Chat with a flaky 9.. Help me analyze it?

Clint_Redwood · 2016-01-05T16:26:41+00:00

"I guess taking a moment to answer is too hard."

"Takes a lot of time curing cancer"

"Working on a new nuclear reactor design"

"building a jetfighter isn't a 9-5 jobs"

You failed

real text""It is when I get unclear vibes""

subtext "I'm unsure/insecure of myself and you"

I'm not sure how to respond to that.. I thought you're more aware of yourself

i don't even know what that means

"If you don't want to talk to me it's fine.. blah blah.. just don't be rude and leave me out to dry"

"Noted, I prefer my women wet at all times"

Edit you are to literal with your responses and they are to long. Practice this, every time you are about to hit send, read the subtext behind what you are conveying then cut the sentence down. 90% of your text should have the subtext of, "I want to fuck you", "I know you want to fuck me", "I don't give a fuck", "You amuse me"

MattyAnon · 2016-01-05T16:45:25+00:00

Initially she showed a lot of verbal interest (saying we should fly abroad together etc.)

She's mentally unstable, flakey and needy, probably a narcissist, possibly borderline personality disorder. The huge initial interest makes you think it's real, then she withdraws and you stay as orbiter. You are painted as first a hero, then a villain when it suits her. This is her MO. This is how she reels in needy betas. It's called a "bait and switch".

If you don't want to talk to me it's fine.. blah blah.. just don't be rude and leave me out to dry

=Be my orbiter.

They do not like the withdrawal of the narcissistic supply. They try to reel you back in, but the motivation is not hot sex with you. It is getting your attention.

Please help me analyze the conversation

Sure thing. Here is my analysis: You don't have enough women in your life so you are falling prey to emotional hooks from apparently attractive women on a dating app and over investing your time, attention and feelings in a dream of something that almost certainly does not exist, and you need to find more women and have better options.

See you at the gym.

avian_buddha · 2016-01-05T18:10:44+00:00

"It is when I get unclear vibes"

That's when you messed up. It says you were thinking about responding, but you didn't, and what she was doing was making it too hard for you - you said "I can't keep up with what you're doing". You lost right there.

"From me? What kind of vibes exactly? :|"

She says, "what am I doing that you don't get? Am I misunderstanding you or did you really just tell me that I'm too difficult for you?"

Whisper · 2016-01-05T21:44:54+00:00

Her: "What's up with these delays?" (did I hurt her ego?)

Me (taking the stoic route): "Just living my life.."

Good. Vague is good.

Her: "I guess taking a moment to answer is too hard."

Me: "It is when I get unclear vibes"

Bad. Defensive is bad.

Better:

Me: Yep. GTG. Ninjas.

idgaf- · 2016-01-05T16:45:00+00:00

When you somehow you got her to apologize for being flaky,

"Prove it, meet me at X"

Your_Small_dick · 2016-01-05T18:59:49+00:00

Tinder is full of crazy unbalanced lazy women. And yes they can be hot sometimes.

krustytheclown2 · 2016-01-05T20:09:32+00:00

It read like you were butt hurt about her flaking. You don't want her to know that.

Always make it all just a joke. Other commenters gave you good mateial to work with.

throw_em_all · 2016-01-05T19:01:23+00:00

"Just living my life.."

Should've A&A hard instead.

"It is when I get unclear vibes"

Should've A&A, this is an actual logical reason of why you would, and actually did, stop talking to her. I've been there before, you now have logical knowledge of the game, while women don't or refuse to acknowledge it and instead go for emotions and rationalization, once you put logic on the table, no matter how you do it, it comes off as butthurt.

Same as with sex, say you've been flirting with a woman all night, touchy, but no physically sexual yet, you both can be using slang and indirect ways of talking about fucking her raw in the ass for hours, but as soon as you explicitly talk about sex, it all goes down the shitter.

Also you seem to not understand what a pressure flip is, pressure flip is basically playing dumb while switching the roles, in this example she was the one asking question and you giving answers, a simple pressure flip would've been "What do you mean?" and trying to get her to explain why she's offended by your soft next.

Greyste · 2016-01-05T16:27:58+00:00

Initially she was really into you. You're obviously no longer as attractive to her because of something you did or said along the way. She's still giving you a chance for reasons god only knows an you're bitching to her about 'unclear vibes'. Think about why you're doing that.

[deleted] · 2016-01-05T21:09:43+00:00

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savedarticles · 2016-01-05T22:51:33+00:00

You acted butt hurt. Just set something up and bang her. Don't try to talk about your feelingz.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-01-05T22:35:05+00:00

No, go experiment, then come tell us your findings.

Title	Chat with a flaky 9.. Help me analyze it?
Author	robotghow
Upvotes	24
Comments	20
Date	January 5, 2016 4:20 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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