My wife texted me she's leaving and wants a divorce

No-Development-4686 · 2026-02-11T04:09:24+00:00

Dude. 15 years and my wife texted me that too. Sorry man it sucks.

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2026-02-10T15:42:10+00:00

There's likely nothing to save, my friend. Bear in mind that she texted you.....not a call, not in person. She's likely discussed ad nauseam with friends and family, who have all encouraged her to do this. She won't go back on that, because then she'd have to explain to them why she's not doing what she's told them she's going to do.

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-09T10:40:12+00:00

Marriage counseling is a waste of time because genuine desire cannot be negotiated. There's no saving a marriage once someone decides they want out.

You need to accept you're divorcing. The first step is to retain an attorney. Here's why and how to find one: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1c2n16i/fundamentals_you_need_a_family_law_attorney/

Worldly_Diver9265 · 2026-02-09T10:36:13+00:00

Listen to me! It takes 6 -12 months to get past this. You are now about to begin. Healing will never begin until you finalize your relationship in y1our mind. Woman get over it fast. Their regrets come later, believe me. In the long run, men fair better. It is very hard to find a good man. Your healing begins in your mind. Be your own best friend. Pamper yourself. Learn to love being alone and do things by yourself, museums, sporting events, restaurants, walks, pubs, etc.... whatever you love to do. Doing things by yourself builds and shows confidence. Confidence is unbelievably attractive, but it must be genuine. This is the perfect time to reinvent yourself. Trust me. The love of your life is out there waiting to meet you. That can't, and won't happen, until you have fully healed. The longer you take to heal, the longer you will keep the love if your life waiting. Please, please, please, believe me, your story will have a happy ending! Drop me a line when it does! I love saying I told you so!!!!

Anothercluelesshuman · 2026-02-09T08:58:21+00:00

What to expect: you’re going to fall apart for a little bit and that’s ok. Don’t isolate it also don’t burden all the people in your life (if you have any we’re not all lucky) with what’s going on.

Get a therapist. Get a notebook. And go find a chunky show with 20 episodes and 8 seasons to get you through the next 30 days.

Yore probably not going to eat or sleep a few days. Once you bottom out, get on a multi vitamin, get some protein shakes, powder and yogurt.

Start eating good and getting max sleep for 3 days then start exercising. Build a simple daily routine and romanticize it.

Then slowly add things to it. Makes some plans. Make appointments. Go get your yearly check up. Go to the dentist. Anything to get simple things in your calendar.

Then just let the days pass.

Title	My wife texted me she's leaving and wants a divorce
Author	imsparn78
Upvotes	10
Comments	8
Date	February 8, 2026 10:56 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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