perceived as necessary to continue what is already going on between you and the girl. You can start by exerting proper body language, taking proper posture, looking deep in the eyes, staying close, smiling. Give girl some time to evaluate your attractive appearance qualities. Instead of being polite and reserved like in a …
/r/seduction23/01/25 08:03 PM
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This may be indeed some teasing challenge for your potential relation to kickstart, but personally I believe it's more the matter of guys just going straight for getting contact number without establishing any ground and natural escalation steps. You take the number, because you wanna reach to her later to keep going with your interaction, it should be obvious and even stated clearly in words. Whereas I spotted plenty of cases when question "Why?" would be very much justified, because there was …
/r/seduction23/01/25 06:57 PM
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Look her deep in the eyes and pay close attention to her to potentially absorb all indicators of interest. If girl is indeed interested in you, she will often get red or laugh or get shy by getting so much close attention from you. Also, you don't need to instantly jump to romantic context and open with any feelings, just suggest, casually and innocently, spending some more time together. Seduction should work like snowball.
/r/seduction23/01/25 09:52 AM
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It's very much possible that in real life circumstances your interactions would be much better, especially if she opens up to you at some point. If not, you can always end the meeting prematurely. It's always some experience for you, learn to be gentle and polite if she doesn't meet your expectations.
/r/seduction23/01/25 09:45 AM
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Don’t let the emotional high and mood dry out, you should keep in touch to keep that connection and sexual tension on board and figure out proper followup sooner than later. Remember that girl may get offended and disappointed in you if you let her through emotional downfall and be uncertain for too long. Emotional connection is really unstable in the beginning.
/r/seduction23/01/25 09:09 AM
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You can try to guess what’s their optimal ground, making some brief assumptions about job, school, food, dreams, hobbies etc. Don’t try to go out with some elaborative stories or ideas, but keep energy high with short summaries, potent keywords and expressive body language. Balance is very important factor especially if you are seeking a deeper relationship, keep things in the right tone, don’t get carried away on the expense of getting oblivious or too self oriented.
/r/seduction23/01/25 08:56 AM
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You can exert sexual tension by introducing proper body language, take proper posture, stay close, look girl deep in the eyes, smile. You can also go with mild sexual innuendos, or just be more direct, more personal, trigger emotions, tease, appeal to your mutual dynamics. And don’t forget that sexual context is (almost) always in the air between attractive man and woman, the point is to not deny it by becoming too formal, too reserved, too serious, too mannered etc.
/r/seduction23/01/25 08:44 AM
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You can do more avoiding than you think if that's your conscious choice. Your current state is a textbook example of pheromonal charm, just try to stay away from it.
/r/seduction22/01/25 01:51 PM
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Minimize your involvement and don't invest too much time and effort in interactions with her. Also, just look for another, maybe even better target. Remember that your current judment is distorted by hormonal storm and her pheromones, keep that in mind and don't put yourself into more conditioning.
/r/seduction22/01/25 12:15 PM
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Personally I am not so fazed about it, it's our natural genetical conditioning. The point is to keep clear borders.
/r/seduction22/01/25 09:48 AM
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Why do you think conversion should be higher? In current reality of dating apps, women can simply “test out” different guys for sex or potential relationship, without committing themselves for average. What I could suggest is to provide some unique experience for the girl, for her to doubt she will find qualities like yours somewhere else. If you want to make girl attached and open to you, you should create that extraordinary connection with going through some special and important situations to…
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:37 AM
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Just don’t try to conduct any sort of specific conversation. Short exchanges, teasing her appetite, provide spark of something interesting or exciting. And end them a bit prematurely.
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:28 AM
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Generally you should remember about keeping healthy balance of involvement. If there is not much going on between both of you yet, making sacrifices and investing significant resources can be very easily perceived as being insecure of your value and putting woman in a place of ultimate judge, which they usually subconsciously don’t like at all in sexual partner.
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:23 AM
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It’s very natural to misplay your game while you are still learning and discovering seduction world and still fresh on the improvement path. With experience your success ratio should rise significantly, but also by not getting involved into hopeless or too bothersome cases.
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:18 AM
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I think it’s a positive effect overall. What do you consider more rewarding and meaningful, reaching the biggest score number, disregarding the value and quality of these encounters, or collecting memorable and significant sexual relations and experiences. For me, second attitude feels far more admirable. In terms of sexual tension itself, you can try out many techniques and get involved in situations that can potentially release sexual potential in you and the girl, but you can do only as much …
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:16 AM
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It's very natural to run out of topics if you already have elaborated about everything couple of times. If you want to still deepen your connection you should rather turn to going through some important or unique situations together. Or maybe you relation simply run through expiry date and there is really no point in forcing things and keeping it artificially alive and instead you should rather put your focus and efforts in different direction?
/r/seduction21/01/25 11:16 AM
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Sometimes girls just look but don't feel like escalating things, or maybe they have a boyfriend anyway? Check out places that are more suited for random social interactions like bars, clubs, concerts. Unless you have some exceptional first impression features, cold approaching is a real numbers game, you need to get lucky.
/r/seduction21/01/25 11:03 AM
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Keep this mindset that you want to have sex with this girl and make gradual moves for you to get there. Keep coming closer, hold eye contact longer, introduce casual touch, become more direct, personal, closer to sexual sphere in your conversations.
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:50 AM
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That's why it's very important to grind your lifestyle, so you can be happy, high-energy, resourceful and surrounded with people that appreciate you. One of the best aphrodisiacs for women.
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:44 AM
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Read between the lines, she just doesn't want for things to get too intimate too quick. You can respond with something like "This is exactly the purpose of a date. And I want to get to know you better too".
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:42 AM
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Very important concept to remember in our modern times. There are multitude of other romantic options for girls just few clicks away, you need to stand out and seize opportunities. No one will advocate for you, with life and dating you need to get your goals with your own hands. There are methods and practices out there for you to learn and use effectively, just don't set for average and don't overestimate your novice judgment.
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:38 AM
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Generally you wanna be clear and straightforward with yourself. Do you have body that women may appreciate? Do you have stamina to use life to the fullest and take care of someone besides yourself? Can you pleasure the girl to immense peaks? Do you have resources to plan and embrace the future? Do you have proper support from people around you, that will help you in need, empower you and create pleasant atmosphere. If not, do something about it. If you have something else that you are proud of a…
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:30 AM
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There are plenty of motives and ideas that you can try out, but generally it's about your qualities of paying attention to mood, emotions, non-verbal communication and still staying creative even if you have big experience and successes with previous cases. Such unique and natural approach usually bears better results than non-emotional script and provides better experience for both of the sides. Don't think of seduction as some exam for which you study and pass, think about empowering yourself …
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:20 AM
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Approach anxiety often stems from bad plan, bad mindset or poor odds for success from subconscious evaluation. The point is to acknowledge your emotions and try to change something to potentially feel better odds and less stress. For example, if you feel anxious about approaching girl for a pickup, try to approach her just for a few casual exchanges, without necessarily pushing for anything more. In the meantime, if you feel girl may exert some interest in you, you can turn your casual approach …
/r/seduction21/01/25 09:06 AM
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It may be a very unexpected opinion about something, it may be high quality and unique escalation moves, very unexpected approach to getting to know her. Pick something where you think you excel among other guys and show it to the girl.
/r/seduction20/01/25 02:13 PM
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Technically you don’t need to deal with any kind of explanation or clever motives. Simply suggest doing some activities together. If girl approves such opportunity, where you can potentially make your moves and spend time one on one, it’s a very good sign of her interest, you don’t need to involve feelings or get any clearance, create opportunities, escalate your intimacy step by step and let the girl simply let you or not let you do it.
/r/seduction20/01/25 11:40 AM
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Being courageous in the meaning of blindly forcing things towards almost certain rejection is just stupid. You should be smart about your game. If you feel there are positive odds and well fit plan, you just need that one spark of motivation. Instead of pushing against your emotions, try to analyze situation deeper, expand your opportunities, improve your qualities, learn small step moves that don’t require for you to pressure the girl and be blunt with your intentions. Remember that almost all …
/r/seduction20/01/25 11:31 AM
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Generally you wanna provide quality that would be unusual to find in another guy. Don’t snooze with gradual escalation, disappointment and impatience is a one step from bouncing away for a girl. On the other hand, if girl would pull away so easily for another guy, self-respectful man would not pay any more attention for such uncertain case. Fish for that extraordinary connection that will make other candidates irrelevant, but not at all cost.
/r/seduction20/01/25 11:23 AM
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I meant you can use this money you suggested for some seduction booster, and advices you will get for free from me.
/r/seduction20/01/25 01:26 AM
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I can give my hot take, you can use money to buy good clothes and perfume :)
/r/seduction19/01/25 09:36 AM
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Don't make it awkward and don't make a big fuss about it. Innocently suggest doing activities at your place, or just any other reason to come there. Women usually need that logical argument to undermine their conditioned sexual defense, but once your get comfortable and close, it's just the matter of letting go and give in to natural instincts and hormones.
/r/seduction19/01/25 08:23 AM
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First thing, you should not be too worried about ducking this up, it will make you more nervous, oblivious and outcome is not even entirely up to you. Until you arrive to a moment when you feel like asking her out on a proper date, keep in touch with her frequently but don't prolong your interactions too much. Keep your exchanges simple, sharp, short, relatable, trigger lots of emotions, have fun, touch positive and exciting topics. Generally you want to keep energy high, check if you vibe well …
/r/seduction19/01/25 08:14 AM
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It’s always a good idea to try imagining how you see progress with your relation to unfold. If you can’t do that, it kinda speaks for itself, that maybe your relation won’t develop and inevitably break down at some point due to repetitiveness and dullness. Don’t forget that you may always try to find another potential option that would be a better bet to allocate your feelings, time, effort, resources.
/r/seduction18/01/25 08:16 AM
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It’s a very standard principle for any seduction theory to assume that women’s inner system is different. There are many logical arguments for that, including social conditioning, hormonal activity, different biological structures, but generally I believe it all just comes down to experience. If you open your mind, you can recognize certain motives and viewpoints that keep repeating over and over again, to the point that it would be silly to assume they are accidental. Nowadays, men are bombarde…
/r/seduction18/01/25 07:51 AM
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Depends what you still want to do today. Depends what's your current mood and dynamics. Don't think of this as some kind of a test, women often put out some triggering words just for something to possibly happen. Don't treat it as a hurdle, but an opportunity to make something out of it. Also, sometimes it's just a time to go for her, leaving unexpectedly would be little awkward.
/r/seduction17/01/25 04:37 PM
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I think you might have assumed then that her talking about not having social media and then some was some subtle way of excuse, but in my experience girls often tend to roll out some random topics for little reason, but still expect you to get to the point in the end. For you to not pressure her too much you should still stay polite and gentle, but this time more obvious, if she keeps getting around the thing again you can now easily assume she is avoiding confrontation and disappointing you.
/r/seduction17/01/25 10:23 AM
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No, it was not necessarily a rejecting argument and you can still keep in touch with her. The thing is you should stay clear about your dynamics, if she doesn't have any social media, then polite followup could come like this "Ok, so, you wanna give me another contact way to you?" If you manage to make next casual interaction with this girl, you can come to it like this, if you feel she still may have some interest in you.
/r/seduction17/01/25 08:21 AM
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I've only read TLDR, the common point is that if girl is backing away a little, you should not reply to it with pushing more. You can't convince someone to have feelings for you. Sometimes your love story ends after first date, even if it was good, but it was maybe not something extraordinary to look further into. Keep improving yourself, keep expanding your opportunities, you can't go wrong with that, even if girl decides eventually to keep with you. Self-respectful guy won't push for relation …
/r/seduction17/01/25 08:09 AM
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You put your focus on the wrong aspect of the game, girl doesn't expect from her potential partner to go through interesting topics together, but create that extraordinary spark with specific emotions, tension, mystery, sexual attraction. You can talk about daily stuff, dreams, hobbys, food, geography, internet sites, games, whatever. Content does not really matter, just the result of the conversation, if you became connected somehow, if you developed the thing that is going between you, if you …
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:58 AM
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How about skipping the bullshit and going into spending some time with each other? Do you think you can get girl to love you by figuring out clever conversation topics? To begin with, it's far more important how you speak, which emotions do you trigger and how this is connected to your potential relation and dynamics. If you are interested in her, you need to set your eyes towards real life circumstances. Otherwise, you are just texting guy.
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:42 AM
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Apart from dating apps, there are other good, probably even better, ways of meeting naturally with attractive women. Attend social parties, join hobby groups, hit bars/clubs, go on a vacation trip. If you don't have friends, go get them, especially if you are still young. As it comes to cold approaching, it is very natural to feel anxious if your quest is about approaching a stranger girl and cleverly figure out a way to get into romantic context with her, especially if you don't have experience…
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:38 AM
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It feels like she is giving you a hint not to become too attached already. She is taking one step back to evaluate things, and you should do the same. It's healthy and keeps sexual tension and proper attraction dynamics. Texting someone right after the date, assuring about your feelings and certain followup is like screaming "I'm very needy". It is something that your mom would tell you to do, but she is not aware of man's point of view at all.
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:25 AM
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I guess if you keep that mindset, you wanna escalate your physical intimacy fast, don't bother too much about pursuing connection, don't give out much attention, don't put too much effort into it. Catching feelings is a natural thing when you get closer or empathise with someone, so you wanna minimize that. Also, don't put any notice about potential long term relationship, but at the same time try not to mislead women that clearly state about seeking something serious.
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:20 AM
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It's a common issue for men, they start to instantly pour their commitment once they feel option is available, probably from all this bottling up through long time without intimacy. Whereas women expect relation to be full of thrill, unpredictable twists, positively surprising, changing tempo, little uncertain, providing spectrum of emotions and rich story. We are different, don't forget that.
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:02 AM
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Even if you feel desperate, you can still pay attention to your actions and body language and make them however you want. Realize your emotions are only half of the equation, if you don’t meet girl’s expectations, they will stay unfulfilled. Make up your inner game in a way, that even if you are desperate and doubt your value, you can still make the girl satisfied.
/r/seduction15/01/25 06:16 AM
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Casual meeting doesn't hurt, but do you feel deal was dropped on first day or only day after? The thing is it's much easier to assume that you just don't click with each other or you are incompetent in terms of recognizing sexual attraction, rather than pushing things on the account of unfortunate circumstances.
/r/seduction14/01/25 08:17 AM
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You can’t keep woman by force, she may pledge you life love, but then better life love appears. If you want to keep the girl naturally, you need to go through some significant life situations together, reach new peaks, so other potential options would just not look promising to beat your current synergy.
/r/seduction14/01/25 06:47 AM
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Very common story, she was drunk and horny, you didn’t recognize her expectations, next day her emotional high dropped down significantly accompanied with disappointment. It will be tricky to frame it in other way than you are just not a good fit.
/r/seduction14/01/25 06:33 AM
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Sometimes in your regular life circumstances there is just no one appropriate. You can always try to expand your opportunities, ask friends to attend social parties, hit bars/clubs, get into hobby groups, practice cold approach or try out dating apps. If you wish for abundance, you need to say yes to life.
/r/seduction14/01/25 06:29 AM
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The thing is that you are totally denying this message. If you do so, they you will naturally get anxious and threatened when they inevitably return to the surface of consciousness. Instead, you should try to "negotiate", take some feedback from these thoughts and implement it to become better. Obviously women should not determine your value as a human being, but completely ignoring their perspective is not very reasonable. Balance yourself.
/r/seduction13/01/25 09:06 AM
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Proper body language is surely a big thing. Stay little closer, look girl in the eyes, smile, take proper posture, use slow and deep voice, casually show off your attractive masculine traits. In terms of conversation, you wanna become more personal with topics, more direct, less appropriate, including mild sexual topics. Also, sexual context is almost always in the air between man and woman, the thing is about not denying it by getting too formal, too reserved, too nice etc.
/r/seduction13/01/25 08:19 AM
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Learn to roll out your convictions gently and politely, even if their meaning seems to be far away from that. Especially with women, it’s really important to stand your ground and lead, but you don’t want to be perceived as threatening, carried away by emotions or spoiling the mood. Go the middle way if you can, if you can’t get to terms with someone for a long time, it is rather advised to terminate your contacts, instead of playing tug of war until someone bleeds to little purpose.
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:28 AM
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It’s not like that you need to tame it at all cost, but you need to realize there is also the other side that need to get a liking to you for things to happen. Your own feelings are not enough, therefore it’s recommended to pay attention and focus on present moment, instead of getting carried away by your hormonal ecstasy. Keep your judgment clear, control your breath, put your focus in your body.
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:16 AM
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It’s very important to conduct and enjoy every interaction with beautiful women, not only pushing for score or rejection. It will help you feel the mood and understand women’s nature a lot better. Keep that laidback and positive attitude.
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:12 AM
4

