Same day lay online dating version. How difficult is it?

Shaigan · 2016-01-09T20:26:39+00:00

If you have very high SMV and good pics, u can quickly set up meeting and if you have perfect game she might accept coming over at your place

antariusz · 2016-01-10T00:04:10+00:00

It is difficult to pull off, but it can also be done. Ultimately I go for it, because I'm looking to get laid, not meet up for drinks and dinners with women. If she isn't interested, I'll find one who is. And yes, I realize I could probably get laid more overall if I was willing to wait for a second date. Doesn't matter, I want a girl that's into me enough to do it.

The oft used dog analogy applies here. You wouldn't adopt a dog from a shelter that was ambivalent about liking you, you'll want the one most excited to receive your love and affection. Use the same principal with women.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-01-10T01:47:00+00:00

Personally, I filter for LTR-quality with a pace that usually results in third-date lay. A majority of women are comfortable with this. The ones who accelerate the pace and have me touching their pussy/want sex the first night have ALWAYS turned out to be lower quality and not relationship material.

If you're strictly going for one night stands, it's a numbers game and you'll have to churn through more women you could bed with a slower approach to find the ones who are DTF tonight with you, stranger. There are two things you can do to improve your odds at same day lay.

1. Be attractive
2. Be attractive

redpillspeeddate · 2016-01-09T21:10:04+00:00

Depends on the App and your game.

To have your best chance, make sure you have awesome pictures (closer to male model the better), and give witty sexy banter in the messaging. The ask should be I'm going to [bar near your house] they make the world's best Cosmo, you should join me.

Trade rounds back and forth, with alternating paying, if she is late make her pay for the first round. Sets frame well.

After a few drinks suggest going for a short walk, walk by your place, you have to get something inside, bring her in, if her temperature is good your work might be done, if not go out again, find a good place to kiss her, do so, then head back home (she knows it's safe because she has been there already) ignore the "I will stay but we are not have sex tonight etc." if she says that you are golden.

Have fun and if the temperature of her isn't right, next and move on to the next. 10-20% success rate on this is high so don't worry if it only happens with 1 in 5-10 meets.

If she doesn't fall into your frame and you aren't clicking after one drink, excuse yourself and go to another bar to practice more real life game.

RP-Doctor · 2016-01-09T22:18:24+00:00

Less about you and more about her. With sky high SMV and great game you can get it to happen, but it'll still only work if she's on the very far end of the slutty spectrum. Generally when this happens, unless you are about as good looking as they come, she's way below you. Think about the last time a girl made it so easy for you that all you had to do was say yes. Usually she's a long ways below you in SMV. That's the kind of girl you could get to do a same day bang.

princepeanutbutter · 2016-01-09T23:00:48+00:00

Very, very difficult, often comes down to either luck of the draw (e.g. you found super ho) or circumstance (she just moved to town etc.). A very small percentage of all online approaches will have the potential to lead to a same day lay.

If I'm going for same day, I usually operate as normal but keep the date a vague 'Let's meet' to test the waters. If she says something like 'What? Now?' Then I might back off depending, a throw another day at her.

That, OR, I run through all the extra girls I matched with or said hello to or whatever that aren't attractive enough for me to have made an effort yet (I'm going for quality over quantity at the moment).

Generally, though, same day attempts will tend towards seeming thirsty as fuck. Most times it's worked for me I wasn't specifically going for a same day lay.

Basically you're doing the same thing you always do online but setting up the date for today.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2016-01-09T23:46:27+00:00

It's happened often for me and I usually have it already settled with them that we are going to fuck as soon as we meet.

It's not hard. They're there to get laid, too. If you just relax and don't act tense or desperate it can easily fall into place.

It's not like it's happened every time I've tried, but the key is to not really care if you fuck her or not. It's as much her loss as yours.

throw_em_all · 2016-01-10T02:17:38+00:00

I've done it the last 4 times I arranged a date through Tinder and OKC, girl has to be really into you, ergo your SMV has to be really high or perceived as really high by the woman.

The only reason why I make that difference is because my SMV is not particularly high, I'm tall and fit but not abs type fit yet, also Asian so not a lot of women are into me at first sight, but some are, and those who are into Asians are easy one day pulls when you're pretty much the only 6'2 muscular Asian that they've seen.

I'm trying to pull some manipulative game with a 30 yo woman right now on Tinder, trying to indirectly make her think about the wall and her being single, to see if I can make an absolute day one pull happen, same day match, same day fuck.

Will write an FR if successful.

TLDR, totally possible your SMV should be high, or at least high to her eyes.

spuriousacademy · 2016-01-09T20:40:46+00:00

Highly, highly unlikely.

In my opinion you're better off meeting a girl in a bar and going for same night lay.

You'd appear too desperate trying to meet up so soon via online dating, thus lowering your value in her eyes.

Title	Same day lay online dating version. How difficult is it?
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Date	January 9, 2016 8:06 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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