Proposed 50/50 custody after only seeing my child every other weekend. My STBXW said it’s a no go because it would disrupt their life. We currently stay 45-1hr depending on traffic. I don’t think it’s an issue. But I know the person I’m dealing with needs to control everything. We are separated I’m unemployed and she works from home. I think it’s manageable, she just doesn’t want to let me have control of anything.

She immediately attacked my character labeling me as unreliable because I let my child stay home from school due to her not feeling well.

What should I do besides get a lawyer? I feel like she is painting me as the “baby daddy” type. I don’t see how being involved more in the life of my child would have a negative impact. I regularly attend sports events and doctor appointments.

I see my child for a few hours a week.

I need to have my child in my life. I know I have rights as a father. I’ll be damned if I’m the drop in once in a while dad.

My ex has issues and cannot afford for me to hold any power/control. I grey rock her through MFW app. She bombards me with lengthy texts about how it won’t be good to see them. I know child support is her angle right now. I don’t want to be the fun at dad’s house this weekend kind of guy. I feel like I’m losing the connection with my child. It’s not enough sitting on the side lines and waiting for my “turn”.

I’m in the process of seeking meditation. I will not walk away with anything less than 50/50. I’m willing to move closer as well to make things run smoothly.