Dating younger full of potential men?

LightOverWater · 2026-02-20T06:51:04+00:00

Dating younger is not inherently a problem and it could open doors to other things you value, but dating young men in their fboy years is risky. Early 20s men are not thinking of settling down and have all the time in the world to waste yours. If you were 33 and he was 28 then sure whatever. But men <=25 can easily make decisions to your detriment. It could work, but tread carefully.

Your post outlined a few things for me:

You date men based primarily on their job and partly their looks
You think about relationships as what you get from them, not also what you offer. Right now you offer beauty.
Never get into a relationship with the goal of "molding" a man. Probably wont happen and if it does you may not even like him.
"I'd rather have control over my man whilst he is unaware of this" is a very damaging mindset
You mention one of the guys doesnt have much dating experience, but how you've written everything, the superficial things you're focusing on, the lack of any real relationship cues, the man's purpose is just building wealth, and the one-sidedness/control has me wondering if you've had a long-term healthy relationship. Something to glean here is that there are younger men who are far more ready for a relationship, have been in them, and approach them with the right mindset.

baddorox · 2026-02-20T07:33:25+00:00

Your plan works if you're elite. Not "good enough". Actually elite. Hot enough that the quant forgets he can trade up once he has money. Skilled enough that the banker stops looking. And you have to actually admire them, not just their potential. If any of those are missing, you're wasting your time.

Nerdslayer2 · 2026-02-20T16:11:17+00:00

"I’d rather have control over my man whilst he is unaware of this and preforms his duty as a traditional man whilst he is building his wealth in an increasing capacity."

This is very toxic approach to relationships and basically the opposite of what this sub is about.

ArkNemesis00 · 2026-02-20T11:36:04+00:00

Manipulation is one thing, but I would advise against the quant guy because there's no respect there, seemingly. You won't be able to hide how you feel about him in the long-term and nearly all men will be deeply bothered by a lack of respect from their partners.

The thing about younger men is that you will likely want to be married (from the sound of it) around 30 or so and they won't feel that same time pressure. You can mold a man to some extent, but you can't make him propose. But I see no harm in asking questions like "where do see yourself in five years", etc.

If the 23 year old started working full time and independently as a minor that usually means a higher level of experience/maturity compared to his peers. That doesn't necessarily mean he'll be ready for marriage soon though.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2026-02-21T18:17:27+00:00

I know it’s quite a manipulative mindset

I would have less of an issue with this if you were going to be a "benevolent dictator", but I'm not sure that's the case.

Ex. I get my sunny extroversion from my mom. She had my introvert dad completely bamboozled - he was quite a good-looking man,¹ and, at 6'5, he had godlike height but zero understanding of women² - but she was also what RPW refer to as a GOLF - Goddess of Light and Fun. Usually, the extrovert woman - introvert man combination leads to disaster, but she was 1000% committed to the marriage and as a result they had Storybook Love.

So if you are bringing GOLF energy to the table and want to help him do a glow up so you are more attracted to him, and you want to have an actual relationship with him, go for it. But as of now, I'm getting a lot of "ME! ME!" out of your post. Perhaps some reflection is in order.

¹ I resemble my mom's dad, who was a good guy, but, um, yeah, let's just say it's a good thing that I got most, but sadly, not all, of my dad's height.

² Looking back with an adult's understanding, I can recall things that were clearly women signaling their availability to him, and him ignoring them or being downright confused. Plus my mom was no dummy; she pre-deceased him and in her final days gave me a list of women I was not to allow near him (he wasn't interested anyway).

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2026-02-20T17:29:08+00:00

I think the quant guy is actually quite risky for a long term marriage. Marrying a guy with no relationship experience who ends up very successful and you have molded into being more attractive is like asking to be cheated on or divorced so he can see what else is out there. Unless he is the one interested in marriage/kids/family from the start I don’t think it’s a smart move.

I personally would never want to be with a man who didn’t have any options and just thought I was the only woman interested in him so he has to choose me or be alone.

Interesting_Emu2679 · 2026-02-20T22:19:38+00:00

I met my husband when he was 25 and he was ready for marriage and kids. He didn't make much but had great personality, values and character. I don't regret being open to a lad that age. you being 5 years older isn't nuts.

diunay_lomay_a · 2026-02-24T02:53:25+00:00

What do you provide besides being attractive (now)? The guys with money can/will always trade up later when they start becoming more refined

Active-Ingenuity-956 · 2026-02-23T18:18:43+00:00

I spit out my coffee laughing while reading this "I am arguably very attractive (also hyper feminine) and objectively very ‘exotic looking’ wherever I go." LOL!! The arrogance is at an all time high here. You're also just asking for manipulation advice basically. You need a reality check Miss. "All that glitters is not gold"
Translation = You're shallow and not as attractive as you think you are

AutoModerator · 2026-02-20T06:27:38+00:00

Title: Dating younger full of potential men?