You need to take your seduction quest and improvement step by step. It’s not about making some perfect cut move and getting into her pants from talking about job and weather. Instead, try getting little closer, get more direct and personal, trigger emotions, look girl in the eyes, introduce some casual touch, show off your attractive traits, take care about proper body language, good clothes, smile, perfume. You can improve many aspects of your game even before you make any clear romantic intent…
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:08 AM
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It kinda feels like mood was not really there yet, to go blunt with sexual advances. Usually you want to get to her when you can clearly see she is all ready and begging. Therefore, don’t speed up your escalation if you don’t have to, take your time to keep coming closer, apply tension, tease, play push and pull.
/r/seduction12/01/25 08:57 AM
1

Just talking and going through regular activities is usually not enough. These are just a background, there should be something more, intimate going on between you, in terms of connection, sexual tension, triggered emotions. Women are rather looking for these extraordinary partners, rare specimen, if you didn’t provide anything of notice, there may be some other guy that can potentially make her feel things like no other.
/r/seduction12/01/25 08:51 AM
2

Sometimes you are just incompatible. You should enjoy interaction yourself, not feel pressured to prove anything. It takes experience to be able to handle different situations properly. Remember to build up your mindset and set clear orientation, it will help you navigate conversation and evaluate your progress. If you wanna get sexual with a girl, you need to apply tension, keep making your texting more personal, direct, closer to intimate topics, triggering lots of emotions. Then, you need to …
/r/seduction11/01/25 09:15 AM
1

Take care about her pleasure. Women need significant foreplay and mental comfort to cum. Warm up her whole body, whisper some dirty words, experiment with different sex techniques to find peaks of pleasure in her. Observe reactions or ask her.
/r/seduction11/01/25 09:04 AM
1

It means that you are inexperienced. Practice and dive deep into your desires. And communicate with your partner especially if he is not experienced too.
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:36 AM
1

Do you approach and interact with people regularly? If not, it is very natural to feel anxious if you want to make a leap from socially awkward to cold approaching beautiful women. For a start, you can simply approach to have some casual brief conversation without pushing or showing intent too much until you see girl reciprocates interest.
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:26 AM
1

I suggest to do your homework, check how women like to be touched, what is proper escalation ladder and common sex techniques. Usually being virgin is not a problem at all, as long as you have some idea what you are doing, watch girl's reactions and don't feel pity for yourself. Even if you do something awkward you should just brush it off or ask the girl how she would like to be caressed. It's very common that first time doesn't go as planned, including premature ejaculation or problems with er…
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:50 AM
1

I am very much aware of this connection, the only thing is about introducing it in a way not to be perceived too negatively.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:14 PM
4

You are as hot as big are emotions you can trigger. Obviously at the first glance it goes about your appearance, but you can potentially show so much more in the direct interaction.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:56 AM
1

You can trigger lots of emotions by conducting this scenario, which is surely the way to go. It feels a bit extreme, but I guess many women prefers it like that nowadays.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:45 AM
1

Don't feel pressured to be funny all the time, best humour stems from high energy mood and laidback atmosphere, give it time and space to come naturally. In this case, you can really say anything "Sorry to hear that, did you eat something good today?", "Good to hear it is not bad, how come?"
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:43 AM
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Well, maybe she doesn’t see you both as girlfriend and boyfriend or wife and husband as your lifestyle or characters are not aligned properly. I would say you should rather take an L, persuading her towards anything won’t change her feelings. I guess you can tell her that you felt that you would be a good couple, but apparently you were dreaming. The thing is it’s only the matter if she changes her mind and it is rather totally up to her and rather very improbable. Don’t give in to the common co…
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:51 AM
1

Well, it’s not like you can make something out of nothing. If you act only like a friend, something will only happen if girl takes an initiative for some reason, and this is rather a poor bet. If you want to go the middle way for now, you can observe potential indicators of interest, whether she may admire your masculine features, introduces mild sexual topics, gets touchy, wants to spend more time with you. You can also make a step move by coming little closer, getting little more personal, hol…
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:42 AM
1

It’s our natural genetical conditioning, locking eyes often indicated will for a confrontation. If you are aware of that, you should calibrate it in a way to not be perceived as threatening. Holding eye contact also introduce mild intimate connection, stay aware not to overdo it in the beginning. Start from scratch, maintain eye contact just for at least one second, remember about corresponding body language, give a bit of a smile. If you feel odds are better, there is high energy and girl seems…
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:27 AM
2

By giving her attention you are already showing first step of interest. The thing is you should pay attention and escalate things basing on girl’s reactions. If she seems to pull away, you should properly adjust and don’t push into scenario that she is not positively receptive towards.
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:17 AM
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I think you should rather form an opinion from a larger sample. It’s life, things are often going out of the pattern especially with a human factor involved and everyone is different. This guy clearly got carried away by his emotions, but I believe that guys that know a bit of seduction world would just excuse themselves for bothering you and wish you a good day.
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:08 AM
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Expand your opportunities to naturally interact with women. Even if you think you are decent in terms of your sexually attrative qualities, you should still keep improving them, women's interest rise exponentially. Surround yourself with people that support and empower you. Keep reading seduction theory.
/r/seduction06/01/25 09:33 AM
1

Depends on the initial mood, but you should definitely stay close to her, don't behave like you've just met.
/r/seduction06/01/25 09:21 AM
1

Yeah, just keep getting closer to her, hold eye contact longer, find some cozy place where you can get some intimate moments without feeling too awkward.
/r/seduction05/01/25 08:14 PM
16

My childhood friend really wanted to get laid and he recommended me to read some PUAs e-book. Then we started to learn and improve together and test theory in clubs and parties. Why? I guess we just both had high libido and desire for high quality knowledge.
/r/seduction05/01/25 08:31 AM
2

Well, it’s a common theme when girl wants to flick out from the interaction. If you don’t enjoy the circumstances, just learn to get yourself out from it smoothly. If she would like to get more intimate with you, she would rather not introduce someone else.
/r/seduction05/01/25 07:53 AM
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Even if she made her character n a certain way, she still carries her genetical conditioning, she likes to be touched in certain way and gets attracted to masculine qualities. Still, you need to make progress with your relation somehow, if she keeps denying even slight escalation and is not receptive to some potent ideas, it would put your dynamics in a bad spotlight, where she is completely in charge and your needs are just being dismissed. Sometimes people are just not compatible.
/r/seduction05/01/25 07:40 AM
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Don’t wait till the end of the date to make your move. Also, it’s a good idea to end your meeting a bit prematurely, to part ways still in high energy state and with some positive hunger for more, placing good foundations for the future.
/r/seduction05/01/25 07:35 AM
2

Be honest. Pay attention to details. Don’t make big fuss about it. Be expressive. In general don’t think that some clever phrase will single-handedly get you laid, it’s just to elevate the mood for a start.
/r/seduction05/01/25 07:25 AM
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From my experience, openers in real life circumstances are not so important as long as they don't imply you are mad or threatening.
/r/seduction04/01/25 10:29 AM
2

It may happen once in a while, especially if you potentially have other options or girl looks to be outside of your type. If this is not a common theme, I guess there is little reason to deal with it. You can give it a try for one date or pull out and choose someone that you have no doubts about. It won't hurt too much, just try not to deceive anyone about your feelings for too long.
/r/seduction04/01/25 10:24 AM
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Obviously, dating apps were rapidly growing past last few years, making potentially better option for a moderately attractive girl waiting just few clicks away. Also, with the influx of guys that are not that experienced with gender dynamics, many girls have their standards and ego elevated to the levels of mild delusion. If you were not blessed with extraordinary genetics, you usually need to put significant effort in your photos, bio and opener game to close matches regularly. Also, if apps ar…
/r/seduction04/01/25 10:07 AM
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I think it won’t really change anything, maybe except from reducing the tension. It may even backfire if she is not so sure about her feelings yet. I would suggest to stick with “I like you” until it will be so clear that you really like each other. “Really” feels like some sort of commitment, don’t use it prematurely.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:00 AM
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Maybe she is just a bad texter, have boring character or maybe incompatible with you? You can try to change your attitude in conversations, make it more laidback, simple, relatable, sharp, short. And remember that it all comes down to meeting in real life circumstances where you can escalate physically and affect all senses, don’t invest too much in texting, it’s not the ultimate context that you want to be in, right?
/r/seduction03/01/25 08:15 AM
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Pay attention to your body language, control your breath, take proper posture, smile, loose your muscles. Mind will eventually follow. Also, I believe it may be a matter of putting other people on a pedestal and trying too much. Instead, try to have fun yourself, stay kind but rather neutral, until you can feel that other side also exerts positive initiative. Don’t force it towards any specific outcome, remember that interaction is always a two-way flow and you need to adjust to other person to …
/r/seduction03/01/25 08:05 AM
9

Just don’t excuse yourself. Simply, she caught your eye and you want to take her out.
/r/seduction03/01/25 07:43 AM
1

Sure, you are usually getting stressed by getting relaxed.
/r/seduction02/01/25 05:08 PM
2

Start with focusing on exerting congruent body language, control your breath, take proper posture, pay attention how you move, loose your muscles. When you are relaxed it is much more easier to behave how you want, read mood and emotions.
/r/seduction02/01/25 12:33 PM
1

I advise to be a bit more firm and direct with a girl, especially in the beginning. Women are not really getting turned on by too much nice and lovey-dovey vibe, they need man not another woman for sex.
/r/seduction02/01/25 06:58 AM
2

I would say that you should assume that she may like you, so you should come to her and figure it out yourself. The thing is we are often told to be reserved and humble by society, which turns out to not be helpful at all in terms of getting sexual partner. Follow mindsets and methods that work, you may not fully understand it as a beginner, but experience will hardly ever deceive you.
/r/seduction02/01/25 06:51 AM
1

Don’t be like others. Also, replying to stories is very low profile move, it is recommended to show some confidence and competence with direct approach.
/r/seduction02/01/25 06:46 AM
2

It's a matter of creating certain mindset, if you get to understand it you won't need to figure out anything more.
/r/seduction01/01/25 01:05 PM
2

Have your opener prepared. Pay attention to your body language, control your breath, take proper posture, maintain eye contact, smile, loose your muscles. Don't push for any specific outcome, have some casual interaction when you check if girl may be interested or you should smoothly pull away. Also remember that being anxious may be a subconscious message that girl's body language communicates she is not eager to be approached. You can also always change your target.
/r/seduction01/01/25 12:12 PM
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Well, I guess you should learn the lesson for the future not to be apologetic or too serious about dating. Sometimes girl feels like having sex because she got into hormonal high or charmed by something about you and all you should do is to grab her and throw on the bed.
/r/seduction01/01/25 12:04 PM
1

Yeah, that's just a general thing it is not really worth escalating too much through texting. You can still try to salvage it by admitting it could sound stupid, but overall, do you want to pursue a girl that gets turned off so easily, she will certainly do it again in the future.
/r/seduction01/01/25 11:33 AM
2

Don't get too fancy, it all comes down to escalating physical intimacy during your real life meetings anyways. Keep it real and save the best for direct context.
/r/seduction01/01/25 11:05 AM
2

In terms of topics you can elaborate about something really pleasurable/exciting, something bit immoral/indecent and obviously mild sexual topics. In general, words are only a tool for a warmup and creating connection, they are a small part of whole communication process, you should focus more on your body language, voicetone and moves. It is possible to get the girl ready just with sensual conversation, but why would you make it harder. In terms of moves, remember about maintaining eye contact,…
/r/seduction01/01/25 10:47 AM
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You should organize your life properly so you can maintain that positive attitude and high motivation even after long hours of effort. Surround yourself with people that support you. Wear good clothes, exercise, eat healthy, take care of your hygiene. Also, such issues to approach usually stem from lack of experience or poor game plan. Do you know what you want to say? Do you know that you can’t get experience in your head, you absolutely need to take some risk and jump into unknown to progress.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:54 AM
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Feels like you are trying too much, women subconsciously enjoy drop of a mystery and uncertainty. Remember that sexual attraction should be main reason for you to get with each other, you don’t need to buy her affection with attention, gifts, fancy time, these are but a background for you to escalate and create connection. If she takes away her involvement, you should adjust to that accordingly.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:40 AM
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Grind your method and make sure it won’t feel threatening from the perspective of the other side. You can only do as much, sometimes girl is just prejudiced and will freak out for no reason. Don’t prolong the interaction unnecessarily, don’t get too close, smile, maintain eye contact, speak little slower. And remember that your feelings are often a message from your subconscious, if you feel very anxious it may indicate that your game plan is poor or girl’s body language is closed-off and not ea…
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:34 AM
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If you elevate your skills and experience, your anxiety will perish. Start with simple casual interactions, pay attention to your body language and keep improving your attractive features. You don’t need to force specific outcome, enjoy laidback conversations, adjust to girl’s reactions and escalate if you see positive odds.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:27 AM
1

