I am aware, this may be a "git gud" issue, but it's something I've been noticing for the past six months.

I get decent amout of matches on Tinder/Badoo, I'm in central Europe, so Badoo is more popular here. She is receptive to my opener, we have fun, flirt, move on to another platform. We chat, she sends voice messages, cute photos, sexy photos, etc...

But for the past six months it keeps happening to me that when we get to scheduling a date, several women told me they can't that day, because they are meeting male friend. Sometimes it is a friend who is staying the whole weekend.

Don't get me wrong, I am aware people have lives outside online dating or Instagram, I am not jealous women got male friends, I would even made my peace with the fact, that I did fuck up somewhere along the line and this was some kind of weird way to blow me off.

But from my point of view it's weird, like the conversation isn't stale, I am not pushing, but still, the mention of other guy, who sometimes stays the night is so weird. It's even weirder, that when I don't respond, some of the women get back to me and ask what happened.

Like there is this guy you are interested in, or at least from my POV I am making an educated guess she is, and you tell him you are seeing another guy when he tries to arrange a date with you? It makes me immediately loose any interest in pursuing her anymore and I think it's pretty reasonable.

What I don't get is that it is really weird thing to happen once, even weirder when it happens a couple of times. Like I said, it keeps happening only recently, maybe half a year. Before that I was going on a dates reguraly, but I got into a relationship and had a pause. Nothing really changed, I didn't gained or lost weight, I didn't change my approach in any way, it's just weird.

Did anyone else notice a shift in dating, or experienced something similar? What could be the reason?