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Full text: I’m currently 27yo and feel time slowly ticking by. Despite my age nearing 30yo, what I do have going on for me is my youthful appearance (I get IDed for buying energy drinks) and I am arguably very attractive (also hyper feminine) and objectively very ‘exotic looking’ wherever I go. Whilst I get attention from all different types of men and ages. I have noticed quite a large portion of younger men being interested in me.

I am currently talking to a very attractive and confident junior investment banker of 23yo who seems to be very into me. However he has never had a relationship in his adulthood and definitely does have the appearance of a player. He also tells me he values traditional relationships. I am definitely interested because he’s attractive and has a good job. Current salary would be around the £80k.

There is now also a 24yo showing interest in me who is not very attractive at all, skinny and on the short side but he’s a junior quant researcher so he’s already of the bat going to make 6 figures this year. He probably doesn’t have much dating experience at all looking at him (just dresses as the typical math nerd) so quite innocent still and most likely still a virgin.

Now I am just thinking both these men have great potential in increasingly growing their income over the next 5-10 years. Now is it a risk keeping my age in mind to develop anything with a younger but high potential man? I honestly do not see the perks in dating a really old man that I am frankly disgusted by (I’ve already tried) while I can rather date a man younger than me who continuously wants to proof their worth to me as a man.

I honestly like the idea of dating the quant researcher (he can also transition into quant trading) despite him being unattractive because I can basically mold him into a traditional man that basically provides (he’s already coming from a provider culture anyways) and we can always increase his attractiveness I would say after marriage if that would be in the books. I know it’s quite a manipulative mindset I guess but his earning and provider potential is quite huge. The only thing about dating a younger man in my mind would be potentially wasting my time and ending up wasting my last years in my twenties and having to start over again in my thirties which is not something I would want to do.

I am also honestly not interested in men from “old money” or men that are already extremely rich as this just brings so much additional struggles like family or using money as a way to control. I’d rather have control over my man whilst he is unaware of this and preforms his duty as a traditional man whilst he is building his wealth in an increasing capacity.

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Meerkat343434 · 2026-03-04T00:34:25+00:00

Your relationship is most likely to work out long-term with a maximum 4 year age gap.

The bigger your age gap the more likely it won't work out long-term.

There are a lot more young single men on the market.

Around 60% of men in their 20s are single vs 30% of men in their 30s.

So if you want a bigger dating pool, men in their 20s make sense.

Men over their 40s who are single don't actually want to get serious.

Either they've always been single because they want to be single, they're divorced and having a mid-life crisis OR they're still married and pretending to be single and having a mid-life crisis.

Your best probability at a long-term successful relationship is with a man 4 years older. But you can go 4 years younger, it's fine!

The goldilocks zone for men settling down is 26-33.

You need to get him in the goldilocks zone.

Younger than that and he's not ready, older than that and he's off the market.

If you date a much older guy 10+ years, just be very cautious because he might already be married. If he's actaully available and commits that's fine but just know there's a higher probability of getting divorced. Which is great, if he's loaded!

Also, men 40+ years are post-wall, they're entering MANopause, they're losing their testosterone and their sperm quality is on the rapid decline. Their sperm has two heads and it's swimming backwards. Your children will be.... "interesting" if you get impregnated by a post-wall guy. So in that respect, dating younger is much healthier for your children if you intend on having them.

sovietkittycat · 2026-03-07T17:29:16+00:00

It sounds like all you value is money. Im married at 26 to a women who is 22, who I provide almost entirely for in every aspect. But she has lived with the me in a literal third world country for the past 2 years. I am very frugal, and choose to live in literal ghettos in ex communist housing with no true amenities. We first started dating when about 2 years ago when I was 25 and her 20. All I had was a balcony that got bricks out around it and a bed, and a moped. And we fell in love. Now we live in a slightly better apartment.

I gave this to say, that someone can weed out if you only want money. No matter if you try and say you don’t just care about money, it’s quite obvious. On the first 3 dates I would figure this out about you. I feel bad that you will never fall in love.

Genuinely, Does tha hurt you to know, that you will never fall in love? Your mindset is so far from finding love and just a statistical spreadsheet.

Context, I’m American and found met an Albanian girl on my travels. We dated for about 5 months and I left the country (we both already knew I’d leave) in Mongolia I realized I loved her, and once I moved to Japan for work I paid for her to move with me nd now I live with her again.

Title	Dating younger full of potential men?
Author	Human-Bag9844
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Date	February 20, 2026 6:27 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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