How do I move forward?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-25T16:39:38+00:00

Sounds like OP is handsome but has always had self esteem type issues. Unless you're a celeb, pro athlete, in a known band, or have an upper class job, women will rarely pursue you. You have to get their number and talk to them beyond the first interaction and plan a date. Use the small talk as a quick "vibe check" to talk for a moment and then transition to asking her number; don't hold anyone in a long conversation vortex. Further the banter over text or a quick phone call so you can setup a date. Then use the date to gauge her more intently and screen for compatibility, her interests, and so forth.

burncushlikewood · 2025-04-25T09:22:05+00:00

What do you mean by closing, or securing the date, I find space is the best way to close, you give her space it helps build comfort with someone

topher_atx · 2025-04-25T17:01:38+00:00

I'm not super successful with women or anything, but this is what I do: Ask if they want to exchange contact info. Then ask them out either the next day, or Monday after the weekend where you met them.

This kind of puts them on the spot though. I don't recommend this part, but if they decline I move on and don't ever talk to them again.

Maybe a better strategy that I've seen a friend use is just keep exchanging contact info with women, and one of them will probably reach back out to you when some other guy lets them down. I think a lot of women do this, they collect lots of options. They collect potential romantic partners like Pokemon.

Personally, I hate that, and I don't like hanging around as an option. But it might be smart to hang around as an option because some percentage of women are going to reach back out to you when their other options don't work out as planned. (Note, this is all assuming you're in good shape and are a viable romantic partner. If you're fat and don't look good naked nobody's going to reach back out or want to go on any dates with you.)

Independent-Cod-5938 · 2025-04-25T20:05:20+00:00

So before you end the convo try to bring up Something you like to do.

If you like to dance or go to museums etc.

And see if they would be interested?

Have you been to x museum? I’m thinking of going next week, You should join me. Etc

Dandys3107 · 2025-04-26T09:17:53+00:00

You need to take the risk. Expand your opportunities. Keep improving your sexually attractive traits. Don't expect something to happen out of nowhere because you conducted a nice interaction or provided much effort. You need to ask. If you are not yet in romantic or sexual context, just keep asking to spend more time together, keep coming closer, women can sense such context but you absolutely need to take initiative yourself.

thepool1023 · 2025-04-25T08:58:11+00:00

Need to know how many approaches you've done and where you get stuck. To me it would become second nature with enough approaches. You'd understand the cues to proceed to close.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-25T09:38:27+00:00

Slowly verbally and physically escalate, and narrow the convo into “you and me” talk.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-25T10:05:27+00:00

So why can't you close? Is it due to a lack of knowledge or due to fear of rejection?

Title	How do I move forward?
Author	Sure_Scholar_1061
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	April 25, 2025 8:39 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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