let them chase you..

Jironasaurus · 2025-03-21T22:16:18+00:00

While I agree with the video in general, a lot of what she says also contradicts my real life experiences.

Just as an example, she mentioned that you can chase a woman and she loses interest, but the moment you ignore her, she comes back. I can also state there are many moments when you chase a woman and she lost interest... and when you ignore her, she just simply fades away. The both of you just stop talking completely.

Another example: she talks about being unpredictable to create a pull. The problem I always have with this piece of advice is... what happens when you're in a relationship 5 years down the road? Dude, she would have sussed you out plenty already by then. And then what? What are you going to pull out of your bag of tricks now?

For context, my girlfriend thinks I am predictable. In fact she's mentioned it a few times. We're heading towards 2 years together in another 5 months. I'm not mysterious at all. But what definitely worked is that I constantly make her feel good. Our connection is great too. Her level of investment seems to have increased with time.

So it's not necessarily that these mindsets are absolutes. They are very important, yes, but in my opinion, she's not giving you the juice in that video.

At the end of the day, I sincerely believe that everyone just wants someone awesome. If a woman doesn't chase, it's simply because she doesn't find you desirable. The only way to make her chase then... is to become desirable. Which is why the constant rhetoric that you have to work on yourself.

Then of course there are guys who constantly talk about improving themselves, and yet they say they get nowhere with women. Just ask the men who go on dating app breaks. They would go find themselves better hobbies, improve their money situation, or hit the gym until they are proud of what they see in the mirror. They get more attention sometimes, but then the women still don't chase.

What I've rarely heard men talk about... is that they improve their personality. How often do you see someone in here talk about becoming more charismatic, more of a leader, more manly, more relatable, or learning how to connect deeper? And not just with women... but people in general. Because if you're doing this only in front of women, then it's just a bloody act.

Likewise, you mentioned that you have "looks, athletic physique, funny to some extent". But that's all. What about your winning personality? What about having an infectious vibe? If you want women to chase you, those are equally important things to work on. Because ultimately, a woman will love you for who you are, not what you do.

DaygameCode · 2025-03-21T21:49:16+00:00

Here is the thing no one should chase. The point of chasing is that the other person runs away from the person that chases. The key is about mutual and reciprocal engagement.

You still have to take the initiative and talk to them, because it’s simply the masculine thing to do. This doesn’t mean over texting or seeking excessive attention from her or being overly available, but it also doesn’t complete unavailability, or not giving her any attention at all.

It’s about balance. If you don’t know how to balance then it’s best (although not ideal) to just imitate what she does. But if what you want is for women to take the time of the man, and be the one that takes the initiative and pursue while you sit back and relax while she does all the work, that’s not gonna happen.

Before sex happens it’s men that usually have to work harder, after sex it’s women who usually have to work harder. Women will be more likely (although not always) to chase you after you have already had sex with them first.

Loud_Contract_689 · 2025-03-23T05:26:44+00:00

The strategy works best in gyms and social environments where you see the same girls all the time. With the right blend of being mysterious and confident, you can get the attention of single women and cause them to develop a "crush" on you without even having to approach them.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-03-22T04:21:18+00:00

Getting girls to chase you is something intermediates learn. The skillsets are not avaliable to begineers yet, this is because to get women to chase you have to learn frames.

To build frames properly, you would be required to know how to escalate, flirt and approach with ease. See my post on frames to see if you can technically do what I outlined in there.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-03-21T21:17:13+00:00

Dude, the video literally explained the mindset and how that mindset is reflected in everyday life.

I mean, we can go into nitty gritty details like in a video she sad to text less than woman u like.

In practice that means allow for her to text to u first in the morning. Your messages should have 1.5 less content than hers. Your reply time should be 2.5 longer than hers. So if she texts in 30min then wait 1.5 hours to text her back. And on and on.

All these are just details and arbitrary numbers. None of that is necessary.

Instead, focus on mindset change as explained in video. Not on details.

FKaria · 2025-03-22T08:55:53+00:00

It's your job to start the courtship and schedule a date. You cannot wait for girls to do that. It will never happen. After the first date, schedule one date a week but do not text them for any other reason.

After sex (usually 2nd or 3rd date), the girl is going to start chasing you and you can sit back and relax.

Dandys3107 · 2025-03-22T09:55:10+00:00

Generally, it's about leaving some space for the girl to show commitment and interest, not to get everything done by yourself as it would result in poor dynamics between you for the future. Provide them with good first impression, go out with your own initative, but don't force her to do or feel things. Also, it's somewhat important not to push for conclusion or clearance at all cost, leaving some mystery and uncertainty can make the girls think about it more which often results in creating more interest and commitment.

AdmirableDOM7022 · 2025-03-24T09:40:07+00:00

Read models by Mark Manson

Title	let them chase you..
Author	Fit-Comparison-6574
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Date	March 21, 2025 8:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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