After spending time recently self-reflecting on my shortcomings, I’ve concluded that a lot of my own issues with interpersonal relationships (& particularly with women I’ve sexual interest in) stem from one source: *ego.*

Basically, instead of going with the flow of the present moment, ego (can) step in big time, and interrupt you from actually enjoying yourself, from giving off good vibes, and ultimately from thoroughly seducing women. At least, that’s how I interpret it for myself.

See, there’s you (or me in this case), and then there’s the image I’m trying to project, or have others believe is me, which is often a walled up, guarded version of me. Which *can* be attractive on the surface, but it gets in the way of fully enjoying the night, or any given moment because, oh, I can’t go dancing, it wouldn’t look cool. What if I make a fool of myself? That opens the door for others to *judge* me. Or what if I say this and they don’t react well, now they’ll think I’m weak, and that doesn’t align with how I want others to see me.

There are times where this ego is not so strong, and in those times I find I can dance, have way more fun, interact with more people, and typically results in much more success. I don’t care about protecting an image, I’m just there to actually enjoy the moment. This is easier to do in environments I actually want to be in, and harder when it’s not.

The whole notion of “not giving a fuck” and getting results is pretty much a short and sweet version of what I’m talking about. If you care too much about how others perceive you, you’ll be stuck constantly overthinking and over-analyzing every minute detail of your interactions with others, and/or just your presence, and it tends to create anxiety, and interferes with positive vibes & energy, which is what women are actually after.

This is why I find myself often just standing around with a drink in my hand, scanning the room and in my head, I’m trying to protect an image and reduce vulnerability, yet it’s the opposite I should be aiming for.

So there’s a tidbit of my own inner battles with the seduction process, and hopefully when I go out tonight I can hone in on being fully present, not caring how others may or may not perceive me, and ultimately seduce a pretty woman to the bedroom. Cheers.