How do you actually have fun?

NickCiufi · 2015-12-09T16:19:34+00:00

It's admirable that you spend so much time working on self-improvement, but keep in mind that the body and mind both need adequate rest.

My first recommendation is to grab a beer and watch a ballgame. However, since you're not a big fan of "consuming", perhaps a nice fishing trip would offer some much-needed R&R.

SadGenius · 2015-12-09T15:03:56+00:00

Video games? a hobby? a tv show?

If you're already doing a lot to better yourself, its fine to allow for some mindless pleasure from time to time.

RAPTOREXPLOSION · 2015-12-09T16:19:02+00:00

Find something you enjoy doing and do it. You're following a script because you think you have to follow a script. Don't do that.

Improve yourself physically and mentally, but make time to improve yourself "spiritually" too. (Spiritually probably isn't the right word, but you get it.

CynicsChoice · 2015-12-09T18:59:03+00:00

I am really struggling with this. I seem to have backslid a bit.

I think scheduling time to do "fun" things is very important. Also, set aside time before that to sit still, meditate, and change your mindset. Convince yourself that this thing is different than the rest of the time. Pick out your usual objectives in that situation and discard them. The goal is to experience that place of lightness.

Good activities are either new things, or things with no real content, such going to a bar. I have also tried going to bars with non-standard objectives, such as "get 3 pieces of information about each person's life" and "try out this new game trick on 3 women and see what happens." DO NOT use standard objectives when trying to have fun. You never have fun using your standard objectives. Stop it.

It really is just a different mindset and you have to find some way to push yourself into it. This will take some kind of mental effort, and it's difficult and doesn't always succeed.

OmLaLa · 2015-12-09T19:12:52+00:00

Through the manipulation and exploitation of my peers.

vengefully_yours · 2015-12-10T00:50:05+00:00

Fun for me is building things. Entire cars, buildings, furniture, tools, art, etc. Taking a piece of shit and turning it into something cool is what drives me.

When it comes to people, I have fun fucking with them. Seeing how far I can push the boundaries before they snap. Saying offensive shit, teasing, being ' that guy' and not giving a fuck is fun for me. I also enjoy making people laugh, did stand up for a while, but where I live the sense of humor I grew up with doesn't work, so I rarely do that here, is more fun to fuck with them.

Title	How do you actually have fun?
Author	pantillymon
Upvotes	8
Comments	17
Date	December 9, 2015 2:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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