You should choose ways that feel the best for you and you have best results with. Everyone is different.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:21 AM
0

These are all skills to be learnt. You don’t need to be extroverted to excel in social interactions. Try not to excuse yourself with introversion diagnosis and take your improvement step by step.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:16 AM
1

It is much easier to lead and control when you know where you are heading. In this case, you should meet in real life circumstances for you to do proper escalation, and rather sooner than later.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:11 AM
1

It is very much possible to maintain casual interactions even if she declines your personal invitation. If it happens, just don’t make big fuss about it, don’t push and keep some distance.
/r/seduction31/12/24 07:05 AM
1

I guess it’s more important if it suits you well and if you feel comfortable and empowered. I think girl may feel obliged because you are already showing much skin, but that doesn’t mean you will dress up to feel too hot. She can bear with it, give her some space to accommodate.
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:14 AM
1

Most girls that I got with were met through social circle, clubs, vacations and hobby groups.
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:55 AM
1

Take a girl away for a moment and ask her to figure out how you can spend time one on one, if she wants. Also, it would be nice to find some interesting activity or possibly another attractive guy to take her of girl’s friend.
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:46 AM
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Yes, it would be good to show some direct initiative and confidence, and remember that seduction game is not really about talking, unless you want to be classified as not proactive sexually or incompetent to lead. Make gradual moves to get you closer to be more physically intimate.
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:43 AM
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You can still provide necessary intimacy level with coming close, sitting side by side, looking deep in the eyes, introducing some friendly touching, hugging, whispering, getting into personal topics. You can go as far as she lets you, the thing with day game is that you usually need to start from the very beginning, when girl’s mood is occupied yet with daily responsibilities. “Going for a kiss” should be more of a finalization of your escalation, there are plenty of milestones to be achieved, …
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:34 AM
1

Be proud, but also don't mess with other people's privacy, if you boyfriend finds out you are spying on him he will not be content at all, I can guarantee you that.
/r/seduction29/12/24 10:44 AM
4

Maybe your body language is on the passive side, girls evaluate situations more about emotions and feelings than meaning of words. Try to be more expressive and pay attention how you move your body. Also, remember about your goal of conquering physical and mental intimacy barriers, if you are just having fun without making any real progress in romantic context, your date feels rather pointless and not very optimistic about potential following meetings.
/r/seduction29/12/24 10:35 AM
2

Start with something small, approach to ask for time, directions, give out some compliments. It's not that rare that some girls will try to lead the interaction further and you can make something more out of it. Don't create such attitude that you have to do something and achieve specific outcome, you should enjoy casual interactions with women and improving your game.
/r/seduction29/12/24 10:26 AM
1

Just realise you really don't need to know any particular information about her, it will naturally reveal with time anyways, and you can also work with that sense of mystery and interesting unorthodox approach. Remember that goal of your date should be escalating your physical intimacy, triggering emotions, creating connection, you don't really need any information to be exchanged for that but rather going through certain situations together. Pay attention to your feelings, focus on what's going…
/r/seduction29/12/24 10:13 AM
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It's pretty standard thing of our genetical conditioning, to feel shaky about possibly screwing the opportunity to get with very attractive sexual partner. If you are aware of that, you can overcome this subconscious reaction by doing exactly these things that you are afraid of. Control your breath, stay close, look girl in the eyes, smile. Don't figure out anything fancy, behave just like with a normal girl or maybe even less concerned. After some time of practice you will realise that your ner…
/r/seduction28/12/24 07:48 PM
1

You need to take initiative and take your prize yourself. Life circumstances hardly ever turn out to be like in romantic comedy, when you have a crush for someone that you just observe from distance and then something unexpected happen. Instead you should embrace responsibility, improve your qualities and use opportunities by taking risks.
/r/seduction28/12/24 10:21 AM
1

Remember that with cold approaching you are working with good first impression. You should wear smart clothes, smell good, do your hair, take proper posture, use slow and deep voice. Some cool accessories can also be well received. I would also encourage you to try out “shock opener” technique, which is about making some very unexpected comment, that will take down girl’s defenses and trigger positive emotions.
/r/seduction28/12/24 10:14 AM
0

Your brain works best when you are relaxed, pressuring yourself towards specific outcome can significantly lower your mental capabilities and memory. Instead of framing yourself as an entertainer, think about broad context of the interaction. When you are on a date, your goal is not really about leading the longest and most enjoyable conversation as you can, but create opportunities where you can escalate your mutual mental and physical intimacy with a girl. Besides words, you also have activiti…
/r/seduction28/12/24 09:23 AM
2

You need to escalate your interaction towards real life circumstances, and rather sooner than later. Women may enjoy texting with you casually, but when she spots another potential partner that could be more confident and understand the context, she can leave you without a word, as you were either not competent or not too interested in pursuing romance with her.
/r/seduction28/12/24 09:11 AM
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You need to keep teasing her sexual appetite with messages, calls, images and any other means you can think of. You can’t be surprised that girl is upset when most other pairs are enjoying their abundant social and sexual life, building up their connection and reaching new highs. Our job duties and daily chores are usually far from triggering pleasurable and sexual response, you need to make up for it somehow. Women need warmup and proper feelings to get into mood for sex, it’s different system …
/r/seduction28/12/24 09:03 AM
1

During their vacations most people are usually in very good mood, want to socialize and try out new things. However, I would still play casual and laidback in the beginning, have some funny small talk and suggest to spend more time together after you get into common vibe. You don’t have to apply pressure or be blunt if you can take time to escalate gradually and naturally, that’s how it is supposed to be, in most situations.
/r/seduction28/12/24 08:57 AM
0

You can touch her gently if you can't get an eye contact when you walk by. Don't get too close, smile, give her some time to evaluate your qualities, take proper posture, use deep and slow voice, pay close attention to her body language. Simply say "Hi!" and you can either start with making some warming up small talk and then ask for contact number to meet in proper manner or with directly stating your purpose and then having some casual chat to get to know each other and trigger some emotions.
/r/seduction27/12/24 09:30 AM
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After she declines your first suggestion, hit her with couple moments of radio silence. Then you can go with "So?" If she still doesn't get it, you can make it clear with "You don't wanna suggest another date that suits you?" You can also bypass this bullshit game and take initative completely in your hands, just keep in mind women can be extremely passive in terms of rejecting you, she can you lead you by the nose for some time just to bluntly ghost you at the day of the commitment deadline wit…
/r/seduction27/12/24 09:24 AM
1

Very symptomatic situation of following some delusional dynamics suggested by a girl that ended "not working out". She doesn't have proper feelings for you, and clinging to such pathetic agreement can only make her drift further away from seeing you as a potential sexual partner. Get over your hormonal high and look to fulfill your desires somewhere else.
/r/seduction27/12/24 09:19 AM
1

Can you simply find someone else that won't cause potentially so much turmoil like this girl? You can really find a better match than this one, your current judgment is just hijacked by hormonal and emotional connection, it's very common cognitive bias in dating.
/r/seduction26/12/24 11:23 AM
1

It all comes down to making your moves towards escalating your physical intimacy. Focus on your actual progress, girl's decisions and actions. She may say whatever she wants, women are not so concerned about responsbility for their words, either she lets you get to her or not. From general experience, the longer she opposes the lower are chances for anything to happen. So keep your expectations and commitment at bay, look around for potential different candidates too, maybe you are simply not a …
/r/seduction26/12/24 11:05 AM
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Generally sex should be just enough reason for another person to get with you, spending money works best if it's served just like a kind addition to your main context. If it is required for you to spend significant amount of money to get nice company and sexual act, then it feels very close to upfront sexual services. Make up your priorities and benefit calculation. You can be silent about potentially spending money or offer to cover only some part of the expenses. If they are "only" your friend…
/r/seduction26/12/24 10:52 AM
1

Sure
/r/seduction25/12/24 08:41 PM
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The thing is you need these girls to approve you, when you should rather pursue genuine inner satisfaction that will then naturally find some expression in life. Calling yourself a loser for not sleeping around doesn't feel like something you created for yourself, but rather adapted from some vague social bias.
/r/seduction25/12/24 12:57 PM
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I guess it may be the problem of self-esteem and with your method. Think about what qualities of yours may be appreciated by opposite gender and keep improving them. Think exactly how would you see making your moves, which words and techniques to use that could actually work. Imagine having sex with this girl already before and during your conversation, if you struggle with that then it may be surely some big confidence issue. And very important thing, take your quest step by step. Start with ge…
/r/seduction25/12/24 11:27 AM
1

Just realise most of people have no clue about seduction benchmarks. You should mostly consider opinions of those that are actually experienced, not some random theories. Failing is not that horrible if you can pull away with grace, work on your method and have fun. And remember that success is the matter of analysing and improving from hundred failures, those that harshly judge you for your loses usually don't get anywhere with their lives themselves.
/r/seduction25/12/24 11:18 AM
2

I think both of paths serve different purposes, but from my own experience I appreciate my longer relations much more than brief flings. Generally you don't wanna maintain this poor mindset of seeking validation elsewhere than yourself, you should follow your own convictions and desires.
/r/seduction25/12/24 11:11 AM
2

Remember that there is also other side of the relation that is equally important, therefore your expectations should always be at least halfed. Don't trust in words that much, our public space is growing further and further from sincerity and bitterness of reality. On the other hand, keep in mind that probably you were just not a good match, if you are feeling certain way and she is feeling significantly different, your relation would break down sooner than later anyways. Get through your hormon…
/r/seduction25/12/24 11:06 AM
3

No, most women are rather reserved and careful in terms of initating interaction with male strangers. In my experience mostly top guys can expect getting directly approached and pursued. Many of masculine qualities can only be presented in the actual interaction anyway. I would rather maintain the mindset to take charge and take your fate in your own hands, it will not only help you with getting women but in life overall. Take your improvement step by step, don't search for tricks and easy way, …
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:39 PM
1

There are many cases where it ended either way. I would advice, as per usual, to keep it real despite your hormonal storm, you went just only on one date, nothing really committal happened and now she takes a significant break from seeing you again. Keep in touch with her during that time, not too much, but also keep in mind that it's still very much unsettled case, whatever she may say about it. Keep it positive, but keep your expectations at bay.
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:32 PM
1

It should not be a big thing to smile, approach and have some casual small talk for a start. Don't try to escalate towards anything instantly, first you should check if she may be open to get more familiar.
/r/seduction24/12/24 10:56 AM
2

Statistically women in their mid-thirties have already went through their full sexual growth, they are not so bothered or triggered by a sexual sphere, they know what they want so they can get more immersed in the actual sexual escalation instead of having lots of doubts or backthoughts.
/r/seduction24/12/24 10:44 AM
1

You can’t have sex by just speaking words. I would also rather not expect the girl to sit on you just by your cleverness, at least within most circumstances. Along with conducting proper conversation, you should make congruent moves in physical aspect, coming closer, looking in the eyes, touching. Don’t forget what is desired outcome of your relation and keep making small steps towards it.
/r/seduction23/12/24 09:08 AM
1

High energy can be also perceived as high potential. So choose topics that trigger emotions and open doors towards different conversation plots.
/r/seduction23/12/24 09:03 AM
2

Being polite is kinda engraved in our social culture, meaning it’s an artificial system to keep us within specific safety frames. However, it also indicates that you are holding back your true emotions and provide insincere experience. This is not something that can be desired in romantic or sexual context. Remember that “being good” does not have to result in the best outcome, life is definitely something more than security.
/r/seduction23/12/24 09:00 AM
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The problem with change is that you want to make jumps when your muscles forgot how to effectively walk. Anxiety and passiveness is but a natural reaction to your dreams. Start from scratch and make small steps, throw yourself in environment and situations where you won’t be in charge and making progress will be beyond your decisions. Accept every opportunity to socialize with people and do things that you have never done before, even small ones.
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:50 AM
5

Keep getting closer and closer and at some point kiss will be just a matter of one deep glance.
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:26 AM
2

I would rather advise not to appeal to some divine quality of sexual relations. You wanna maintain sexual partner, set up a family, have a companion in life, it’s all fine, no reason to seek anything more when it is clearly about our genetical heritage. You may feel that there is something really special about your feelings, good for you, but how can you be sure that other person feels the same or there is different match that can provide you with even more? Keep it real, nothing wrong about it …
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:22 AM
1

