A feminine girlie feeling isolated

chamomilecloud · 2026-06-07T04:26:11+00:00

I’m going to offer a different perspective on this idea a little bit.

My social circles are mostly women. Women who are married, who work, who are primary parents, some of whom are SAHMs, some of whom are childfree. Differing political stances, differing levels of femininity.

I’ve never felt the need to have a space specifically for hyperfeminine, submissive women despite being one, and that’s because the hyperfemininity is solely for myself, and the submissiveness is for my man.

I’ve never been in a scenario where I feel the need to talk about softness and submissiveness with other women, nor would I ever proselytize about it to them. If someone asked me my thoughts, I would have an answer for them, but it’s just not something that’s ever happened to me. No one needs to know about my red pill leanings except for me.

Even here in RPW, I’m hesitant to call this space “for” the hyperfeminine and soft, because there are/were a lot of women here, founders even, who do not fit into the soft hyperfeminine mould, but they are RPW nonetheless.

I find most men are still masculine and prefer being dominant (in the bedroom), but your mileage may vary depending on your location and how much dominance you need in a man to feel attracted to him.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2026-06-07T16:05:43+00:00

In addition to u/chamomilescloud's excellent comments , I'm going to recommend reading this classic rpw post on dominance level in relationships.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/XIqh70xDkw

I'm not sure how much experience you have with men, but the article notes that very dominant man can be a bad long-term match for soft feminine women. I think a lot of women actually want a low-medium dominant men, and too much dominance feels scary, controlling and harsh, especially to soft women (though it can be sexually exciting short-term).

I also observed that most long timers in red pill women's spaces are "soft/submissive for their man only" kind of women. They're steely and confident by nature.

DannyAdM · 2026-06-07T18:07:02+00:00

There is no shortage of conservative men, and they gather in various groups, including on Reddit, have Instagram accounts, and are part of groups where they meet in person, seeking out conservative and submissive women. Such people are easily found in churches.

Clipzy22 · 2026-06-06T23:57:25+00:00

It's not really socially accepted at the moment.

They pretend it is, but when you love that lifestyle, they say you're being oppressed and whatnot.

This can lead to some isolation aside from specific places like church groups or more traditional communities.

It's really all about community

VasiliyZaitzev · 2026-06-07T11:04:16+00:00

[are] there truly dominant men out there?

Hi there. Yes, yes, they exist. We exist. One of the difficulties is that, in Gen Z, it seems to me that, for some reason, weakness is glorified. Everyone wants a diagnosis or to be defective in some way. Gen Z seems to have 3x the amount of autistic people in it, but then you find out that they have just determined that they are autistic by you know, reading about it on the Internet.

I have often thought that being a submissive woman must be terrifying. A lot of of submissive women that I have met tell me me that they wonder why they are the way they are - spoiler alert: it’s actually pretty natural - and if they are the only ones like that.

To find a dominant man, look in traditionally masculine spaces. Look for the man who other men defer to. Look for the man who has a quiet confidence about him. The guy who has to keep telling you that he’s the leader? He’s not the leader.

You were going to have to be extra careful about vetting men, because submission comes with vulnerability. But the rewards will be great.

starlightsparkle444 · 2026-06-08T08:54:13+00:00

I see where you’re coming from. In this day and age, people want diversity of everything else but thought and opinion. If you don’t agree with them or don’t fit into their mold, then you’re wrong

little7bean · 2026-06-06T22:12:55+00:00

agree

AutoModerator · 2026-06-06T21:41:07+00:00

Title: A feminine girlie feeling isolated

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Full text: I'm not sure if even this is the right place to post this but I can't help living in these times that there needs to be more places for hyperfeminine, feminine, submissive women. I know it's silly but I genuinely have moments where I feel like I'm the only one. I wonder does anyone else struggle with this?

Especially currently and being online? Like I really wish that soft, sub women could be way more open about it because being online, or in fandoms I have felt isolated for not liking simps, or weak guys, etc.

I'm conservative and not here for living in this woke hellscape. Some days, I really feel like, where is the real men? Is there truly dominant men out there? I wish they could be way more open about it too, because I'm scared that my attraction and yes sexual attraction to men has and will keep diminishing. I'm like, am I going to have to stick with my rose and being single forever? I'm not looking for advice more so that I'm not the only woman that struggles with this?

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closer_to_harrisburg · 2026-06-08T11:51:52+00:00

I found my community to discuss these topics after having children in SAHM play groups (I live in Florida) and honestly even through other friendships as well. Lots of trad folks of all stripes here.

Come on down the Southeast US! Lol

Title	A feminine girlie feeling isolated
Author	Opposite_Dentist6182
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Comments	14
Date	June 6, 2026 9:41 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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