Stuck in a weird place. Married 13 years w two kids (pre-teens). Marriage has been deteriorating for years now. Have attempted counseling, retreats, but just drift back to the old ways. We lead completely separate lives and pretty much avoid each other at all costs. She has very volatile emotions and will take out frustration on me, in a very mean way. The resentment that has built feels insurmountable. She’s threatened divorce multiple times and I finally recently said I had enough. But nothing is happening. Life has gone on. Like a game of chicken both of us avoiding the inevitable. For as much as I know the marriage has reached the breaking point I cannot for the life of me think of the other side and what I might inflict on my children. It’s almost like I would love to catch her having an affair so that I had some reason to leave. Any one else relate?