I think my words are just kind of a synthesis of popular concepts of attraction. You wanna sincerely feel high value in your inner game and also appeal to traits that will make you be perceived as high value by others. Think straight in terms of what women sexually desire and think of yourself as worthy of affection because of quality you provide. If you don’t, you gotta improve both with your mindset and attractive traits.
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:16 AM
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Smile, stay close, look in the eyes, be kind and friendly, move your body with confidence. Little special treatment, not too much. Generally I believe that women naturally can melt men's heart by exerting their innate femininity of being caring, soothing and content with their sexual attributes and charming character.
/r/seduction22/12/24 12:41 PM
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Stay close to her. Feel like at your own home, but not too much. Remember that it is a perfect opportunity to escalate, you need to make your moves, but still take it easy and progress gradually. At some point when you will lay together watching something, it will be the optimal setup to go for cuddling, and then it should naturally get sexual.
/r/seduction22/12/24 12:35 PM
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Obviously following multitude of rules can't work out while interacting within human context. Sooner or later these rules will overwhelm your nature. That's why you should not really focus on details, but become a man that will naturally exert certain qualities and mindsets. Take it step by step and opt for understanding and improving rather than passing theory exams.
/r/seduction22/12/24 12:25 PM
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I think it's about keeping that frame that you respect your own dignity, time, money, effort, rules and you present quality that are both desired by opposite gender and pretty uncommon from a standard public viewpoint. In general, stay confident in yourself that you can provide masculine factor that girl will appreciate and keep it real in terms of your dynamics and potential relation.
/r/seduction22/12/24 11:57 AM
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Remember that these are just a background of your meeting. Your attitude, your conversation, your activities that trigger proper gender dynamics and escalate intimacy, these are crucial factors. Choose the place that will allow you to conduct date in a way you want. You are choosing coffee date because you want to check if you are naturally a good match and a girl to like you for your way of being and emotions you trigger in her, not a guy that will provide her with fancy food or trips without h…
/r/seduction22/12/24 11:51 AM
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If you want to think about this in such way, there is always this one big, crucial frame of escalating things towards getting more physically and mentally intimate and everything that happens with you and girl is either about breaking such context, stay in the same place or escalate. For a girl to take initative and expand a conversation is usually a good sign of trying to escalate somewhere with it, but the frequent problem is that it is not accurate at all, and you should step in to redirect i…
/r/seduction21/12/24 08:13 AM
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Ask her when exactly you can expect an answer and take a step back. Whatever she may say about it, she chose to gatekeep your relation so she should feel the responsibility.
/r/seduction21/12/24 08:03 AM
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If you are indeed attractive and good at flirting, try out different ways of meeting women. Dating apps are like big candy stores for women, they can be extremely picky and turn you down over smallest things, because potentially better option is just few clicks away.
/r/seduction21/12/24 07:58 AM
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It's not like it matters that much, main part of the game has just concluded and her response is just like a standard polite way of saying goodbye. Keep it simple and little tonned down, remember that it doesn't really matter what she says, it matters if she will agree to have a next meeting.
/r/seduction21/12/24 07:52 AM
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I would advise to read between the lines and look at whole interaction in a deeper context. It should not be really about maintaining control, but escalating within proper moments. Girl says these words not to pull in other direction, but for you to make something out of it. It's an opportunity to show your interpersonal skills and your mindset. In your gym example, covered fact is that she noticed you train your body a lot in a gym. But instead of direct compliment, she can pass this informatio…
/r/seduction20/12/24 10:57 AM
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Most common viewpoints are about standing out as women receive much more attention than men and have usually plenty of other optional candidates to choose from. Put your focus towards triggering emotions, having fun, introducing some challenge or unique experience, women are not responding really well to informative, logical, elaborative stuff. Make your exchanges sharp, simple, relatable, non-serious. Provide quality to the whole interaction instead of meaning of your words.
/r/seduction20/12/24 10:18 AM
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Generally women are eager to get through their leading anxiety if stake is really high, in this case there is high value, popular, sexually attractive guy that may be worth risking potential awkwardness and rejection. Also, their hormonal response and emotions/feelings that are being assembled by it will drive their actions and decisions big way. Also, women may feel the pressure to get ahead of other candidates. Be the best male around, presenting unique and attractive qualities and you will se…
/r/seduction20/12/24 10:10 AM
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First thing, you should change your mindset from exchanging information towards triggering emotions, having fun, getting more personal and intimate with topics. Make the exchange sharp, simple, relatable, non-serious, laidback. Second, remember that communication is not about just words, but mainly your body language and voice. Stay close to girl, look her deep in the eyes, smile, speak little slower and use deep voice, touch her casually and keep escalating. With flirting you are keeping sexual…
/r/seduction20/12/24 10:01 AM
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I guess most popular moves are about finding something that connects you and suggesting moving your context there. Or, you can be direct and casually ask her out for coffee, dinner or walk. Pay attention to potential indicators of interest, whether she is overly enthusiastic, mentions some personal or intimate stuff, gets closer to you, her eyes sparkle etc. Follow your feeling and make a move if odds seem promising. Or just do it, you have nothing to lose if you can pull it out without making t…
/r/seduction19/12/24 09:44 AM
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Generally the most common way to meet potential partner is through your social circle. Attend parties/meetings or ask someone to introduce you. I would also consider joining hobby groups or something similar.
/r/seduction19/12/24 09:32 AM
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Even if she calls you bro it doesn't change the fact that you had crazy sex the day before. Maybe she just wanted to make some distance, for you or her not to instantly get attached.
/r/seduction19/12/24 09:23 AM
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Remember that with apps your photos are the most important feature. In terms of texting game, it feels like your topics are just too generic, not triggering any emotions, not being unique or honest in any way. Instead try to be more creative, appeal to girl with some challenge or interesting feedback, make topics more relatable to life situations or your potential relation. It's not about exchanging information, you need to try to elevate the energy, have fun and check if two of you would be a g…
/r/seduction18/12/24 12:03 PM
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In my experience it was the matter of training, proper posture and controlling breath. You can check out some tutorials on Youtube or smth.
/r/seduction18/12/24 11:54 AM
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Do you enjoy getting to know another person? Sharing positivity, goofing around, getting better at conversations? Generally having fun is about your own inner game, other person or surroundings may only just play along or not.
/r/seduction15/12/24 11:17 AM
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People just can't do it culturally and briefly. Obviously you should not force anyone to your convictions and stay away from people that drag you down. It is a common situation when person will reflect on your words only after some time, when emotions will drop down. Just a brief statement is enough. No one likes to be wrong, you should be mindful about that, but many people need sincere and polite words of truth. The point of pointing out complaining is that not that many people realise that ne…
/r/seduction15/12/24 10:30 AM
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I guess it would be the best to figure out some attractive candidate for her. You can only do as much yourself, everyone should be taking their well-being in their own hands. Remember that women are emotional and emotions can be really addictive, in most cases you need to provide some equally potent substitute.
/r/seduction15/12/24 07:02 AM
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You should try to enlighten them that constant complaining will only make them more miserable and discourage others. Women get with men also to absorb some part of them, don’t be afraid to culturally and briefly point out their bad habits.
/r/seduction15/12/24 06:53 AM
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I guess you can simply adjust to your own feelings. Sometimes if you feel tired or annoyed you can end your interaction shortly. Sometimes you can give it few more chances if you have a good feeling. Use your subconscious, it can often provide you with a feedback that you are not aware of yet.
/r/seduction14/12/24 08:20 AM
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Frame is generally about orienting yourself towards your desired outcome. If your frame is too vague or weak, at some point you will lose control over reaching your destination. In practice, it comes down to resolving potential conflicts of interest. In some cases you can bend the frame, in some cases you need to keep it straight or it will break. Sometimes you can work out compromise, sometimes you will need to risk the conflict by standing strong with your convictions.
/r/seduction14/12/24 08:06 AM
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Focus on your ultimate goal which is getting intimate. You don’t need to instantly jump towards romantic touch, maintain eye contact, smile, get closer so she can smell your perfume, get personal with topics, it will place good foundations for you to naturally conquer touch barriers in close future. You can suggest some activities or change location for more private to escalate further. Game plan stays the same, small steps, adjusting to reactions, focused on the purpose.
/r/seduction14/12/24 07:46 AM
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I would say that both overdoing and avoiding this aspect in your interaction won’t be received positively. You don’t need to talk about sex to do it, and too much talking instead of doing also may cause this impression of insecurity about taking action. And remember that communication is not only about words, proper voice tone and body language are maybe even more important in setting the mood and context.
/r/seduction14/12/24 07:32 AM
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It feels like she tries to make something going, because you are not really trying to progress by yourself. You can't just casually spend time together if you want to get closer, you need to make some moves to get there.
/r/seduction13/12/24 06:43 AM
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Well, if you are dead afraid to ask her out then I guess you have still much more to learn. Take it step by step, come closer, show off your attractive masculine traits, get involved in each other's lives, introduce touch and deep eye contact. Don't make huge leaps, enjoy developing your relation properly. Also, I would advice not to get instantly hooked on this one option, she may feel different now and you will feel devastated if she will not buy into your high expectations. Let her make whate…
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:40 AM
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You can always start by conducting simple casual interactions. Test the waters, build some connection. You don't need to instantly get straight to the point. It usually triggers anxiety in the beginners and for the good reason, and time is not working in your favour to wait wait wait without even starting.
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:36 AM
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I believe that reverse engineer PUA techniques will not really get straight to the point of male seduction. Women and men are not really opposites, we are very similar in many aspects, but still much different than current culture wants to admit. I would advise to seek your own realisations and test out different methods and mindsets from scratch. Picking up women was designed basing on understanding female's nature which is not congruent with its male equivalent at all. Wish you luck, I am curi…
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:29 AM
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With maintaining eye contact it's generally about looking your fears straight in the eyes. Throughout the progress of evolution eye contact was used to assert dominance or prepare for an attack, but as a homo sapiens you should be able to transcend such outdated mechanisms to your advantage by being conscious about your mind process. Start with looking in the eyes when you talk to your close friends or relatives. Then with strangers. Then with beautiful girls. Start with at least 1 second and ke…
/r/seduction12/12/24 09:40 AM
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In your place I would call her sooner. If she indeed lost her interest instantly after ending interaction, you won't be bothered anymore if she doesn't respond. Waiting can only make you distressed for longer and for her to possibly forget you and her emotions drop down completely.
/r/seduction11/12/24 02:26 PM
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It's too early to overthink. She may just expect you to get busy with your work for the time being. Don't spoil the tension by getting instantly hooked. Let it loose for a moment and then come up with another part of escalation.
/r/seduction11/12/24 10:35 AM
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Good perspective, I would also like to point out it's not only about excelling in some metrical matters, but also being extraordinary in terms of aspects like way of being, viewpoint, humour, clarity etc. It's about this thing of "being yourself" but you need to learn how to frame it properly for it to be presented as your attractive trait for opposite gender.
/r/seduction11/12/24 10:31 AM
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There are plenty of texting guides to be found in the internet, but generally you can simply work with the feedback and analyze your methods, mindsets and mistakes one by one. Look for some inspiration at good talk shows, podcasts or social meetings. Overall texting should be similar to standard conversation, trigger emotions and play with words to have fun and escalate your relation, at some point suggest moving your interaction to real life to have even more fun. Keep your messages sharp, simp…
/r/seduction11/12/24 08:09 AM
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Date maybe was good, but it appears your dynamics are not that amazing, you can’t get on the same page or understand each other. Women usually take action upon feelings, that they may not really understand themselves. There is this thing called incompatibility, even if you made out and had a great conversation, which is like a standard thing for competent guys, but connection may be still not there. General point is about letting go of a struggle. It’s pretty rare for the relation to flourish af…
/r/seduction11/12/24 07:47 AM
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I guess there is no fine line that will work 100% with everyone. I think you should pay attention to general mood to apply congruent involvement and escalating in proper moments. Being little reserved is in a good tone, but overdoing it may make the guy confused and lose interest. We definitely don’t perceive emotional swings the same as women, keep in mind you are dealing with little different human.
/r/seduction11/12/24 07:34 AM
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Generally it is about changing your mindset, from extracting information and following the code towards stepping out of the template, choosing topics and activities that trigger variety of emotions, maximizing fun, breaking barriers, pursuing unique and honest experience. I guess for many guys it would be a good idea as a first step to identify what emotions really are, like happy, relaxed, surprised, relieved, curious, confused, annoyed, amused, tense etc. Then you should figure out which situa…
/r/seduction10/12/24 05:59 PM
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You can check out Demonic Confidence program for some inspiration.
/r/seduction10/12/24 11:37 AM
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Who knows, maybe she found better candidate, maybe you get involved too soon, maybe you stopped progressing with your relation. I would advise you to focus more on macro targets than analysing details that you can't be certain about anyways. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits, find more opportunities to interact with women naturally and keep this girl at bay because she is not cooperating. Remember that your brain may be now hijacked by hormones and pheromones, try to keep it real an…
/r/seduction10/12/24 11:35 AM
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Compare it with different sources and test these methods yourself. With seduction I would give some extra credit to the experienced advisors before you make a judgment. There are so many confusing misconceptions and blatantly wrong viewpoints that are popular in mainstream discourse, you can easily discredit valuable advices because they sound ridiculous for people that got knowledge from romantic comedies and their mother's opinions.
/r/seduction10/12/24 11:17 AM
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I think you should just keep in mind that this is really not a comfortable place for direct approach, so you should be extra mindful and casual at the beginning. Test the mood and girl's reactions before you try to move for romantic context.
/r/seduction10/12/24 10:59 AM
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Women traditionally and genetically are very focused on relations and finding good partners. Whether their methods and mindsets are effective is questionable though, culture is changing rapidly in our modern civilisation and many old patterns don't apply anymore.
/r/seduction10/12/24 10:56 AM
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Push-pull method works by triggering proper switches in a woman, by introducing variety of emotions and playing with tension and context. For example you can lead the interaction by having nice and pleasant vibe, getting to know each other, staying close, being clear and agreeable, and you can suddenly change the tone, take a step back, focus more on yourself or others, downplay girl's words, become indifferent to pursue anything. Then out of the blue you can return to initial game. For a man it…
/r/seduction09/12/24 01:26 PM
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Sharing her private stuff is one of the most common moves of women to get more intimate with you. It's not just about physical aspect like with men. As I said, women tend to get much more proactive about sexual sphere with age, as they get to know their body and game. It's not that uncommon for women around their 30s to go upfront with what they want.
/r/seduction09/12/24 07:13 AM
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Sometimes you can't, girls rarely make the move to break context from strangers to close ones. The point is to escalate gradually, if girl is following your initiative and not dodging or declining your ideas, you can keep going towards your goal. If you do it properly, even if your intution fails you and girl is really just friendly, she will decline your escalation at some point and you will siimply stay at the friends level, without any bitter confrontation. The key is to read the room, don't …
/r/seduction09/12/24 07:09 AM
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At first I would just come across as casual. Make some small talk, crack some jokes. If you feel a girl is reacting positively and reciprocating your initiative to get little more familiar, you can keep going with developing your interaction and relation and eventually move it outside of your current context of bachata class by suggesting spending more time with each other in different circumstances, naturally and casually.
/r/seduction08/12/24 05:39 PM
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Not necessarily, with women their sexual appetite rise with age to some point. Obviously she may be looking for some serious relation where man can support her children, but she may also just want to smash and have someone to talk to. If women are comfortable they tend to talk A LOT.
/r/seduction08/12/24 10:07 AM
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Generally women don't really come for 1 on 1 meeting with some guy they just met, unless there is something more going on. Obviously, it may be some exception too. Stay close to her, maintain eye contact and smile, get personal with conversation, trigger emotions, introduce some casual touch and check how she reacts about getting more familiar. If she reacts positively, you can try out moves that are more within romantic context like grabbing her hand, hugging, touching her gently etc.
/r/seduction08/12/24 09:02 AM
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Obviously you should give some example of your abysmal game to get corrected. In general, treat texting and talking just as a stepping stone and a warmup for a proper meeting in real life, where you can get to know the girl and escalate physical intimacy. Don't get too involved and eager at the beginning where nothing is really decided yet. Have some fun with teasing the girl, maintaining sexual tension, triggering different emotions and lead the interaction eventually to spending some together …
/r/seduction06/12/24 11:48 AM
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Perform a mating dance and then if she doesn't run away, do the deed. Or, you can try to talk to her, spend fun time with each other, get personal with conversations, show your attractive masculine traits, get more and more physically intimate with casual touch, close proximity, looking deep in the eyes etc. You need to start somehow, introduce some close friends vibe at the beginning and keep getting closer and closer.
/r/seduction06/12/24 11:31 AM
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You will obviously mess something up sooner or later. The point is to hold frame that as a human it's normal to make mistakes or whatever and you won't get on the kness for some mismatching actions. Also, general idea is not about keeping your relation on the mild positive tone, girl will sooner than later try to make up some drama to develop your relation somehow and test your connection and compatibility. You should do it beforehand, get through some unique and strong experiences together so y…
/r/seduction06/12/24 11:26 AM
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Usually it comes with experience. When you get use to variety of interaction scenarios, handle strong emotions and body language, realise that it may go into variety of directions without even much of your influence, you are getting much more relaxed and therefore your brain works better and you exert confident body language and you can focus on enoying the moment, feeling the mood and steering the interaction in desired direction. Don't expect it to be perfect at the beginning, it's nearly impo…
/r/seduction06/12/24 11:16 AM
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She expects you to lead, just figure out some warmup activities for two of you. In the meantime you should figure out whether she is ready to take her home for the final act.
/r/seduction05/12/24 09:04 AM
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Why do you need girls to approach you? Most of them are clueless about pickup and dead afraid of risking open rejection. Come to terms with the fact that you are the one expected to lead and reach for your prize with your own initiative, as a man you have natural genetical conditioning needed for that, you got this. If you lack any positive feedback from other side, I would guess you need to keep improving your sexually attractive traits or figure out more opportunities to casually interact with…
/r/seduction05/12/24 09:01 AM
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Why are you stuck, just keep going with the same play. Does your creativity fail you? Just remember that in the end you need to take your game to real world. Also, don't get too fancy with your comments, let it appear naturally, or you can get lost in your own innuendos and mixing context. Standard conversation gives some necessary grounding to your purpose.
/r/seduction05/12/24 08:56 AM
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Innuendo also fills the role of some kind of mystery and code between only the two of you. Which can really positively tickle person's feeling of connection. Just remember that it still needs to be congruent with current mood and escalation progress. If you are talking about job and hobbys, then immediately come out with some sexual comment, it can only feel weird and premature.
/r/seduction05/12/24 08:49 AM
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Don't get too focused on details, with life things rarely came out exactly as planned. If there is nothing going on between you yet, you need to make up some opportunities. Spend time together, get more personal with conversations, show off your attractive traits both physical and mental. Preparing perfect scenario can only make you anxious, you need to embrace the interaction with being casual.
/r/seduction05/12/24 08:41 AM
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It's not about hitting on other girls, just read between the lines how she feels about you being around other girls, if she would worry about you potentially placing your interest elsewhere. I guess for now it's not like you committed to anything or anything significant happened between you, so others options should be very much considerable. Just remember girl may say some things, and after a week her feelings can change after she found better candidate that triggers stronger emotions in her. E…
/r/seduction04/12/24 02:36 PM
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You can't know for sure. Generally something extraordinary needs to connect you for your relation to last. Pay attention how she goes around you meeting other girls casually and other way around. Also, if you ask yourself if you are a placeholder, maybe it's your intuition telling you that your girl is not on the same page as you. Generally, I would not recommend long distance relationships, especially if you have strong doubts and especially if you are either without options or have many differ…
/r/seduction04/12/24 01:01 PM
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Statistically from my experience long distance relationships were not really working out too well. But in some cases, when both sides were looking for some deeper connection, they endured time of separation and eventually got together at some point. I guess you need to ask yourself a question, what do you seek and if you won't be too bothered by obvious issues. Generally, put yourself in the first place.
/r/seduction04/12/24 12:41 PM
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You are too focused on details. Don't follow words but actual decisions and actions. She declined making first real step for some reason. If you can't meet in person, you can't take your relation to next level, whatever she may think or say about it. If you feel you are warmed up enough with texting, you should push for reaching next milestone in your mutual intimacy. If she keeps pushing in different direction and opposing your advances, you are wasting time and effort. She may simply not have …
/r/seduction04/12/24 12:19 PM
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You are overthinking, but it doesn't mean you should let it slide. React accordingly, make annoyed face, ignore her or make some gaslighting riposte. Don't be rude though. I would not be too worried about it, many times girls are just confused about their feelings and they may act illogical concerning their true purpose. She may really like you.
/r/seduction04/12/24 12:12 PM
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Imagine that you could seek and potentially find another girl that you click much better with and have lots of sex or happy relationship instead of investing yourself into messing around with this current girl for several months without reaching any significant real progress and without any promising perspective.
/r/seduction03/12/24 07:31 PM
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If you want to still keep this option open, you should make one step backwards. Don't try to involve yourself too much and push if she wants to gatekeep your progress or even whole relation goal. Go with "Ok then". And let her carry an interaction a bit more herself to see if she has some interest in developing your relation and care for you. If not, she probably just enjoys attention and messing around.
/r/seduction03/12/24 07:24 PM
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Hive mind? It's about subconscious connection, so you are not really aware about such feature, but you sometimes consider it intuitively. Anyways, it's not like you need to embrace such concept, just keep in mind that women may be much more dependent on social dogmas due to our genetical programming.
/r/seduction03/12/24 02:26 PM
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It still depends on the context and tone, you may be positively crazy in terms of breaking stupid rules or being extra adventurous, or you may be too illogical or risking. Common rule of a thumb is not to strictly follow what girl say or may be thinking, but make your moves and adjust to her actual decisions and reactions.
/r/seduction02/12/24 10:07 AM
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Women tend to be really reactive towards different triggers, if hive mind is really a thing, I would believe women to be more susceptible to it than men.
/r/seduction02/12/24 09:55 AM
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This sub got flooded with many people that just want to get laid with least effort and time possible, they are not really interested in art of improvement or seduction.
/r/seduction01/12/24 10:52 AM
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Well, I guess you can start with basics like spending time 1 on 1, getting personal with topics, breaking touch barrier frequently. If you can see that he enjoys getting more familiar and mood is positive and intimate, you can escalate with some bolder move like cuddling, sitting on his lap, taking his hand. You can use a bit of alcohol to warm up and loosen up.
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:06 PM
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Not at all. Girls also often refer to guys they like as "cute", which has this non-masculine connotation as well. Play along her words and remember that it is all about that sexual attraction and emotions, she can say whatever she wants. Girl often use words towards some purpose, not to describe reality accurately.
/r/seduction30/11/24 11:06 AM
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First thing is that you should not really treat indicators of interest so rigidly. I had plenty of experiences where girl seemed to not like me at all on the first sight, but she quickly changed her attitude after we had some positive interaction. In many cases their initial mood may be not about you at all. I would rather suggest to use your "feeling", I believe we can often subconsciously process subtle signs much better. Sometimes you may obviously miss with your intuition, but it should not …
/r/seduction30/11/24 10:52 AM
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You can create some backup topics to elaborate, but from my experience I find it rather a poor idea, that may often also come totally incongruent with the current mood. Instead, use your feelings, look around, think about things that happened recently or will happen soon, and something should almost always come to your mind. Remember that brain works best when it is at ease, don't stress out to fill the silence, let it flow naturally if possible.
/r/seduction29/11/24 12:06 PM
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No handshake, it's too much of a business vibe. You should rather start escalating from the very beginning, or at least trigger emotions and look for connection with your conversation or activities. Exchange of information doesn't really matter by itself and can be very much perceived more like a job interview or passing time than pushing things towards romantic affair. Remember that you should always think about things to develop in some way, just spending time together doesn't work. Also, if o…
/r/seduction28/11/24 05:28 PM
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I believe it comes with lots of experience, but obviously there are guys that can get to understand the game much faster than others. These are not only words, your voice tone, body language, smell, smile, everything is coming together to get into girl’s heart and sexual desire. If you feel you are at your peak with high energy and chill, it all feels easy and pleasant.
/r/seduction28/11/24 09:21 AM
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It may be perceived kinda double sided. On one hand, if you will keep getting too deep into the frame of being her emotional towel, you will be surely perceived more like an asexual friend than potential partner. If you don't enjoy it, you should rather cut it off, but politely. On the other, she may bring it up because she thinks you may repair her emotions in that dimension. But instead of taking her miseries to yourself, provide her with new, positive thrills. Standard thing, keep coming clos…
/r/seduction27/11/24 06:30 AM
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Most basic thing is about not going the other way. Sexual context is technically always in the air between man and woman, unless you start to introduce some friendly, asexual, boring, formal, reserved vibe. Instead, think of it like it would be the first day of your romance. Don't act like you are not interested, don't talk about things that are far away from sex and intimacy. Start from scratch, take your time, but instead of keeping your distance, keep escalating with coming closer physically,…
/r/seduction26/11/24 06:20 PM
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Well, if you can't do anything about it, you should just stay upfront with it. For some girls it won't be that big of a deal. Elevate and show off your other attractive features and don't feel pity for disadvantages too much. As it comes to putting women on a pedestal, you need to always keep in mind that they don't want that. Women are different. They say some things, but they really feel, expect and need the other. Try to get out of your masculine and logical perspective and base your game on …
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:37 PM
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Well, you shouldn't really force things. If the girl is pulling into different direction, you will get nowhere anyways. At first you should just introduce some casual vibe and check what is the energy level and how girl is feeling. It's totally normal for other side not to match your viewpoint. When I am making new connections I always play it cool and make it develop as naturally as possible.
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:18 PM
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As name suggests, apply that tension. Come little closer, hold eye contact little longer, make your topics more straightforward and personal, keep breaking the touch barrier more frequently, use deep voice, smile broadly, use some context innuendos or mention sexual sphere casually. The point is to start small, watch girl's reactions and keep escalating if she is positively getting accustomed with your new level of familiarity. Instead of figuring out new topics to blabber about, use whole time …
/r/seduction26/11/24 08:39 AM
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Apart from standard thing of learning the seduction game and improving sexually attractive qualities, I would very much suggest to use up every possible opportunity you can to interact with women. Accept every invitation, join new groups, hit the night life on your free time, make small talk with strangers, ask friends to get you into new social circles. If you don't meet women regularly you can't grind your method, you can't help your luck, you can't get use to little stress and strong emotions…
/r/seduction26/11/24 08:20 AM
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If you are right at the beginning of your game learning, it is totally normal to feel confused and anxious about your approaches. You don't know what to say, you can't read the room, your body language is off-set. To get better, you should take your improvement step by step. At first, make your interactions brief. Think before what you want to say beforehand. Instead of exerting "running away" with your body language, slow down your voice, look girl straight in the eyes, pay attention to taking …
