Should plates be a hands off relationship?

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-01-22T21:12:38+00:00

Plates typically aren't meant to be that long term. In some special cases, they are. Anytime I've kept a plate long term, I know it's because they've had their beta on the side or are pursuing multiple alphas at one time.

My plates typically fall off and stop their pursuit of me after or around 6 months; after my constant denial of commitment. Some, however, are college students who don't want a serious relationship and for the past year have come by to get off every 10 to 15 days. If not, by then, I've already replaced her with a sexier version anyway. I don't allow things to get messy and keep communication levels quiet. For example, a plate I've had for 3 months... we have about 25 text messages the whole time. Each time it's 2 texts based upon logistics and that's absolutely it. The whole idea behind plate theory is to feel out any red flags and upgrade her based upon what needs/wants of yours she fulfills outside of sexual relations.

Plating, at its core, is a vetting system. Albeit, it can be abused and used as a way to get long term sex without commitment if done to perfection. You are sending mixed messages or displaying a FWB's if not. Regardless, most plates will fall and break sooner than later.

fnordsnord · 2016-01-22T21:16:21+00:00

We call 'em plates because sooner or later, they fall. Most women want commitment. When they realize you're not the guy for that, they wander off.

You should be able to deflect and dodge this for a little while longer and get a few more bangs out of it, but this one is about done with you.

FrameWalker · 2016-01-22T21:30:25+00:00

Soft next and don't engage every time there's drama. If it's a long term plate could be a comfort test. I have a main who I soft nexted when she acted up. She reinitiated by buying me dinner and apologizing. She knows there are boundaries and that there are other girls.

I had to turn the dread way up last October when attraction waned and things were going really well. Then drama started up again in December but I decided not to soft next. I thought hey maybe it's a comfort thing. Decided to hold her and tell her whatevers bothering her will work itself out. January's been pleasant.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-23T01:45:45+00:00

Nothing makes a woman feel more like a slut than loving a man who does not love them back while still having sex with him.

Nothing makes a woman feel less than human (slut) than trying to fuck like a man.

Some women will feel like a slut if she fucks a man the first time she meets him and he does not call her or make an effort to have her around.

This is becoming rare because women now have casual sex with anyone to protect themselves from feeling like sluts. They have stepped fully into the paradox of their sexuality and it is driving them mad (insane) by their efforts to change it.

In their mind if they do not care what a man thinks (care about him) he cannot make them feel like a slut. They avoid love (connection) to not feel like a slut.

They still do not see the paradox that their sexuality places them in.

The "anti slut resolution" is because having sex "like men" to feel good about herself does not work. It has the opposite affect.

It is very much par for the course.

Mindless sex without connection is the domain of men that women have tried to enter in an effort to not feel inferior to men (equality).

The person who is fucked is not equal to the person doing the fucking by trying to become that person when they can never be that person.

They are numbing themselves emotionally (psychologically) to be equal to men.

If a man emotionally awakens them as the emotional connection they feel for him or if they have not been able to put themselves asleep psychologically in the same way prostitutes do through dissociation than they are faced with the problem of feeling like a slut.

Women blame men for the label slut without seeing that it comes out of their sexuality. They are not psychologically built for casual sex if they want to be psychologically healthy.

Calling a woman a slut only works because her sexuality already leaves her feeling like one. She either does not see how it is her sexual role as the sexuality she was born with that places her in this position or is trying to escape it.

This is been a problem that has faced women since the dawn of time.

Women always struggle with casual sex. They are not emotionally built for it if they do not want to lose a part of themselves. She is struggling with her self esteem. She was told she would feel good about herself if she approached sex like men and had sex without emotional connection but the opposite result has taken place.

Next her or live with the BS.

Women use sex but they are always victims of the power of their sex as to how sex makes them feel about themselves (used)

To be a slut is to be used.

This is the nature of women.

Title	Should plates be a hands off relationship?
Author	reserved1012
Upvotes	3
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Date	January 22, 2016 8:56 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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