Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist?

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Logical_Mix_7688 · 2026-03-12T17:30:01+00:00

“I’ve never been in a relationship. Not because I couldn’t, but because I never believed in giving my heart away casually just to experience dating or temporary connections.”…. No one gives their heart for temporary connections, we all do it thinking it will be forever, people who date just for fun are not as common as you think, most of us date wanting to marry, why do we move on? Cause we learn also that no matter how much you love someone if that person doesn’t respect you and loves you the same way, then they don’t deserve your love… waiting to find “the right person” will never guarantee you that they will love you, they will be loyal, etc etc… people change, sometimes for bad, they can be someone when you meet them, and become a terrible person years later… but that shouldn’t make you afraid of loving and living

sine120 · 2026-03-12T15:22:08+00:00

They exist, but the conditions to find it are very specific. My wife and I are early 30's, each other's first "real" relationship. Started dating her just prior to my 16th birthday. Both her parents and grandparents are high school sweethearts, and my parents have a combined 7 or 8 divorces between them. She was comfortable emulating what she saw growing up, and I was happy to do the opposite. It worked for us.

To have good odds of making it, you need to build relationship experience one way or another. Some people try, fail, and learn. Some people watch other and can apply it to themselves, but that's harder. The two things that don't work are naivete and stubbornness.

My wife and I were happy to learn fast and adapt to each other, but young women with options don't really have to do that to get male interest, so why would they do the harder thing unless they're taught to do so?

watashi_kawaii85 · 2026-03-12T16:00:35+00:00

“I never believed in giving my heart away casually just to experience dating or temporary connections….” But that’s how you find love!! You have to put yourself out there to experience your range of emotions with people, especially vulnerability. Learning to be vulnerable is very difficult. The most perfect person isn’t just going to walk up one day and you’ll figure it out with one another. You can’t go from 0 to 60. Love is so wonderful, you should experience it in so many different ways. Put yourself out there so you know what you’re getting into. You’re dealing with a fantasy idea of what a relationship is, and that’s so far from reality.

GivMeLiberty · 2026-03-12T13:20:54+00:00

With the woman I’ve dated, I’ve noticed it was much easier to form meaningful/fulfilling/genuine/intimate relationships with those who were less experienced with prior relationships/love/sex. I’ve noticed the less experienced women have a greater appreciation for the relationship. (Edit to add: these women seem substantially happier as well.)

I am convinced the reason for this is a mix of being more sensitive to new stimuli, being naive or ignorant to the problems that can come from a failed relationship, and some deliberate understanding of how they have “saved love” until that relationship.

FWIW, there is not a single man (outside of those who are purely sexually motivated) on earth who wouldn’t appreciate a woman’s saving her innocence for her husband.

Noressa · 2026-03-12T16:18:18+00:00

I feel you've taken this a little too far to one extreme. Until you date, you really don't know what you can tolerate vs. not. This isn't to say date everyone, definitely date with intention and requirements, just be honest that while you can love you aren't just going to hand it out to everyone.

You are saying giving everything to one person when the time is right, there are people who will take full advantage of that and use that mindset against you. And if you've fallen to the mindset that you've given your all this must be the one, then you place yourself in a position ripe for abuse.

I would say be open to dating, you don't need to love to date, you don't need to have intimate times to date. But you do get to know a person better, you get to know yourself better as well. Who you are, what you want to be, what your partner does or doesn't do and how that impacts you. Use that to build on a base of knowledge that leads to a healthy relationship where you feel safe and comfortable giving your all to someone who you are much more certain will appreciate you.

Jenneapolis · 2026-03-12T16:17:33+00:00

It’s good to be cautious. Casual dating and such harms women, period. But having such high expectations is likely to leave you single and lonely. Life isn’t a movie and to find that love, you have to go on dates, you have to be vulnerable. This love of your life isn’t just going to show up at your door someday. Also when you do find that guy, he IS going to have flaws. Your high expectations may leave you disappointed.

AutoModerator · 2026-03-12T11:52:10+00:00

Title: Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist?

Author Last-Shoe-6856

Full text: I sometimes feel like I’m living with a very different mindset than most people around me.

I’ve never been in a relationship. Not because I couldn’t, but because I never believed in giving my heart away casually just to experience dating or temporary connections. For me, love was always something sacred — something meant for one person, for life.

But looking at the world now, it feels like relationships have become more temporary and physical than meaningful. People move from one relationship to another so easily that it sometimes makes me wonder if the kind of connection I believe in even exists anymore.

I’m not judging anyone’s choices. Everyone has their own way of living life.

But personally, I’ve always wanted a partner who sees love the same way I do — someone who protected her heart and herself, not out of fear, but because she believes in giving everything to one person when the time is right.

Sometimes I wonder… in a world that moves so fast with relationships, how do you find someone who still believes in that kind of love?

I have a lot of love to give. I just believe it should be given once, to someone who values it the same way.

Does anyone else still think like this?

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Thatoneshortgoblin · 2026-03-12T18:18:43+00:00

I get downvoted for it a lot bc people assume I'm a guy when I talk about extreme manogomy on here 😂

RatchedAngle · 2026-03-12T18:35:50+00:00

How do you know when the time is right?

If you’ve never had a relationship, if you’ve never experienced romantic love, sex, living with a romantic partner…how do you know it’s the right time to settle down?

You’re imagining a woman who is so high up on a pedestal that she magically knows, via…what, womanly intuition? that a man is perfect for her despite having zero prior experience with men. Do you see how absurd that is?

Most women want true love. It can take at least a year to truly know someone. Are most men waiting a year for sex? Get real.

Women are not magical beings who can wish our way out of a catch-22. We don’t intuitively understand which men are “right” and which men are “wrong” for us. That belief stems from men’s pathological misunderstanding of female validation (i.e., men crave female validation so badly that you mistakenly assume it’s some sort of magical power that women have).

Women are just as lost in the world of dating as men are. I thought my ex-husband was a good match, but we ended up miserable together and it was my fault because my magical female “good relationship” detector failed. His only role as a man was to be chosen. My role was to accurately determine if we were good together…on my own, with no input from him, because he just wanted to be chosen.

So women have this pressure to “choose wisely,” but we aren’t allowed to gain experience so that we CAN choose wisely. See the problem?

This notion that women are divine beings who can magically sniff out good men is absurd. How many men are dating women that are objectively terrible on paper because they think it’s “true love”? Both men and women fall into the trap of mistakenly identifying “true love” and ending up with a string of bad relationships.

There are plenty of women who want true love. The problem is so many of them don’t have the emotional intelligence, wisdom, communication skills, or maturity to properly identify a good potential partner. And getting less experience doesn’t solve that problem.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2026-03-12T21:12:45+00:00

I think lots of women believe in this but then life doesn't always work out how we want it to, does it? Commitment is inherently risky.

Title	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist?
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Date	March 12, 2026 11:52 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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