I am a ugly looking guy, who has no friends anymore, my ex (its been 3 years) is out there banging and I have not moved on. Tell me what to do?

SureImShore · 2016-01-22T17:41:42+00:00

What should I do?

I have no idea, you are using generalities so it is really hard to diagnose exactly what is wrong and how to fix it. I'll give my opinions based on the info I know:

All my friends have basically abandoned me.

People gravitate towards others who provide some value to them. Whether its a fun time, good conversation/advice, loyalty/honesty, a good fuck etc, people don't keep others around who don't give value. My thoughts are that you were/are probably a "taker" or "emotional vampire"; you whine incessantly about your ex/other unfortunate life circumstances, and expect others to "be there for you" (translation: make your feelz go away). That is a shitty thing to do, and not only are they valid in abandoning you; this outcome is the predictable result of your actions.

She tried to come back in my life last year but I learnt that she got cheated on and suddenly she realized I was the right guy.

She fucked an alpha dude who had no interest in committing to her so she went back to her predictable beta "safe" option. She has zero respect for you. It was a solid move nexting her; some aren't so smart.

My ego is bigger than my suffering I guess. I see all these guys uglier than me date hotties, and I can't even get a 5 to text back to me.

Want to get good at game? Check that ego at the door. Guys with a big ego usually (seemingly paradoxically) have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem = low confidence. Low confidence = no tingles. The reason that guys who are uglier than you get hot girls is because they have much better game than you, first and foremost because you are a thirsty beta with severe oneitis who lacks confidence.

How can I become Alpha?

Surprisingly, despite this being an amorphous question, the answer is simple. Read the sidebar. Life weights. Develop and abundance mentality. Fuck bitches. Be social and make friends. Have hobbies and shit you do other than work. Get out of your fucking house. Realize that nobody really knows what the fuck this thing called life is, we may all just be hairless monkeys and none of this may mean a fuck in the grand scheme of the universe. You are not that important and the things that happen to you are even less important. Be happy and grateful for what you have and make the best of it.

Three years. Three years of your life have been devoted to this woman who broke your heart and fucked other dudes. How much more of your limited time and energy are you going to devote to her?

These are the paths (or, 'pills') you can take, my friend:

You can let this break you. Sure, you may not be miserable every second for the rest of your life. But you will be bitter and unfulfilled and unhappy. One day you'll see on facebook that your special snowflake is marrying some dude and you will sink into another depression because "what could have been". You may meet a woman, but she will be an awful slob who will treat you like shit, and your only frame of reference will be that awesome "one that got away." The special snowflake may message you or text you one time and your new girl will find out and divorce you.

or.......

You can decide that this shit ends here. No more being a bitch, no more putting others before yourself, no more sitting at home crying about how tough life is, no more settling for below-average women who treat you like shit. No fucking more. You are going to do everything you can to better yourself in every possibly way, realizing that no one owes you jack or shit in this life and you only get what you work for. Life is far from fair and you are going to have to put in massive effort to get what you want. But you are fucking ready. In a few months, you are shocked how much a few tweaks and more muscle can do for your looks. You realize how much of a drain you were on people, and are amazed at how positively people respond to you when you cut the pussy bullshit and start being a fun and enjoyable individual. You start banging chicks; slowly at first, but eventually the experience builds confidence and you chuckle to yourself how easy it is to pull hot babes when you want. You see your ex out one night. She is dripping wet with how much you have changed and grown. She thinks she might let you fuck her, if you play the white knight role she remembered. You laugh and say "have a nice life" as you strut out the bar with your group of awesome friends and hot young babe.

BestOfEnemies · 2016-01-22T17:26:17+00:00

First thing you need to do is join a gym if you're not in one.

Working from home is tough but its manageable. Make friends at the gym, they already share an interest with you. Consider joining a cooking class or some sort of hobby that will force you to meet like minded people or people who share the same interests. Thats the most important thing.

abdada · 2016-01-22T17:40:35+00:00

I'm an ugly looking guy. Face is 3.

Chicks don't care. They tingle for my confidence in approaching them. And my charisma in keeping them laughing and curious.

Stop this bullshit and internalize TRP truths about Game. Looks aren't necessary.

JamesSkepp · 2016-01-22T22:19:50+00:00

What should I do?

Read the sidebar.
Lift.
Go out and meet new women.
Get your finances in check.

ForensicFungineer · 2016-01-23T00:55:58+00:00

I've worked remotely for a year, and that's the biggest killer of self worth I've ever experienced. I dunno about everything else you posted, but get a goddamn job you have to show up for.

Innerouterself · 2016-01-23T01:50:20+00:00

Move. If you work from home find a new city.

Get an escort to bang it out.

Go full monk mode and master some new topic or hobby.

Quit whining and start changing shit and producing.

f187 · 2016-01-23T02:08:04+00:00

Dude are you Indian? :/

I am a ugly looking guy, who has no friends anymore, my ex (its been 3 years) is out there banging and I have not moved on. Tell me what to do?

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