how long between asking her out again?

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-12T19:49:04+00:00

With that first date BJer you're definitely in the driver's seat. I would recommend waiting a couple days at least to set up the next date though. Even though she is clearly into you now, if you get too eager it will turn her off. Give her the chance to consider that you might not ask her out again.

tombreck2 · 2014-11-12T17:07:47+00:00

i told her that i'd like to see her again soon

Mistake. Always leave them wondering whether or not you like them

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Minimum 5 days and don't text or make plans for Fri/Sat.

throwthatshitaway4 · 2014-11-12T17:25:57+00:00

Are you trying to exclusively date her or make a plate? If the latter then spend the rest of the week focusing on finding other plates. If you have something concrete to invite her to do this weekend like drinks then maybe send a short, short invite but better to wait past the weekend even. Don't text her just to check in.

Reddthrown · 2014-11-12T18:18:28+00:00

Playing that sort of mind game is for kids. Just ask her out when you feel like it.

Date other girls on the side though - it avoids putting her on a pedestal, and makes you less available, which she will like.

sontato · 2014-11-13T02:37:49+00:00

As fast as you can until the restraining order takes effect. It's a narrow window you need to maximize it.

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Date	November 12, 2014 4:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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