/r/seduction26/11/24 08:13 AM
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You can start paying attention to people that have good social skills on meetings you attend. Take their methods and mindsets that suits you and create your own sense of humor and style. Also, I would advise to treat others like they would be your good friends already, be expressive, play with words, crack jokes, stay laidback, act little silly and most importantly HAVE FUN YOURSELF.
/r/seduction25/11/24 01:49 PM
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Maybe she likes what she sees, despite having the boyfriend and unwilling to proceed with it further. Even if it didn't work out, girls are still pleased when attractive guy choose them and looking at you may give her that spark of a delight.
/r/seduction25/11/24 10:37 AM
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You should always try to analyse the context of girl's words. Ok, she's little too young for you, so what about it? Life is not about bending to every little made up formulas, but sometimes bending them, sometimes broking them if necessary. If her actions and decisions are following different perspective, it doesn't matter what she says. Just keep in mind staying within law frames and pay attention if her whole body language, emotions, mood also say no, at this point pushing more may be very muc…
/r/seduction25/11/24 10:29 AM
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It all comes down to triggering certain response in girl's body and mind. Which can be also achieved by using proper words, body language, voice, physical contact, smell etc. However, these are not so easy to understand and perform for beginners in seduction world, so it's usually better to focus on clear and stable attraction features like physique, hygiene, clothes. There are many PUAs that look totally average, but their way of being and understaning women's nature is carrying them to the lev…
/r/seduction23/11/24 02:40 PM
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It’s very common that initial girl’s take about you would be “I don’t know”. By following seduction principles, you are clearing out her feelings to your favor. Also, technically it is even possible to “seduce” girls that are not attracted to you at all by appealing to their biological conditioning, but being able to put out such stunt is usually much more difficult than just improving yourself gradually with standard masculine code and attract compatible partners.
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:27 PM
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For my hot take, I would advise to appeal to archetypical sexual dynamics. Women want to get with dominant, extraordinary alpha male. Improve your physique and take proper posture. Look straight in the eyes. Get closer. Take care of your hygiene, hairstyle, clothes, like you would like to attract other women. Use deep voice. Don't put up with asexual, feminine, low-value interactions and conversations, cut it out and search for things that empower you and your masculine side. Don't talk too much…
/r/seduction23/11/24 11:00 AM
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I guess some people are not so turned by sexuality. Or, you are not activating proper sexual attraction switches in her, but she still appreciates your other traits. Either way, you can try to improve your masculine features, try out variety of turning on methods, ask her what she likes. If it doesn't work out, and you value sexuality in your relation, you are simply not compatible and staying unfulfilled in a relation is really not a good perspective.
/r/seduction23/11/24 10:30 AM
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It depends what you are trying to achieve at this moment. Mirroring other people make them naturally like you more. But if you feel at this point you should keep presenting your attractive attributes to the girl, handle your body language properly. In general, stay in the moment, read the room and play around with different techniques.
/r/seduction23/11/24 09:08 AM
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If you are active in dating market, one date a month is not really something that you should stand with. Keep improving your sexually attractive features, some of them you can really callibrate on the spot. In terms of being selective, I would say that you should pick girls that have something interesting/attractive that you want to make yours, but at the same time stay realistic about human imperfection and your own matching value. Don't settle just for anyone, but don't keep looking for someon…
/r/seduction23/11/24 09:03 AM
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Women are directly elitist in terms of sexual attraction. They will go for the best male available. I noticed this when I got on holiday trips or joined enclosed groups, if I managed to get through to the top of the ladder, I was swimming in attention from women, unlike in many other environments. I would advise to think very straight in terms of your improvement, don't settle for mediocre level or get too focused on side features, make yourself into that stereotypical alpha male sexual machine.…
/r/seduction23/11/24 08:58 AM
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I doubt there is some secret technique hidden there, but I would advise to look at everything, it will surely increase the tension and intimacy level.
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:51 AM
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Just realize that women are different, deep down they don’t really enjoy lovey-dovey, nice and safe atmosphere, they connect their sexual sphere with strong emotions, getting little wild, getting little dirty, getting little irrational. Keep that in mind and provide what she wants, not what you think is good. Mix things up, sometimes cozy, sometimes get her forcefully on some adventure or drama.
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:43 AM
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I would say it’s about applying tension in a conversation, but in a more friendly manner, with a slight sexual context in the air. Teasing, coming closer, getting more direct or personal, touching, introducing some challenge, mentioning sexual sphere. All of these are breaking the context of strangers to close ones and gradually move it towards intimate man-woman dynamics, starting with just not denying it with boring, asexual, reserved vibe, but getting warmed up by conquering standard social b…
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:36 AM
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Look girl in the eyes and say “So good talking to you, but I need to go for now, do you want to maybe hang out together sometime?” In many cases the problem is about your shaky body language, you can’t possibly just look around and make some decisive move, you need to give yourself in. You will see, once you embrace your fear and look it in the eyes, you will see it was really not that bad at all. And you will become much more relaxed and confident, which obviously will be also perceived positiv…
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:45 AM
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Simply make it sound casual. Just spending time together. Context will be obviously about something more, but it will make it far less pressured and awkward. Remember, content of words is just a small part of the interaction. Play within the social rules, but also smartly reach for your goal.
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:33 AM
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It’s about creating mindset that would help you control situation and reach for your goals eventually. For example you want your girl to be respectful and engaged. If she keeps on denying you and being passive all the way, you won’t let it snowball towards even poorer dynamics, but make some comment about it and try to steer your relation on proper path or leave it if she doesn’t follow. Good frame will spare you lots of effort and time, disappointments, emotional hangover, wasted resources, des…
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:26 AM
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Yeah, she has some feelings and ideas, but she also realizes consequences. Marriage does not make you immune for hormones.
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:15 AM
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Changing mindset from pushing myself to conduct whole show by myself properly to having good time myself and checking if the girl would be a good match for me.
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:03 AM
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It's the matter of training perception, if you keep paying attention to something, you are getting better at recognizing certain patterns or distinctive features. Obviously they can't literally read your mind. About physiognomy, most people don't really pay attention to their body language so they unconsciously reveal their inner state, but it can certainly be trained and faked too.
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:18 PM
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I think that women are just more focused on reading body language, mood and emotions, rather than content of the conversation like men. They just don't feel attracted to guys that make them feel uneasy or uncertain. Therefore, it is advised to pay attention to all aspects of the interaction and staying in the present, rather than only figuring out some brilliant words. If your body is not following your mind, you may be perceived as insecure, dishonest or even threatening.
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:07 PM
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I guess if you want to pursue something more serious, you should keep in touch frequently. Just don't get yourself too involved already and don't prolong your contact too much.
/r/seduction19/11/24 11:59 AM
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You need to warm yourself up and get better with your game theory and perception. The thing is girl may indeed not like you, people may indeed not appreciate you cold approaching women, but you don't really care as you are so high energy about making interaction and confident in your skills to entertain a woman or at least get away smoothly.
/r/seduction19/11/24 11:49 AM
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Remember that you should also embrace being naturally anxious from time to time. Sometimes you may subconsciously read the room that circumstances are poor, girl's body language is off, your game plan is not gonna work. Instead of finding excuses there or talking yourself down, encourage yourself for next, better opportunities.
/r/seduction19/11/24 11:44 AM
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It's not really that obligatory, unless girl is also exerting control over escalation process and gatekeeping your desired intimacy progress. I would rather treat it like a natural thing in developing your dynamics, it would be good for the girl and your relation for her also to come up with some constructive ideas and improve her interpersonal skills.
/r/seduction18/11/24 05:24 PM
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Hormonal addiction is very similar to substance abuse. Usually you wanna control your dosage and lower it gradually. Or find a substitute. From my experience, if you manage to find a strong connection with this one woman, you will be less eager to pursue these dopamine shots, as you will be in this delightful state of love and romance all the time.
/r/seduction18/11/24 11:38 AM
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I believe many guys have problem with handling gender interactions properly, because they want to encompass woman with their logical masculine world. Whereas you should rather take an attitude that women are different from men in many ways and you should learn from experience rather than extrapolating your own perspective. You will never perceive the world as woman, at least in this life. Therefore, you should treat it like some slight exception where your standard rules don't apply. Emotions ca…
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:25 AM
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Maybe he did something that turned her off. Also, why you can't be honest with your friend, that girl may simply like you more? If you are indeed an obstacle by involuntarily taking his targets, I guess you need to hunt separately. If you are good friends, you should be sincere and considerate of each other.
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:00 AM
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You can be simply incompatible. Stop taking initiative for a while to check how much she is involved and how much she wants to pursue developing your relation. Then look for a better match.
/r/seduction17/11/24 08:52 AM
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I would rather treat it like an interesting addition to your meeting. Girl may appreciate your skills, but in general it's about pursuing strong gender dynamics and sexual attraction, don't try to create cheesy romantic climate. I guess you can create some potent connection if girl is also interested in art, but I would rather keep it to be revealed naturally, many girls like to get positively surprised in contrast to guys that brag but then show nothing.
/r/seduction16/11/24 07:46 PM
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First date is like a test if there is something interesting and extraordinary between you to potentially pursue on next meetings. If you just conduct a good date experience and break basic touch barrier, it's usually not enough. Try to get more personal and creative with your conversation and activities, trigger lots of emotions, get girl involved in developing your dynamics and push your physical intimacy escalation towards romantic context with coming very close, maintaining strong eye contact…
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:07 PM
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You don't need to be 100% sure. Most girls are really afraid of getting rejected, so their signs of interest are often pretty subtle. If you want to pursue something more with a girl, you need to take initiative yourself. Make some small moves from your side, come closer, smile, maintain eye contact, make some casual touch, figure out some opportunity to spend time 1 on 1. If girl reacts really positive to the idea of getting more familiar, you can start pushing to get more and more intimate.
/r/seduction16/11/24 12:58 PM
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Openers are not that important per se, but they should introduce that potent context and mood. With girls, it is advised to be simple and relatable, but at the same time creative and playful. Choose something that she may not really expect, make your message brief but encouraging to make some play about. Once again, information doesn't matter, you don't have to know anything about her, it's all about emotions, context, reading between the lines and delivering what she wants.
/r/seduction15/11/24 09:41 AM
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I would say it's about triggering girl's imagination and hormonal response. Casually mention your sexually attractive traits, physical contact, make some mild comment about sexual sphere, playfully tease girl or take her up for some little confrontation or challenge. You apply tension by making your moves, but not pushing it, from your side you are presenting attractive masculine traits and trigger feminine side in a girl, making it like a warmup with some vague sexual background. You are not br…
/r/seduction15/11/24 09:35 AM
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Yes, you have nothing to lose and yes, she most likely remembers your poor dynamics and won't be very eager to start over.
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:52 AM
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Remember that sexual context should alwasy be in the air. Pay attention to corresponding body language, take proper posture, smile, maintain eye contact, come little closer, use proper voice tone. Being sexual is about applying that escalating pressure, but more in a playful, teasing, non-forceful way. Keep getting your topics more spicy, language more direct, get personal instead of abstract, introduce some slight innuendos or just mention sexual sphere casually. And obviously keep running your…
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:45 AM
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They may obviously just mess around or simply put their focus on better candidate available. Imagine you are decently attractive girl, most of guys are open to sleep with you without any fuss or conditions, you don't need to be too considerate, next option is just a few clicks away.
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:42 AM
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I think you need to become more straightforward in terms of perceiving attraction. Care about your clothes, about your finances, about your power, about your social contacts, deep voice, intelligence, strength, sexual capabilities, fame, competitiveness etc. Don't find excuses or cope with your downsides, but try to make yourself into that steoretypical masculine alpha male. Obviously you will not tick out all these traits, but aspiring to that and appealing to most blunt women's desires should …
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:34 PM
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You should escalate your mental and physical intimacy. Keep getting closer to a girl, make topics more direct and personal, touch her more frequently, longer, stronger, closer to erogenous zones, maintain eye contact, show off sexually attractive traits etc. You need to constantly make moves that will get you closer to your ultimate goal which is getting sexual. If you stay in one place with it, girl can’t expect that you will make something more out of it and classify you as friend, guy that on…
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:33 AM
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Sometimes it would be just about brief sexual adventure. Sometimes you start with sexual attraction, but afterwards you also start to form deeper connection. It may feel premature, but it should not be that big of a deal, with life things frequently go not as expected. Can you embrace it and simply enjoy getting lucky with sexual satisfaction? I guess it’s fine to desire proper relation development, but you will miss plenty of opportunities with girls that view it differently.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:28 AM
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Read seduction theory and test learnt techniques and mindsets in practice. Obviously keep improving your attractive traits and expand your opportunities to interact with women. Generally you don’t need to come up with direct and convert signs of interest immediately, but remember you need to make progress constantly, with escalating your physical intimacy and developing dynamics. Take it step by step and enjoy your seduction journey.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:23 AM
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Remember about corresponding body language and actions. Come closer to a girl, maintain eye contact longer, smile broadly, get more personal and direct with topics, keep touching her longer, stronger, closer to erogenous zones. If you feel you can't escalate any deeper in your current circumstances, change places. If your context and proximity stay pretty much the same as in the beginning of a date, you can't really make it shift suddenly. Mix up your techniques, you need to keep increasing that…
/r/seduction12/11/24 07:21 AM
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I guess you simply don't have proper theory to make proper practice. Search for some guide how to conduct gradual escalation of physical intimacy. Test different methods and mindsets and process the feedback to find your optimal way. About topics, remember that these are only emotions that matter, you won't progress with your relation by showing off with some interesting theory, talk simple and relatable things, make jokes, and create opportunities where you can come closer to a girl. Like with …
/r/seduction12/11/24 07:11 AM
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It feels like some clinical issue. What do you expect of the sexual relation to be? You need some very specific conditions to be met? From what you are describing, these girls were not acting abnormally, maybe just you bypassed warmup and getting to know each other, which is theoretically not necessary and many guys would even find it positive. Issue is probably on your side, think about it deeper or ask someone to help you recognize what you are really weirded about.
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:58 AM
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I guess her interest droped drastically but she enjoys getting attention. Probably you didn't put out much romantical and sexual escalation and focused too much on friendly talking. As you can see yourself, you are the only one that cares about making contact. If you can't progress with your relation, you are doomed. Go next.
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:49 AM
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Instead of bowing down to whatever she says, you should read between the lines and realise why she says things like that. If she states that there would be no kissing on first date, you can imagine she already thought about kissing you, which is a good sign, second thing is that she may want some control over your escalation or she wants to play the game where your push through her barriers, which is pretty arousing for many girls. Either way, you should just do your thing, if girl is exercising…
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:32 AM
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Maybe she thinks that deep down you enjoy such a game, many women seem to enjoy such contradictory carousel. I guess you can just tell her that her behaviour doesn't suit you and adjust giving her attention depending on that. Also, it would be good for you to get it clear what you want from this woman eventually, do you want to stay in such complicated relation forever? Maybe it would be better to focus on better matches?
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:44 AM
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Usual procedure is about taking it step by step with gradual escalation of your physical and mental intimacy. Keep coming closer, keep getting more personal and direct, conquer consecutive touch barriers, make your moves that will transfer context from stranger to close ones. Remember about corresponding body language. In most cases you don't want to be dull about your sexual game, but "naturally and innocently" create opportunities where things will "just happen".
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:35 AM
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You can pretend like you are tipsy. Like, imagine you are in this state and what would you do then and how would you behave. Suprisingly such inner game works really well, human body is really a magic thing.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:17 AM
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Standing out is really important in dating market, getting controversial accessories which boost your physical appearance should do more good than harm in most cases.
/r/seduction10/11/24 10:31 AM
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Generally you want to approach directly. Music is loud, crowd is thick, conducting any serious conversation would be usually too troublesome. Girls are warmed up, context is crystal clear, energy is high, alcohol makes people more upfront and ready for action. You come close, dance nearby, get eye contact, smile. If she reciprocates, you can keep coming closer, take her hand to dance together, whisper some flirty words in her ear. Then you can keep touching her longer, stronger, keep coming clos…
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:57 AM
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Sometimes shit may happen, but it's usually the risk you need to take on, otherwise you will pass on plenty of opportunities. The most important thing is that you know you did nothing wrong. If friends turn against you because of some false gossip, they were not your friends. If you want you can obviously focus on ways to meet women that you can potentially never meet again, but it's pretty sad to secure yourself with such measures. I think most guys don't care that much. Sometimes you may encou…
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:46 AM
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It's not that uncommon. Women can also be really horny.
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:13 AM
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So, what are you approaching for? To exercise talking or get sexual with a girl? What's the problem with bypassing the bullshit if both of you want the same?
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:08 AM
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Why do you think you will fuck up your life, sometimes people try and it doesn't work out, in some cases they need to endure bitter moments, sometimes it settles pretty smoothly. Just try not to harm others. You will pass on your desires, because people talk?
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:04 AM
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I remember my friend got a professional photo session especially to attract hot ladies on Tinder and it really made a difference for him, from few matches here and there to regular dating life.
/r/seduction10/11/24 06:56 AM
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I feel that many guys that didn't dive into the topic themselves mainly take examples about dating and flirting from romantic plot in movies. Which are generally about woman being in control and guy respecting her, showering with attention and gifts, and kiss just happen all of a sudden, without any proper warmup and escalation. Such situation in real life just never happens, it's not like sexual dynamics work. We need to say it loud and clear that there are lots of misconceptions in public spac…
/r/seduction10/11/24 06:50 AM
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Fear of rejection is our natural genetical conditioning, instead of getting rid of it, you should transform your emotions or at least reframe them differently. Sometimes it may be about poor vibe, or improper context. Brute forcing things is hardly ever a proper way. You can greatly reduce harm by paying close attention to girl's reactions, emotions and general mood, so you will realise in advance that your interaction will most likely not gonna work out. If you will be able to frame getting rej…
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:56 AM
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If you can't sure if she may like you and you potentially can meet each other regularly, I would suggest to have some casual talk for the first time. Make some jokes, present yourself properly. If you feel she is getting more and more eager, you can get her contact and move it towards direct context. Also, remember that even if you prefer being on your own as introvert, you should still be able to lead and reach for your goals that require socialization. You are a man, you got this.
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:48 AM
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It's normal and you should embrace that interactions can't be perfect all the way. You can use these emotions as feedback to improve yourself. And remember that it should go both ways, if you put yourself in a place of only side to be judged and responsible, you will quickly get overwhelmed with pressure and girl will feel your insecurities. Think of a date as a ground to check your mutual compatibility.
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:42 AM
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It happens, the thing is girl will still think you just wanted one thing from her or maybe she is bad at sex, even if you phrase it differently. You can't really avoid bitter emotions, she will make up their own version of the story anyways. I think you can just use simple words that she will not suffer long.
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:37 AM
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Well, you can't really avoid it being perceived as you just wanted to have one time sex. I guess you can just make it quick, say that you are really sorry but you don't want to mislead her, you don't feel like you are a good match, say that she is great but you feel it can't work.
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:24 AM
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With a girl you need to make your moves to gradually escalate physical intimacy, therefore you won't get friendzoned but potentially rejected if you cross the barrier that she will feel uncomfortable with. In terms of communication and socialization, it obviously takes time to improve your skills and get into high energy state. It would be the best for you to develop your lifestyle so you would enjoy your time and create opportunities to interact and bonding with people naturally. Also, I would …
/r/seduction08/11/24 03:25 PM
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You don't want to have a conversation, just a few exchanges to build some comfort, connection and increase the tension. Give her some compliment, ask for name, make up some situational comment or a joke. Let her hear your masculine voice and smell your perfume by coming very close.
/r/seduction08/11/24 12:56 PM
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Women rarely get turned on by some elusive wishful stuff. It's just talking. If you can share anything about your secret project, do it on a date to show that it is not just childish dreaming. Also, it may be something that you value much more than women, focus on standard sexually attractive traits, rest will come out sooner or later if you will find a good enough match to spend more time than just few meetings.
/r/seduction08/11/24 11:14 AM
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If you want some other examples, you can come close to her, get eye contact, then whisper some flirt words in her ear. Come close and dance together without touching. Grab her hand and spin her around gently. Your method also feels pretty common and legit.
/r/seduction08/11/24 11:06 AM
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Pretty standard situation, because you don't know what to do, you are trying to find 100% proof instead of approaching and checking for yourself. "Hey, I noticed you several times here and I wanted to introduce myself, I'm XYZ. (Blah, blah, blah, some standard social and school stuff) Hey, do you want to grab some lunch/coffee together? I know a good place" If she is with friends, you can start with "Hi, can I talk with you for a minute?" and take her aside. You can also figure out some common g…
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:03 AM
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There are really no universal tricks, you need to provide more information for anyone to verify your issue. If you can't seal the deal when you already brought the girl home, I guess your escalation game may be lacking. Remember it's up to you to make constant progress, just make it gradual and observe girl's reactions. On girl's side is to stop you when you are going too fast or there aren't proper feelings between you, most of the show is on you. Take it step by step, keep coming closer, maint…
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:51 AM
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First thing, remember that you need to take initiative, it's very improbable that you will get approached by potential girlfriend or friends if you are pretty much alone for now. Second thing, remember that you can't force anyone to like you. They need to match your own character too. Therefore, there is no pressure, just spend time with people and check if you vibe together, if there is something more there than brief interaction between strngers. Breath and proper posture is very important to …
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:42 AM
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Apart from improving your attractive feminine features and socialization, I would advise to come down to Earth and real life in terms of relations. Social media have really spoilt our viewpoint. Human is not only a gathering of high quality pixels, numbers and how they fit in current social dogma. Get to know people more, maybe some guys will trigger something in you that you will get to love and open towards.
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:35 AM
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I think you follow too much of internet dogma, real life interactions are much more balanced and toned down. Eye wandering is natural effect of our evolution, just don't stare. It should be normal that you want to take a closer look on a girl you may like, it may be even flattering. Simply keep in mind that it may also make someone uncomfortable, but definitely not with a brief glance around 1 second. If anything, problem is on another side.
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:58 AM
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Obiously you should take care about your physical fitness and keep developing your style, but there are also plenty of things that you can improve on the spot. Maintain eye contact, keep proper posture, smile, wear good and clean clothes, always take a shower and trim, use perfume. And remember to relax your body, take deep breaths, so you can easier express yourself like you want.
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:54 AM
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Remember about staying really close. Look her in the eyes, Smile. And just make your moves, start small, gentle and brief, and gradually go for being in each other's arms and kissing.
/r/seduction06/11/24 07:08 AM
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If your whole interaction is about escalating intimacy, then it is natural to be perceived in the context of one time thing. This is how women's hormonal system is designed. You need to trigger variety of emotions and get to know each other for it to create deeper and stronger connection.
/r/seduction06/11/24 06:55 AM
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So, did you try to approach the girl in group just like she would be there alone?
/r/seduction06/11/24 06:51 AM
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Smile is a really powerful tool, it creates comfort and triggers strong positive hormonal response. And makes you look better.
/r/seduction06/11/24 06:45 AM
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Remember that girls are dead afraid of bitter confrontation, it could be many things apart from emotional connection and involvement. Still, if you want to change something about your attitude, I would advise to spend more time with a girl, contact her more often, get involved in each other's lives, go through some unique and important situations together. Generally it should be about creating that extraordinary synergy and mutual future, but nowadays women seem to use the freedom to do anything…
/r/seduction06/11/24 06:42 AM
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I would advice to think it in such way. First, you need to stand out to catch attention. Next, warm up a girl, check how you vibe together, get to know each other, introduce emotions and some tension. After you established some connection and context, just casually ask to move your interaction to real life to have even more fun.
/r/seduction05/11/24 10:00 AM
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Because you don’t know how to do it. We naturally fear the unknown. And we were not taught how to handle our emotions in similar situations. Do your homework, focus on a girl and your body language, take it step by step.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:54 AM
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I guess many people suggest cold approaching, because you can’t come up there with any personal excuse. It’s only you, girl and the game, you don’t need to prepare anything.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:50 AM
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This is a common theme that you feel you won’t be able to vibe with another girl that good, and usually it turns out to be not the case at all. On the contrary, once you get the hang how to handle interaction with one woman, it would be easier in the future to recreate it. Sometimes you make mistakes like a normal human, sometimes it seems to go bad just by itself. Only those that don’t try won’t fail. Those who understand success and seduction always fight with rejection and sometimes win.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:31 AM
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Big thing is about proper warm up, whole woman body is erogenous zone and it needs to get ready to get penetrated. Whisper dirty words in her ear. Start small and build up your tempo and strength. Tease her with giving and delaying pleasure. Be creative, in terms of technique, place, context. Be unpredictable, change tempo, power, pattern, build up tension and provide release out of the template for her to get lost in the game. Watch her reactions. If you don't mind, smoke some weed or use other…
/r/seduction04/11/24 05:11 PM
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From my experience, it was always about priorities and rigid patterns. I guess you can clarify situation, for her to not perceive it as low interest from you. But really, it's hard to imagine that someone can't squeeze 2 hours for himself for entire week. We are living in times when being busy is a high virtue. My point is that obviously you can still succeed with keeping in touch with her or reaching out after some time, but I believe you can easily avoid these mind games just by being more tim…
/r/seduction03/11/24 12:37 PM
1

