What do you talk about on first dates?

CisWhiteMaelstrom · 2016-01-23T22:16:04+00:00

You gotta stop putting this into the frame of what she wants and what the correct thing to talk about is. Red pill's not a multiple choice test and there's no good or bad topics. Talk about whatever you'd want, just say it like a man.

"If I asked them what they wanted, they would have said a faster horse." ~ Ford.

RedAsBlood · 2016-01-23T22:29:54+00:00

Do action dates (where you do stuff) rather than dinner dates.

Get her talking about herself, women LOVE to talk about themselves. Give as little away about yourself as possible. Remain mysterious and she will keep coming back for more.

It sounds like your conversational skills need a bit of work. Don't always stick with one topic, constantly branch out to other topics.

cazzah123 · 2016-01-24T00:16:39+00:00

Just shoot the shit, trade funny stories, learn about her hobbies, interests, past.

Remember, she doesn't get a free pass for being a chick. You are on a date to see if you like her, if shes cool and interesting. So find out. And dont be afraid to ditch it if they really aren't cool.

Remember taking a girl out once, picker her up, was about a 15 minute drive to where we were eating.

Couldn't get a word out of her. I would tell her an interesting thing about myself, open ended, trying to get the conversation going. Her reply - "oh cool, cool".

She did that about 9-10 times until I literally ran out of stuff to say, so I just said you know what, this isn't working, I'm taking you home. Did a U-turn in the car, took her home and fucked off.

If they aren;t cool, ditch them

atticusfinch1973 · 2016-01-23T23:20:06+00:00

Learn the art of conversation. We've all been on dates where the girl has no idea how to ask questions and frankly women love to talk about themselves anyway.

Ask open ended questions, meaning ones that they can't answer yes or no to. For example, instead of do you like music you would ask who their favourite artists are, and then simply follow up with why.

Sometimes as a game of the date is a real dud and there is an awkward silence I just sit there and maintain frame or look really bored. If you sit there for five minutes, so be it - it's a challenge to not say anything.

youcantdenythat · 2016-01-24T03:02:20+00:00

Ask her about fun things. When is the last time she traveled. Where did she go. What was her favorite part. What was her favorite vacation. Family questions are good. What does her dad and mom do. What career does she want to go into. Why did she choose that. What was her worst date. What is she studying. Who is her favorite teacher. Why. Who is her worst teacher. Why. What kind of things did she do back home. If she could travel anywhere where would it be. why. what was her favorite movie. blah blah blah, it doesn't matter what you talk about, it's more about body language.

IVIaskerade · 2016-01-24T14:43:57+00:00

Whatever the fuck I want.

I tend to avoid RAPE (religion, abortion, politics, ethics/economics) and for fuck's sake stay off your phone, but other than that, go with the flow.

Hell, sometimes I'll let the silence stretch out whilst just looking at her with a half-smile, and when she gets uncomfortable and breaks the silence I'll remark that I was "noticing how cute her [facial feature] is". Just do whatever.

most of the girls I've talk to don't have any hobbies or passions and their dream are usually start their own company

A company has to obey OSHA regulations, which includes railings for safety. You're something of an expert in that area, so naturally you'd be happy to show her what a good railing looks like.

Title	What do you talk about on first dates?
Author	EntitledShitHead
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Date	January 23, 2016 10:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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