This one is for both men and women; I hear one too many people say this; just a little bit of perspective that I want to drive in here….:

-See you in the gym

-Focus on making money

-Enjoy your life …. Have fun!!!

All solid pieces of advice, I advocate all of the above; people should be focusing on themselves.

Yes!!! But there is a certain demographic of person you will attract with these things; you do also want to focus on upskilling and improving your ability to talk to people

Men/women will not fall into your lap when you’ve focused on yourself; even if they do, you’re not getting who/what you want, you’re settling for what you can get.

You need to cultivate the ability to get what you want by going for it, and I know heaps of people are going to say “easy for you to say”, I know it’s not easy, nothing ever is, it’s survival; learn to approach and talk to the person.

In recent years, people have stopped trying using “I’m working on myself” as an excuse; and it’s becoming continuous to the point where someone who was going to try and get the girl/guy of their dreams, gets swayed out of it…. That’s why only 20% of men get 80% of women statistically and 80% of men settle for the remaining 20% if at all

And I know that the nature of dating nowadays is toxic compared to say 30 years ago; but I don’t believe that’s an excuse to stop trying; learn to adapt…we are human after all and that’s how our genes have survived all the way through to us… by adapting and persevering.

I make this post in the hopes that I can convince more people to go out and socialize and focus on much more than just themselves