Generally if you are 100% busy why would you seek more things that you don't have time for. Optimize your schedule if you really want to get something going with next girl. If you keep only texting she may get impatient of lack of progress or find another option if you don't make contact for longer time, it's very natural. Instead of figuring out another magic trick I would rather suggest to figure out your priorities and timetable.
/r/seduction03/11/24 12:04 PM
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Asked her if she was up to any activities today and suggest "casually and innocently" to spend some time together. Foundation placed, now you simply gradually escalate things during your meeting. You don't have to instantly frame it towards ultimate context, just make one step. Then another.
/r/seduction03/11/24 11:57 AM
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Yeah, remind her about pleasurable experience of the previous night and set up for a followup.
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:14 AM
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It's normal to get denied while you are still grinding your technique and still in the beginning of improving your attractive features. Women are elitist in nature and can sense your incompetence and incongruence easily. The point is to process feedback of your approaches and make changes, collecting rejections won't make you success per se, but they are inevitable for you to develop your game and understand women's nature. With seduction journey, you are usually not getting much success for a l…
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:10 AM
1

Successful people always need to go against the current. Also, these feelings are not negative per se, you should grind your technique and feel the mood for your approach to be respectful and potentially successful. And remember that most people are clueless about reality of dating, many of them can't even think for themselves and go with the current, blindly following those that speak the loudest and make the highest numbers.
/r/seduction03/11/24 12:20 AM
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If you didn't introduce some sexual context already, I think it would be pretty out of place for now. Not that many women like to be so straightforward and blunt at the beginning. It would be better to rephrase it for something like "I dreamed about you that night ;)" but in general you don't need to rush things really. If she is down for a meeting already, you can escalate in person, little bit of alcohol and warm up interaction and both of you should naturally play for getting sexual.
/r/seduction02/11/24 01:00 PM
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Most people think in terms of being reactive, they need external trigger to behave like they want. But you should be smarter, being expressive and creative just for the fun of it will definitely elevate your energy level and general mood. You can treat it like a challenge, can you be little like an actor?
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:15 AM
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Can’t come up with any international position, but dating market is definitely a good example and many professionals mention this while clarifying why public opinion is so clueless and misleading in the matter.
/r/seduction02/11/24 10:06 AM
2

