Boyfriend's beauty/fashion requests go against what I've been taught- what do I do?

americanlady · 2013-12-01T05:13:33+00:00

Different men like different things.

TempestTcup · 2013-12-01T06:11:39+00:00

Ohhh, noes, my boyfriend wants one thing but complete strangers on the internet tell me another thing!!!! Should I listen to my boyfriend or strangers???

You sound like a troll.

Bakerofpie · 2013-12-01T05:36:24+00:00

...No. Lots of men don't like super-long hair on women. How is it strange that people have different opinions? If you care to look nice for him specifically, cut it. If you're too worried about it ruining your prospects for other dudes who would like you to keep your hair long, keep your hair and get rid of him because obviously you aren't all that serious about him if that's the case. 3 inches will grow back in six months.

americanlady · 2013-12-01T06:58:43+00:00

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masturbateawy · 2013-12-01T05:19:14+00:00

Some guys are different, my husband doesn't sit by the fireplace, smoking cigars, drinking scotch and listening to jazz. I think what we should take from TRP is that in relationships we should do what can bring happiness and pleasure to our partners so if he likes your hair short why not? RPW need to maintain whatever sex appeal they have and if he finds you sexy in jeans and heels there's nothing wrong with that.

throwaway_redpill2 · 2013-12-01T08:39:26+00:00

In short, what you describe is frequently considered attractive:

3-4 inches above the bra strap/nipples is still well past the shoulders/mid length hair, and with proper styling can be super hot.
Loose dresses hide a lot of lower body flab. Women who exercise and are in great shape tend to look amazing in tight jeans. The trick is to dress it up with feminine shoes/tops.
Natural-looking makeup is a huge thing, I thought? You should check, but maybe this is what your boyfriend means. I've noticed that Asian celebrities seem to be really good at it. A few movies seem to give their actresses a very natural, toned down look.

Now my search history is super awkward. Whoops.

Anyway, you also ask in this thread about whether this subreddit is about being subservient to men. Can't speak for any of the other ladies lurking about here, but I personally don't think so. To me, r/TRP and r/RPW believe in hard truths about what sexual attractiveness means for men and women. Assuming these truths hold, the natural next step for women is to optimize and learn how to find/keep a good partner.

Women can do this by bringing to the table traits that are attractive to their partners (statistically, this includes physical attractiveness/fitness, responsibility, ability to keep a house functioning, etc.). It's not being subservient, because men can and should bring to the table traits attractive to their partners as well. And yes, YMMV, but just because statistically these traits are different by gender doesn't mean one party is subservient to the other, in my opinion.

Side note: I have noticed that the general trend in r/TRP is to caution men away from LTR's and committing to one woman. There is also at times some anger from a few individuals that crops up. Can't speak for anyone else (again), but that's just noise to me. My focus is on my own relationship, and not the relationships (or lack thereof) from TRP posters. I just read their stuff to gather more data and optimize for myself. shrug

2013-12-01T13:39:07+00:00

Does he have a good relationship with his mom? Did she have shoulder length hair?

Is your hair healthy? Is it stringy in the ends? Maybe he likes a certain actress's hair cut and fantasizes you having the same!? Who knows. Do you love and trust him? If so this is not a big deal unless you make it one.

Don't all men want super long hair on women?

That's kind of a ridiculous generalization; yes most RP men will like longer hair on women but he's not asking you to look like a man, shoulder length is still quite acceptable and feminine.

Don't men want super feminine women?

Men will want what they want! Mine doesn't want me to wear makeup, high heels or dresses. He likes me in jeans and t-shirts. He's still an alpha and I'm still valuable to him. You need to open those lines of communication with him now and find out his likes and dislikes sooner than later if you're serious about making a life with him. You need to know if you are compatible in all the more serious aspects of life too or you are both just wasting each other's time.

Title	Boyfriend's beauty/fashion requests go against what I've been taught- what do I do?
Author	americanlady
Upvotes	0
Comments	23
Date	December 1, 2013 5:02 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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