tl;dr

Girls who I am attracted to either reject or play along half-heartedly in order to soak in my validation, maybe I get their number but it never goes anywhere. Obviously I need to keep building my value, but for short-term results should I focus on being more aggressive in each interaction, or just going shotgun approach and getting more interactions overall?

The short and sweet of it is that I'm doing better than before, but I'm still not getting laid. I'm going to list out what I'm working on to improve my value, where I have made gains recently, and recap the kind of experiences I've been recently having with women.

Value Gains:

  • Lifting 3-4 days a week. Put on 15lbs in the last 6 months, though some of that is definitely fat. Need to do better with my diet to maximize results but at least I'm making progress.

  • Picked up flowarts as a hobby which has me socializing with multiple groups of people and attending regular hobby-related events, frequently outdoors and at house parties, up to 2-3 times a week (or as often as I feel inclined). Also improves mind/body, makes for great pictures on social media and has a definite 'swag' factor.

  • Social freedom, inner game, frame, approaches, escalations, flirtation, etc. are all making gains. I feel more confident and dominant socially, to the point where I'm starting to get my first 'haters' and learning how to deal with them. Acquaintances in the scenes I travel are starting to feel more like friends, I get more attention and respect, people listen to my opinion and frequently obey my suggestions / commands, including girls.

Experiences:

  • Online dating sucks for me right now despite having what I consider decent pictures. No ripped shirtless selfies (yet). The only legit responses I get are from fatties / over 30 single moms

  • In person my results are much better, girls seem to notice my presence and pay attention when I speak and move, which is more than I had before. I frequently flirt and tease, penetrate conversations in a somewhat gronk-like fashion but then act cool with people and let them speak, actively listen and give them support in their stories, then introduce myself at some point and ghost unless the vibe is very positive and reciprocative

  • Older women, ugly girls & fat girls give me googley eyes on a fairly regular basis now, hotter women seem to notice me occasionally but don't care/aren't impressed. I approach girls of all degrees of attractiveness in bars, at clubs, during the day and it's all pretty much the same - the girls who are obviously receptive to me are always ones I'm not attracted to.

Girls who I am attracted to either reject or play along half-heartedly in order to soak in my validation, maybe I get their number but it never goes anywhere.

So finally my question.

Should I get more aggressive with girls in each interaction, or focus on just getting more interactions overall and hoping one of them is receptive to my current style?

Note: My kino is fairly comfortable and direct, I'm usually touching a girl casually within the first 60 seconds, then if we're talking longer than that I've got my hand on her waist or lowerback, leading her around, dancing/grinding, hand on the throat, etc. It never does seem to lead anywhere though and the girl usually bails out after 5-10 minutes of dancing. Whenever that happens I feel like it's a pretty strong message of disinterest, I never chase, not even sure if I should really bother texting to followup if they bail like that