I believe there are several things to be realised. First, people often come up with little lies or variety of eristics methods to hold their position in a group or society. Second one, there are plenty of cases where people can't tell you the truth and you need to read between the lines. Third, despite declaring positive intents, many people would subconsciously set you up for failure for them to feel better about themselves. Keeping these matters in mind, you should start forming your mindset f…
/r/seduction01/11/24 06:04 PM
1

Big thing is about keeping clear mindset. Your goal is to gradually escalate your mutual intimacy, both in mental and physical aspect. Conversation, activities, interaction should be set in a way to smoothly and naturally allow you to come from strangers to close ones. If you are just talking and there is really no clear intent and goal in your interaction, girl will surely try to trigger some emotions to get things going and warm up. Just keep in mind you can't be random, you need to take initi…
/r/seduction01/11/24 10:38 AM
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Start with some casual and warming up conversation, for the emotions to reawaken and the idea of meeting to feel expected and natural. About making choices, you should rather present your ideas for her to accept or not, unless she wants to take initiative by herself too.
/r/seduction01/11/24 10:25 AM
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I believe anti-slut defense is some sort of a natural female defense from getting intimate and risking getting pregnant, became infected by STDs or simply exchanging biological sphere with incompatible partner. So I guess next time this thought pops up in your mind, ask yourself a question, is this guy worth the risk considering all those aspects? Don't oppose your feelings, use them to step up and come up with deeper realisation.
/r/seduction31/10/24 10:26 AM
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I would say it's advised to keep in touch with some brief exchanges, but don't elaborate too much. Keep the main course for your real life meeting.
/r/seduction30/10/24 12:29 PM
5

Many girls may follow this social concept that man approaching woman in public is just a bother. But, once they get to know that you are a respectful, competent and attractive guy, they may change their mind. If you grind your technique and pay attention to girl's reactions, there is no problem with being approached for a brief interaction to potentially get a satisfying sexual relation.
/r/seduction30/10/24 10:52 AM
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I think so. You can observe how girls and guys go around getting familiar with each other there. Each culture and place may have specific ritual for that.
/r/seduction30/10/24 10:43 AM
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Yeah, there is no room for that, girl will just turn towards and stay with the guy that she fancy, so you need to be around her.
/r/seduction29/10/24 07:07 PM
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Generally with the first meet up you wanna get to know each other a little, confirm sexual attraction and escalate, but if you wanna be more creative I guess you can try out something new together, join some current city attraction, get some personal stuff done that she may enjoy. Follow your feeling, these are still only but a background, if you know what you are doing you can turn most generic circumstances into thrilling experience.
/r/seduction29/10/24 02:19 PM
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You can take your time, but if you get stagnant with it you can lose control over developing your relation for good. And it may be perceived that you can't progress to reach for your goals. If you already got to know each other very well, sex would not be perceived as shallow urge, but something that would strongly connect you and provide lots of benefits, especially for woman. As you can see in your case, she is pulling away because there is nothing to be expected anymore and it's pretty hard t…
/r/seduction29/10/24 12:04 PM
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Didn't you reach your escalation goal by the fourth meetup? Remember that you should be congruent in developing your relation, if you are getting to know each other more, sharing time and emotions, it should also be met with getting more physically intimate and increasing sexual tension/attraction. Otherwise, it's the frame of being friends.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:39 AM
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Obviously you should not be dull about it, but steer your conversation for them to come up naturally. With cold plunge you can share being temperature shocked and then relieved while warming up, but it would be even better to get into more comprehensive situations.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:33 AM
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I guess seduction world is full of useful viewpoints and methods. In my opinion the most important thing is about giving up on your reason and social dogma and learn things from guys that have plenty of experience with women and test their knowledge in practice. It is a common statement that you can’t understand a woman, but I believe you can grasp an essence of emotional being if you stop comparing it to yourself.
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:30 AM
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Generally by seeking a connection, but focus on emotional side of things. What you like, what you laugh about, what you miss, what you dream of, what you value. You can also create it from scratch, by going together through some emotion-inducing situations.
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:18 AM
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Women usually don’t think in terms of logical patterns but emotions. You didn’t satisfy her desires and expectations in this dimension. For the future, I would suggest to keep in mind that women are different, you need to read between the lines and anticipate her needs. Or just ask. And remember about huge sexual appetite of women, you need to appeal to her deepest desires of man-woman sexual dynamics. And for the last, women are kinda crazy, they can change their mind for stupid reasons, don’t …
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:05 AM
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Clubs are rather about direct approach. Come close, dance with her, say something in her ear.
/r/seduction29/10/24 07:27 AM
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Don’t elaborate. “Mhm, interesting”. And smoothly change the subject. Sometimes you need to save girl from herself.
/r/seduction29/10/24 07:21 AM
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Yeah, I would say this warming up effect persists for some time, but with standard daily routine it should rather quickly tone down. With game context matters a lot.
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:11 AM
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This is should be rather a positive thing for you. Girls are just afraid that you will get lots of attention and options, so it would be easy for you to find a new partner if you want and hard for any girl to keep you in relation. On the other hand, it’s obvious that appearance may be deceitful. Just let it slide and laugh about it. Girl needs to handle her head on her own.
/r/seduction28/10/24 08:21 AM
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Waiting should be rather a part of the process, for you to focus on your stuff, for girl to process emotions. Generally you don’t wanna let her forget you, you should give her space, but not let her go completely. So if you took her number after brief interaction, I would say next day is a deadline for you to escalate more.
/r/seduction28/10/24 08:08 AM
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I guess it still sticks with the rule of gradual escalation. You don’t wanna be too comfortable around a total stranger, it’s advised to match each other’s involvement. Generally you need to figure out things yourself, present the frame that you can maintain. Big thing is also about observing girl’s reactions and body language, if you pay attention you can subconsciously feel where and how to steer your interaction to meet on the common ground. And if she doesn’t like your frame, what you can do…
/r/seduction28/10/24 08:03 AM
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Maybe it can feel little awkward, but what you can do, there is beautiful girl and passionate romance waiting for you, you can bear with feeling slightly uneasy.
/r/seduction28/10/24 07:49 AM
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If you are not sure, you should opt for moves that are still socially acceptable, but at the same time they are building tension and connection, so called hacks. Coming little closer than usual, asking little more personal questions, holding eye contact little longer, smiling wider, exercising innocent casual touch shouldn’t be perceived as creepy, but at the same time you send a clear signal that there is some escalation going on and you can observe if girl is taking it positively or rather pus…
/r/seduction28/10/24 07:37 AM
1

