Shit-test She gets mad

DaygameCode · 2025-02-13T17:18:04+00:00

Agree and amplify and exxagerate, if you want examples you have to specify what you said that got her mad

thiswontlastlongv · 2025-02-13T16:56:29+00:00

I love shit tests… usually gives you an opportunity to set yourself apart from the rest

But maybe don’t tease girls if you can’t handle them being upset

I stopped making jokes for that same reason.

I also stopped sarcasm

Just allows too much space for bullshit

sqowz · 2025-02-13T17:13:01+00:00

If people get upset with your approach or routines, it might mean you're not calibrated enough.

However, one person's reaction doesn’t necessarily mean you're off track; you need to test it on more people to see patterns. If everyone gets mad, then it's time to adjust. It's one of the price you must pay, in exchange of becoming socially calibrated person.

That said, my rule of thumb is: if she’s mad but still directing all her energy toward you, that’s actually a good sign. You only truly lose her when she no longer wants to engage with you at all.

The key is being able to pull her out of that emotion and flip it. If you can make her laugh after she's mad at you, you’re in a great spot. Of course, that’s easier said in theory than done.

Personally, I often just shrug it off and reset things later, maybe couple of hours later or the next day or whatever. I treat it like it never happened. Works for me.

FlexViper · 2025-02-13T21:25:42+00:00

either defuse fast with something short and simple by telling her to calm the F down is a joke the longer you drag this shit test the harder for that previous respond to be approved by her.

Teasing is fun but don't over do it always give something in return if she's being a good sport by saying something sweet or just a simple reassurance that she's cool with some compliments.

Love bombing works but it only works if she passed your own little shit test you gave her by telling her you're busy or unavailable when it comes to making time for her when she's acting needy or asking for your time of day.

Remember do not let the girl keep giving you shit test put in some of your own to keep it interesting. Sometime there's a right time to switch from defensive to aggressive

Example:

I had a shitty day once and I wasn't in a good mood to chat with her over a voice call made her cried herself to sleep by texting her that I am not in the mood and schedule to voice chat on the next day. She asked why and I told her I need some space to get other things done in my life so I be unavailable for the next one and a half day. She just acts needy and anxious in my absent.

Looking back at it now she said I was constantly on her mind as I go on about my day doing my own things in order to get it done. Since she passed my shit test for not doing something stupid while I am busy and being radio silence for almost a day in return I gave her a lot of affection through voice chat. The love bombing it's very rewarding for her as it meant a lot after all that waiting as I could tell because she starts turning on her webcam and putting on an outfit that I like seeing her in without asking,

Because for the whole entire day she's anxious and tense trying to predict what my response will be if I were to talk to her again after I get my shit sorted out as she told me that she thought I am going to break up with her or assuming that her being in my life wasn't good enough or she did something that sets me off. Basically just assuming all the worst outcome and multiple theories she could think of. which made me reassure her that non of it is related because is just another shitty day at work as I was feeling burned out and was in a terrible mood knowing that I got a lot of things to do the next day that's not work related

The push pull effect game here is me pushing her away saying that I am unavailable and not in a good mood without telling her every details of my days or what caused me to be in the bad mood by keeping the text short without any clues to work with which made her think she did something wrong as it fuels her imagination on what could possibly cause me to be in a bad mood.

Pull is when I am done with sorting things out and called her on the scheduled time and talk about my days with her. This would help erasing all her doubts and theories of what is gonna happen next after a long day of feeling anxious

The shit test psychology game here is that if she constantly thinking about you the brain will trick her into thinking you're very important and would wait for you like a dog waits for it's owner to come back home.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-13T19:45:06+00:00

It’s interesting that you haven’t actually shared with us what was said exactly, which I bet will be something really dumbass and autistic.

Elbynerual · 2025-02-13T21:30:29+00:00

If a girl gets mad because of something you said, it's not a shit test. What you said WAS offensive, and you need way more experience at reading their emotions.

Prestigious_Ad_9013 · 2025-02-13T17:45:38+00:00

i got good at piecing together words from things i see (neurodivergent) so i exaggerate and correlate things in the moment to the nonsense in my head. Making yourself laugh can look insane but it does a good job at building confidence, making people wonder who you are.

Talk about her & yourself in the third person. (am i the "she" he talking about?)

Lead the interaction's energy (in your head) toward her safety and your betterment. Being ready to make silly noises, fun of yourself without truly giving af can warm people up to you. It helps you stop giving a shit about the words of others & stand out

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-02-13T18:05:58+00:00

As a shit test, just be unreactive and smile at her in a loving way.

But if shes genuinely mad, I would say sorry and move on as quickly as possible.

Dandys3107 · 2025-02-13T18:51:29+00:00

Well, I guess you can show how you can handle irrational emotions. Technically you did nothing wrong, at least in your perspective, but you should also consider that someone may get offended by you unintentionally. You can admit that you might have put your toe across the border and say something nice for a change. It heavily depends on the context, I would just discourage your from going into extremes with getting too apologetic and humble or getting even more cocky and self-oriented. Positive and laidback attitude is usually the key to handle gender interactions properly.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-02-13T23:09:52+00:00

What I'm reading here is: "I pissed off a woman by making fun of her and instead of taking responsibility for my actions, I'm going to declare that her feelings are irrelevant and she was really just testing me."

This is why you didn't get her. Be an adult.

When you do this, it's a signal to women that you're lousy in bed. If you're not going to see their emotions as valid, they know you don't care about their orgasm, either.

I did the same shit when I was young and stupid and I lost a lot of women because of it. Just man up and apologize next time. It's a thing that works and tells her you're a grown ass man instead of a thirteen year old boy.

[deleted] · 2025-02-13T23:54:50+00:00

Upset in what way? what does she say? What do you say?

generally you eider

Agree and exaggerate (exaggerate her shit test to such a degree it's ridiculous)

or

misinterpret (interpret it as her hitting on you or giving you a compliment)

Thebiggestbigsquid · 2025-02-14T03:52:03+00:00

I barely get shit tested anymore. What works for me is I genuinely don’t give af and I don’t pretend to be bring I’m not. There’s no standard way but just don’t react emotionally and play it off. Always works for me.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-02-14T08:23:53+00:00

If she gets angry at your cocky-funny routine you fucked up.

epimpstyle · 2025-02-14T11:48:35+00:00

I make fun of a girl in a cocky-funny(nonoffensive) way

What would you do if she was the one making fun of you?

zerolifez · 2025-02-14T12:02:25+00:00

Life too short for spending time with a girl that do this shit.

theupside2024 · 2025-02-16T07:16:22+00:00

This is your shit test for her. Can she take a joke? If not , well maybe another girl with thicker skin is out there for you.

Red_Cat69 · 2025-02-17T14:33:07+00:00

Have you considered may be that you ARE offensive?

Because that rarely happened to me

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-13T17:10:12+00:00

I solve this as follows: I never say mean cocky-funny shit, and she doesn't get mad.

You created the problem you're trying to solve. It's better to not create the problem in the first place.

Title	Shit-test She gets mad
Author	daryus316
Upvotes	28
Comments	23
Date	February 13, 2025 4:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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