New to TRP and a single Dad - I could use a bit of support/advice

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-02-10T13:37:08+00:00

The reason why those things are advocated here:

We understand how things are (in society.), thus, we do not expect anything from them (those that dwell in society.). It would be like someone expecting a piece of styrofoam to hold their weight up, where concrete was needed.

AWALT; it means that every female is the same to an extent. They all have the same "settings," you just have to find one with settings that work for you, that are the best for you. And you also need to know the reasons why they are the best. But more importantly, becoming okay with the thought that you don't "need" one at all, firstly. If one were to come along, you'd decide then based upon rational and not how good looking she was. She will have proved herself to you time and time again, proved that she wants to be there and that she is deserving of you... because you are the prize or are working to become it.

No one here is telling you what to do. It is only the suggested means by which you should operate. The reason being; we know that society cannot be changed, thus, we must play the game to that beat; the beat that best suits the current status of the world. And, this means, for most, staying uncommitted for as long as possible. As a relationship is deemed senseless to many with the current state of affairs. You'll have to decide the reasoning behind this and what you believe on your own. This place is just an amazing tool box. But once you get a taste, you open your eyes and start to see reality for what it really is.

My suggestion to you is to kill the beta in totality. It will take time. I suggest you pick up Rollo's book "The Rational Male," as well as spend as much time needed exploring TRP.

Do not make any haste decisions and give yourself some time. You're already planning for something new (finding another woman to commit to) instead of just letting yourself be alone for the next little while without any expectations. Living in the present moment and not planning anything "around women."

After some time has passed, 6 months or so, I suggest you revisit this topic and see how you feel. But until then, make your son, self improvement, and happiness your priority... if you happen to have sex without commitment in the mean time, so be it, if not, that's fine too. And of course reading as much information as you can here. Killing the beta takes time and it isn't easy, but when you reach a new level, life becomes limitless and much better. Best of luck and welcome.

Oh, and make this time the last. Make sure she doesn't make her way back into your life again. Pick up "No More Mr. Nice Guy" as well.

EDIT: added content 7 minutes after posting.

94redstealth · 2016-02-10T14:50:34+00:00

Congrats on finding the path you want to follow.

We share similar stories. 32, former super beta poster boy, 5 y/o daughter.

I whole-heartedly understand your desire for something long term as a father. But do not go another day with that being a goal in your life. There should only be to goals in your life from here on out;
*1 - Happiness and a fulfilling life for you
*2 - Happiness and a fulfilling life for your son

Please take note that #2 is near impossible without working on #1 first. If you work on 1, then 2 will quickly fall in place.

As for a quality LTR, there is only one way to find a good woman to included in your and your sons life. Start digging through the pussy pile. You may get lucky and find a woman worth keeping around in a few tries, but I doubt it. You are going to have to go on a lot of dates. You are going to have to know how to read and direct(notice I didn't say control, hopefully you will grasp the difference and understand why its important in a LTR) her. You will have to fuck her properly to keep her satisfied. Every aspect of TRP is the foundation for a solid LTR. Most of the guys here never venture past the mating phase. I don't blame them one bit.
Bitches be crazy.
I have no intentions of leaving it at this point. But, and its a huge but, if I come across a quality woman that I think can add value to my life and be a positive role model for my daughter(thats a tough one) I will consider a relationship. You have to be open to all possibilites.
The best way to teach your son to be the man you want to be, is to be that man and let him see it. Let him see you interacting with women in a positive manner. Let him see you care about yourself. Let him see you be successful at something. Let him see you be strong.

[deleted] · 2016-02-10T14:52:58+00:00

check out MRP ( married red pill-- for the married and ltr and that type of stuff. )

also check out askMRP.

we will kick your ass, and you will love it.

Rasalom72 · 2016-02-10T17:43:52+00:00

As a small but important aside.... TRP is not a mentality or a philosophy... it's a praxeology. It's not something you THINK.. it's something you DO.

The key phrase is Acta non Verba... Actions, not Words.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-02-10T17:44:34+00:00

It's never too late to swallow the red pill.

We are not pick up artists. We are not Men Going There Own Way.

You are here to learn that you've been lied to about the nature of women for your whole life. You've been lied to about how you should act as a man, what behaviors will be rewarded.

savedarticles · 2016-02-10T18:23:50+00:00

You should explore MGTOW since it's more focused on living a rich life without women than trying to game them. TRP is really effective for younger males who are unbetaizing themselves and want to score. But, this goal isn't too rewarding when you get older and had your fill (lower test, more wisdom, already experienced abundance, etc). I think MGTOW is TRP for older men. You can check out sandman, turd flinging monkey, bar bar, stardusk, ask lui marcos, and trevor freeman on youtube.

youcantdenythat · 2016-02-10T18:42:17+00:00

All good advice here. Most guys come here saying they want a LTR. The reason we talk about plates so much is, first, because it's easier than managing an LTR, and second, because to keep a good woman around, she wants to be with a man who is able to spin plates. I.e. she wants a man who is worthy of other women and can go get one whenever he wants.

It's kinda like learning to crawl before learning to walk.

That said, take some time off women man. Work on yourself for a bit. Hit the gym, get hobbies, all that stuff.

7Fig · 2016-02-10T18:43:29+00:00

Being RP doesn't mean that you will have the same life as other RP's. A lot of this community is young and they love the aspect of PUA/Seduction, however I don't think RP has anything to do with PUA/Seduction. An RP man will be successful at PUA/Seduction because of the RP mentality; however, you can also be successful elsewhere. I am glad to see your forward thinking about not wanting your kids to have to make the same mistakes you have made.

I'd recommend focusing solely on becoming the best version of you. That is truly what RP is.

Take inventory of where you are. What is your health like? What are your goals (get specific with them, and write them down)? What are you doing to enrich your life( hobbies/passions)? Where are you professionally and how can you take it to the next level?

Take the RP transition one day at a time, and constantly remind yourself of your new standard.

GayLubeOil · 2016-02-10T21:24:52+00:00

Work out with your son and cook healthy meals together. You can do a father son grill night. Teach him how to marinade meat. Also try this Brazilian grilled pineapple recepie People bond over food.

Go lift with your son. A bit of father son competition in the gym will help you attain a body that is competitive in the dating market.

I just solved two of your major issues. I am GaylubeOil and my word is the law of Red Pill!

sadpaanda · 2016-02-11T00:21:58+00:00

Recently divorced my wife; been together for 15 years..

Kids are 5 & 7

They live with her mostly, I have them to stay regularly though. I couldn't handle her lies.

I'm enjoying my single life... but also want to hear what other say about raising a son to not get screwed over like I did.

I wasn't 100% beta, was relatively easy to get out of my ways, I kept in shape, and now am happy with myself and my life.

Good start posting in here, there is a lot of great info, sidebar is essential.

Edit: Clarification

[deleted] · 2016-02-10T13:55:53+00:00

Welcome to TRP!

This first thing you’ve got to realise is that the Red Pill is a toolbox. It has no specific agenda, it’s just a list of facts which you can choose to apply in different situations to improve yourself in that area (see projectself’s comment). That area could be sexual strategy and that’s what TRP tends to focus on, but it doesn’t have to be. The 48 Laws of Power is a Red Pill staple and it has almost nothing to do with women (although many laws will obviously apply to them).

There’s a newbies’ guide at the top of this /r/asktrp but I’d suggest reading the top posts and the sidebar first to get a general idea of what we’re about. There’s also /r/redpillparenting which despite being basically dead has a lot of information in the top posts that you might find useful.

Title	New to TRP and a single Dad - I could use a bit of support/advice
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Date	February 10, 2016 12:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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