So, during that long hours of you being in the same room, you haven't got an urge to come closer, look her in the eyes, smile, make some casual touch? Remember that it's up to you to take initiative and make moves to escalate your intimacy. The point is to go with it gradually, for her to get accustomed and for you to observe her reactions if she is comfortable with it and eager for more. You shouldn't jump her with sudden kiss, but rather keep increasing the tension with some flirtatious and pe…
/r/seduction27/10/24 11:20 AM
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Your attitude reminds me of this sexual meme where dude is being confused about girl's feelings even when they are already naked in bed. She can give out mixed signals all the way, if only she lets you make your moves to escalate your physical intimacy. Remember that it is expected from you to take the risk and push sexual agenda smoothly, women are rarely blunt about it, in life you need to take things that you want, not wait for them to be presented to you.
/r/seduction27/10/24 11:03 AM
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So don't bombard her with sex shit, just do it. You may not see each other after you go back home, so it is very much expected to speed things up and use your time together to fuck as much as you can.
/r/seduction27/10/24 10:53 AM
0

With older woman you can be more straightforward. Just don't get into some awkward quarrel about age gap or something, treat her like woman you desire.
/r/seduction27/10/24 10:49 AM
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Start from the beginning, come closer to people, get eye contact, smile, have some brief small talk. You can also attend parties or watch good talk shows to fish for ideas, practice your voice by the mirror. Even if you think you are introverted, you should still be able take the lead if necessary. But it will not happen on its own, you need to practice.
/r/seduction27/10/24 10:46 AM
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I guess she was so heated up for going sexual that it didn't really matter who will be her releaser. There is no reason to be bitter if you don't want to get with women like that, but maybe you can learn something from it, that snoozing with escalation can very much backfire. Therefore, you need to pay attention, even if you may assume that it is too soon, you should still check it in practice.
/r/seduction27/10/24 10:42 AM
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Well, connection should be about something exceptional between you, natural synergy, right? So providing her with extraordinary emotions and experience should seal the deal, right? About kissing and breaking touch barrier, I feel that nowadays it became like some generic standard, kissing or even making out with consecutive dating partners is being perceived like non-commital dating around scenario. Maybe you can try going little further, place your hand on her thigh or hips, stay very close, sa…
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:38 PM
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You don't need to be the king of surprise, just go with the flow, have fun yourself, treat every meeting like a new life opportunity. After some practice new ideas will just pop up on their own. If you want some followup, don't just conduct standard date experience. And remember about escalating physical intimacy, this usually provides the most thrill in a girl. Also, maybe you should cut your interest to a few girls if you are looking for something more, you can't be surprised that dates are no…
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:06 PM
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Yes. Maybe it's not like she is already ready, but mentioning sexual topics is pretty standard technique to warm things up and steer the interaction for escalating your intimacy.
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:39 AM
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It's natural to feel confused and anxious about things that you have never done before. These things may feel little awkward, but there is technically no reason for that, someone needs to take the risk and make the first step. "Actually, would you like to grab a coffee sometime?" Remember to look girl in the eyes and smile, to pass that clear intention and positive vibe. Don't make a big fuss about it, just simple yes/no question, let the girl react to it however she wants.
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:35 AM
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Remember that you won't win her affection by compliments. They should be just like a nice little addition to your whole interaction and dynamics. Also, focus on things that are not obvious, girl will like you words much more if they are honest and unique.
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:29 AM
0

Think of things that you have never done yourself. Being creative is a big thing in dating. Visit unknown places, meet different people, do things that you have never done before. Girl will also feel that spark of adventure within you and act accordingly feeling that you are also in new grounds. But these are not only activities and places, you can create terrific experience just by playing properly with words. Be expressive, use proper intonation and gesticulation, have fun with it just by your…
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:23 AM
2

There are two common issues that you can address here. First is about gradual escalation of your intimacy and keeping your mindset clear about getting sexual. Both with your conversation and activities, they are meant to allow you to escalate your relation with a girl. Therefore, you should pass on keeping it cosy and safe, instead you need to come up with some triggering experiences and moves that would push your context from strangers to close ones and getting more and more physically intimate…
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:05 AM
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How about being more picky and choose girls that you would feel some complementing synergy with? Also, in terms of dates you should opt for more unique and strong experiences, don't get into some generic conversation or activities, but try to create circumstances where you can act naturally and honestly and check if you are for real a good match for each other.
/r/seduction26/10/24 09:53 AM
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Accept every opportunity to interact with women. Attend parties, ask friends to introduce you, try out dating apps, make some small talk with women in public, join hobby groups, hit bars/clubs. About improving yourself, keep reading about seduction mindsets and methods and test them in practice, take care of your body fitness and general appearance. And have fun, it may take some time and effort for you to start getting interest from girls on regular basis, remember that girls are elitist in nat…
/r/seduction25/10/24 09:51 AM
1

Equal commitment to relationship is just some sweet dream. You just need to realise that girls are different and they simply don't desire being showered with love and attention too much. If you really have big feelings for her, you should provide her with what she wants, not what you want. There is no problem with expressing your love to the fullest, but you should also give her some space for her to process her feelings and give in her fair share to the relation.
/r/seduction25/10/24 09:41 AM
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From your description, mood and dynamics feel pretty terrible, she appeared very late and then run away very soon. I would rather not bother with resuscitating this relation, she appears low interest and not respectful. As it comes to date ideas, you should always think about proper ground for escalation, having some private time, trigger emotions, getting to know each other, make physical contact, put yourselves in different kinds of situations. Date should always revolve around making progress…
/r/seduction24/10/24 12:32 PM
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Ask the girl exactly when you can expect an answer. It's usually an indicator that she is not that eager to meet you. You should keep elevating the mood, sexual tension and your mutual dynamics, for the meeting to be natural and desired step in developing your relation. If you can't see the way, you should rather let it go and look for better matches. If you put yourself in a frame that you can wait forever for her to make up her mind, you won't be perceived as a high value man and most likely b…
/r/seduction24/10/24 12:23 PM
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"The one" girl would surely appreciate my qualities and smoothly complement them. How it would be the girl for me if she doesn't? We need to remember that our viewpoint may be easily hijacked by hormonal high or pheromones. With time and distance I can easily see how many girls that I crushed upon would not be a good match for me.
/r/seduction24/10/24 10:43 AM
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You keep the frame to maintain control over your dynamics and escalation process. If your conversation and situation would turn out to sabotage this process, like making you look low value or more like a friend, you should correct it somehow to keep it within proper vibe, for the interaction to escalate towards getting sexual and for you to keep an image of sexually attractive male.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:40 AM
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If you still can pull out your masculine qualities when necessary and duck her brains out in bed, it’s not that big of a deal. You don’t need to be some testosterone factory all the way, modern society doesn’t require that.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:27 AM
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Have fun with a conversation. Play with words, trigger emotions, be expressive. Have you ever tried to play things as an actor? Go that way, just don't try too hard. Remember it's about general vibe and your mutual dynamics, information and logic doesn't really matter.
/r/seduction22/10/24 11:42 AM
1

You should always try to move things forward, the thing is just to properly adjust tempo to her reactions, mood and circumstances. You don't have to figure out whether she likes you 100%, make your moves and give her space to have some control over it. Maybe she is annoyed because you take too long? Or she has some other options and she doesn't know what to feel about it? Whatever it would be, your plan is always to take initiative and reach for your prize by your own moves. Remember that waitin…
/r/seduction22/10/24 11:36 AM
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It feels like low interest, she doesn't have proper feelings for you, at least for now. And instead of elveating the mood, creating some extraordinary connection or triggering strong emotions, you are pushing the meeting that she is not really enthusiastic about. Make one step backwards and make something happen that would want her to continue your interaction in real life. And maybe look around for different options too.
/r/seduction22/10/24 11:31 AM
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Don't elaborate when you don't have to or you are not sure. Just go with "Hmmm, ok".
/r/seduction22/10/24 11:26 AM
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Generally it's the thing that many guys, especially in the beginning of their seduciton quest, are getting carried away with emotions, expectations and clinging to any signs that would give the slightest chance for potential sexy time. In reality, if things are meant to succeed, it's usually a pretty smooth way, without tough excuses or unfortunate events. Remember that many girls excuse themselves for little lies or don't mind to keep you around without any desire to escalate things. You need t…
/r/seduction22/10/24 11:23 AM
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From my experience, it's a pretty difficult quest to find a good match right off the bat, if you are picky. However, you can influence your girl to a good extent if she is happy with you, women naturally adapt qualities and viewpoints from men they love.
/r/seduction21/10/24 10:35 AM
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Procedure stays pretty much the same, you need to create circumstances where you can escalate your intimacy gradually. Invite her for some 1 on 1 time, stay close to her and observe her reactions how she feels about it.
/r/seduction21/10/24 10:26 AM
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It's like you can adjust to her type with different attitudes, but she needs to cooperate too. It can happen on its own, but you also often need to awaken it if girl acts too passive.
/r/seduction21/10/24 10:17 AM
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Being passive is a terrible indicator for a sexual relationship. If you didn't make any progress, date was pretty pointless in terms of creating some romance between you, you would have to start from the beginning yet again, and potentially end up nowhere too if you would continue to play it the same way. About "feeling a spark", it's about that extraordinary connection, which would "naturally" trigger strong emotions between you, attraction, unique experience and positive life feedback. So inst…
/r/seduction20/10/24 06:54 PM
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With dating app attractive girls have almost infinite options. She may enjoy getting to know new potential partners, but she probably won't commit to anything else if she has much better options available. Don't take it personally, dating for girls is significantly different. If you want to pursue long term relationship, you need to present values and experience that won't be easily found just few clicks away.
/r/seduction20/10/24 11:15 AM
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I believe it's the best to keep it real from the beginning. Adjust your emotional involvement to your actual relation progress, not words or expectations. If you fumbled something, you need to realise that you can't be on your toes all the time, and handling so high-maintenance woman is really not worth it in the long term. Keep your options opened and keep grinding your social interactions, don't get hooked up after only couple of meetings. It won't serve you good and girl won't be pleased if y…
/r/seduction20/10/24 11:09 AM
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Treat it like a normal conversation, stay sharp, simple, relatable, touch topics that trigger emotions. Have a good time and play together to see if you are a good match. And remember that texting is just a small first step, don't stay there for too long and don't commit. In the long run, you don't want to just talk and pass time, you want to escalate towards intimate relation, which can really only progress in real life circumstances.
/r/seduction19/10/24 01:03 PM
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In general sign of attraction is about girl helping and supporting you in escalation process. I think that you don't really have to deeply analyse if the girl may be into you, just follow your good feeling and try to make something out of it. But don't brute force it, pay attention if she is eager to play the game or seeks the excuse to end it.
/r/seduction18/10/24 07:25 AM
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I believe there are two issues that stick out. Despite having good emotional connection, you seem not to escalate anything in terms of physical intimacy. Also, you snoozed to keep up the fire throughout next few days. Therefore, after that time, she can only recall having good time, but now it is just a memory, nothing extraordinary happened between you and radio silence kinda confirms it.
/r/seduction18/10/24 07:12 AM
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I don't get it how anyone can suggest radio silence after the date. I believe the point is simply to adjust your involvement to your current progress in relation, don't get overly excited and needy after just one meeting, keep that intriguing tension and drop of a mystery. You should keep in touch, just don't play your moves and invest too much in texting, it's the real life actions that ultimately decide your relation. In some case, when girl went all the way with you, she may become more engag…
/r/seduction17/10/24 07:23 AM
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"Sorry, I have a boyfriend" is also one of the smoothest excuses. Generally you can encounter single and taken girls everywhere, but I guess clubs are the most common place for girls that want to potentially meet attractive guys, and it's the place that their boyfriends would rather vote against going. Still, I believe that it may be more of a you problem, having a boyfriend is not an issue per se, you just look for another target, it's not like single girls are endangered species yet.
/r/seduction17/10/24 07:06 AM
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I would say that flirting is about introducing potential romantic context between you two. Deeper connection, strong attraction, something unique happening between you. You can do teasing and banter just for sport or self-approval or you can open the doors of real romantic story.
/r/seduction16/10/24 03:15 PM
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With daygame you can expect girls to be more toned down, but in general their expectations stay pretty far-fetched. If you opt for a direct approach, it’s highly recommended to max out your first impression features. Also, if you want to minimize dealing with bitter rejections, I would advise paying attention to various indicators of interest, get eye contact, smile, come little closer before you make a contact. Give girl some space to react to your potential approach.
/r/seduction15/10/24 10:11 AM
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Such long distance game is hardly ever worth investing effort and emotions. There are too big dynamics swings, which is pretty annoying in a long run, especially for a girl. Look out for different options, if you want to still keep in touch with this girl, keep your investment congruent with real life progress. Texting may be funny and all, but you can't cover the fact that you still did nothing in reality.
/r/seduction14/10/24 10:14 AM
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I would be too disgusted with her even to have casual sex. I can understand that girl are conditioned for conspiracy, but I think this crossed the borderline.
/r/seduction13/10/24 11:54 AM
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First thing is to stop taking yourself down, seeking consolation or understanding won't really help you. There are plenty of features that can be improved, embark on a quest of long term improvement and at some point you will cross the bar of women's standards. Enjoy your seduction journey. Don't feel pity for yourself, instead invest your energy and will into following those that made their progress from nothing to abundance.
/r/seduction13/10/24 08:11 AM
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Current dating standards evolved towards much quicker escalation. Friends and lovers are mainly distinguished by physical intimacy. If you didn't push anything in that direction, then second date cannot be expected to make any difference. Point is to make the process gradual, starting from scratch and observing girl's reactions to adjust proper tempo. Stay little closer to girl, maintain eye contact longer, smile, touch her in casual way. If she seems to enjoy it and clearly warmed up and opened…
/r/seduction13/10/24 08:04 AM
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I would suggest to be more casual and simple, not that many women crave smart ass openers. Don’t be discouraged, process feedback and figure out new methods. Also, don’t get too bitter about other’s opinions, it’s so easy to criticize, not that easy to put yourself under public criticism.
/r/seduction12/10/24 11:18 AM
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