My wife and I are likely separating. We have two daughters (7 and 9).

Over the past months she’s come to the conclusion that she wants to end the marriage. I’m still processing it — there’s a lot of shock and pain on my side — but I’m starting to accept that this may be where things are heading.

I don’t want to get into the details of the relationship because I have my perspective and she has hers, and obviously you would only hear my side here which wouldn’t be fair to her.

Some context: I had already purchased another property about 1 km away from our current home. She’s now encouraging me to move there.

Before making any big decisions, I’m speaking to a lawyer next week to understand the legal side.

My current thinking is that it may be better not to rush into moving out or finalising parenting arrangements while emotions are still high. I’d prefer that we both settle down a bit emotionally so we can make calmer decisions that are best for the kids.

Interestingly, the environment in the house right now is actually respectful and stable. We communicate about logistics, we both contribute around the house, and things are functioning.

I’m even considering suggesting we get cleaners so household chores don’t become a source of tension during this transition.

My priority through all of this is making sure the transition is as stable as possible for the girls.

I’m sure I’ve made mistakes in the relationship as well, and I’m genuinely trying to handle this situation calmly and responsibly for the sake of the kids.

My question for people who have been through something similar:

Has anyone stayed living in the same house for a while after deciding to separate, while things cooled down and arrangements were worked out?

Did it help, or did it make things worse?

Any experiences or advice would be really appreciated.